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bryonbuck
53 / male
Rapid City, South Dakota, US
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Answer this one ladies
Why are the ladies so quick to give the shy and quiet guys the boot. 
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| June 26, 2004, 20:44 |
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hardrock1955
69 / male
McGaheysville, Virginia, US
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Re: Answer this one ladies
I would love to know the answer to that myself. I'm not highly aggressive , but that doesnt mean i dont know how to make beautiful , passionate love. there is something to be said for slow and easy , and lasting for hours.
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| June 26, 2004, 21:04 |
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Re: Answer this one ladies
The squeaky wheel gets the oil!
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| June 27, 2004, 10:22 |
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hardrock1955
69 / male
McGaheysville, Virginia, US
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Re: Answer this one ladies
if you use enough lube you never get squeaky 
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| June 27, 2004, 15:24 |
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Re: Answer this one ladies
one reason we ditch the shy men is that WE want a man to be Confident, act confident, be in charge, tell us what you think, be like Clint Eastwood, Chuck Norris, Fred Astaire and Tom Cruise rolled into one package.
and then later we want you to do exactly what we say to do and only when we want you to do it.
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| June 27, 2004, 15:35 |
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Re: Answer this one ladies
what rotton luck, you know i am quiet and shy. (sometimes)
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| June 27, 2004, 17:46 |
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Re: Answer this one ladies
YOUR LOOKING IN THE WRONG PLACE, USED TO BE SHY NOT ANYMORE, YOU'LL FIND THE RIGHT ONE~
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| June 27, 2004, 18:06 |
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scorpioluv16
54 / male
anchorage, Alaska, US
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Re: Answer this one ladies
But then you women complain about the idiots you go with ,when they beat you up . Or cheat on you or steal ,etc,ect.. Just because one is shy doesn't mean he is not confident. Also you women don't go for guys that are confident, you go with guys that are arrogant. Don't confuse the two..
I'm somewhat shy. But i'm also reserved. But i have my yellow belt in tae kwon do, since kbateman mentioned chuck norris. And i've seen all these confident guys that kbateman go for turn into the biggest sissies cause they couldn't handle the pain of the stretching,and training.
And i've noticed that all the so called confident ones are the most likely to assault their women. My brothers were more confident than i was and one tried to strangle his girlfriend and went for a gun to boot. So spare me the confident crap-ola.. You women on a weird level like being treated like property and garbage.
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| June 28, 2004, 00:13 |
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Re: Re: Answer this one ladies
QUOTE (scorpioluv16 @ June 28, 2004, 00:13)
But then you women complain about the idiots you go with ,when they beat you up . Or cheat on you or steal ,etc,ect.. Just because one is shy doesn't mean he is not confident. Also you women don't go for guys that are confident, you go with guys that are arrogant. Don't confuse the two..
I'm somewhat shy. But i'm also reserved. But i have my yellow belt in tae kwon do, since kbateman mentioned chuck norris. And i've seen all these confident guys that kbateman go for turn into the biggest sissies cause they couldn't handle the pain of the stretching,and training.
And i've noticed that all the so called confident ones are the most likely to assault their women. My brothers were more confident than i was and one tried to strangle his girlfriend and went for a gun to boot. So spare me the confident crap-ola.. You women on a weird level like being treated like property and garbage.
Get this...I do not like being treated like property and garbage and will not stand for it. And I will not judge any man or person on one characteristic, such as being shy...It's the whole package that counts, and all the qualities a man posesses, whether he's shy, or confident
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| June 28, 2004, 00:37 |
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scorpioluv16
54 / male
anchorage, Alaska, US
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Re: Answer this one ladies
I like your post Chazzy. But most of the women i see up here in alaska just go for arrogant ,garbage. I see it everyday. Guys treating their women like they are a slave , or worse. I was on a co-ed dart team once and this couple a girl and guy were engaged(now married) and the guy called her a c--t in front of everyone on the team , the opposing team, and the rest of the patrons in the bar. And he is a jealous ass****.. He got pissed when she cut her hair, and lost weight,and got contacts.. And she married him. And he is nothing but a pothead,drug using loser..
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| June 28, 2004, 00:52 |
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bryonbuck
53 / male
Rapid City, South Dakota, US
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Re: Re: Answer this one ladies
QUOTE (kbateman @ June 27, 2004, 15:35)one reason we ditch the shy men is that WE want a man to be Confident, act confident, be in charge, tell us what you think, be like Clint Eastwood, Chuck Norris, Fred Astaire and Tom Cruise rolled into one package.
and then later we want you to do exactly what we say to do and only when we want you to do it.
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| June 28, 2004, 03:48 |
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backfromaustintx
66 / male
Burlington, Ontario, Canada
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Re: Answer this one ladies
Let me add my 2 cents...
I think that a lot of female behaviour that men find hard to understand stems from so many having a basic lack of self-confidence. Part of that is due to our culture and how we portray and treat girls, but also part is female nature itself.
Freud once said, describing why people seek abuse, "I would never want to join a group that would have me as a member". This can be seem in both men and women. The old idea that a guy will screw an available chick but only marry a chaste one, etc.
We all desire things and have all lost interest once we obtained the object of our desire. Its valuable when its hard to get (supply and demand), and less so once we have it (no more challenge).
Some women choose guys that mistreat them, that refuse to be dominated or controlled, etc. because of this principal. Again I believe its because of a lack of self-esteem.
The comment about women then wanting to be domainate in a relationship I also think is true in many cases. I see it in married couples among my family and friends all the time. Again, I think that insecure women can only feel ttuly secure in a relationship if they are dominant.
Why do some women give the boot to good marriage material? Because if he allows himeself to be too easily dominated then he is too available (less valuable) and other women are not competing for him (again, less valuable).
I don't know if I've been clear here or just confused everyone! But, I know what I mean! LOL
BTW The only women I am attracted to and choose are ones who are self-reliant, are confortable in their own skin, who don't play submissive or play dominate in the daily relationship, and who actually like men. Far too many women seem to hate men.
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| June 28, 2004, 07:28 |
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Re: Answer this one ladies
Hey, let's take a good long look at some of the "winners" you guys end up with !
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| June 28, 2004, 07:32 |
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backfromaustintx
66 / male
Burlington, Ontario, Canada
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Re: Answer this one ladies
Oh! You know my EX then Chazzy!
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| June 28, 2004, 07:36 |
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Re: Re: Answer this one ladies
QUOTE (backfromaustintx @ June 28, 2004, 07:36)Oh! You know my EX then Chazzy!
You can fool some of the women some of the time, most of the women most of the time, butt don't mess with Chazzy!
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| June 28, 2004, 16:15 |
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Re: Answer this one ladies
Like Chazzy said, it is the whole guy that matters, I just find that shy men are usually afraid to come anywhere near me, They aren't confident enough to approach me and therefore they never even get a chance. If you aren't in the game, you can't complain about being behind in the score!
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| June 28, 2004, 16:41 |
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Re: Answer this one ladies
Once they have managed to make thier feelings known, and you warmly recieve those feelings offered, then they are just like any other guy, their brain goes on stand by and their dick takes over.Sometimes, thier brain tries to kick back while in bed, possible causing a slow, or awkward moment, but there are allot of ways of getting that brain back on stand by!
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| June 29, 2004, 00:10 |
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littlegothicslut
50 / female
Minneapolis, Minnesota, US
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Re: Re: Answer this one ladies
QUOTE (kbateman @ June 28, 2004, 16:41)If you aren't in the game, you can't complain about being behind in the score!
exactly
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| July 9, 2004, 21:29 |
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Re: Re: Answer this one ladies
QUOTE (kbateman @ June 28, 2004, 16:41)Like Chazzy said, it is the whole guy that matters, I just find that shy men are usually afraid to come anywhere near me, They aren't confident enough to approach me and therefore they never even get a chance. If you aren't in the game, you can't complain about being behind in the score!
I'm a very shy guy by nature...butt honestly few woman intimidate me sexually. I grew up in an 'world' surrounded by beautiful women . I'm not the kinda guy that would walk up to someone I didn't know and say lets fuck...but on the other hand meeting someone I knew to be 'sexual' I'm "in the game" as you put it.
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| July 10, 2004, 07:50 |
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Re: Re: Answer this one ladies
QUOTE (kbateman @ June 28, 2004, 16:41)Like Chazzy said, it is the whole guy that matters, I just find that shy men are usually afraid to come anywhere near me, They aren't confident enough to approach me and therefore they never even get a chance. If you aren't in the game, you can't complain about being behind in the score!
Old Stevie Nicks song....."it's a shame that you wanted me, and didn't try"
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