speaking for my own personal history, i wish my ex had understood that just because i put my arm arund her , didnt mean i always wanted sex, sometimes i just wanted to hold her for a litle affection.

Funny,my best friend and I just talked about something like this tonight. We said as a sex we can sometimes be our own worst enemy.I think I have heard more most complain that women expect men to be mind readers and it drives men crazy. The other big complaint I have heard from men as a whole is that women try to change them. I agree.We were talking about how many women we knew and grew up with that still say things like "He will change after we get married, you'll see." or "He should know what I wan't, I shouldn't have to tell him."

Syb I get what you are saying but I think some things you say, you guys need to take ownership of as well. You can't expect women to love giving blow jobs if most of us have experienced the "Head shove" for the majority of our young sexual lives.I think those of us who do enjoy giving blow jobs were fortunate enough to have had men in our lives that were kind and patient and taught us instead of forced us. There are things I don't enjoy because of my past experience. I would think most people are the same in that regard. You also have to remember that most of us are taught that "good girls" don't do certain things. Blowjobs is one of those things. It's hard to switch from "Good girl" in public to "sex pot" in private for most women especially once children come into the family dynamic.I do agree about the compliment thing but that again is ingrained in our DNA I think. We are also taught not to be cocky. Self esteem is also a huge issue especially with young girls .

Not being totally engaged and just laying there I don't even understand how they do that. lol And who hides the fact that they love sex these days? As for making you jealous...That's a fucked up game. I fucking hate head games and anyone being man or women shouldn't play games.

Your needing space comment made me laugh. I like my space as well. But I hope Kam won't mind me telling you this. When we first started dating he had mentioned that he can sometimes "be a real dick" as a warning to me. When I asked what he meant he said "I sometimes like my space and can just go in another room and maybe read or do something on my own for a few hours." So I looked at him and was like "So when does the being like a dick come into play?" Apparently he also had women in his life that considered that a dick move. News flash!!! There is nothing wrong with that. We don't need to be joined at the hip.I think you guys just need to pick different women than the ones you had in your past.

I was married to a man that thought if I looked in his direction it meant he should fuck me . In his case...trust me that was not what I was thinking! (At least after things got pretty bad)

Never jealous? Right!