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nykitten
54 / female
Pawling, New York, US
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Are you adopted?.....
OK, a fact about myself, I was adopted, and I have always wondered how others felt about being in the same position.....
My view, I was fortunate to be adopted at a very young age, 3 months old......To me, my parents ARE my parents.....I have always known I was adopted, but the only information I know about myself is my nationality......
As I grow older I do wonder about my medical history, unlike when I was younger, when it was a great thing to never have to fill out your history on your medical forms!.....
I can also say that its nice to have my own children, because from my view, I am the top of their family tree!.....It's also nice to look at someone and know that they are a part of you.....I guess in my case more scary than anything else.... 
I have also NEVERwanted to look for my birth mother.......I just have no interest, but I know some people really do care.....
My question.....If you have been adopted, what kind of things concern you about it?......
And for those of you who weren't feel free to add your opinion...Would love to hear it!....
My biggest issue......Not knowing my medical history 
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| April 22, 2006, 12:14 |
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Re: Are you adopted?.....
I wasn't adopted but part of a broken family...I don't know who my mother is and I don't know my heritage...My father will not disclose that time in his life and it is confusing...For me, I am that I am and I start fresh like you.....I have no feelings about it and I only hope that one day I may meet my mother...but, it's about my future that counts...not my past...especially if they aren't there. You are important! Run with that! 
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| April 22, 2006, 13:11 |
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nykitten
54 / female
Pawling, New York, US
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Re: Are you adopted?.....
Thanks for such an open answer!......  
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| April 22, 2006, 13:37 |
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Re: Are you adopted?.....
That's my problem...I'm always brutally blunt about things! I do miss my family but, I am alone! I live that way!
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| April 22, 2006, 13:49 |
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Re: Are you adopted?.....
My son comes from a broken family. His father is nowhere around and for the most part, probably will never be either. (that was partially due to my fault but life goes on and I'm taking up over my full 'half' of the responsibility.
Have had long hard decisions about giving my son up for adoption when I was pregnant but couldn't bare the thought of my son calling someone else Mom.
He's frusterating at times but I wouldn't give it up for the world. 
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| April 22, 2006, 13:59 |
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Re: Are you adopted?.....
Any child that has atleast 1 parent is a better start the most....He will mature and understand although it may hurt for awhile...I know...I've been there!
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| April 22, 2006, 14:02 |
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nykitten
54 / female
Pawling, New York, US
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Re: Re: Are you adopted?.....
QUOTE (bikerchick69 @ April 22, 2006, 13:59)My son comes from a broken family. His father is nowhere around and for the most part, probably will never be either. (that was partially due to my fault but life goes on and I'm taking up over my full 'half' of the responsibility.
Have had long hard decisions about giving my son up for adoption when I was pregnant but couldn't bare the thought of my son calling someone else Mom.
He's frusterating at times but I wouldn't give it up for the world.
I believe all things happen for a reason!  
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| April 22, 2006, 14:28 |
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Re: Re: Re: Are you adopted?.....
QUOTE (nykitten @ April 22, 2006, 14:28) QUOTE (bikerchick69 @ April 22, 2006, 13:59)My son comes from a broken family. His father is nowhere around and for the most part, probably will never be either. (that was partially due to my fault but life goes on and I'm taking up over my full 'half' of the responsibility.
Have had long hard decisions about giving my son up for adoption when I was pregnant but couldn't bare the thought of my son calling someone else Mom.
He's frustrating at times but I wouldn't give it up for the world.
I believe all things happen for a reason!
Life makes some strange turns along it's path but as you say I too feel things happen for a reason. Not all people who have kids should be or can be parents, and many who can't have kids turn out to be great parents through adoptions etc. It would be hard not knowing ones history especially any health issues, but it is what makes you you and we all love ya! 
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| April 22, 2006, 16:22 |
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tomboy6978
46 / male
Florissant, Missouri, US
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Re: Are you adopted?.....
i am lucky to have both my parents still and if i were to marry a girl who already has kids yes i would adopt them as if they were my own to begin with and if we decide to have kids i am all for it............
another note my mom had a son before she even met my dad who was adopted some time later and my mom tried looking him up a few years ago but had no success so in other words i do have another brother out there than my 2 brothers and 1 sister i grew up with so yeah i can relate to you nykitten
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| April 22, 2006, 23:13 |
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no.. but when we were growing up my sister and i made our little brother cry all the time by telling him we were adopted and he wasn't.
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| April 22, 2006, 23:19 |
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pepper
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daytona, Florida, US
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Re: Are you adopted?.....
I'm not wholly adopted, like some of you, I do not know my biological father, not even his real name, he stuck around long enough to give me my name, but not his. I was adopted by the man my mother married when I was 9 and that's the name I had for most of my life, till I met Warren.
Do I wonder? Yes, of course I do. I have a whole other history out there, possibly even some brothers, that I may never know!
C'est La Vie, when He is ready for me to know, He will let me. Until then, that doesn't change who I am now, who I am content to be.
  
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| April 23, 2006, 02:32 |
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flatbed
59 / male
elgin, Illinois, US
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Re: Are you adopted?.....
adopted,no. have not seen my dad or heard from him in 35 years. do i wonder , yes. 
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| April 23, 2006, 06:22 |
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Re: Are you adopted?.....
hey bcb...I thought I was the only one with a warped sense of humor...I used tell my Mom I knew I was adopted and that my real family was sane!!!
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| April 23, 2006, 09:05 |
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nykitten
54 / female
Pawling, New York, US
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Re: Re: Are you adopted?.....
QUOTE (hotnsexy2 @ April 23, 2006, 09:05)hey bcb...I thought I was the only one with a warped sense of humor...I used tell my Mom I knew I was adopted and that my real family was sane!!!
I used to tease my sister, (my brother and I were adopted, my sister is natural and the youngest) We used to tell her that she was the one that was adopted( she had red hair, I have blond, my mother had blond, As a matter of fact there are NO redheads in my family).....And to be honest with you, I look at her now, and I can see her Turing into my mother......And at the same time I thank God I will never be like that!.....I love that fact that I am so unique!.....And my family hates the fact that I am my own peson!.....However, I wouldn't change a thing about myself
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| April 23, 2006, 09:17 |
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Re: Are you adopted?.....
good! you dont need to change anything about you, ya silly! or i'm just gonna have to tell you to BEND OVER BITCH!  and whup your ass back into your good self!
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| April 23, 2006, 09:21 |
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funlovingpair
59 / couple
Frozen Tundra, Minnesota, US
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Re: Are you adopted?.....
can I watch, can I watch, can I watch
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| April 23, 2006, 10:39 |
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Re: Are you adopted?.....
Like Pepper, I too, was partially adopted..when I was 5. My step-father turned out to be an  . I have not spoken to him in about 20 years. I can honestly say that he is the only person on this earth that I truly hate. But anyway, I have wondered about my real father and if I have ever seen him or talked to him and not known that it was him. I have wondered about my history. It is hard to answer those questions from the kids about my family tree. I think adoption is a wonderful thing...most of the time. 
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| April 28, 2006, 19:38 |
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doneff
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Sayreville, New Jersey, US
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Re: Are you adopted?.....
This doesnt fit here, but can I guys qoute you? I'm writing a term paper on adoption and this could be really helpful  thx
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| April 28, 2006, 22:16 |
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Re: Re: Are you adopted?.....
QUOTE (doneff @ April 28, 2006, 22:16)This doesnt fit here, but can I guys qoute you? I'm writing a term paper on adoption and this could be really helpful thx
Yes, it does fit very well here! I'm sure you'll find quite a few people here that would be happy to grant you a more private and detailed interview for your paper.
I am not adopted myself, although because of some very major problems in the home, I was pretty much raised by other relatives, and God love them for giving me a piece of normalcy in my otherwise suck ass childhood. All I can say to those who replied here, that even though it may seem the parent or parents didn't care and abandoned you, in a extremely large portion of the parents, they didn't abandoned you out of heartless disintertest, they most likely did not feel worthy or capable of providing a child with the good life they deserved. It's most likely that the parent(s) used coldness and disinterest to hide a lifetime of regret and hurt, and could not live with themselves except for believing that they made the best decision for you.
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nykitten
54 / female
Pawling, New York, US
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Re: Re: Are you adopted?.....
QUOTE (doneff @ April 28, 2006, 22:16)This doesnt fit here, but can I guys qoute you? I'm writing a term paper on adoption and this could be really helpful thx
Well, You can quote me, as well as ask me anything else you would like or need to know!.....Anytime!...
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