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Is it LUST or ADMIRATION?
A discussion ensued at work among 5 of us guys and 1 female, whether a man can "admire" a female form without "lusting" after her. Most of the time, I can look at a female and I am able to enjoy the view, without lusting after her physically. I think most men feel and act the same as I do. A female member of our work group, on the other hand, felt that all we (males) want to do is " jump a female's bones" because we can't control ourselves. She feels we (males), are incapable of simple admiration of female's beauty without lusting after her physically.
My "sin" is I was born a male with certain attributes that make me look, "admire" and if mutually agreeable, even "lust" after a female. I will not repudiate my manhood just because I have those attributes. Hey, I'm a guy! Get over it.
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| November 7, 2006, 07:55 |
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Re: Is it LUST or ADMIRATION?
If you find a female attractive, you're bound to lust after her, it's just the way it is. But you can admire her because she does her job well or whatever, without wanting to f*ck her.
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| November 7, 2006, 08:17 |
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GG317
60 / male
Bowl of Granola, Massachusetts, US
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Re: Is it LUST or ADMIRATION?
Women do the same thing...only trouble is, it's usually behind your back...(They're staring at your butt)  
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| November 7, 2006, 14:21 |
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Re: Is it LUST or ADMIRATION?
I've had similar conversations with women and most of them don't believe women and men that are not married can have friendships either...it drives me crazy. I have men friends and they don't want to bed me down, we are just friends.
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| November 7, 2006, 19:19 |
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Tungmeister
69 / male
Miller Beach, Indiana, US
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Re: Re: Is it LUST or ADMIRATION?
QUOTE (Juilianna @ November 7, 2006, 19:19)I've had similar conversations with women and most of them don't believe women and men that are not married can have friendships either...it drives me crazy. I have men friends and they don't want to bed me down, we are just friends.
I agree. Also, lust and admiration are two different emotions that can be separate on their own or they can compliment and accompany each other in the impressions/feelings of either sex. People (M or F) that think that they have a handle on it with a blanket, ignorant statement are just that, ignorant and I wouldn't waste my time with them. Not for very long, anyway.
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| November 7, 2006, 19:51 |
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GG317
60 / male
Bowl of Granola, Massachusetts, US
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Re: Re: Is it LUST or ADMIRATION?
QUOTE (Juilianna @ November 7, 2006, 19:19)I've had similar conversations with women and most of them don't believe women and men that are not married can have friendships either...it drives me crazy. I have men friends and they don't want to bed me down, we are just friends.
I was in a relationship, a few years back, where she told me that I couldn't see a girl friend I had, anymore. She had a double standard, because she would meet with her ex-boyfriend over coffee on mornings. She didn't trust me, but I was suppose to trust her. (Yeah Right) That relationship ended quickly. There was no way I was going to tell my friend that I couldn't see her anymore, over something that stupid... 
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| November 8, 2006, 18:43 |
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lizonya
64 / couple
lake elsinore, California, US
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Re: Re: Re: Is it LUST or ADMIRATION?
QUOTE (GentleGiant388 @ November 8, 2006, 18:43) QUOTE (Juilianna @ November 7, 2006, 19:19)I've had similar conversations with women and most of them don't believe women and men that are not married can have friendships either...it drives me crazy. I have men friends and they don't want to bed me down, we are just friends.
I was in a relationship, a few years back, where she told me that I couldn't see a girl friend I had, anymore. She had a double standard, because she would meet with her ex-boyfriend over coffee on mornings. She didn't trust me, but I was suppose to trust her. (Yeah Right) That relationship ended quickly. There was no way I was going to tell my friend that I couldn't see her anymore, over something that stupid...
jeolosy rears its ugly head. now that's a whole other oprah.
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| November 8, 2006, 20:08 |
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funlovingpair
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Frozen Tundra, Minnesota, US
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Re: Re: Is it LUST or ADMIRATION?
QUOTE (Juilianna @ November 7, 2006, 19:19)I've had similar conversations with women and most of them don't believe women and men that are not married can have friendships either...it drives me crazy. I have men friends and they don't want to bed me down, we are just friends.
I have no problems admiring women. I think they are very beautiful and pleasing to my eyes. Not unlike a beautiful sunset on a glorious summer evening. So maybe the question should be, can you lust and admire at the same time, without the need for sex?
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| November 8, 2006, 21:30 |
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