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Compatibility
Is it between two (or more) people or is it the individual ability to "get along" with others?
Is it necessary for a couple to share the same ethics, morals, opinions, ambitions and interest to be compatible, or can a single open minded person with the talent of compromise be pretty much compatible with others that are totally different in every way?
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| September 25, 2007, 13:45 |
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Re: Compatibility
I think it's down to the individual, if you are open minded and willing to compromise and respect others beliefs and opinions, you will get on with most people.
 
There still will be ones who irritate the hell out of ya, but just take deep breathes. 
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| September 25, 2007, 13:52 |
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pookhabear
75 / male
port st lucie, Florida, US
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I've had great friendships and hung out with people who were very very different and got along great but we respected each ohtere opinion and would laugh it off and have another beer What fun would it be to all be the same. Challenging and interesting , I think
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| September 25, 2007, 15:36 |
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cjroxy
59 / couple
Hot and Balmy, England, UK
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I think tolerance has to have a hand in this. You can tolerate an awful lot, so put it together with compromise, honesty, freedom and silence, lol, you have a winning package!!
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| September 25, 2007, 17:24 |
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flatbed
59 / male
elgin, Illinois, US
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Re: Compatibility
ok here goes, my ex lets my daughter move in her boyfriend. daughter 16 going on 13. boyfriend 18 going on 17. they sleep in the same bed, not my choice. i live 1800 miles away, and i have no say so. and mom lets daughter go on birthcontrol. dad has no say so of anything listed above. boyfriend is going to college, i have told them they need some space since they live together. boyfriend agrees with me but my daughter, like i said 16 going on 13. 
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| September 26, 2007, 07:14 |
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Re: Compatibility
Thought a little more on this....I think maybe it's just a natural thing for us to kinda segregate with those we do share a lot in common with but most of us do enjoy the stimulation we can find with those we share nothing in common with.
But when it comes to being one half of a couple, incompatability can bring about misery at some level.
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| September 26, 2007, 10:14 |
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Re: Compatibility
I do believe like minded people are drawn to each other. We can certainly be friends with or have relationships with those who are not exactly like us but common ground does have to play a role in it somehow.
Opposites do attract but similarities in lifestyle are important. I wouldn't want to be with someone just like me but I would want to share interests. It would be difficult to maintain a relationship with someone you can't talk to...finding a common thread would be of paramount importance in a long term friendship or companion.
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| September 26, 2007, 23:52 |
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Re: Compatibility
I have a friend who was with her highschool sweetheart for lil over 7 years and they broke up on good terms due to wanting different things in life, different priorities. Towards the end of the break-up, my friend had developed interest in another guy and I'll just say the only thing that throws me off is that their religion is different. He's a Jehovah Witness and she is Catholic. I'm not the one that is in the relationship, but with that much difference, for me personally I think it'd be hard to deal with just because they both were raised completely opposite as far as celebrating holidays, birthdays, etc. Other than that, they seem to mesh well together and I've only met him once since the beginning of their time together. So if they can make it work, more power to them.
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