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Paternity
What do you think of paternity testing? Should men definitely insist on it....for legal documentation, or just to "make sure"
Should any woman be offended if the man she's sure fathered the child, and he asks for proof of paternity?
I'm a little torn on this, I think it would be very offensive to a faithful or honest woman to have the father insist of legal proof, but then again, in the past decades and centuries, a woman could fool around with several men, end up pregnant and then "pick" which one she wants to be the daddy.
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| July 24, 2007, 15:07 |
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Re: Paternity
I agree with you Chazzy, it is a hard one to answer, a man has the right to know whether he is the father of a child, but it is very hurtful for a faithful, honest woman to feel like she is lying and being unfaithful.
Then again, most woman who have nothing to hide, would be happy to prove that the man is the father.
When they are proved to be the dad, they should grovel for ever!!!  
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| July 24, 2007, 15:27 |
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It's a double edged sword for sure...I've know a few men that were real schmucks for NOT insisitng on a paternity test, and a few that were freakin' jerks for demanding one.
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| July 24, 2007, 17:52 |
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Re: Paternity
My ex son in law had to have a paternity test done when he took my grandson to raise
It proved he was the father but if not for the hospital saying my daughter delivered him the DNA showed he might have been born to a different mom He has all his dads DNA
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| July 24, 2007, 19:19 |
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Re: Paternity
i've seen enough good things go bad.. just never can tell what tomorrow will bring or what yesturday held. from a guys perspective i can definetly see the up side to asking for "the proof". likewise i can understand how the woman could feel attacked and untrusted at such a request, then again if she has been faithful etc she should have no concerns on the issue.
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| July 24, 2007, 19:25 |
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Mooant
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I would only ask for one if there was any question of who the child was fathered by. Its actually more to do with a family curse than anything else, long story...
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| July 25, 2007, 00:27 |
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GG317
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Bowl of Granola, Massachusetts, US
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Re: Paternity
There was a story a few years back (10 I think)about an Engineer living in New Jersey. He had broken up with his wife of some 20 years, for which she bore him, and I can't remember, 6 or 7 boys. One day the middle son got sick and needed a kidney transplant, so being the good father he was, he volunteered one of his kidney's for his son, like any good father would do. The tests came back, and he couldn't donate, because he was not the biological father. In fact, none of his sons were his, but they were all related to each other. Apparently, the wife had been sleeping with another guy, while she was married to her husband, one other guy. The other guy was the father of all of the boys. She was pregnant with their first son two weeks before she married him. Ain't that a kick in the face!...  It gets worse. He'd been paying child support in the amount of 200 dollars per child/per week. Ten years a go that was a lot of money. After he took her to court, the judge told him that he was the only father these boys ever knew. Therefore he was committed to having to continue to pay the support. So, what do I think about a paternity test?...Well...
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| July 25, 2007, 02:09 |
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QUOTE (tiger5350 @ July 24, 2007, 19:19)My ex son in law had to have a paternity test done when he took my grandson to raise
It proved he was the father but if not for the hospital saying my daughter delivered him the DNA showed he might have been born to a different mom He has all his dads DNA
Wow. never heard that one before.
Out of all that I read on here so far, don't know how to put it better than how BCB did. For both sides where the woman may feel 'attacked' and maybe insulted but as BCB said if the woman has been faithful to him then the woman should at all not have a problem doing the test whatsoever.
Also for the guy, who wants to make sure like others stated on here, before spending all this time with a child (or more) and come to find out that its not at all yours. If I was a guy, I'd want to know just to be on the safe side too for not only the myself, but the child as well.
If it wasn't for the tests, I would've thought my son (with the looks.. i'd probably figure it out after time that it wasn't...) belonged to someone who I'd never want to be the father of my child(ren).
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| July 25, 2007, 18:30 |
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just look at me, then look at both of my girls...and there is no doubt that they are 100% mine....
my sister and her husband dealt with this though...for 10 years they raised his son, from a previous marriage...only to find out that it wasn't his son...it was his brothers....
OUCH!!!
last i heard, they were still in court, trying to reclaim 10 years worth of child support...
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