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Thief of hearts ?
Is it really possible to have your mate "stolen" away from you? Can someone who is in a serious relationship,committed to someone and "in love" be tempted, lured or led astray by another?
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| December 7, 2005, 08:34 |
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Re: Thief of hearts ?
QUOTE (Chazzy @ December 7, 2005, 08:34)Is it really possible to have your mate "stolen" away from you? Can someone who is in a serious relationship,committed to someone and "in love" be tempted, lured or led astray by another?
Only between the hours of 8:A.M. and 5:30P.M. Monday thru Friday and most all the day Saturday but never on Sunday 
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| December 7, 2005, 08:38 |
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Re: Re: Thief of hearts ?
QUOTE (DEye @ December 7, 2005, 08:38) QUOTE (Chazzy @ December 7, 2005, 08:34)Is it really possible to have your mate "stolen" away from you? Can someone who is in a serious relationship,committed to someone and "in love" be tempted, lured or led astray by another?
Only between the hours of 8:A.M. and 5:30P.M. Monday thru Friday and most all the day Saturday but never on Sunday
NO chance of my husband gettin' stolen....I can't give him away...
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| December 7, 2005, 08:43 |
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nykitten
54 / female
Pawling, New York, US
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Re: Thief of hearts ?
My honest opinion, Never Say Never!
Just like we have room in our hearts for more than one child, I absolutly believe that we can be "in love" with more than one person...
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| December 7, 2005, 08:43 |
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darkmark666
52 / male
millville, New Jersey, US
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Re: Thief of hearts ?
I totally agree,kitten.I was in a relationship with a woman whom I lived with for 3 years. She was very beautiful and we were very well matched personality wise. I also spent 6 days a week with another woman who I worked with, we became very good friends. I became her lover briefly at the end of my relationship with the former. each one represented very different and opposing sides of my personality. When I had problems at home I did not want to keep beating up my live in girlfriend verbally about money,work,etc... so I would turn to my co-worker, to exorcise these demons. The one who lived with me taxed me to the limit of what I could endure financially,(she had 3 children,and was frequently out of work). They would be here at least a couple of times a week and I tryed to provide what I could for them. The one at work was a cynical,insane,hustler. A party girl. I empathized very much with her attitude and escapism. she was also one of the most adorable little creatures I had ever met. I loved the one for her security and reliability, but It was too much responsibility. I loved the other for her insanity, and her unpredictability, but it was destined for failure because of it. everything is in constant flux, but there is always room to love in one's heart it doesn't keep count. I still love them both very much today and always will. everyone I ever truly loved I will love forever. It doesn't go away for me. And I do have the capacity for loving more than one.
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| December 7, 2005, 09:17 |
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Re: Thief of hearts ?
I totally agree kitten and DM. I believe you can love two (maybe more who knows) at once and as DarkMark says it is for very different reasons. I don't believe it is always because one is bad to you or they don't live up to your expectations - more that some people have needs that are not understood by others and when you find someone that is open and can fulfill the needs it can lead to loving another. And then there are people like me - I wonder if I have the ability to love as deeply as "normal" people due to past experiences. I love my husband as much as I know how too - and he has allowed me to grow and I do love him very, very much - but sometimes I feel like I just have a wall and otherdays I am fine - the sex is great and that is what matters right??  
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| December 7, 2005, 11:37 |
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I've been in a few monogomous relationships that I was so devoted, committed to, that no one could turn my head, no one...no way...I was so enthralled in relishing something that was absolutely splendid, and was consumed with maintaining and appreciating that level of wonderful, or increasing the quality of the relationship.
But...that's only been a few times, and things did go bad sooner or later, and I did move on...but I never had an interest in anyone else, until my heart and logical mind knew that it was all over, done for....
I've been in a few relationships that I didn't feel that same degree of devotion, and sometimes there would be men that I knew I had to stay away from because of a mutual and strong attraction...and a time or two, that I decided that I had room for an attraction to someone else, cuz what I already had just wasn't fullfilling,
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| December 7, 2005, 12:29 |
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Re: Re: Thief of hearts ?
QUOTE (nykitten @ December 7, 2005, 08:43)My honest opinion, Never Say Never!
Just like we have room in our hearts for more than one child, I absolutly believe that we can be "in love" with more than one person...
You are right about that you can love 2 at the same time. I know I am going through that right now...
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| December 7, 2005, 13:21 |
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Re: Thief of hearts ?
QUOTE (Chazzy @ December 7, 2005, 08:34)Is it really possible to have your mate "stolen" away from you? Can someone who is in a serious relationship,committed to someone and "in love" be tempted, lured or led astray by another?
Well, if you are in a loving, committed relationship, there is no need to look elsewhere. There is a BIG diffence in being in lust and being in love! We have both been in lust and for the first time in our lives, in love. If someone says they are in love with two people, they are really in love with no one. Each relationship is incomplete in some way. A committed relationship would be with one person that fulfills all your needs. 
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| December 7, 2005, 19:43 |
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Re: Re: Thief of hearts ?
QUOTE (Jacknjill143 @ December 7, 2005, 19:43) QUOTE (Chazzy @ December 7, 2005, 08:34)Is it really possible to have your mate "stolen" away from you? Can someone who is in a serious relationship,committed to someone and "in love" be tempted, lured or led astray by another?
Well, if you are in a loving, committed relationship, there is no need to look elsewhere. There is a BIG diffence in being in lust and being in love! We have both been in lust and for the first time in our lives, in love. If someone says they are in love with two people, they are really in love with no one. Each relationship is incomplete in some way. A committed relationship would be with one person that fulfills all your needs.
Yeah, I hafta agree with ya...Lust is common, but rare are the times I've been "in love", and during those rare times, I'm completely committed, monogomy comes naturally and easily, and I never found it difficult to be faithfull at all, I'm so consumed and focused on that 1 to 1 relationship, that all I see is this man I love, and everyone else in the world is platonic. No one else stands a chance of getting my attention. I can't imagine being "in love" with two men, that would mean that I would have an half-assed relationship with both, instead of having the ultimate experience when I'm completely devoted to one. But..when the good thing goes bad... girls....tell me I'm lyin'!!......the second that we know things aren't working out our current man...I swear... it's like we unknowningly put out some sort of subliminal hormone, chemical scent..cuz right away....men start comin' out of the woodwork!! There everywhere!!!
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| December 8, 2005, 21:41 |
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svedishchef
45 / male
Melbourne, Victoria, Australia
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Re: Re: Thief of hearts ?
QUOTE (DEye @ December 7, 2005, 08:38) QUOTE (Chazzy @ December 7, 2005, 08:34)Is it really possible to have your mate "stolen" away from you? Can someone who is in a serious relationship,committed to someone and "in love" be tempted, lured or led astray by another?
Only between the hours of 8:A.M. and 5:30P.M. Monday thru Friday and most all the day Saturday but never on Sunday
Yeah, Sunday is football, basketball, baseball, F1, Champcar watching days.... maybe a lil sex in ad breaks, but I can not be lured astray on Sunday.
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| December 9, 2005, 19:03 |
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hardrock1955
69 / male
McGaheysville, Virginia, US
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Re: Re: Thief of hearts ?
QUOTE (Jacknjill143 @ December 7, 2005, 19:43) QUOTE (Chazzy @ December 7, 2005, 08:34)Is it really possible to have your mate "stolen" away from you? Can someone who is in a serious relationship,committed to someone and "in love" be tempted, lured or led astray by another?
Well, if you are in a loving, committed relationship, there is no need to look elsewhere. There is a BIG diffence in being in lust and being in love! We have both been in lust and for the first time in our lives, in love. If someone says they are in love with two people, they are really in love with no one. Each relationship is incomplete in some way. A committed relationship would be with one person that fulfills all your needs.
I agree 100% when you find the one , there is no room in your heart for another.  
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