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Turning point
What was(were) the biggest turning point(s) in your life?
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| March 18, 2007, 14:44 |
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NRG4U
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Beaver City, Nebraska, US
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I gotta say the first time I sat in my F-16. I knew then thats what I wanted to do.
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| March 18, 2007, 14:48 |
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When i had my first son, I turned into a grown up that day!!!!  
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| March 18, 2007, 16:12 |
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Having my children made me grow up on several levels, but in the grand scheme of my life losing my Mom changed me. I never knew how important grace in your heart, hope in your soul, and the kindness of others would get you through dark moments. As I've said before, God gave me the the gift of giving birth to three beautiful children and the gift of loving my Mom through her awful illness with my two sisters at my side...my family, my friends...although my life has changed dramatically in the last year I'd like to believe that in some way through these difficult times I've become a better woman...through grace, hope, and kindness...you can never know where you are going if you don't know where you have been.
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| March 18, 2007, 16:51 |
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Being free of alcohol and cigaretts since 18 Aug.1995, I always said that I could quit anytime I wanted to but in reality I could not!,, it took me ten years of trying since 1985 to actually do it successfully on my own. If I had to do it over again I would go to an alcohol in house treatment center. It probably would have been faster and less mentally and physically painfull with proffessional help and other people to talk to with the same problem.
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| March 18, 2007, 20:00 |
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nykitten
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Pawling, New York, US
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QUOTE (hothands @ March 18, 2007, 20:00)Being free of alcohol and cigaretts since 18 Aug.1995, I always said that I could quit anytime I wanted to but in reality I could not!,, it took me ten years of trying since 1985 to actually do it successfully on my own. If I had to do it over again I would go to an alcohol in house treatment center. It probably would have been faster and less mentally and physically painfull with proffessional help and other people to talk to with the same problem.
Good for you hothands!.......That is a huge accomplishment!...You should be proud! 
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| March 18, 2007, 20:56 |
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nykitten
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Pawling, New York, US
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Mine would be my recent separation along with all I have lost during the process.......Because of that, I have a fresh start on life, with a whole new perspective!......I have been blessed!
Although having children changed my life just as much!....  
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| March 18, 2007, 20:59 |
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rawk35
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valley, Oregon, US
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the day i left home at 17, to join the army, it was that day i realized that no one out ther loved me or gave a shit about me. I was on my own. wow what a great day!doubled in strength at that moment of realization. "smilin peacefully" 
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| March 18, 2007, 21:27 |
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Having some great high school teachers that believed in me and encouraged me to succeed. They also gave me the opportunity to open up and show off my talents in academic areas besides the sports fields.
I still keep in touch with them to this day!
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| March 19, 2007, 12:08 |
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lizonya
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lake elsinore, California, US
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i have had a lot of turning points but the one that stands out is the most recent diagnosis of stage 4 cancer. having been told that i only have 6-12 months to live, well, that will get anyone's attention and force one to reassess the meaning of life and how important it is. i had to struggle with the decision of whether or not i wanted to fight or let go. i chose to fight. Now, eight months later i'm getting stronger and doing better than ever. i plan to be in the small percentile of survivors of ovarian cancer!
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| March 19, 2007, 12:51 |
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QUOTE (lizonya @ March 19, 2007, 12:51)i have had a lot of turning points but the one that stands out is the most recent diagnosis of stage 4 cancer. having been told that i only have 6-12 months to live, well, that will get anyone's attention and force one to reassess the meaning of life and how important it is. i had to struggle with the decision of whether or not i wanted to fight or let go. i chose to fight. Now, eight months later i'm getting stronger and doing better than ever. i plan to be in the small percentile of survivors of ovarian cancer!
   Keep up the fight Liz!!! EVERYONE here at WN is rooting for you!!!
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| March 19, 2007, 13:03 |
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rawk35
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valley, Oregon, US
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QUOTE (lizonya @ March 19, 2007, 12:51)i have had a lot of turning points but the one that stands out is the most recent diagnosis of stage 4 cancer. having been told that i only have 6-12 months to live, well, that will get anyone's attention and force one to reassess the meaning of life and how important it is. i had to struggle with the decision of whether or not i wanted to fight or let go. i chose to fight. Now, eight months later i'm getting stronger and doing better than ever. i plan to be in the small percentile of survivors of ovarian cancer!
am glad you chose to fight!!  never give up! 
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| March 19, 2007, 20:04 |
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when I burned my foot working at a leather tannery ,was washing out an empty fat barrel when the hose slipped outta my hand and shot down my boot ,water was so hot it was turning to steam ,felt like a thousand needles ,2nd and 3rd degree burns over 90 % of my foot ,in the hospital a week , flat on my back two months ,I was workin 3rd shift running color wheels goin to tech school in the day ,a member of the american leather chemists association and raising a son by myself ,thought I was heading on the right road but the accident real opened my eyes ,got me on a different path .
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| March 19, 2007, 20:10 |
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I think the day I realized that I was different from everyone else (facial deformity), was my turning point. I have carried this burden, with absolutely no hope of any improvement, for my entire life. Thank god I have a wife and friends that love me for who I am! Sometimes I feel lowly and become introverted (the stares), but then I snap out of it and say "f**k it! You don't like my looks, tough sh*t"! Although I don't walk around with my head held high too often, I at least try to keep my self respect.
Do I get in a suicidal state of mind? Yeh, sometimes. Remember, I do have to look at myself in the mirror. I don't like what I see, but what can I do about? N-O-T-H-I-N-G!!!
I hope when the time comes for me to leave this earth, it's due to natural causes and not by my own hands. I don't think I would have the nerve to do it anyway.....
I hope I didn't alarm anybody. I am actually, a nice and very up-type person. To all the preceding posts, I commend you all. I guess everybody has their down times and somehow they learn to overcome your obstacles. I've learned to sometimes whistle past the grave yard.
Sorry CHAZZY, I didn't mean to hijack your post. I was just in a mood. I know it was supposed to be an UP subject.
The preceding rant was my semi-annual catharsis to be continued........
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| March 20, 2007, 06:26 |
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NRG4U
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Beaver City, Nebraska, US
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QUOTE (rawk35 @ March 18, 2007, 21:27)the day i left home at 17, to join the army, it was that day i realized that no one out ther loved me or gave a shit about me. I was on my own. wow what a great day!doubled in strength at that moment of realization. "smilin peacefully"
We have some common ground, I went into the Air Force at 17, for different reasons, the county judge just thought it would be a very good idea if I went, umm 2nd choice wasn't quite as glamorous
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| March 20, 2007, 08:04 |
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Aw VB, you carry your burden well! It's only the shallow that would care at all about your facial deformity, and hell, who cares about shallow opinions?
Sooner or later, we all have to deal with the loss of our exterior shell's beauty, those born beautiful sometimes find that there is nothing left on the inside to rely on, because they always relied on their looks.
You already have what so many will never have, a good wife and family. They love ya, and we love ya!
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| March 20, 2007, 08:12 |
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QUOTE (Chazzy @ March 20, 2007, 08:12)Aw VB, you carry your burden well! It's only the shallow that would care at all about your facial deformity, and hell, who cares about shallow opinions?
Sooner or later, we all have to deal with the loss of our exterior shell's beauty, those born beautiful sometimes find that there is nothing left on the inside to rely on, because they always relied on their looks.
You already have what so many will never have, a good wife and family. They love ya, and we love ya!
Of all the members, I knew you would reply. For that, I thank you. Now, for the remainder of the members, you do not owe me a sympathetic word or comment. All I ask when I post something is, try and look beyond your prejudices and treat me as a friend and not a "special" friend! I can be your friend with no prerequisites. I know the hurt that'll ensue if I didn't. 'Nuff said!!
Hey enough with this "poor me" sh*t. I woke up this morning and didn't see my name in the obituaries, so I guess it should be a promising day after all.
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| March 20, 2007, 08:39 |
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Hey VB...around here, you're on a level playing field!!
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| March 20, 2007, 08:56 |
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QUOTE (Chazzy @ March 20, 2007, 08:56)Hey VB...around here, you're on a level playing field!!
Love 'ya hun........
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| March 20, 2007, 09:09 |
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There are so many. Having my babies, losing my mother and brother.... family members in general. Everything about the two I mentioned make you take a long, hard look at your life and decide how and where you'll go from that point on. It's hard to explain......
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| March 20, 2007, 09:43 |
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really enjoy your posts there VB ,that little bit of sarcasm and realist approach kinda JD esque a bit .
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| March 20, 2007, 21:35 |
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rawk35
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valley, Oregon, US
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QUOTE (NRG4U @ March 20, 2007, 08:04) QUOTE (rawk35 @ March 18, 2007, 21:27)the day i left home at 17, to join the army, it was that day i realized that no one out ther loved me or gave a shit about me. I was on my own. wow what a great day!doubled in strength at that moment of realization. "smilin peacefully" We have some common ground, I went into the Air Force at 17, for different reasons, the county judge just thought it would be a very good idea if I went, umm 2nd choice wasn't quite as glamorous
lol,damn wonder where you'd be today if ya chose the glamorous option.
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| March 20, 2007, 21:47 |
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rawk35
56 / couple
valley, Oregon, US
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less glamorous option.
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| March 20, 2007, 21:48 |
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NRG4U
63 / male
Beaver City, Nebraska, US
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QUOTE (rawk35 @ March 20, 2007, 21:48)less glamorous option.
Hmmmmmmmmmmmm , not sure, probably still be there enjoying the "Glamour".lol But as it turned out, judge was right, it's exactly where I needed to be to get my life straightened out, I was sent there to teach me a lesson, & they taught it to me. I didn't waste it, & once I sat in a jet air craft I loved it so much, I stayed & flew jets for the Air Force for 23 years.
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| March 21, 2007, 06:49 |
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I would have to say I have had several turning points.... the first when I was just 15, my dad was killed in an auto accident, and I was angry at the world, I swore that I would get even. (2) when I met this wonderful girl at the time in school who later became my wife (3) when I had an emergency appendectomy, I almost died, and left my wife as a widow, and my son an orphan. (4)when my wife finally said enough, you need to get out, so I went to counseling, and have really been working hard and fighting for what I have and what I want.
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| March 21, 2007, 08:11 |
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QUOTE (troybuilt @ March 21, 2007, 08:11)I would have to say I have had several turning points.... the first when I was just 15, my dad was killed in an auto accident, and I was angry at the world, I swore that I would get even. (2) when I met this wonderful girl at the time in school who later became my wife (3) when I had an emergency appendectomy, I almost died, and left my wife as a widow, and my son an orphan. (4)when my wife finally said enough, you need to get out, so I went to counseling, and have really been working hard and fighting for what I have and what I want.
Good for you, no one ever said marriage was easy...if she's worth it you should keep trying. Hopefully all will be well soon.
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| March 21, 2007, 20:11 |
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QUOTE (Juilianna @ March 21, 2007, 20:11) QUOTE (troybuilt @ March 21, 2007, 08:11)I would have to say I have had several turning points.... the first when I was just 15, my dad was killed in an auto accident, and I was angry at the world, I swore that I would get even. (2) when I met this wonderful girl at the time in school who later became my wife (3) when I had an emergency appendectomy, I almost died, and left my wife as a widow, and my son an orphan. (4)when my wife finally said enough, you need to get out, so I went to counseling, and have really been working hard and fighting for what I have and what I want.
Good for you, no one ever said marriage was easy...if she's worth it you should keep trying. Hopefully all will be well soon.
I can only hope, but sometimes I feel like something is being hidden. So I get very suspicious. 
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| March 22, 2007, 01:59 |
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NRG4U
63 / male
Beaver City, Nebraska, US
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My getting caught in a explosion was a turning point for me as well. As I laid in bed at the burn center, ready to give up, since my life seemed over, I was caught up in a feeling of anger, telling my self that I was gonna show my wife, (at the time) that I was gonna survive this, & live a normal life. Mostly I have, worked my way back up, have a good business, not rich, but I'm comfortable. Bought & restored a plane, so I can do aerial stunts, so if I do die, it probably won't be in bed.
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