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When men cry...
Ummmm...I was just reading an article this morning about a study that concludes that " ....it can be easier for a crying man to be taken seriously than a crying woman..."
From this study, it seems that when a man cries it's seen as a sign of sensitivity, when a woman cries it's seen as a loss of control.
So...if you don't cry you're seen as cold and unfeeling, and if you cry too much, you're seen as weak.
Wow, that kinda sucks dontcha think? I know, us women have been portrayed in every type of media as being able to turn on the waterworks to get what we want, or being too emotional, but in reality, women are much stronger than that, able to hold themselves, and their family together during the worst of times, and I certainly would hope we are making strides beyond the manipulative pouting and crying.
So what is your impression of a crying man, and a crying woman?
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| October 30, 2007, 08:05 |
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Re: When men cry...
Parents have taught their sons for ages that crying or showing emotions of that type are unexceptable for a "man" and that it is a sign of weakness. Pretty much the same thing as hearing them tell a child that is hurt.."if it ain't bleeding then it doesn't hurt". I have no problems at all with men crying, it shows that they are human.
As for us poor pitiful women, or should I say those who cry over silly crap like missing a shoe sale, or having a nail break..if that's the only problems you have worth crying over then bless your little hearts. Some day reality will smack you awake and you'll find that crying is a sign of weakness for women as well.
Do I cry? In private yes, most who know me sometimes marvel that I can keep my emotions in tow so to speak with all that has happened during the past few years. I'm always the one who is expected to take charge, to manage every single thing and to deal with whatever comes next with a smile. Oh if they only knew.
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| October 30, 2007, 09:06 |
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pookhabear
75 / male
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Just depends on the person, not a sex thingI've known men and women who are cold and heartless. I think in general women are more emotional and cry easier,. I don't think women are necessarily more sensitive , just from a mans standpoint and experience.if we cry we are considered weak. if someone hurts me ar tries to , I won't shed a tear but let me watch Finding Neverland LOL and I'll cry every time, I could care less if someone thinks I'm weak.
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| October 30, 2007, 09:16 |
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Re: When men cry...
The hardest thing I've ever witnessed was watching a man cry when they lose a parent. It wasn't like, "OMG, he's crying!" It was more of an understanding and wanting to reach out to that person... loving them more than you realized, knowing that they ARE capable of such emotion. Even if it rarely happens.. hard to explain 
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| October 30, 2007, 10:09 |
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pookhabear
75 / male
port st lucie, Florida, US
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Only one thing could be harder would be a child and I pray, it's my greatest fear that I outlive them
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| October 30, 2007, 10:14 |
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QUOTE (pookhabear @ October 30, 2007, 10:14)Only one thing could be harder would be a child and I pray, it's my greatest fear that I outlive them
You're absolutely right, pook... I watched my father go through that. One of the hardest times in my life... and his, too, I'm sure..
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| October 30, 2007, 10:15 |
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Re: When men cry...
Mortality sucks...I know one thing, all of us will or have and will again, experience a very deep loss, maybe a sudden trauma, or a long agonizing ordeal...all of us, male or female have that in common, our grandparents, parents, spouses, pets, life long friends and even sadder, children who pass before their parents do...none of us have or will escape the fact that we and everyone we love are mortal and mortals cry.
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| October 30, 2007, 12:20 |
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pookhabear
75 / male
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My brother and I went to a reunion last june of kids we grew up with. Out of about 150 ppl 2 close friends when I was little and I hadn't seen had lost adult children and it made me realize it could happen. My heart goes out to your father, Moon, because I honestly don't know if I would be strong enough to handle it. I guess you find a way but it goes beyond my wildest imagination.
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| October 30, 2007, 12:29 |
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Liberalwife
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Re: When men cry...
Nothing wrong in a man crying, nothing at all. It shows that they really care and have feelings and emotions, just like us women.
I once read somewhere that American men wear their hearts on their sleeves much more than British men.
I can see some truth in that.
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| October 30, 2007, 12:41 |
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pookhabear
75 / male
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I don't know many brits but I do Irish men and it is true re: them. they think they are not manly if they show feelings, they need a life  I know I'm an open book, sometimes to a fault but oh well, can't chg who you are
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| October 30, 2007, 15:59 |
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I've lost parent, sibling, and child. I've been tearfully proud of my children. Sorry, world, I have cried with pride and grief, alike. If that is considered weak, then I am weak. Those who know me, know I am a man, and damned proud of it.
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| October 30, 2007, 18:52 |
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Re: Re: When men cry...
QUOTE (Hobscotch @ October 30, 2007, 18:52)I've lost parent, sibling, and child. I've been tearfully proud of my children. Sorry, world, I have cried with pride and grief, alike. If that is considered weak, then I am weak. Those who know me, know I am a man, and damned proud of it.
You have much to be proud about, to suffer all those loses, to have had so much grief but yet still maintain such a good, compasionate and kind heart.
Seeing a man, or anyone emotionally capable of connecting with the world they live in is just beautiful.
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| October 30, 2007, 19:04 |
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Re: Re: Re: When men cry...
QUOTE (Chazzy @ October 30, 2007, 19:04) QUOTE (Hobscotch @ October 30, 2007, 18:52)I've lost parent, sibling, and child. I've been tearfully proud of my children. Sorry, world, I have cried with pride and grief, alike. If that is considered weak, then I am weak. Those who know me, know I am a man, and damned proud of it.
You have much to be proud about, to suffer all those loses, to have had so much grief but yet still maintain such a good, compasionate and kind heart.
Well, thank you muchly. You're terrific, too.
 
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| October 30, 2007, 19:22 |
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pookhabear
75 / male
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QUOTE (Hobscotch @ October 30, 2007, 18:52)I've lost parent, sibling, and child. I've been tearfully proud of my children. Sorry, world, I have cried with pride and grief, alike. If that is considered weak, then I am weak. Those who know me, know I am a man, and damned proud of it.
You should be proud, can't ask for more than that, very sorry for all your loss
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| October 30, 2007, 20:13 |
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Re: When men cry...
Not gonna say much on here other than remembering one conversation we had where tears started to fill up his eyes as I know that was probably one of the hard things to talk about.
Personally for myself, I cry more than I want to. Whether the hormones has an effect on me even more now or not... I don't know... but knowing how easily I can be broken, I cry at almost anything even at something really really REALLY little.
As embarrasing as it might be... I felt tears were ready to come pouring down when I told BCB that the washing machine wasn't working for me..... again.
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| October 30, 2007, 22:06 |
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QUOTE (bikerchick69 @ October 30, 2007, 22:06)Not gonna say much on here other than remembering one conversation we had where tears started to fill up his eyes as I know that was probably one of the hard things to talk about.
Personally for myself, I cry more than I want to. Whether the hormones has an effect on me even more now or not... I don't know... but knowing how easily I can be broken, I cry at almost anything even at something really really REALLY little.
As embarrasing as it might be... I felt tears were ready to come pouring down when I told BCB that the washing machine wasn't working for me..... again.
Try pulling out the dial and if it still doesn't work make sure it's plugged in 
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| October 30, 2007, 22:09 |
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pookhabear
75 / male
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| October 30, 2007, 22:20 |
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pookhabear
75 / male
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I usually cry whan I have to do a wash
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| October 30, 2007, 22:21 |
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Re: Re: When men cry...
QUOTE (Hobscotch @ October 30, 2007, 18:52)I've lost parent, sibling, and child. I've been tearfully proud of my children. Sorry, world, I have cried with pride and grief, alike. If that is considered weak, then I am weak. Those who know me, know I am a man, and damned proud of it.
One of my friends lost her son in a car accident almost three years ago. As we loved her through the initial process of grieving we as her friends knew there was nothing we could do to take the pain away and that she would never really be the same. Her husband was stoic and little was seen from him until his oldest son's baby was born and they named him after their lost son. I watched this man that had held back such sorrow completely lose it as he held this beautiful baby. How could you possibly be the same when you have your most precious child leave your life?
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| October 30, 2007, 23:07 |
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pookhabear
75 / male
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Re: When men cry...
Bringing tears
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| October 31, 2007, 04:54 |
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Re: When men cry...
i'll admit it. i cry at lots of things. i've even gotten teary eyed over some stupid tv commercials....
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| October 31, 2007, 17:56 |
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