When there is an obvious and serious or major conflict, I like to just stop everything, sit down across the table from each other and start working on all the understanding and compromise it takes to resolve it

  QUOTE (Chazzy @ January 11, 2007, 03:20)



Seems to be the general theory that would work in any situation. Sucks sometimes cuz it doesnt always turn out that way.

  QUOTE (bikerchick69 @ January 22, 2007, 21:32)


Sometimes when problems get this far it is important to have someone that is willing to just put their arms around the other one, hug them with everything that they have, lean back and just say those words that are the hardest. "I love you...I'm sorry...Let's find a way to make the work out."

i know its a bad character trait in me but if you tell me to sit down and we NEED to talk this through... that's pretty much the last thing i'm gonna do.
thats enough on that....

When there is an obvious and serious or major conflict, I like to just stop everything, sit down across the table from each other and start working on all the understanding and compromise it takes to resolve it...unfortunately, I'm married to a man that can, and usually does act like a freakin' spoiled, annoying 6 year old,any and all adult methods are completely useless...

confrontation is hard and risky at times, especially if one person is more educated and dominant leaving the other in a loosing fit of anger. and if it is a matter of winning the smarter person will always use both barrels to make their stand leaving their partner bewildered walking away with wounds that sometimes never heal, leading to more problems later on in the bedroom.
People that walk away do so because they are either scared and don't want to add more fuel to the fire or they just don't really care for some reason or other.
I have been known to be both, depending on the time of the month, the posistion of the stares, who knows,, but if there is money involved I will have both barrels cocked.

  QUOTE (boredcountryboy @ January 23, 2007, 18:39)




BCB...what if the conversation took place on a horizontal playing field...naked tends to make people vulnerable...would ya, could ya open up there?

  QUOTE (Juilianna @ January 23, 2007, 22:33)


i would not could not in a bed, visions of titties in my head. i would not will not be demanded, sitting idle when reprimanded. i would not could not in the buff, sex as a tool i've had enough. it will not open my ear or soften my head, serious talks do not belong in the bed. Miss Juilianna of the Hills, talking is a merely a battle of wills. i do not like to be worried and stressed, this one time please keep fully dressed. BCB (and that is me) says actions not words mend the fence. That should just be common sense.