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Feeling a bit trapped.
Confused. What do you do when you meet someone who "says" they don't want a relationship and then, surprise, they want one? How have you handled this gracefully? It is difficult and ackward to settle.
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| December 19, 2005, 13:03 |
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Re: Feeling a bit trapped.
do you like her? I would just play cool for awhile.. because if they said at first they werent ready for it and now they decide too, just go with the flow and see how things go. Don't go ahead with the relationship asuming things, just go day by day and you'll figure out sooner or later if they really want to be in it or not.
hope that helps?
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| December 19, 2005, 13:13 |
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Re: Feeling a bit trapped.
Thanks for the advice. Very nice of you. It is difficult to say no thank you. Any others gone through this? 
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| December 19, 2005, 13:20 |
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darkmark666
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millville, New Jersey, US
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Re: Feeling a bit trapped.
I have, in every relationship I've been in, in fact! they all have started waving the "no- commitment" flag. Some I walked away from, some showed me a reason to stay. None are around, now, but the time I spent with all of them shaped me, and I benefitted in some ways. I have always taken my time with the commitment part, because it does truly take a while to get to REALLY know someone, and if they aren't in a hurry, and will give you that time, I think that it shows that they actually do like you, not that they are just trying to fill the void with anyone. At that point, they may warrant that you consider it more seriuosly?
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| December 19, 2005, 13:32 |
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Re: Feeling a bit trapped.
another thing to look at is to see how she helps out in ways that she doesnt need to help out in. As in shes offering to help you do this and that whatever it may be. That's kinda a way that girls show they like someone... kinda the same way with guys when they like a girl, only shes got boobs. 
maybe she just said that she didnt want it at first because shes scared like anyone else would be when first starting a relationship... and then just thought, 'you know, im never gonna know until i try it' and then told you she wants to try it out??? that'd be my guess... then again theres a lot more reasons to it if its not any that i mentioned.
good luck to you 
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| December 19, 2005, 16:45 |
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Re: Feeling a bit trapped.
QUOTE (Kuryous1 @ December 19, 2005, 13:03)Confused. What do you do when you meet someone who "says" they don't want a relationship and then, surprise, they want one? How have you handled this gracefully? It is difficult and ackward to settle.
Hey...wanna go steady with me??? 
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| December 22, 2005, 06:44 |
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hardrock1955
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McGaheysville, Virginia, US
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Re: Feeling a bit trapped.
ohhh ohhh Pick Me , Pick me I'll help you do anything you want, esp since you have those perfect boobs . they could keep me hypnotized for weeks   
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| December 24, 2005, 00:15 |
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Re: Feeling a bit trapped.
Thanks all and yes, all those things are true. I just felt confused because it's always a No-strings attached to I really wanted something else all along. I know things develope into something...It's the ones that weren't up front to begin with that I have difficulty with...Again, thanks to all. It did work out okay gracefully. 
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