Since some sperm donors often donate to sperm banks regularly...I kinda freak a little at the idea of these children with the same biological father meeting up, maybe even having children together, and have no idea that they are half brother and half sister...
I did read where there is a rather new database that will tell children of sperm donations "who" the donor is(by donor assigned number ONLY)and whether they have sperm donor siblings and how many.

Don't have any sperm to donate, but told 2 of my long time friends that if they ever have problems getting pregnant... I'd carry for them (being they both had cysts on their ovaries, ec..) Sure enough, they're both pregnant and due in a couple more months.

OH gawd! Messing with mother nature isn't right! People will reap the whirl wind eventually. My thoughts are.. yes.. I feel badly for those that can't have children of their own. I have kids and I know what they mean to me. However, I do have a problem with man cheating natural selection and creating these problems simply because someone can pay for it. Bottom line: If someone can't have children, well unfortuately thats too bad. Mother nature for some reason said no... and.. you better listen to her. She knows better than we do. Your/our feelings have nothing to do with it. We have this arrogance that we know things... enough to cheat the odds. Well actually, we know little, and we'll be sorry for our short sightedness. There is a higher order for why these things are the way they are and it's not to be understood, just followed. The more we mess with things, the more we'll screw it up like we have with so many other things already!

What about adopting an unwanted child, that never asked to be born in the first place?

  QUOTE (iceone4u @ June 26, 2007, 05:45)


Totally disagree with you, my family member had cancer when she was young and the treatment stopped her having children when she grew up, she has the right to get pregnant,even if it means getting a little extra help. She didn't ask to become ill, so should she be punished further by not being able to have children.

  QUOTE (hotbubblegum @ June 26, 2007, 12:33)


While bad things happen to good people, I am steadfast on believing this is a bad thing to do. I do not believe that it is a "right" to have children, I think it only for both the responsible and those able to do so. How many kids are we gonna make that get have emotional problems from things like this? Think it doesn't happen often? Think again! Just turn on your TV and watch the afternoon talk shows... anyone watching them for some time now knows these kids grow up with serious "me" issues. No matter if you tell them as children.. or better yet.. don't let them know. Let em be surprised to know that their blood type doesn't match somehow.. and that you lied all these years to "protect them" and make them feel normal or that it wasn't important because you are a family. Yea right. Tell them early and they grow up wondering with a complex.. tell em late.. and talk show city .. here we come. An adult's ability or inability to have children should not even be the issue. The right of the children not to be born in a situation that DOES end up traumatic at one time of their life or another is what is important.

Still don't think it's that big of a deal or that it happens? Let me tell you from experience.. that it does. I was adopted as a child and the biological side of me was the most important thing to me growing up. I had quite a "me" issue for some time. I was one of the lucky ones that pulled through fine. There are lots of them that don't for years. Soooo...is it still ok... or not? I think not. It is one thing to adopt a child that is already here due to other....more conventional circumstances.. and.. I'm ok with that. However, to purposly start something else not natural, putting science's hands in it..... not cool at all.

Have you ever known any one who donated sperm to a sperm bank? Would you(if a male) ever do this? Would you(if female) have any hesitant thoughts about your man donating?

There's the fact that it's the last hope for infertile couples, and sometimes the best choice for a woman who wants a child but not a husband.

But then again, wouldn't you wonder about it? How many children do you REALLY have out there? Are they given a good life, are they happy, could that kid you see in Walmart that kinda looks like you(or looks like your husband), maybe be yours(or your husbands)?

  QUOTE (Chazzy @ June 25, 2007, 00:15)


hey i know this is an off topic,but i wish you guys would donate me some sperm
nips

.... He gave us the knowledge of how to do these things, surrogacy, adoption, invitro, ect and the tool to decide what's right for each of us. It's called free will....

  QUOTE (Chazzy @ June 25, 2007, 00:15)


hey i know this is an off topic,but i wish you guys would donate me some sperm
nips

  QUOTE (pepper @ June 26, 2007, 15:46)



Yes..free will..I like that thought very much! There are some who just feel that if a couple are infertile, then its "his" will, that nature saw fit for it to be that way, or it was just not meant to be...my believes do run along the lines that medical advancements is also something that was "meant to be"

I still however cannot say whether I would or would not feel maternal attachment to a egg I donate that gestates, and is born. I'm sure I would always wonder in my mind, I would wonder if the child was a boy or girl, does the child look like me, is it a happy healthy child, etc....?

  QUOTE (hotbubblegum @ June 26, 2007, 12:33)


While bad things happen to good people, I am steadfast on believing this is a bad thing to do. I do not believe that it is a "right" to have children, I think it only for both the responsible and those able to do so. How many kids are we gonna make that get have emotional problems from things like this? Think it doesn't happen often? Think again! Just turn on your TV and watch the afternoon talk shows... anyone watching them for some time now knows these kids grow up with serious "me" issues. No matter if you tell them as children.. or better yet.. don't let them know. Let em be surprised to know that their blood type doesn't match somehow.. and that you lied all these years to "protect them" and make them feel normal or that it wasn't important because you are a family. Yea right. Tell them early and they grow up wondering with a complex.. tell em late.. and talk show city .. here we come. An adult's ability or inability to have children should not even be the issue. The right of the children not to be born in a situation that DOES end up traumatic at one time of their life or another is what is important.

Still don't think it's that big of a deal or that it happens? Let me tell you from experience.. that it does. I was adopted as a child and the biological side of me was the most important thing to me growing up. I had quite a "me" issue for some time. I was one of the lucky ones that pulled through fine. There are lots of them that don't for years. Soooo...is it still ok... or not? I think not. It is one thing to adopt a child that is already here due to other....more conventional circumstances.. and.. I'm ok with that. However, to purposly start something else not natural, putting science's hands in it..... not cool at all.

Esp one from your own country.
Not going into a rant, but it makes me mad to see these celebrities adopting from other countries. What's wrong with the kids from their own?!
I tell ya, if I had the $$ I'd have so many I'd be like the old lady in the shoe!

What about adopting an unwanted child, that never asked to be born in the first place?

  QUOTE (nips @ June 26, 2007, 17:00)

Would you like it straight from its original container

I'm going to keep my feelings to myself on this thread as everyone has their own opinion, whether some agree with it or not.
I will just say this, unless you are someone/couple desperate to have a child, no-one can comment on how hard that situation is, or have the right to deny them of the gift of parenthood.

  QUOTE (hotbubblegum @ June 27, 2007, 10:58)





I sure understand your feelings HGB...no one can stop UNfit, dangerous, or very immoral fertile people from spittin' out as many babies as they want...I don't think it should be our call either, to say whether or not that good fit decent unfertile couples should or shouldn't have children.

I always wanted to be a sperm Donner, But I was thinking more like placing a stamp on my forehead and an address label on my ass, just tell me where you need me to be shipped to