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nykitten
54 / female
Pawling, New York, US
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When it rains, it pours!
Just got notice they will be actioning my house March 12...(my ex stopped paying for my house when we split)...I don't dare say could things get any worse!  
Did you just ever have one of those days you can't stop crying?...... 
Well I think Im having a week like that!
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| February 28, 2007, 12:39 |
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Re: When it rains, it pours!
 it will get better...someday... 
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| February 28, 2007, 12:43 |
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lizonya
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lake elsinore, California, US
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Re: When it rains, it pours!
oh sweetie...i'm so sorry you're having a bad week. i know your heart must weigh heavy on you. it's times like these that make one strong and persevere. remember, that which doesn't kill you makes you stronger. this is the end of a chapter in your life. good ridance! just think what the next chapter will bring. keep your chin up baby!
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| February 28, 2007, 12:45 |
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Re: When it rains, it pours!
NYK, my entire year was like that last year. It was one thing after another and I felt like I just couldn't get my legs stablized. Today you cry, you cry as hard as you want to, get it out of your system. In adversity there is always beauty on the other side as long as we continue to think positively.
My friends are always telling me they don't know how I'm still smiling after last year, from January through December it was just awful. I'm not certain if you know this but my mom died on Christmas Day after a six month battle with kidney cancer that had spread all over her body. Perhaps this is a simple way to think of things but my perspective is that God gave me a great Mom and three beautiful children...I was there when my children were born and that was the greatest gift ever...I was there when my sweet Momma passed away and that was also a gift. I have experience life, I have experienced death and I am more thankful today than I've ever been about the little things in life.
Use this adversity and turn it into something positive. I know in the here and now you must feel frantic and you should allow yourself those feelings...tomorrow is the day you make plans...today you allow yourself to just be pissed off.
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| February 28, 2007, 13:38 |
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funlovingpair
59 / couple
Frozen Tundra, Minnesota, US
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Re: When it rains, it pours!
But it is the darkest before the dawn. Soon a new dawn appear, and it will be even more brilliant than ever. Just hang in there Sweetheart. 
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| February 28, 2007, 14:47 |
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wildplaynow
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butler, Pennsylvania, US
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Re: When it rains, it pours!
Hang in there...somewhere in that storm is a clearing. Keep your head up and moving forward...You WILL reach it!
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| February 28, 2007, 15:02 |
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Re: When it rains, it pours!
Don't look back, just keep looking ahead...I've started all over with barely a thing several times, and I may have to again someday, who knows. Things...are just things, only heart and soul really matter.
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| February 28, 2007, 18:54 |
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Re: When it rains, it pours!
Said my peace on this....and yes Chazzy...I'm back....(love ya) ...keep on keepin on babe...keep on keepin on....!!!!
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| February 28, 2007, 19:36 |
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KINKYINTHEFALLS
56 / male
wild and wonderful, West Virginia, US
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Re: When it rains, it pours!
Sweetheart I wish there was a way I could make it all better, but unfortunately there's not. Keep your head held high and know that it will all be over and done soon. Until then you know I'm always here for ya if you wanna talk or vent
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| February 28, 2007, 19:54 |
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rawk35
56 / couple
valley, Oregon, US
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Re: When it rains, it pours!
tears r a good thing, they cleanse the spirit and soul! keep ur chin up! strength and honor! Rawk.
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| February 28, 2007, 20:59 |
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Re: Re: When it rains, it pours!
QUOTE (rawk35 @ February 28, 2007, 20:59)tears r a good thing, they cleanse the spirit and soul! keep ur chin up! strength and honor! Rawk.
That's always a good way to look at it. Although, I'm one who cringes when something my way doesnt go. Otherwise its just because I'm so soft-hearted that I can't not cry. Just my nature.
So, NYK... you can cry whenever you feel the need. No one has the right to put you down if they see you cry. So just let them tears fall as they need. Its kinda like what they say about the weather, you need some sun, and some rain in order for your plants to grow. But... you're the weather and plant all in one. You can only grow by letting the sun shine off of you (just by smiling), and letting the rain (your tears) come down when it is needed.
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| March 1, 2007, 07:52 |
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Re: When it rains, it pours!
Ya know I lost my job about 5 years ago and within a few weeks, My wife and I found ourselves unable to keep up the payments on our house so we sold the freakin' thing immediately. We got ourselves an apartment and have been happy ever since. We were a bit sad for a while but we said "f**k it, it was only a house"! Even after 18 years, we had no connection to it other than raising a family in it but it was still only a house. It held no memories; we held those memories! We have no desire to tie up all that money for all that heat and electricity, taxes and upkeep for just two of us. Our apartment is perfect, nice neighborhood, nice neighbors and the rent is about $1150 heat included. Electric is a whopping $50/mth. It's a whole lot cheaper than a house.
I know this has little to do with you having to leave your home but f**k it, you'll find somewhere to hang your hat and in a while, it'll be just another shity memory, another thing to gauge your existence. You'll still have "you"! Line up your life's priorities. You'll find that a big 'ole freakin' house is nothing!
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| March 1, 2007, 12:40 |
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dave2big
81 / male
somewhere, Nebraska, US
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Re: When it rains, it pours!
you just hang in there sweetie, you are an intelligent,attractive gal , and you will survive this.good luck !!
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| March 1, 2007, 13:09 |
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nykitten
54 / female
Pawling, New York, US
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Re: When it rains, it pours!
You guys are just the best!......Your right I will find a place to hang my hat!....And to be honest the memories here are more forgettable than memorable!......Its just hard when you have only heart, because heart doesn't pay for the rent!......
The irony is that I had to go to social services for help......And after three months of calling them everyday (remind you I didn't get any money that whole time!) they ended up giving me $200 a week, now most people would be grateful they are receiving something, but at the same time I was awarded child support.....So now, I get the $200 a week from social services, and my ex pays $390 to social services...(I don't get the $390, I still only get $200)...I can't imaging them considering that helping a family in need......And not to mention all the shitheads that abuse the system, that get that extra $190 my ex is paying that should be going to MY children!.....I have looked into it and working on fixing the problem, however their answer to me is that's the way the system works!......Well I say BULLSHIT TO THE SYSTEM!.......
I am not a negative person, nor do I wish to be!.....If I was, I wouldn't have made it this far.....But it just seems like all that could go wrong, happens within a week!....I will continue to fight, and be strong for my children, thank God for them!.......But I do believe that God has a plan for me, and he is just getting me ready!....
Thanks again to all of my friends here!.....I'm not even sure how I can truly put it into words what it has done for me to have people like you help knowing it comes straight from all of your hearts!......I will never forget this time of need when you were all here for me!....I personally wish I could hug every single one of you!....Just know, when the sun hits your face, and you feel that peace, that's my thanks to you!...... 
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| March 1, 2007, 15:10 |
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"Light tomorrow with today."
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| March 1, 2007, 16:48 |
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Hey KIT, Thank you for that beautiful sentiment. I hope I speak for all when I say I hope you resolve your financial woes with your head held high.
Good luck to you sweetheart.
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| March 1, 2007, 19:20 |
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Re: When it rains, it pours!
At one time or another we all hit rock bottom so we think you have your health and your kids and lots of people who care about you deeply hang in the it will get better 
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| March 1, 2007, 22:17 |
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Re: When it rains, it pours!
Wow, they make him pay more, yet you don't get the $$.
That really does suck.
I wish I knew someone who could help you.
Keep up the fight.
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| March 2, 2007, 14:06 |
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nykitten
54 / female
Pawling, New York, US
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Re: Re: When it rains, it pours!
QUOTE (voyeurbill @ March 1, 2007, 19:20)Hey KIT, Thank you for that beautiful sentiment. I hope I speak for all when I say I hope you resolve your financial woes with your head held high.
Good luck to you sweetheart.
Thank you!.....Such wonderful advice you always give when truly needed!...I admire a wise man!
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| March 5, 2007, 19:44 |
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nyk: your beautiful, intelligent, warm, and witty with the heart of gold...get after it gf..it's time to do what you gotta do and make it happen..
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| March 5, 2007, 23:47 |
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Re: When it rains, it pours!
like my dad used to say when I was bummin some weed money off him ,get a job ,get off your ass and go to work you lazy #^%@
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| March 7, 2007, 20:37 |
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nykitten
54 / female
Pawling, New York, US
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Re: Re: When it rains, it pours!
QUOTE (jd39l @ March 7, 2007, 20:37)like my dad used to say when I was bummin some weed money off him ,get a job ,get off your ass and go to work you lazy #^%@
Its a nice thought, however I still have a little one at home to take care of, and Im certainly not lazy!......I probably work harder than most people, and I don't get paid for it!.....
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| March 7, 2007, 20:59 |
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KINKYINTHEFALLS
56 / male
wild and wonderful, West Virginia, US
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Re: Re: When it rains, it pours!
QUOTE (jd39l @ March 7, 2007, 20:37)like my dad used to say when I was bummin some weed money off him ,get a job ,get off your ass and go to work you lazy #^%@
Anyone that know's NYK know's she's not like that at all, she's a hard worker and still makes time to listen and be there for others in need. She's really an 
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| March 7, 2007, 21:39 |
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oh I see the tough love approach is not gonna work here oh back to the drawin board I guess gave it my best shot hmmmm
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| March 7, 2007, 21:51 |
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Re: When it rains, it pours!
... it can't rain all the time
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| March 8, 2007, 00:11 |
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| March 8, 2007, 05:28 |
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Liberalwife
47 / female
north, England, UK
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Re: Re: When it rains, it pours!
QUOTE (jd39l @ March 7, 2007, 20:37)like my dad used to say when I was bummin some weed money off him ,get a job ,get off your ass and go to work you lazy #^%@
That was very uncalled for ! 
Hope things are improving for you NYK honey,,
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| March 8, 2007, 11:10 |
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QUOTE (jd39l @ March 8, 2007, 05:28)
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| March 8, 2007, 11:21 |
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Re: Re: Re: When it rains, it pours!
QUOTE (Liberalwife @ March 8, 2007, 11:10) QUOTE (jd39l @ March 7, 2007, 20:37)like my dad used to say when I was bummin some weed money off him ,get a job ,get off your ass and go to work you lazy #^%@
That was very uncalled for !
Hope things are improving for you NYK honey,,
go ahead pitter patter and poo poo her but still things are not gonna get better till you take the bull by the horns darling
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| March 8, 2007, 21:10 |
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nykitten
54 / female
Pawling, New York, US
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Re: Re: Re: Re: When it rains, it pours!
QUOTE (jd39l @ March 8, 2007, 21:10) QUOTE (Liberalwife @ March 8, 2007, 11:10) QUOTE (jd39l @ March 7, 2007, 20:37)like my dad used to say when I was bummin some weed money off him ,get a job ,get off your ass and go to work you lazy #^%@
That was very uncalled for !
Hope things are improving for you NYK honey,,
go ahead pitter patter and poo poo her but still things are not gonna get better till you take the bull by the horns darling
I understand what your trying to say!.....And believe me I have the bull by the balls!  Screw the horns! 
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| March 8, 2007, 21:36 |
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QUOTE (nykitten @ March 8, 2007, 21:36) QUOTE (jd39l @ March 8, 2007, 21:10) QUOTE (Liberalwife @ March 8, 2007, 11:10) QUOTE (jd39l @ March 7, 2007, 20:37)like my dad used to say when I was bummin some weed money off him ,get a job ,get off your ass and go to work you lazy #^%@
That was very uncalled for !
Hope things are improving for you NYK honey,,
go ahead pitter patter and poo poo her but still things are not gonna get better till you take the bull by the horns darling
I understand what your trying to say!.....And believe me I have the bull by the balls! Screw the horns!
Now that I can believe! You go girl!!
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| March 8, 2007, 21:38 |
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Re: When it rains, it pours!
when are you two hooking up? really??
kitten has shown her true ability for compassion to me the last few days dealing with a very touchy and personal subject. i thought about posting my thanks in its own thread but this seems to fit.... hun, if ever i can do ANYTHING for you just whisper it and i'll do my best. i dont get any more serious either, i mean it.
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| March 9, 2007, 09:41 |
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Re: Re: When it rains, it pours!
QUOTE (boredcountryboy @ March 9, 2007, 09:41)when are you two hooking up? really??
kitten has shown her true ability for compassion to me the last few days dealing with a very touchy and personal subject. i thought about posting my thanks in its own thread but this seems to fit.... hun, if ever i can do ANYTHING for you just whisper it and i'll do my best. i dont get any more serious either, i mean it.
We hook up everyday!
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| March 9, 2007, 17:53 |
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nykitten
54 / female
Pawling, New York, US
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Re: Re: Re: When it rains, it pours!
QUOTE (Jessejames @ March 9, 2007, 17:53) QUOTE (boredcountryboy @ March 9, 2007, 09:41)when are you two hooking up? really??
kitten has shown her true ability for compassion to me the last few days dealing with a very touchy and personal subject. i thought about posting my thanks in its own thread but this seems to fit.... hun, if ever i can do ANYTHING for you just whisper it and i'll do my best. i dont get any more serious either, i mean it.
We hook up everyday!
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| March 9, 2007, 18:59 |
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