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A question everyone should have an answer to....
What is your personal definition of "open marraige" or " open relationship "?
Whether you have or have never been in one, or are currently in one, What do you think these phrases mean?
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| May 5, 2006, 08:57 |
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just4urplsur
58 / male
platte city, Missouri, US
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Re: A question everyone should have an answer to....
I would say that you are open to find sexual encounters without any reprocutions from the spouse!!!!!  
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| May 5, 2006, 10:26 |
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nykitten
54 / female
Pawling, New York, US
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Re: A question everyone should have an answer to....
To me, when I see " open marriage " I assume, that although all marriages have specific rules that will vary from couple to couple, the one thing I would say they all have in common, would be that the option is there that they can play with out their partners.....
Did that makes sense?..... 
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| May 5, 2006, 10:36 |
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Re: A question everyone should have an answer to....
No right or wrong answer, as long as it makes sense to you, and it's your personal interpretation and/or definition.
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| May 5, 2006, 10:51 |
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funlovingpair
59 / couple
Frozen Tundra, Minnesota, US
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Re: Re: A question everyone should have an answer to....
QUOTE (nykitten @ May 5, 2006, 10:36)To me, when I see " open marriage " I assume, that although all marriages have specific rules that will vary from couple to couple, the one thing I would say they all have in common, would be that the option is there that they can play with out their partners.....
Did that makes sense?.....
I agree. 
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| May 5, 2006, 12:13 |
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Re: A question everyone should have an answer to....
Anybody in an " open relationship " care to tell us about their rules?
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| May 5, 2006, 12:54 |
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Re: A question everyone should have an answer to....
I believe it depends on the couple what the terms mean. Some may mean that it is open play outside the marriage with possibly no knowledge of the extra relationships by the other partner. However, it may also mean that they discuss the partner's choice and have some say or "rules" as to what occurs outside the marraige boundries. I think it is a little different for each situation based on their needs. 
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| May 5, 2006, 15:58 |
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just4urplsur
58 / male
platte city, Missouri, US
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Re: Re: A question everyone should have an answer to....
QUOTE (CKTC @ May 5, 2006, 15:58)I believe it depends on the couple what the terms mean. Some may mean that it is open play outside the marriage with possibly no knowledge of the extra relationships by the other partner. However, it may also mean that they discuss the partner's choice and have some say or "rules" as to what occurs outside the marraige boundries. I think it is a little different for each situation based on their needs.
and what might your needs be?????HMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM
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| May 5, 2006, 16:00 |
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Re: A question everyone should have an answer to....
I'm no longer married and never thought about this before, but,,, I would have to say that if a couple found pleasure with other ppl. then they would say it's ok. no problem and if possible to inclucde them too.... ....
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| May 5, 2006, 17:32 |
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Re: A question everyone should have an answer to....
At this moment - I have all kinds of needs - sexually frustrated and will be for 4 more weeks RRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!  
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| May 5, 2006, 22:53 |
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DOCMD10
45 / male
Nassau, Bahamas
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Re: Re: A question everyone should have an answer to....
QUOTE (CKTC @ May 5, 2006, 22:53)At this moment - I have all kinds of needs - sexually frustrated and will be for 4 more weeks RRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!
WAT BROUGHT ABOUT ALL THIS STRESS SEXY???
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| May 5, 2006, 22:57 |
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tomboy6978
46 / male
Florissant, Missouri, US
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Re: A question everyone should have an answer to....
for me it would be being open while having a relationship or marriage with other people but there would be limits but i think if its ok and as long as your partner and you both have rules and guide lines for safety precautions
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| May 5, 2006, 23:41 |
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pepper
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daytona, Florida, US
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Re: A question everyone should have an answer to....
I would not define Warren's and my marriage as "open" we do like to play, but we play together. Never separately and our rules are simple.
1)We never see that person or person's by our selves, either one of us. (this means, he does not meet a "her" for drinks if I am not with him and vice versa, but for him to meet the other "him" is ok, he just has to be alone)
2)both of us must like the proposed "third" or "couple" This doesn't happen overnight or in just one talk, it takes time and trust
3)if one of us says "no, I don't want to, I don't feel like it, etc", that's it. We'll try again another night or day, we can still go out and have fun without having sex.
The only people in our marriage is us. anyone we include for fun or sex, swapping, etc, is just that. included that time and not a permanent part of the "US".
It seems to me that if the definiton of an open marriage is one where both partners are free to play with anyone they desire, whether their husband/wife knows it or not, then why be married at all?
  
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| May 5, 2006, 23:57 |
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Re: Re: A question everyone should have an answer to....
QUOTE (pepper @ May 5, 2006, 23:57)
It seems to me that if the definiton of an open marriage is one where both partners are free to play with anyone they desire, whether their husband/wife knows it or not, then why be married at all?
Point, bottom line, end of road, top of the hill.
Thank you Pepper.
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| May 8, 2006, 02:44 |
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Re: Re: A question everyone should have an answer to....
QUOTE (nykitten @ May 5, 2006, 10:36)To me, when I see " open marriage " I assume, that although all marriages have specific rules that will vary from couple to couple, the one thing I would say they all have in common, would be that the option is there that they can play with out their partners.....
Did that makes sense?.....
I agree with ya NYK. As long as it is exceptable between partners and there's know problem with it. Than I quess it is an open marriage . I sure there will rules and guide lines to it. Everyone plays by them. There is probabely no problem with it.
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