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When words don't come easy
What's the worst or hardest thing you've ever had to tell a friend, family member or lover? Those things that are hard to say, because you love them, don't wanna hurt them...but dammit...it's gotta be said!
Their spouse is cheating? They're a horrible kisser?
They DO look fat in those pants? They need to upgrade their hygiene products?
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| August 8, 2006, 07:10 |
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Re: When words don't come easy
Ive been in that situation,one winter night in ontario here 2 days before christmas my friend lisa was at my house, shed got a call saying her sister had been in a car accident was hit by a drunk driver the other girl in the passengers seat with her was dead which happened to be my friends jessicas closest cousin. Jess cam in my house and i had to tell her that her cousin had been killed by a drunk driver and lisas sister was in bad shape and might not live hardest thing i ever did breaking that 2 my two best friends
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| August 8, 2006, 07:36 |
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That had to be so sad and hard to do, wyld...
I use to work for a doctor, and would have to call women with the results of their pregnancy tests, and no matter if I had to tell them negative or positive, I could never be sure how the news would be recieved. Every time I gave them the results, I would just cringe not knowing what their reaction to it would be.
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| August 8, 2006, 08:10 |
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I had to tell my Mom that my Dad was in a serious car accident while she was in the hospital after having knee replacement surgery. That was hard.
Or telling a friend that her boyfriend died.
But all in all, i stood by them for support, and helped them through it, as any good person would.
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| August 8, 2006, 08:53 |
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I think I've been fortunate in those matters...... if you can call it that... When my mother passed away, I was pretty much the last one to know. Same thing with my brother a few years ago. That's why I hate Wednesdays and late night phone calls 
On a lighter note..... I hate having to tell my daughter that she needs to change clothes because she looks hideous.... things like that. She tends to get a bit aggressive... doesn't take criticism very well  hehe.... nah, I'd never use the word "hideous." I'd just say it looks like sh**!  
Everybody SMILE!!  
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| August 8, 2006, 09:21 |
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Ha! Moon, that soooo reminds me of my highschool days, when I'd try to slip out the door only to hear my mother behind me saying "ON NO young lady! You're not going anywhere dressed like that!!!"
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| August 8, 2006, 09:24 |
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Re: Re: When words don't come easy
QUOTE (MoonHowler @ August 8, 2006, 09:21)I think I've been fortunate in those matters...... if you can call it that... When my mother passed away, I was pretty much the last one to know. Same thing with my brother a few years ago. That's why I hate Wednesdays and late night phone calls
On a lighter note..... I hate having to tell my daughter that she needs to change clothes because she looks hideous.... things like that. She tends to get a bit aggressive... doesn't take criticism very well hehe.... nah, I'd never use the word "hideous." I'd just say it looks like sh**!
Everybody SMILE!!
I hear ya about your daughter, especially when they are in their teens, but they have to feel their own oats out Thank god being a teen, or being a parent of a teen, doesn't last forever. But I loved when my kids were teenagers, had lots of fun with them, but that is at any age, having fun with them! 
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| August 8, 2006, 09:31 |
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I've worked allot of "middle management" positions, so I got stuck with having to fire people, gawd that sucks! They either cry or blow up...but they never take it too well...
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| August 8, 2006, 10:14 |
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funlovingpair
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Frozen Tundra, Minnesota, US
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When I was working as a machinist, I always hated going into the bosses office and telling him that he had to spent another $10,000+ because the machine crashed.
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| August 8, 2006, 12:44 |
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nykitten
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Pawling, New York, US
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Re: Re: When words don't come easy
QUOTE (Chazzy @ August 8, 2006, 10:14)I've worked allot of "middle management" positions, so I got stuck with having to fire people, gawd that sucks! They either cry or blow up...but they never take it too well...
I was in a position I had to hire and fire.....I HATED IT!....I had such a hard time doing it, I actually think it was the death of me!....
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| August 8, 2006, 12:46 |
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NRG4U
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When my brother was shot down in Nam we started getting phone calls from people saying they were glad he was shot down by the heroic army of North Veitnam for being a murderer of innocent babies, or they would call & say they had lent him some money & would like us to repay them. They just wanted a piece of the government insurance check that they knew my parents would be getting. My other brother or Dad or I always got the phone calls, never letting Mom answer the phone. She knew something was up, but we just couldn't allow her to take one of those calls. Finally the time came when her & I got in a very heated argument when I refused to give her the phone. She had heard enough of the conversation to know it wasn't a friend. I finally had to tell her why we kept her from the phone for so long. For a long time I was sure of one thing about this countries patriotism.... It was vastly over rated.
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| August 8, 2006, 20:47 |
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Hummm for those who know me...I rarely have a problem with words however in the past I've always been very vocal with my kids about unwanted/unexpected pregnancies, etc.
I stil have vivid images of my son's face a few yrs ago when he dropped in to have a talk with me. I had known for a few weeks that something was wrong just by his actions and was beginning to worry about him.
Our conversation began with "Mom...I don't know how to tell you that you have a granddaughter" to which I replied "tell me". He broke into tears and began asking me if I remembered a young lady who used to hang around with him and his friends in high school. She had became pregnant in their sophmore year...and he being a sports stud and only 15yrs old had denied it was his...never discussed it with us because he knew my feelings on the subject of unwed mothers.
She moved away and married before the baby was born and my son went on with his life. Now he's telling me that they had met again and had actually been trying to work things out for at least a year and that he had been spending quite a bit of time with his daughter that summer. But for whatever reasons they had decided that things would not work out for them but they would remain friends.
I asked when I would meet my granddaughter and again he broke into tears....she and her mother were killed instantly two weeks earlier by a drunk driver, just two weeks before her 6th birthday. He explained that he had gone to the funeral alone and had been struggling for two weeks with how to tell me.
My heart broke for him and for me...not ever getting to know that precious child was almost too much to handle but I knew that my attention needed to be directed on helping him heal from that point on. That conversation was the most difficult I've ever had and the guilt on my part is always with me.
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| August 11, 2006, 00:01 |
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lizonya
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i'm pretty sure the hardest thing my bf had to tell me was that i had advanced cancer and worse case is that i have a year to live. that was not easy for him.
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| August 12, 2006, 02:33 |
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azcapt
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I guess for me it was telling my children that there mom
was going to die very shortly. Even with them knowing my job and seeing me deal with death on a daily basis, that was about the hardest thing ive ever had to do, along with notifying her sisters and brother of the situation and asking them to come see her before she passed away.
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| August 12, 2006, 04:08 |
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Re: When words don't come easy
Liz honey...yell at me when you need someone to vent to...you're in my thoughts daily
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| August 12, 2006, 16:17 |
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Capy...my kids have been told..but I think they're still in denial about their Dad...and I can understand that..some days so am I. And now with my stuff...well that can be on hold for awhile...they have enough to wonder and worry about as it is.
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| August 12, 2006, 16:20 |
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