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Is political correctness gone too far?????
If you find someone attractive, do you tell them and boost their ego and possibly bring a smile to their face, or do you avoid telling them that you find them attractive in case they think you are some kind of stalker or creep.
Outside of a website like this, in my case being a male telling a woman that she is pretty can almost bring on a sexual harrasment suit.
What do you all think?
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| September 8, 2007, 14:14 |
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pookhabear
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port st lucie, Florida, US
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Re: Is political correctness gone too far?????
I think it would be considered harrasment only in a work situation. I don't think in a social situation it would be. but I do think that in some cases not in a mature woman or someone who is secure in herself , that some women think when a man compliments her that you are hitting on her. From a guys point of view I would be very careful who I compliment for fear they may think that. That's a guys perspective, would be nice to hear a womans point of view.
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| September 8, 2007, 14:56 |
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cjroxy
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Hot and Balmy, England, UK
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Re: Is political correctness gone too far?????
QUOTE (moriops @ September 8, 2007, 14:14)If you find someone attractive, do you tell them and boost their ego and possibly bring a smile to their face, or do you avoid telling them that you find them attractive in case they think you are some kind of stalker or creep.
Outside of a website like this, in my case being a male telling a woman that she is pretty can almost bring on a sexual harrasment suit.
As a women in her early 40's, I can honestly say that I enjoy receiving the rare compliments I have received.
Whether in the work place or outside of it!
I have always worked with men and am used to their good comments and bad....being secure with myself and knowing how to handle myself I have a low opinion of the females who scream "sexual harrassment", unless the harrassment has crossed over a line! this does not include compliments.
I even had one of my bosses come visit me at home (I'd been married about 2 years) and sit in my lounge and tell me he loved me!!! My reply stopped the situation getting out of hand and stopped him being embarrassed.
But, the situations I have found myself in have never got silly or out of hand, because I stopped them!!.
I think that a certain amount of self confidence and an awareness of other peoples feelings (if the feelings are not reciprocated) should be enough.
If these ladies say no, they should mean no and be upfront and honest with whoever!! But claiming "Sexual harrassment" for a compliment in my book is just plain silly, enjoy them as they are meant.
What do you all think?
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| September 8, 2007, 16:21 |
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Re: Is political correctness gone too far?????
I agree with you cjroxy. Let's face it, when a woman takes the time to do her hair, her make up, and dress nicely it is wonderful to have someone compliment you. My boss is forever being kind about my outfits, he does tease me about my shoes a little (especially the zebra print ones) but neither one of us takes it the wrong way.
I have been on an elevator when a man asked me if I worked out, when I said, "Yes" he said I had one of the best sets of legs he'd ever seen. I thanked him and it made me feel good, he didn't touch me or approach me in a disrespectful manner. I also had a man walk up to me and compliment the way I dress in a parking lot, I was a little nervous but he said, "Most women don't know how to dress like women anymore and you look amazing." He asked if I had a boyfriend and I replied that I am married. He walked away and I felt good about myself.
It is nice to be noticed for our efforts, but more than anything, I dress the way I do for myself because it makes me feel good about me. If a man notices that and comments about it, more power to them. I don't think it means they want to bed me down, just that they appreciate that I look nice.
I think accepting compliments is part of being comfortable with yourself. Enjoy that someone notices you 'cause we all have days when no one even glaces our way...
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| September 8, 2007, 17:43 |
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pookhabear
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Re: Is political correctness gone too far?????
I totally agree with both of you ladies. Unfortunately a lot of other people disagree. Before i retired i was a mgr with a big retailer and we had more classes on sexual harassment, it's wild. My boss would write me up if he thought i was going around complimenting women, as innocent as it would be. The had examples of suits against mgrs and the employee would win. We had to keep complete distance. I think it's crazy and i didn't really follow the rules, but coild get in trouble if someone complained.
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| September 8, 2007, 18:04 |
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Re: Is political correctness gone too far?????
I think sexual harassment suits should be saved for hands on, non consentual situations!!! I still hug several of my business associates, I even have someone that has become very close to me over the years that kisses me every time we see each other, the only affection there is from respect and friendship . Society has taken something so simple and made it complicated and made it difficult for someone that really has a problem to be able to be taken seriously. If someone crosses the line they should be punished!
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| September 8, 2007, 18:43 |
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pookhabear
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Re: Is political correctness gone too far?????
I agree with you I would do the same thing a hug a kiss all meant in a very sincere way. I have a habit with men and women of touching their shoulder when talking with them, nothing sexual meant and everyone knew it and never complained. If they did i would gett in trouble. I also called people (women) I liked as a person dear and they were all cool with it . I would stop if it offended them. But I gotta say I used to cause my boss FITS and I used to love that LOL That's cuz he was jealous
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| September 8, 2007, 18:50 |
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