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GG317
60 / male
Bowl of Granola, Massachusetts, US
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Ahem...Help...
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| November 6, 2006, 06:03 |
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pepper
56 / female
daytona, Florida, US
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Re: Ahem...Help...
wait until her divorce and custody arrangements are final. Talk to her dad, get to know her son, but don't make any moves until all of that is over, it's hard to wait GG, but I think in this case, you might be glad you did!
  
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| November 6, 2006, 07:31 |
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Re: Ahem...Help...
Take it day by day, only you deep inside will know what to do, what feels right. Ideally you should wait til everything's done with the whole process for him and her and sometimes it doesnt happen that way. Best of luck.
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| November 6, 2006, 07:37 |
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Re: Ahem...Help...
When it comes to a couple in the process of breaking up...you wanna keep some safe distance.
It's just usually true with the male half, that they will go through a phase of trying to figure out what went wrong, what happened...and they seldom see themselves as part of the reason of the break up. They will look around and will try to see what is the blame for all of it...and you do not want to be in his line of vision when this phase kicks in. Which you seem to have found out the hard way!
Being his scapegoat for his own mess will make everything harder on you and her.
Couples breaking up are a toxic whirlpool of chaos, no matter how good of individuals they are, and how good you're intentions are, you're gonna get sucked under and just end up adding to the chaos.
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| November 7, 2006, 08:39 |
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