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Open Marriage
I always thought the term " Open Marriage " meant that both partners could carry-on sexual activities with other people outside their marriage and was perfectly acceptable by their spouse.
Am I wrong in thinking this way? I see that allot of people have " open marriage " as part of their profile. But when I ask them out I always get turned down,,,,WTF,,,  Or do I fall under the category of "Can't take a Hint"  Please tell your definition I am very curious .
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| April 24, 2007, 20:48 |
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Re: Open Marriage
I cannot believe that not one member here can give a definition of what Open Marriage means to them or even what they think it could or should mean in their own mind???
I'm very curious about this,,,,help me out here.
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| April 25, 2007, 05:52 |
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Liberalwife
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Re: Open Marriage
"An open marriage is the term used to describe a marriage relationship where the husband and wife have no reservations about one another being sexually involved with other people"
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| April 25, 2007, 06:20 |
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QUOTE (Liberalwife @ April 25, 2007, 06:20)"An open marriage is the term used to describe a marriage relationship where the husband and wife have no reservations about one another being sexually involved with other people"
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Thanks much Liberalwife  I thought thats what it meant also.
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| April 25, 2007, 06:33 |
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pepper
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Re: Open Marriage
I didn't answer because Warren and I don't have an 'open' marriage as it is defined.
Our marriage is closed, between us only. But we do seek sometimes a third or fourth partner, for extra curricular activities. They are not involved in our marriage, only occaisionally in our sex life.
  
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| April 25, 2007, 09:43 |
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QUOTE (hothands @ April 25, 2007, 06:33) QUOTE (Liberalwife @ April 25, 2007, 06:20)"An open marriage is the term used to describe a marriage relationship where the husband and wife have no reservations about one another being sexually involved with other people"
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Thanks much Liberalwife I thought thats what it meant also.
It's the two married people that decide what their definition is! Open marraige can mean that just one of them has outside relationships or both of them do. There can be rules about knowing about your spouse's outside flings or not knowing, it can mean that these outside sex flings are only done as a couple. The rules and definition can change as per the couple going through changes themselves.
It's no one else's business what a couple decides is right for them, and who they want to share their "open" marraige with and when they want to share it.
If you need to, ask a married couple what their personal definition is of THEIR open marraige, accept that definition and move on.
Any woman here with "open" marraige in their profile does not mean she will fuck you, anymore than a woman with "single" in her profile...who to fuck or not to fuck is up to each individual or each couple as per their own rules and personal preference.
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| April 25, 2007, 11:13 |
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Re: Open Marriage
I apologize for my above post sounding a little "snippy" and blunt....just started my day here in a bit of a bad way...I meant what I said, just shoulda been a bit more smoother about saying it...
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| April 25, 2007, 12:04 |
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Okay...my mood leveled out, ready to answer this...
My husbands and I have this personal definition of an open marriage ...it doesn't matter if it's "real world" or strictly cyber and online, as a couple or as individuals...as long as we both are aware of it or have discussed it first.
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| April 25, 2007, 12:37 |
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Re: Open Marriage
The message I am getting here is that in some peoples minds the term Open Marriage is in a sense like the term "Buying a home on contract". because all home sales contracts are different depending upon the length of time, the interest rate, the amount going toward the house each month, and the amount that is interest are all up to the seller and the buyer and how each contract is written.
So I am now thinking if that is the case then using the term Open Marriage in your profile is of no value to the people reading it, other than making your profile sound more seductive, because no one actually knows what the individual guidelines are to each Open Marriage .
I understand perfectly well that just because a person has Open Marriage in their profile that it does not mean they will fuck my brains out. I think it just means that they could be promiscuous with whom they choose to be.
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| April 25, 2007, 14:04 |
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pepper
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daytona, Florida, US
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QUOTE (hothands @ April 25, 2007, 14:04)The message I am getting here is that in some peoples minds the term Open Marriage is in a sense like the term "Buying a home on contract". because all home sales contracts are different depending upon the length of time, the interest rate, the amount going toward the house each month, and the amount that is interest are all up to the seller and the buyer and how each contract is written.
So I am now thinking if that is the case then using the term Open Marriage in your profile is of no value to the people reading it, other than making your profile sound more seductive, because no one actually knows what the individual guidelines are to each Open Marriage .
I understand perfectly well that just because a person has Open Marriage in their profile that it does not mean they will fuck my brains out. I think it just means that they could be promiscuous with whom they choose to be.
Perhaps some do, sweets. Mine does not. It says I am married, but you (not specifically you I mean), but the person reading it has to actually read my profile to see what i say. I don't think what Warren and I do/are looking for is unclear, but if it is, please, let me know so I can correct it, lol!  
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| April 25, 2007, 14:16 |
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Re: Open Marriage
I don't understand why a woman would put down "open marraige " as some sort of way of seduction when it seems that just lying and saying "single" instead might get her better results?
Doesn't make sense for someone to claim to be married, or lie about an open marraige as some sort of "lure" when she could just as easily lie and claim to be single.
It all just sounds like simple assumptions to me...if you wonder what someone means my " open marriage " just ask them,
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| April 25, 2007, 14:28 |
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I may have used the wrong word Seductive but traditionally the term Open Marriage means: A marriage relationship where the husband and wife have no reservations about one another being sexually involved with other people.
So if you write on your profile that you have green eyes I know what that means, or if you have large breast I know what that means, and so on for Open Marriage . I should not have to ask them what traditionaly defined sexual preferences mean.
I guess the bottom line for me here is that if a person tells me that they will not date me or go out with me because they are Married, then later I see on their profile it says: Open Marriage ,,,,to me that does not make sense, but like I said in the beginnig I guess I was just to stupid not to take the hint. I am sorry if I have offended anyone here by making such an issue out of this topic, I guess I just have hurt feelings,,,nothing new I will get over it.
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| April 25, 2007, 15:09 |
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Re: Open Marriage
Okay...one last post here and I'm done...
Yes, it is my opinion from all that I have seen that each and every couple can define their own terms of "open" marraige..
Compare it to this...How many differnt definitions are there for the term "Cheater"?...some think that it means intercourse only, oral sex and hand jobs don't count as cheating, some think that cybersex is cheating, some don't see it that way...some think that even a kiss is cheating or a little feeling up is still cheating...from what I know, the most popular meaning for the term "cheater" is anyone that does anything sexually or romantic behind their partners back. But none of us want to be judged or come here to judge anyone else!
This is an adult community here, and I don't want to judge anyone on what they do here, all that matters to me is that we all have our own reasons for being here, and as long as we are over the age of 18, we all have a right to be here...married or single.
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| April 25, 2007, 15:13 |
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Re: Open Marriage
Let's just all make up and be nice...
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| April 25, 2007, 15:15 |
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| April 25, 2007, 15:31 |
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QUOTE (hothands @ April 25, 2007, 15:31)
We're good then!
We've had topics before on what is cheating, what is "open" relationship, and just recently...what is a " slut "...these terms and many others mean different things to different people...and the onset of the popularity of the internet has redefined a few things too.
So I guess, when in doubt, just ask, but don't assume that the answer you get from one, will be the overall defining answer for all.
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| April 25, 2007, 16:29 |
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svedishchef
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I dont think my wife is gonna do you, but thats her reasons not mine... she has wierd tastes.
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| April 25, 2007, 20:20 |
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