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40something
57 / female
In the Sun, Arizona, US
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Why doesn't it last?
Okay big question. Can anyone tell me why a man will pay attention to you, call you all hours of the day and respond immediately to each and every email... and then once you decide to give him every bit of your heart, the behavior changes?
I have to admit.. I don't understand. Is it a guy thing that you don't have to pay attention after a while and women are supposed to understand that. Am I supposed to be okay with the change and not complain???
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| June 5, 2007, 02:02 |
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NRG4U
63 / male
Beaver City, Nebraska, US
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Re: Why doesn't it last?
Nope, not a guy thing, it's a individual thing
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| June 5, 2007, 03:07 |
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slowpoke2
52 / male
aberdeen, Scotland, UK
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Re: Re: Why doesn't it last?
QUOTE (NRG4U @ June 5, 2007, 03:07)Nope, not a guy thing, it's a individual thing
i agree with nrg4u, if i care and get to know a woman enough for them to give me there heart, then i will give mine to them, a relationship or friendship is 2 people working together (hope you all understand what i am trying to say )
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| June 5, 2007, 04:42 |
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Liberalwife
47 / female
north, England, UK
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Re: Why doesn't it last?
I agree with NRG and SP. Every guy is not like that, and it would seem unfair to categories them all in being that way.
Personally for me, I would not expect that I have to understand it, or accept it, and would see it as a time to consider moving on. Appreciation is vital in a relationship.
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| June 5, 2007, 06:26 |
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stayhard43756
65 / male
stockport, Ohio, US
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Re: Why doesn't it last?
QUOTE (40something @ June 5, 2007, 02:02)Okay big question. Can anyone tell me why a man will pay attention to you, call you all hours of the day and respond immediately to each and every email... and then once you decide to give him every bit of your heart, the behavior changes?
I have to admit.. I don't understand. Is it a guy thing that you don't have to pay attention after a while and women are supposed to understand that. Am I supposed to be okay with the change and not complain???
most guys are afrain of commitment
stayhard
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| June 5, 2007, 06:38 |
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Re: Why doesn't it last?
liberalwife i totally agree with you
take care
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| June 5, 2007, 07:21 |
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nashvllesugrdady
55 / male
any, Tennessee, US
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Re: Why doesn't it last?
Things could be busy at work , some other problem could be on your mind. Different things sometimes seem to occupy our minds and a lot of the time we don't even realize it. However if you dint get it out in the open it escalates to one person saying what is wrong with me, what have i done . When the truth is it's not you at all.
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| June 5, 2007, 10:01 |
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funlovingpair
59 / couple
Frozen Tundra, Minnesota, US
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Re: Why doesn't it last?
No its not a guy thing. I've known women who do the same thing. It is an indivual thing and for many different reasons. I don't know why, but it happens. 
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| June 5, 2007, 10:38 |
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Re: Why doesn't it last?
Wish i could help with the answer to your question 40something, but i'm as confused with how some men act as you are.
I totally agree with NRG, not all men are like the others, so hats off to the good guys. 
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| June 5, 2007, 14:04 |
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Re: Why doesn't it last?
I stopped trying to understand how men think years ago, that's why woman are so much less complicated to have relationships with, and fun  
And i also agree, there are some great men out there, it's finding them
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| June 5, 2007, 15:18 |
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Mooant
41 / male
New Britain, Connecticut, US
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Re: Why doesn't it last?
The same could be said about woman. Why, after two years of marriage, and six years of knowing each other, can a woman simply walk away without so much as a second thought and refuses any form of reconciliation attempts? If you have an answer to that, I would really like to know...
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| June 5, 2007, 15:59 |
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Re: Why doesn't it last?
Wish i could help you with some answers, but again, i'm unable too. Just remember, there are some great woman out there who will treat you really well.
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| June 5, 2007, 16:35 |
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rawk35
56 / couple
valley, Oregon, US
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Re: Why doesn't it last?
nrg & lib hit it. truly an individual thing, men and woman are equally able to be insensitive and self centerd. have faith, theres somone out ther who has been preparing there whole life to be worthy of ya! 
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| June 5, 2007, 20:34 |
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NRG4U
63 / male
Beaver City, Nebraska, US
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Re: Why doesn't it last?
Can't really explain it, but some ppl want a relationship, but don't wanna put any effort into it, communication, affection, nadda, some just have no feelings, it's nothing to do with gender, just a individual personality thing. Believe me, there is a mate out there who would spend all the quality time you want. The trick is being in exactly the right place, at the exact right minute, in order for fate to work it's magic
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| June 5, 2007, 21:04 |
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Re: Why doesn't it last?
Fate is a tricky character, sometimes it's good, sometimes it is the most horrible, gutwrenching experience of "these small" moments of your life.
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| June 6, 2007, 17:01 |
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wetwbill
57 / male
anywhere, New Jersey, US
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Re: Why doesn't it last?
sorry to hear that 40something.it is not just a guy thing women are that way to sometimes
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| June 7, 2007, 16:48 |
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Re: Why doesn't it last?
40Something, why don't you send him a naughty little email note and see how he responds, perhaps he is busy and something stressful is on his mind. Reignite him just a little and afterwards say, gosh, I've missed being playful..
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| June 10, 2007, 10:27 |
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Re: Why doesn't it last?
I agree with you Juils, he might think you don't want to talk to him as he has left it a while, go for it, what have you got to lose. You maybe worring about nothing, or IF it is what you are dreading, at least you will know and you can move on, it'll be his loss. 
Hope it works out ok for you.
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| June 10, 2007, 11:49 |
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Re: Why doesn't it last?
Go with what Jules said. Try that. If nothing after lets say a week. Then you should move on. Just remember as someone said earlier, it's an individual thing. As much as someone would say, "Guys/girls suck because...." don't take it out on the whole gang because of just one person. If he really cared for you, wanted to be with you, etc... he wouldn't leave you in the dark, etc and would give you more respect than you probably deserve even after all that you both been through. Just keep smiling, someone will come along and see it and fall for you just like that, even with all the hell it seems you might be going through.
Best of luck, woman.
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| June 10, 2007, 14:39 |
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Re: Why doesn't it last?
QUOTE (40something @ June 5, 2007, 02:02)Okay big question. Can anyone tell me why a man will pay attention to you, call you all hours of the day and respond immediately to each and every email... and then once you decide to give him every bit of your heart, the behavior changes?
I have to admit.. I don't understand. Is it a guy thing that you don't have to pay attention after a while and women are supposed to understand that. Am I supposed to be okay with the change and not complain???
Sometimes...men can be strange creatures....sometimes when a man is under stress from work, or family, he'll withdraw from everyone and everything, and it may not have anything to do with you, or how he feels about you...men seem to think it's a sign of strength to internalize their problems...
I'm with bc and Juils...give him time, let him know you're worried, you want to know what is going on...and if he still doesn't respond....then start looking forward, and stop looking back. IF this has just happened suddenly, there must be a reason for it, and you sure deserve to know...
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| June 10, 2007, 19:24 |
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Re: Why doesn't it last?
I also think sometimes they want us to take the lead and seduce them...if they are stressed out then it does them good to have us turn the tables a bit and help them out...
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| June 10, 2007, 19:33 |
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