I'm sorry, too, but you are the boss and if you feel that's best, you know we're behind you all the way.

Well, if the complaints have to do with bad behavior in the chat room, I must say, I haven't experienced a lot of it myself. Some, yes. But not a lot. But if the complaints have to do with the chat room technology (people getting bumped, etc...), I say "tough noogies" to the complainers. It's a free room, for gosh sakes; take it or leave it.

If abs is getting a lot of complaints, I can understand his wanting (maybe) to give the chat room a break. Maybe he could post a big note in red ink saying that all complaints about the chat room technology will be scrupulously ignored. I don't know. I'm sure abs will do the best thing.

  QUOTE (HeBoy @ August 22, 2006, 10:49)



Yes it is a free forum for those who aren't VIP members. However for those that are VIP members, is it not part of the package they are paying for? I don't see how you can just shut down a portion of a site that some members are paying for is all. I personally don't use the chatroom, however I know a lot of your paying members do. Something to consider.

Sorry, I was really disappointed at the moment. I won't shut it down because I won't allow a few bad apples to spoil everything. We'll see... the chatroom is a priviledge, not a right.

If some people think this is bad - well, I will be the first one to tell them to go to Adult Friend Finder and find out how 'friendly' their chat is.

Hey Abs, just tell the people who are complaining not to use it if they do not like it

The problem as I see it is people tend to forget this IS an ADULT website, not your local quilting society. The majority of the people are here for two reasons...to find somebody to screw and to get away from the problems in their lives and have a little fun NOT to listen to other peoples problems. Sure, there are alot of us that have gotten to "know" each other but it's helpful to remember that humans don't keep secrets and this is where I see some problems...and people getting their feelings hurt. I'll listen to anything anybody has to say and I have unlimited patience but most people don't, and don't really care. We are SUPPOSEDLY all adults, if you cannot handle disappointment as well as you handle "fun" then you don't need to be here. The mods and Abs shouldn't have to "mod" at all, except to ban the occasional asshole. If you cannot handle the environment or deal with your bad choices then leave...don't take the rest of us down with you.
Secondly, even though this is an adult "sex" site, the majority of men still have a problem with two little letters...NO. How many times do you have to be told, night after night by the same people "NO, I don't want to". Here, as in RL the WOMEN make the decisions not us. Sure, we have to ask to see if they might want to spend some time with us but not every day,every night, same people, constantly after being told NO. LEARN RESPECT!!! Just because they are here DOESN'T mean they are just cum receptacles awaiting your deposit!!! I know some Ladies try to be nice but it won't work, trust me. "Ignore" is good but "being nice" just encourages these lowlifes, they won't change just by you "being nice". Shoot that message off to the mods and get rid of them. I feel so sorry for the Ladies that come in here and knowing what they have to go through just to be able to chat and all. Irritates the hell out of me and I know it does some of the other "regular" men. So, let's weed out the "problem" people, better for ALL of us.
Sorry to expound overlong. The thought of Abs even considering closing the chat kind of irritated me...irrationally maybe but there it is. Since I'm here alot, I pretty much know what he might be referring to and it's all BS to begin with. If you aren't mentally and emotionally capable of policing yourself...ourselves...then leave, plain and simple. Don't ruin it for the rest of us. Not everybody is going to get along and sometimes feelings will get hurt but you have to get over it, through it or something. I enjoy most everybody that comes into chat. Would really hate to lose that privilege
My 2 cents worth and THANK YOU Abs for the revision of your decision.

The problem as I see it is people tend to forget this IS an ADULT website, not your local quilting society. The majority of the people are here for two reasons...to find somebody to screw and to get away from the problems in their lives and have a little fun NOT to listen to other peoples problems. Sure, there are alot of us that have gotten to "know" each other but it's helpful to remember that humans don't keep secrets and this is where I see some problems...and people getting their feelings hurt. I'll listen to anything anybody has to say and I have unlimited patience but most people don't, and don't really care. We are SUPPOSEDLY all adults, if you cannot handle disappointment as well as you handle "fun" then you don't need to be here. The mods and Abs shouldn't have to "mod" at all, except to ban the occasional asshole. If you cannot handle the environment or deal with your bad choices then leave...don't take the rest of us down with you.
Secondly, even though this is an adult "sex" site, the majority of men still have a problem with two little letters...NO. How many times do you have to be told, night after night by the same people "NO, I don't want to". Here, as in RL the WOMEN make the decisions not us. Sure, we have to ask to see if they might want to spend some time with us but not every day,every night, same people, constantly after being told NO. LEARN RESPECT!!! Just because they are here DOESN'T mean they are just cum receptacles awaiting your deposit!!! I know some Ladies try to be nice but it won't work, trust me. "Ignore" is good but "being nice" just encourages these lowlifes, they won't change just by you "being nice". Shoot that message off to the mods and get rid of them. I feel so sorry for the Ladies that come in here and knowing what they have to go through just to be able to chat and all. Irritates the hell out of me and I know it does some of the other "regular" men. So, let's weed out the "problem" people, better for ALL of us.
Sorry to expound overlong. The thought of Abs even considering closing the chat kind of irritated me...irrationally maybe but there it is. Since I'm here alot, I pretty much know what he might be referring to and it's all BS to begin with. If you aren't mentally and emotionally capable of policing yourself...ourselves...then leave, plain and simple. Don't ruin it for the rest of us. Not everybody is going to get along and sometimes feelings will get hurt but you have to get over it, through it or something. I enjoy most everybody that comes into chat. Would really hate to lose that privilege
My 2 cents worth and THANK YOU Abs for the revision of your decision.

  QUOTE (baller @ August 22, 2006, 15:34)


You just hit the nail on the head!

The problem as I see it is people tend to forget this IS an ADULT website, not your local quilting society. The majority of the people are here for two reasons...to find somebody to screw and to get away from the problems in their lives and have a little fun NOT to listen to other peoples problems. Sure, there are alot of us that have gotten to "know" each other but it's helpful to remember that humans don't keep secrets and this is where I see some problems...and people getting their feelings hurt. I'll listen to anything anybody has to say and I have unlimited patience but most people don't, and don't really care. We are SUPPOSEDLY all adults, if you cannot handle disappointment as well as you handle "fun" then you don't need to be here. The mods and Abs shouldn't have to "mod" at all, except to ban the occasional asshole. If you cannot handle the environment or deal with your bad choices then leave...don't take the rest of us down with you.
Secondly, even though this is an adult "sex" site, the majority of men still have a problem with two little letters...NO. How many times do you have to be told, night after night by the same people "NO, I don't want to". Here, as in RL the WOMEN make the decisions not us. Sure, we have to ask to see if they might want to spend some time with us but not every day,every night, same people, constantly after being told NO. LEARN RESPECT!!! Just because they are here DOESN'T mean they are just cum receptacles awaiting your deposit!!! I know some Ladies try to be nice but it won't work, trust me. "Ignore" is good but "being nice" just encourages these lowlifes, they won't change just by you "being nice". Shoot that message off to the mods and get rid of them. I feel so sorry for the Ladies that come in here and knowing what they have to go through just to be able to chat and all. Irritates the hell out of me and I know it does some of the other "regular" men. So, let's weed out the "problem" people, better for ALL of us.
Sorry to expound overlong. The thought of Abs even considering closing the chat kind of irritated me...irrationally maybe but there it is. Since I'm here alot, I pretty much know what he might be referring to and it's all BS to begin with. If you aren't mentally and emotionally capable of policing yourself...ourselves...then leave, plain and simple. Don't ruin it for the rest of us. Not everybody is going to get along and sometimes feelings will get hurt but you have to get over it, through it or something. I enjoy most everybody that comes into chat. Would really hate to lose that privilege
My 2 cents worth and THANK YOU Abs for the revision of your decision.

You men that have posted here, you're all good men, respectfull men, and we do appreciate that about you very much...don't let the other "bad men" drag you down...use the features in the chatroom and do not engage in anything confrontational with them....