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Liberalwife
47 / female
north, England, UK
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Sexual History
Do you think it is important/non-important to know how many people a new partner has been sexually involved with?
Are you quite comfortable with being very open and honest about your sexual past?
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| August 17, 2007, 09:26 |
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Re: Sexual History
I think being open and honest is important..But bragging about it like your a sex king or queen....is a turn off.
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| August 17, 2007, 09:41 |
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stevanos
65 / male
A place in Bendover, British Columbia, Canada
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Re: Sexual History
I think being open and honest is a lot safer than keeping it a secret if you were ever to get caught lying. If they don't accept you for being honest...do you really want to be with them? I don't think it's important to know the sexual history of your partner in most cases...some things are probably best unknown. You might get jealous at the partner that got it once a day  when you're only getting it once a week  or month  or year  ...or never   ??
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| August 17, 2007, 10:23 |
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dave2big
81 / male
somewhere, Nebraska, US
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Re: Sexual History
in this day and age, ignorance is NOT bliss ! better to know about your sex partners history,even if the facts are painful. i really wouldnt want details,just want to know about possible std encounters. does that make me weird ?
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| August 17, 2007, 10:31 |
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QUOTE (dave2big @ August 17, 2007, 10:31)in this day and age, ignorance is NOT bliss ! better to know about your sex partners history,even if the facts are painful. i really wouldnt want details,just want to know about possible std encounters. does that make me weird ?
nope...i totally agree with ya, dave. the only problem i can see with this is, how can one tell if the other is telling the truth?
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| August 17, 2007, 11:17 |
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funlovingpair
59 / couple
Frozen Tundra, Minnesota, US
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Re: Sexual History
Dave that make you weird all right, just like the rest of us. I think that jaback said it best.
For MA and I, we've been together for so long, that this is a non issue.
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| August 17, 2007, 11:22 |
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Re: Sexual History
the numbers arent really a concern... id rather know the basic circumstances of the encounters. if there's a pattern of "i didnt even get his full name" i might have an issue.
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| August 17, 2007, 11:57 |
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cjroxy
59 / couple
Hot and Balmy, England, UK
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Re: Sexual History
tend to agree with boredcountryboy regarding women. But does that regard men? Men are notorious for not remembering females names arent they?
If it is the beginning of a relationship I think gently, gently would be the way, rather than spilling your guts in one hit.
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| August 17, 2007, 15:56 |
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Re: Sexual History
I don't think it's importent to know, unless they were serious relationships, married/engaged to. It doesn't make someone less safe if they have had only a few partners, it only takes once to catch something nasty!!!  
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| August 17, 2007, 18:13 |
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QUOTE (boredcountryboy @ August 17, 2007, 11:57)the numbers arent really a concern... id rather know the basic circumstances of the encounters. if there's a pattern of "i didnt even get his full name" i might have an issue.
Ouch...ahem, what was your name again?
I'd prefer to know what I'm getting into and I'd hope the new partner was honest and upfront about their history.
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| August 17, 2007, 22:44 |
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pookhabear
75 / male
port st lucie, Florida, US
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Re: Sexual History
I would care less, I wouldn't be starting a relationship if I didn't trust that personso why would I want to know. Everyone has a past and it is what it is. Past is the past no comma just a period. Here and now is all that matters. Focus on what the two of you have. The rest is fluff
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| August 18, 2007, 08:01 |
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bigbish69
42 / male
durham, England, UK
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Re: Sexual History
thats a tuff question my past sexual encounters would make most women run a mile so i tend not to tell. i dont think anyone should be judge on there past and above all what diffrence would it make
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| August 18, 2007, 18:49 |
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Re: Sexual History
I can't really say much as in I'm not proud of my sexual history. All I can say is that if I had a chance to redo some of my history, that's one thing I'd change. The man in my life now has, over time, taught me that I deserve respect and so much more for myself and my body than I have ever in my life. And I thank my boyfriend BCB for that much more than he probably realizes.
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| August 18, 2007, 19:00 |
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QUOTE (bikerchick69 @ August 18, 2007, 19:00)I can't really say much as in I'm not proud of my sexual history. All I can say is that if I had a chance to redo some of my history, that's one thing I'd change. The man in my life now has, over time, taught me that I deserve respect and so much more for myself and my body than I have ever in my life. And I thank my boyfriend BCB for that much more than he probably realizes.
Ah...that is very sweet...I knew he wasn't all truck parts and dirt!!!
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| August 18, 2007, 22:53 |
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KINKYINTHEFALLS
56 / male
wild and wonderful, West Virginia, US
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Re: Sexual History
I think honesty is always the best policy
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| August 18, 2007, 22:57 |
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Re: Sexual History
And that's why I've always liked you Kinky!
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| August 21, 2007, 08:35 |
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Re: Sexual History
Personally, I believe it is good to be honest and to know your partner's history, if she or he is willing to discuss them.
To me, it would be a good thing to know both the good and bad experiences. Avoid the bad eperiences and enhance the good ones, that would make the relationship healthy and exciting.
Maybe certain sexual acts would be a nightmare to the partner.
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| August 24, 2007, 13:33 |
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Re: Sexual History
It is important to know some details and how "wild" and "free" one was.
Being careful is always a good start.
Yeh, I don't want to know the numbers, just the types of experiences.
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| August 25, 2007, 15:44 |
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