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The Art of Seduction...
I've been around WebNaughty for a while now and when I'm chatting in the chat rooms and in the forums the topic comes up frequently about wives and girlfriends not being into sex...granted the women of WN don't seem to be the norm around the world, goodness knows one of my dearest friends would absofrigginlutely have heart failure if she knew I was here...and she's always talking about how she just wishes her husband would leave her alone...
I know the main problem with these women has to do with the way they feel about themselves, their bodies, the way they were raised to think of sex as a "dirty" thing...we are all pretty open here in the WN forums...tell me what it is that you are doing to seduce your partner and let's see what we can do to get everyone what they came here for...laid!!!
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| April 21, 2007, 10:34 |
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Re: The Art of Seduction...
Preaching to the choir, sister!
I see allot of profiles, and comments being made about "my wife doesn't want it anymore"
The first thing that should cross a husband's mind is "I hope this is not health related and maybe she should get a check up"
Second, they should ask themselves if it isn't just fatique...Doodes!!!! Women are highly stressed, and overworked beings! Is she overwhelmed with coming home from work, getting food on the table, washing dishes, taking care of the kids, laundry....even when the work is all done, this kind of pace can make it almost impossible for a women to shut down the responible part of her brain and focus it on more entertaining things.
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| April 21, 2007, 10:46 |
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Re: Re: The Art of Seduction...
QUOTE (Chazzy @ April 21, 2007, 10:46)Preaching to the choir, sister!
I see allot of profiles, and comments being made about "my wife doesn't want it anymore"
The first thing that should cross a husband's mind is "I hope this is not health related and maybe she should get a check up"
Second, they should ask themselves if it isn't just fatique...Doodes!!!! Women are highly stressed, and overworked beings! Is she overwhelmed with coming home from work, getting food on the table, washing dishes, taking care of the kids, laundry....even when the work is all done, this kind of pace can make it almost impossible for a women to shut down the responible part of her brain and focus it on more entertaining things.
I agree completely Chazzy...I was thinking we could provide some little tidbits of wisdom like throwing in a load of laundry...sending her to a facial at the spa and the way to take your tongue from the inside of her ankle up to her knee...kind of a help you seduce her kind of thing. For me...touching is very important...if you touch the right buttons, no matter how much laundry is laying around the house, chances are, you are going to get lucky!!!
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| April 21, 2007, 10:52 |
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Re: The Art of Seduction...
Freeing up her mind is the first step...often women can't relax, they are walking a tightrope, and things left undone today (like laundry,etc...) can totally fuck up her tomorrow!
First free her mind, help with everthing that she says needs done. (and none of that. .."Forget the dishes, I'll do them later" cuz we know it's a 50 percent chance that you will and if you don't, we'll have to do them later..)
Once her mind is free of all that "to do" stuff, she's pretty much all yours....then you can work all kinds of your charm and magic.
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| April 21, 2007, 11:00 |
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Re: The Art of Seduction...
Well ladies, I like the offer, but here's what I'm already doing:
dishes, laundry, generally clean most of the house (I like clean), I have her take a warm bath with the various accouterments I bought her from Bed, Bath, & Beyond; put on Enya or J. Corbin, put the kids to bed after I give them a bath, etc.
I give massages - be it just back or shoulder or temples, etc..
I do try. I like touching too and romance to build up the anticipation!
I do the candles, soft light, warm up the room so it's not to cold,and all...
Basically, her body has changed since the birth of our child. Almost like the sex drive went out. The touches that use to turn her on is now a nuisance to her.
She's always talking to me on the phone about how much she would want to do things, gets home and is still in the mood, but then says "Wait until we goo to bed."
Heck, I'm going to bed around 10pm (and I'm a late person-generally I crash around 11PM) just to massage her, etc. She has had her gall bladder out and her stomach is always upset - another problem! 
Like I posted in other spots- the first wife went 1/2 yr. at a time. My current wife, generally 2-3 months.
Heck, I just had her depart to get her hair done and a massage .
Even CXL'd my Laughlin motorcycle rally this weekend to be here so she can do the spa thing. (Also why I'm able to be on here on a Saturday)
And honestly, I don't go around horny all the darn time. Just most of the time - ha ha!!! 
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| April 21, 2007, 12:31 |
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Re: The Art of Seduction...
Gawd! What a man!! My husband does NONE of those things, and I'm sure I would be allot hornier if he did just some of those things! I would a whole lot sexier at bedtime, if I wasn't exhausted.
Rise and fall of sex drive is pretty common in women, we need balanced hormones, but a dip in drive can be an indication that the Mrs. needs to bring up the subject to her doctor on her next visit.
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| April 21, 2007, 12:42 |
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Re: The Art of Seduction...
I've honestly never had a drop in my sex drive...I was usually the agressive one for the majority of my relationship...so, I know what being turned down on a regular basis is like...
OK...Ptr, it sounds like you need some pampering...I agree with Chazzy, your wife may want to talk to her doctor about her lack of drive and perhaps find some anti-anxiety medication.
I know this may sound crazy but you've made her life so easy, perhaps she's just gotten into a rut and when you massage her and put her to sleep she's down for the count...perhaps you should set up a game of twister with her after the kids are in bed and tell her that it is "Naked Twister" and see where it goes from there...
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| April 21, 2007, 17:54 |
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Re: The Art of Seduction...
Allot of things can make our hormone levels go out of balance. Women need a certain level of testosterone.
Stress, bad diet, medications or any drugs or supplements can cause havoc, and even our monthly cycles leave us wanting it one day, and not the next.
If your wife is about your age, her hormones are subject to sudden changes and there's some good hormone therapies out there that could make her feel like a new woman!
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| April 21, 2007, 18:03 |
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Re: The Art of Seduction...
Well girls, thanks for the ideas.
Now let me find a way to politely tell her to she needs a check-up.
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| April 23, 2007, 11:06 |
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Re: The Art of Seduction...
You're close to her, I'm sure you could easily tell if there have been any health issues that need looked into.
Sometimes just a weight flucuation can teeter the hormone levels too.
You know her best, and know what's best for her.
You're such a good husband!
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| April 23, 2007, 11:45 |
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Re: The Art of Seduction...
Well, this wasn't supposed to be about me, so how about me.
So, let's get back and have some others comment on their styles.
What they like or wish to happen.
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| April 24, 2007, 12:03 |
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Re: The Art of Seduction...
I would love to hear how men get their women in the mood.
My husband thinks suddenly exposing his dick in my face and saying "suck it" is foreplay....
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| April 24, 2007, 12:49 |
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Re: Re: The Art of Seduction...
QUOTE (Chazzy @ April 24, 2007, 12:49)I would love to hear how men get their women in the mood.
My husband thinks suddenly exposing his dick in my face and saying "suck it" is foreplay....
Cracking up over that one!!!!
  
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| April 24, 2007, 14:28 |
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QUOTE (ptr61dhn @ April 24, 2007, 14:28) QUOTE (Chazzy @ April 24, 2007, 12:49)I would love to hear how men get their women in the mood.
My husband thinks suddenly exposing his dick in my face and saying "suck it" is foreplay....
Cracking up over that one!!!!
I am soooooo laughing at that!!! That too was a form of foreplay in my house...I used to wonder if I stripped naked and served his dinner on my body if I would get more action before entry...
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| April 24, 2007, 21:09 |
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Re: The Art of Seduction...
The "Brace yourself" foreplay is the most common reason I didn't enjoy sex before. I could be unique, but I like the idea of foreplay with lots of anticipation..
For example, call me in the morning and tell me your thinking about me.
Then stop by for lunch and kiss me deeply, looking into my eyes ..."See you at home honey"
Give the older kids money to take the younger ones to the movies
Meet me at the door with dinner made, the bedroom clean, and a chilled sangria.
Lay down with me on the bed and kiss me deeply and say those wonderful words that warm my heart.
"Tell me about your day baby, I am listening to you"
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| April 25, 2007, 00:40 |
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smitty6044
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A whoop and a hollar from Dallas, Texas, US
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Re: The Art of Seduction...
40Something, you guys have the right idea. Just paying lots of attention to each other is more than half of the relationship. I used to call my wife from work and ask her things like: "have you got time for a really dirty phone call". A little phone sex or just some "pillow talk" in the middle of the day always got my motor running and had me driving home at a high rate of speed at the end of my day. Just lying together and talking in the evening was both relaxing AND exciting at the same time. Touching and talking usually led to much more and a level of comfort and peace that was wonderful. Seduction and long, slow foreplay keeps love alive and all the juices flowing. Ah the pleasant memories........
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| April 25, 2007, 01:02 |
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Re: Re: The Art of Seduction...
QUOTE (Chazzy @ April 21, 2007, 10:46)
Second, they should ask themselves if it isn't just fatique...Doodes!!!! Women are highly stressed, and overworked beings! Is she overwhelmed with coming home from work, getting food on the table, washing dishes, taking care of the kids, laundry....even when the work is all done, this kind of pace can make it almost impossible for a women to shut down the responible part of her brain and focus it on more entertaining things
I regard all this as offensive, mostly cause I resemble all of the above and still dont get laid .
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| April 25, 2007, 20:17 |
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Re: Re: Re: The Art of Seduction...
QUOTE (svedishchef @ April 25, 2007, 20:17) QUOTE (Chazzy @ April 21, 2007, 10:46)
Second, they should ask themselves if it isn't just fatique...Doodes!!!! Women are highly stressed, and overworked beings! Is she overwhelmed with coming home from work, getting food on the table, washing dishes, taking care of the kids, laundry....even when the work is all done, this kind of pace can make it almost impossible for a women to shut down the responible part of her brain and focus it on more entertaining things
I regard all this as offensive, mostly cause I resemble all of the above and still dont get laid .
Darlin' it seems like more and more men are pulling the load and not getting laid... 
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| April 25, 2007, 23:18 |
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Re: The Art of Seduction...
Yeh Jules, you're right.
Anyway, I liked it when I would get provocative pictures on my cell during the day. Nothing too racy, but enough to "...get your motor running..."
Ahh, the good ol' days!!!
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| April 26, 2007, 11:19 |
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Re: The Art of Seduction...
I hear ya...the good ole days...back when I was part of a mutual sex act, not just a handy tool nearby for his use...
I've tried explaining to my husband, quit putting sex on my chore list and let's leave it on our recreation list please...
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| April 26, 2007, 11:34 |
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