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Cheap dates
Hey, not necessarily a bad thing really.
There are times when funds are strapped and that shouldn't mean a person can't date at all does it or not?
Anybody with a bank account can make a reservation at a nice restaurant, come knocking at the door with a bouquet and special chocolates and all that...but for someone with limited funds, maybe all they have to work with is imagination and the will to just wanna be with you for awhile.
If someone wanted to "date" you, but for whatever reasons couldn't afford the usual dinner, flowers, movie kind of thing, would you be just as impressed with a picnic and a day at the zoo?
Do you expect a first date to be all about first impressions, expect them to woo you, pull out all the stops and go the extra mile to impress you?
How about if it's someone who can well afford to put out a great first impression, but they are just...well...a cheap ass?
Would it say anything better about someone who is broke, and blows his month's budget of groceries, rent and payments to lavish you? After all, that would be kinda sweet, but kinda dumb, ya know...
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| November 2, 2007, 17:16 |
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stevanos
65 / male
A place in Bendover, British Columbia, Canada
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Re: Cheap dates
Hey, I did the picnic and zoo thing and believe me it aint cheap when you consider the bottle of wine, the cheesecake dessert and the gourmet hotdog. I was definetly by no means rich but I wasn't cheap either. Cheap ass is not a cool thing. But I'm wondering...on a first date do women still expect the guy to pick up the tab? I don't mind doing it but it would be nice to have the lady offer or at least her share. But then I would never let her. Do you get extra points if you do spend a lot of money on her?  Does it make it all worth it if there was some extra curricular activity?  
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| November 2, 2007, 18:42 |
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rawk35
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valley, Oregon, US
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Re: Cheap dates
Be yourselves!!!  
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| November 2, 2007, 20:51 |
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Re: Re: Cheap dates
QUOTE (stevanos @ November 2, 2007, 18:42)
...But I'm wondering...on a first date do women still expect the guy to pick up the tab?......
When I was single and dating, I would with some men split the cost up a bit, if they paid for the cover charge for the club, I insisted on buying the first round of drinks.
To me it was like letting him know that it was very much a mutual thing and I want and enjoy his company as well.
It's not a hard fast rule, but I've found that a man that won't happily agree to let me buy him a drink, is usually a little too macho controlling and sexist for me Especially if their reply is something like " No woman ever pays for my drink!"
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| November 2, 2007, 21:36 |
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Re: Cheap dates
A friend of mine took me out a while ago and all we did was walk along the beach, stop at a cafe, he brought me a hot chocolate with cream ofcourse, and a hotdog. He picked me some flowers from his mums garden.
It was one of the best days i'd had in a long time, he has money, he owns alot of property, but he wanted it to be about the day and not about how much money he could impress me with. We talked so much, it was great.
He has taken me to expensive places, but nothing was as great as that date.
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| November 3, 2007, 04:27 |
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Re: Cheap dates
I've had dates that cost me a small fortune, and ones that didn't cost me anything but my imagination and time, the ones where time was spent more than money are the most memorable to me.
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| November 3, 2007, 06:17 |
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pookhabear
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port st lucie, Florida, US
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Re: Re: Re: Cheap dates
QUOTE (Chazzy @ November 2, 2007, 21:36) QUOTE (stevanos @ November 2, 2007, 18:42)
...But I'm wondering...on a first date do women still expect the guy to pick up the tab?......
When I was single and dating, I would with some men split the cost up a bit, if they paid for the cover charge for the club, I insisted on buying the first round of drinks.
To me it was like letting him know that it was very much a mutual thing and I want and enjoy his company as well.
It's not a hard fast rule, but I've found that a man that won't happily agree to let me buy him a drink, is usually a little too macho controlling and sexist for me Especially if their reply is something like " No woman ever pays for my drink!"
I guess most times I'm a little old fashioned but not with the attitude of "no woman ever buts me a drink". I was brought up that way but have found most women today like to pay their share or at least a portion. At least the ones I know do.
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| November 3, 2007, 06:32 |
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Re: Cheap dates
Yeah, there are the guys that are sweetly old fashioned about it, but they are flexible about it...then there's the sexist controlling ones...big red flag on them!
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| November 3, 2007, 07:33 |
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pookhabear
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port st lucie, Florida, US
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Could be wrong but if they are sexist about it, chances are they are really only looking for one thing
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| November 3, 2007, 07:35 |
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Re: Cheap dates
The type I'm talking about, they could be looking for anything, but will treat all women the same way regardless...like their property...ugh....
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| November 3, 2007, 07:40 |
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40something
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In the Sun, Arizona, US
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Re: Cheap dates
Cheap is not in the money spent - it is in the expectations. I would love someone to understand I work long hours and I am exhausted at the end of an day. I really don't have the energy to get dressed up. What's wrong with picking up a pizza, a movie and resting with each other on the couch? I think what I remember the most is when I got another 1/2 hour of sleep because he got up and played with my son. Priceless!
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| November 4, 2007, 20:14 |
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Re: Cheap dates
sometimes, it's not how much the date costs, it's how much effort was put into it....for example, pack a nice picnic lunch, maybe a few sandwiches, some sodas (or wine), some chips, and find a nice romantic setting, like a park overlooking a waterfall or lake...we're talking maybe $25-$30 bucks? but the mood will be more effective than going to the mosdt expensive place in town and getting a steak the size of a Mc'donalds hamburger and paying $25-$35 bucks for your meal alone, let alone your date's.... 
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| November 4, 2007, 22:41 |
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Re: Cheap dates
I'd enjoy a nice backpacking excursion and a picnic in the woods more than an expensive date any day!
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| November 5, 2007, 09:59 |
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Re: Cheap dates
I do think the ole dinner and a movie are a nice standard, but kudos to the guy that takes the time to try and read you, who takes a little deeper at you and comes up with something that he really thinks is all about who you are...and if that happens to be something "econimical" it doesn't distract at all away from the effort and thought put into it.
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| November 5, 2007, 10:56 |
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