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naughtyandnasty
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blythe, California, US
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Pleasing A Man
I was shocked yesterday when I was asked by a young member in the chat room how to "make love" not just have sex ....We (The thirty-something's)have a responsibility to pass this on to our younger inexperienced friends...because lets face facts if we are making love we don't have time to fight..
Men's needs are simple -- and once you master the basics, you'll delight your lover always.
1. Perform oral sex . For the majority of men, nothing is as satisfying as the intensity of pleasure they experience during fellatio.
2. Take responsibility for your own orgasm. He's happiest in bed when he knows you enjoy sex as much as he does. So learn about your body and know what it takes to turn you on.
3. Communicate your desire. He won't know what feels good and what you love in bed unless you communicate. So tell -- or better yet -- show him.
4. Let him see you nude. Men are turned on by the visual, so don't be bashful. Make love with the lights on, and remember that women tend to be far more critical about their bodies than men are.
5. Discover his erogenous zones. His penis isn't the only part of his body that experiences pleasure. Learn if he likes to have his nipples, scrotum, earlobes, feet, or other parts of his body touched.
6. Be inventive and experimental. Don't be afraid to try something new in bed -- a new position, tantric sex, mutual masturbation . You may end up adding something great to your regular bedroom repertoire.
7. Follow his lead. If he kisses you in a special place or touches you a certain way, try doing the same back to him. Also get him to show you how he masturbates -- and learn to do it for him just the way he likes.
8. Don't forget the sexy lingerie . Even girls who sleep in T-shirts will find wearing something red-hot once in a while is a guaranteed man-pleaser. Especially when combined with a slow striptease.
9. Share fantasies. Tell him yours, and invite him to share his with you. Take the fantasies to the next level and act them out if you're both comfortable doing that.
10. Let him know how turned on you are. Talk dirty to heighten his excitement and yours.
Tips:
Don't criticize him in bed. He's at his most vulnerable there, and words that are harsh or cavalier may be long remembered. If you do have a sex problem, address it when you're not in an intimate setting.
OK Guys Our Turn.......................
Her needs are more complicated than ours -- but once you master the basics, you'll delight her always.
1. Take your time. You may be raring to go, but understand that it physically takes her body longer than yours to become aroused.
2. Don't skip the foreplay. Caress her slowly, beginning perhaps with a non-genital massage . Work up to her erotic areas slowly; she'll indicate when she's ready for things to heat up.
3. Discover her erogenous zones. Some women love to have their nipples stroked or sucked, others don't. Find out where she likes to be touched -- and don't frustrate her by doing something elsewhere that won't please her.
4. Understand that she may be self-conscious about her body. If so, don't criticize her figure or the size of her breasts. In fact, don't call attention to her body at all. Enjoy her body with your eyes and hands, not your words.
5. Introduce her to the pleasures of oral sex . She's likely to find the intensity of the experience most satisfying if you locate her clitoris and stroke it with your tongue in a way that brings her to climax.
6. Know how her body works. Have you found her g-spot? Can she use her Kegel muscles during intercourse? Is she capable of multiple orgasms ? All of these are wonderful to find out.
7. Try sex positions that maximize her pleasure. Women-on-top positions generally afford the kind of contact that delivers the best results.
8. Smell great. Not perfumed, just clean and manly.
9. Make birth control a mutual responsibility. Don't leave it up to her -- unless she requests you do so.
10. Mind your manners: Ladies first. Whenever possible, see to it that she orgasms before you do. And if she tells you it's not going to happen that night, accept it. There's always tomorrow... or a little bit later.
My hint to you;
Tell her you love her. When the feeling comes over you, say it out loud. She'll know how much you genuinely mean it.
A small token of affection is always appreciated. A flower, a book, a love note all tell her how much you're thinking of her and how precious she is to you.  
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| April 5, 2006, 05:46 |
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Re: Pleasing A Man
Bravo... excellent advice...!!! 
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| April 5, 2006, 05:52 |
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Re: Pleasing A Man
To sum it up......Be sexual, be physical, be emotional, ....don't be mechanical!
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| April 5, 2006, 07:27 |
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funlovingpair
59 / couple
Frozen Tundra, Minnesota, US
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Re: Pleasing A Man
excelent......keep it cumming 
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| April 5, 2006, 07:44 |
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Re: Pleasing A Man
Definitely speak up and let them know they are doing what makes you feel good - however, also (very gently, and politely) let them know if you do not care for something, don't let the other person think that they are pleasing you and then years down the line they find out it never did!! Like anything else in life, they don't know if you don't tell them!
Also, vibrators are NOT just for women. I have been experimenting lately and found that it feels very good to him in crease between thigh and torso, pressed up against his scrotum, and pressed into that little spot at the base of the penis on the top (helps if he is shaved), and the anus also. Sometimes even lightly moved over nipples.
It is a huge turn on for me to be able to drive him crazy and I am always looking for new ways! 
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| April 9, 2006, 02:21 |
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Re: Pleasing A Man
Very excellent advise
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| April 9, 2006, 10:50 |
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