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piscesdream
47 / couple
cincinnati, Ohio, US
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How do I talk my fiance into....
hi, I am new to the community; my fiance and I are considering possible swinging in the future. The swinging is something my fiance is more open to than my other fantasy, but I REALLY would LOVE my other fantasy. My fantasy is to have my fiance and another guy doing me at the same time. I don't mean that the guys would do anything w/ eachother, but so far I can't talk him into this. He says he cant stand to see another guy w/ me. I've even offered to reciporcate as long as I didnt have to do anything w/ another woman; but still no dice. any advice on how I can get him to be open to the concept and give me my fantasy?
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| February 11, 2007, 05:15 |
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Re: How do I talk my fiance into....
Marriage and relationships are all about compromise...you'll both have to find that common ground that suits you both.
Talking someone into something that they really do not want to do could lead to regret, remorse and resentment.
But...I gather from your post, that the two of you do talk openly about these kind of things, so keep talking and be patient...things could happen!
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| February 11, 2007, 08:53 |
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funlovingpair
59 / couple
Frozen Tundra, Minnesota, US
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Re: How do I talk my fiance into....
Chazzy is correct. Marriage is all about compromises. You may be able to full fill your fantasy, but it will probably take some time. Don't push the issue too often. I found that if you talk about it over time, that its may become a reality. But the key word here is time. Good luck.
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| February 11, 2007, 11:01 |
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piscesdream
47 / couple
cincinnati, Ohio, US
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Re: How do I talk my fiance into....
thanks for the advice guys
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| February 11, 2007, 16:10 |
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nykitten
54 / female
Pawling, New York, US
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Re: How do I talk my fiance into....
They are both right!....If your partner is not open to it, it will never work.....Nor should you ever push them into it....Relationships are all about trust and communication, if your partner tells you they aren't ready, then you have to trust that they feel that way for a reason.....Anyone in this lifestyle needs to be very open minded and very secure in their relationship for it to work and be enjoyable for both.....
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| February 16, 2007, 21:19 |
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