I think there is a limit. Too much and it gets to be patronizing, too little and it seems like "don't care." As in all life, knowing the limit and keeping to it is the real trick.

i believe i suffer from this problem... tend to be a little over the top and too generous with compliments most times, some day maybe i'll find that line and learn to walk it.

Does any one else have this problem? is it a male thing? or has my wife labled me incorrectly?

  QUOTE (boredcountryboy @ September 2, 2004, 15:57)


After you get married the line will be drawn for you bud!

  QUOTE (DEye @ September 2, 2004, 15:58)


thanks for the tip... guess till then i'll just hand it out like parade candy.

I tend to go a little overboard, I love to spoil a man I love, or love to be with, in public an private, sitting in their lap, and fidgeting or squirming, constantly giving them back rubs on their neck and shoulders, or softly rubbing the lower back while we walk or stroll along, grabbing them by the hipbones to pull them closer when talking face to face, feeling them up in the car, giving them head in the parking lot or drive way, yeah, I do tend to go a little overboard

GAWD,,, chazzy, after reading that post, you just took me back to my high school days! Why did it ever have to stop,,,I loved all that kinda stuff, What you said is the sexiest way I've ever heard it explained! If there were more people like you, this world would never have a war.

  QUOTE (hothands @ September 9, 2004, 06:18)




The problem being, most of us are very affectionate, during that "courtship phase" early on, and how often do we find ourselves mismatched, one beleives that it is emotional affection, that "spark" that keeps your hearts and libido fresh and excited should never end while the other feels that, now in a committed phase of things, it's time to just be comfortable and complacent, and there's no need to carry on with all that affection any more, they'd just as rather you bring 'em a "sammitch and pepsi" and find the remote for them.

I was given practically no affection at all as a child, so I love to indulge in adult affection in any way .... I love the hair stroking, especially if I 'm sad or upset,or just don't feel well, the hair stroking along with some repetitious and sympathetic "awwww , poor baby!!"s, and an occasional kiss on top of the head and I couldn't feel any warmer , or safer.

  QUOTE (Chazzy @ September 11, 2004, 11:58)






stroke, stroke awwww poor baby, stroke stroke,awwww poor baby, does your neck feel better now ?

Almost 25 yrs later, including courtship thing, I don't really think that I've changed my habits of affection much. We still lay on the couch together, when we're in a store or mall, I'll still slide my hand into her back pocket or hook a finger in her waist band, sometimes I'll just grab a handful of her butt cheek. While in bed we both have to just keep at least one part of body touching the other. She has told me that if she kinda wakes up in the middle of the night, that I'll reach over and start to lightly rub her butt, thigh, or what ever is in reach, and she usually falls right back to sleep.

  QUOTE (hothands @ September 9, 2004, 06:18)


I agree Chazzy! I love the little touchs, the calls just to say hi, the attention - both giving and receiving. What I have never understood is why it changes?



The problem being, most of us are very affectionate, during that "courtship phase" early on, and how often do we find ourselves mismatched, one beleives that it is emotional affection, that "spark" that keeps your hearts and libido fresh and excited should never end while the other feels that, now in a committed phase of things, it's time to just be comfortable and complacent, and there's no need to carry on with all that affection any more, they'd just as rather you bring 'em a "sammitch and pepsi" and find the remote for them.

I tend to go a little overboard, I love to spoil a man I love, or love to be with, in public an private, sitting in their lap, and fidgeting or squirming, constantly giving them back rubs on their neck and shoulders, or softly rubbing the lower back while we walk or stroll along, grabbing them by the hipbones to pull them closer when talking face to face, feeling them up in the car, giving them head in the parking lot or drive way, yeah, I do tend to go a little overboard