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Needs and promises
Do you see fluctuations in sex drives as a natural part of marriage and LTR's?
Is a "cooling down" of passion at times to one degree or another, expected and acceptable?
What course of action do you, or would you take if your sex life cooled down, work on it within the marriage, or get what you need outside of the marriage?
What if your partner became ill, would you eventually focus on your needs, and go get what you're lacking, or find it easy to honor the vow of "in sickness and in health?"
Do you separate sex from marriage, and still expect lively passionate sex from a partner, even though the more personal part of the relationship is stressed?
What level of commitment do you expect from your SO during the times, for whatever reason, the sex isn't there?
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| October 9, 2006, 09:27 |
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Re: Needs and promises
Everyone has there ups and downs...sorta speak. In these days, with all the bull and the pressure put upon people, there are times when sex is the least thing on our minds. If you've been together for a long time you expect times of trials and you just have to learn to live with it. Marriage is more than just sex , although a nice part, after a certain age it isn't as important. Making sure the bills, kids, and you can eat, are taken care of first are of more value. If the pressure and stress of life are relieved, then sex will be better and more often. Your suppose to be a team..'And the two shall become one flesh'...at least that's our point of view !!!
M Lev... 
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| October 9, 2006, 11:47 |
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Re: Needs and promises
ahhh! A very good point of veiw!
I ask because I run across so many profiles where the poster is married (...or attached) but claims that they are looking, because they don't get enough sex at home.
It just makes me wonder if there is a common attitude in society that consistant sexual gratification is required for promises of commitment to be valid and upheld?
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| October 9, 2006, 12:09 |
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Re: Needs and promises
maybe i am just a little different, but i firmly believe that sensual is just as important as sexual. when two people get married, if they do it "just for the sex" they are going to be disappointed eventually. ALL marriages go through rough patches. (the birth of a child, the loss of a loved one, there are many things) the things that happen in your day to day life cause stress, and a LOT of times that stress causes a decline in your interest in sex.
we have gone through rough patches together. but when we go through them we know we are. it is then that we attempt to focus more in the sensual side of our relationship, and figure out what is "wrong" so we can fix it. (within our marriage)
maybe i'm just a little old fashioned but i was raised that if you have problems at home you fix them at home. and i am pretty sure that sexual problems fit into that as well. lol
-leeuh 
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