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Cheating
I don't know if this topic has been talked about before but here goes anyway. What is your view on cheating on your spouse or significant other? Many of us enjoy the extra sex with others even though our partners do not. Do any of you feel guilty for having sex with others?
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| July 6, 2006, 15:42 |
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Re: Cheating
I'll let you know if and when it ever happens.
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| July 6, 2006, 17:37 |
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Re: Cheating
I do. I've done it, I have felt like shit afterwards and I have been a complete bastard for not telling her the truth but instead finding some cheap excuse to break up because I couldn't deal with it. I know, I'm pathetic... When I'm single I have no problem fooling around with 3 or 4 women, but when I start a relationship, that's it for me.
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| July 7, 2006, 02:52 |
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lizonya
64 / couple
lake elsinore, California, US
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Re: Cheating
i think that ppl who cheat are cheating not only their spouses or significant others, but they're cheating themselves. i have always been loyal to my mate and if you cannot share it whit your mate then what's the point of having one?
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| July 7, 2006, 04:35 |
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funlovingpair
59 / couple
Frozen Tundra, Minnesota, US
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Yea we've had this thread before, but that's OK. But what is it that constitutes cheating, is it the mere thought, is it the physical touching, and then to what degree does the physical touching have to go in order for it to be cheating? A hug, a kiss on the cheek, a kiss on the lips? Hell, some feel that giving blow jobs is not sex, and there for that would not be cheatinig? For me, I would only cheat if MA gives me permission to, yea right. But then is that cheating, when you spouse is fully aware of what it is your doing, and they are OK with that? Like an " open marriage ". I agree with Lizonya, that when you cheat, you are really cheating yourself.
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| July 7, 2006, 11:31 |
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Re: Cheating
"Cheating" just isn't worth it. If you do it, you have to lie and keep up the lie, which is a pain in the ass in itself. As far as my SO and I are concerned, it is cheating in our relationship if the other is unaware of what is going on, and is not present. We both have to know and approve and we both have to be there. To make sure nothing happens that isn't wanted to happen. But, I have been on other boards where some people actually think that if their SO looks at another with any type of lust, or looks at porn, be it a movie, magazine, skinamax whatever, that is constituted as cheating. My sister believes anything that has to do with a physical touch is cheating. So yeah, as the others have said, it is how you and your partner look at it, but all in all, it isn't worth it no matter how good it feels at the time. 
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| July 7, 2006, 14:51 |
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Re: Cheating
Thats way too complicated for me, if it looks good, feels good, tastes good, and no one is gettin hurt, Im gonna DO IT,,,  Somehow when you get past 50 alot of things change.
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| July 8, 2006, 18:49 |
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40something
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In the Sun, Arizona, US
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Re: Cheating
To me cheating is lying - if you are honest and upfront then is having sex with another person cheating, I don't believe so. On the other hand if you sneak around and have dinner or drinks with someone and your SO is unaware, then that is cheating. So it isn't the act, it is the deception that constitutes cheating... Just my opinion
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| July 9, 2006, 00:43 |
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Re: Re: Cheating
QUOTE (40something @ July 9, 2006, 00:43)To me cheating is lying - if you are honest and upfront then is having sex with another person cheating, I don't believe so. On the other hand if you sneak around and have dinner or drinks with someone and your SO is unaware, then that is cheating. So it isn't the act, it is the deception that constitutes cheating... Just my opinion
If you eat good healthy food all your life and your arteries are not pluged up and your plumbing is in fine working order after 35 years of being together, but your relationship is a little week it changes the whole perspective of love, truth, deception, cheeting etc. and you can't explain it, its like giving birth, parachuting, scuba diving, or getting a bad unrecoverable disease, you have to experience it before you call morality to others, its easy to say "well I would just get divorced", well if you dont have anything that is fine, but some have buisness's and high steaks besides just a simple crying jag and an attourney fee. And basicaly both people know the score, and also the loses that could develope for the whole buisness, family, children and grandchildren etc. so sometimes it is just better for both parties to look the other way, especialy if your past the age of thinking of doing it all over again with someone else,,, 
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