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GreatLordRaven
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Rockhampton, Queensland, Australia
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what if u found out that chick or guy u dating got kids what would u do
OK guys i got a topic for us to talk about
say if u going to date a chick or a guy and found out that they have kids what would u do
and how would u feel and that
and that person really like u what would u do and all
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| March 26, 2006, 19:51 |
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naughtyandnasty
54 / couple
blythe, California, US
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Re: what if u found out that chick or guy u dating got kids what would u do
nothing i love kids and have some my own 
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| March 26, 2006, 19:52 |
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Re: what if u found out that chick or guy u dating got kids what would u do
if you had asked me that before i had my son, i'd say i would never want anyone that had kid(s), at that time anyways. Because I wasn't one to grow up around a lot of little kids so i didn't know how to be, around them. BUTT,
I, am a single parent not getting help from the sperm donor, whose son now whose 4 years old... and I would take it into consideration if they had kids because pretty much everywhere you look nowadays, they're bound to have kids if not one already. But will not object if they don't already have a kid or two. Just would prefer them to be able to like/be comfortable around one at the very least.
Come to learn that you don't base your liking on just the kid... you gotta like the girl/guy for themselves...see if you like them enough to stick around for awhile. Then when the time's right, bring the kid(s) into the picture.
So, don't break-up with the person you're seeing just because they have a kid.. things happens in order for a baby to pop up, and they're taking responsiblities for it. That there should tell you how much a person can take and if they're responsible or not.
Not much from my part, but hope it helps a bit.
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| March 26, 2006, 20:01 |
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Re: what if u found out that chick or guy u dating got kids what would u do
**meant to say "whose son is now 4 years old..."
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| March 26, 2006, 20:04 |
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flatbed
59 / male
elgin, Illinois, US
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Re: what if u found out that chick or guy u dating got kids what would u do
nothing i love kids 
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| March 27, 2006, 05:30 |
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Re: what if u found out that chick or guy u dating got kids what would u do
I should prob feel the same way as BC seeing as how I have two kids myself, that said.........I would never date a man who had kids....if the mother was in the picture. Three is a crowd and it does horrible things to your relationship if one of you is a bitch. I've dealt for years with just such a woman who has absolutely no feelings about my children going without as long as her's is provided for.
So nope...not for me.....no more guys with small kids or ex-wives or gf's still in the picture. I know that would limit choices severly but thats a chance I'd be willing to take.
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| March 28, 2006, 08:37 |
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Re: what if u found out that chick or guy u dating got kids what would u do
Ask their ages and see if they are cute. duh.
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| March 28, 2006, 08:38 |
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Re: Re: what if u found out that chick or guy u dating got kids what would u do
QUOTE (kbateman @ March 28, 2006, 08:38)Ask their ages and see if they are cute. duh.
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| March 28, 2006, 09:45 |
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funlovingpair
59 / couple
Frozen Tundra, Minnesota, US
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Re: what if u found out that chick or guy u dating got kids what would u do
How about being a role model for them. 
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| March 28, 2006, 10:41 |
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tomboy6978
46 / male
Florissant, Missouri, US
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Re: what if u found out that chick or guy u dating got kids what would u do
become a role model and treat as if they were my own kids
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| March 28, 2006, 12:10 |
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Re: Re: what if u found out that chick or guy u dating got kids what would u do
QUOTE (bikerchick69 @ March 26, 2006, 20:01)if you had asked me that before i had my son, i'd say i would never want anyone that had kid(s), at that time anyways. Because I wasn't one to grow up around a lot of little kids so i didn't know how to be, around them. BUTT,
I, am a single parent not getting help from the sperm donor, whose son now whose 4 years old... and I would take it into consideration if they had kids because pretty much everywhere you look nowadays, they're bound to have kids if not one already. But will not object if they don't already have a kid or two. Just would prefer them to be able to like/be comfortable around one at the very least.
Come to learn that you don't base your liking on just the kid... you gotta like the girl/guy for themselves...see if you like them enough to stick around for awhile. Then when the time's right, bring the kid(s) into the picture.
So, don't break-up with the person you're seeing just because they have a kid.. things happens in order for a baby to pop up, and they're taking responsiblities for it. That there should tell you how much a person can take and if they're responsible or not.
Not much from my part, but hope it helps a bit.
I know your being series bicker chick but i have got to say it "sperm donater" ....lol now how do you know i call my father that? lol i thought i was the only one who did that and your right no one should brake up with anyone just because they have kids 
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| March 28, 2006, 13:30 |
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Re: what if u found out that chick or guy u dating got kids what would u do
I am such a total bitch about this subject....I don't care what he thinks, I don't care who she wants to date, I don't care about the adults involved at all....Children are the first, and only priority to a parent,hell, to all of us.
Children should not be exposed to the up and down roller coaster of their parents dating lifestyle, children should not be exposed to a line of "uncles" or men they come to call "Daddy" then have to suffer a "break up" later, or accept women that may fill their need for a mother, only to have them disappear and another one appear.
Dating and all the crap that goes with it, is strictly an adult activity.
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| March 29, 2006, 13:56 |
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Re: what if u found out that chick or guy u dating got kids what would u do
As an adult, it must be up front! I have no problems with someone who has children since they are a very vital part of a persons life. If you must be sexually active...Keep the kids out of it! As a child, I spent many nights in the car sleeping while my father slept with another women, never knowing where I was. 
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| March 29, 2006, 14:07 |
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Re: Re: what if u found out that chick or guy u dating got kids what would u do
QUOTE (Kuryous1 @ March 29, 2006, 14:07)As an adult, it must be up front! I have no problems with someone who has children since they are a very vital part of a persons life. If you must be sexually active...Keep the kids out of it! As a child, I spent many nights in the car sleeping while my father slept with another women, never knowing where I was.
That's exactly the kinda thing that I've seen that makes me a total and relentless bitch about the whole topic!
K1, I'm happy to see that you're the type that can take a bad childhood thing and shape character from it instead of making a crutch of it!
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| March 29, 2006, 16:18 |
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Re: what if u found out that chick or guy u dating got kids what would u do
Thank you I guess, but, I don't want to discourage adults from hooking up...just, make damn sure you consider your kids before you do! Hot is hot but if you have kids, they will have their own opionions about it! 
This is WebNaughty and I'm very sure, everyone of you are very much the adult about this...If Kids are involved then...They ARE involved! Sorry! 
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| March 29, 2006, 16:29 |
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Re: what if u found out that chick or guy u dating got kids what would u do
Way to go Chazzy!! What is a kid supposed to think when they have formed a relationship with someone and the next time they go to visit the parent that special someone is gone. No hug good-bye, no explaination - just gone and you are expected not to ask questions or bring them up when the new one comes to fill the void. Why do kids have to go through this ****??  Children are the most precious gift on earth, we need to treat them as such.
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| March 29, 2006, 16:31 |
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Re: what if u found out that chick or guy u dating got kids what would u do
Please understand that I'm all for hooking up for very special reasons...Just not when you spring the surprise of children...Be up front about it please...even if they don't know.....It does weed out the game players...and that is what we want?... 
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| March 29, 2006, 16:41 |
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Re: what if u found out that chick or guy u dating got kids what would u do
It wouldn't bother me. I can understand why someone might say they don't have kids. After all its them you want to get to know, If they hide it from you its cause they want to see if your nice enough to meet the kids. They are only protecting the kids.
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| March 29, 2006, 20:26 |
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