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sybianwatcher1
49 / male Kamloops, British Columbia, Canada
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Adoption
Would any of you here...If the situation arises, consider adopting a child, of a different race or culture ,different than the one you're from ?
Half a year ago, a little boy from a nation thats half way around the world, came to my Ranch to ride horses, and fell in love with a big old ugly Cowboy, that trips over his own feet.
I have to be careful how much info I post here...just in case someone runs across this ,that has some authority, and doesn't approve of me being on this site. Call me paranoid, but I don't want to screw this one up at any cost.
For some reason , I'm bursting at the seams.
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August 18, 2014, 13:53 |
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Freensleazy
65 / male State of Confusion, Pennsylvania, US
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Re: Adoption
Wishin ya the best. However, I will not adopt you.
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August 18, 2014, 18:43 |
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kamarel
60 / male Alexandria, Louisiana, US
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Re: Adoption
I don;t see being an issue if thats what you want. You will probably run into issues like religion, ethnic heritage and such that you will need to know, when the subject comes up. Where do i come from, seems to be a big question for most kids who are adopted. The younger the adoption the more...insistent they become about their background. If your prepared I say knock yourself out.
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August 18, 2014, 18:45 |
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KINKYINTHEFALLS
56 / male wild and wonderful, West Virginia, US
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Re: Adoption
I say if you feel you are ready then go for it, and like free I'm not adopting you either
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August 18, 2014, 20:51 |
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Iwant2kssuallovr
62 / female Bendover, Florida, US
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Re: Adoption
I will adopt you.
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August 18, 2014, 22:36 |
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sybianwatcher1
49 / male Kamloops, British Columbia, Canada
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Re: Re: Adoption
QUOTE (Iwant2kssuallovr @ August 18, 2014, 22:36)I will adopt you.
I thought you already have......I prefer breast feeding by the way.
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August 18, 2014, 23:06 |
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sybianwatcher1
49 / male Kamloops, British Columbia, Canada
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Re: Re: Adoption
QUOTE (kamarel @ August 18, 2014, 18:45)I don;t see being an issue if thats what you want. You will probably run into issues like religion, ethnic heritage and such that you will need to know, when the subject comes up. Where do i come from, seems to be a big question for most kids who are adopted. The younger the adoption the more...insistent they become about their background. If your prepared I say knock yourself out.
The nation he's from is 90% Christian..and the Adoption Course I had to complete dealt with all that , Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, culture ,ethnic heritage, as well as other issues he may have to deal with.
If your an orphan in the country he is from ,your fate is sealed, unless you leave. There are six million orphans in a country the size of Washington State.
The Adoption Course is the first thing I've ever graduated that didn't involve defending myself, or how to use a firearm to harm another human being...I never realized how good a little piece of paper could make you feel.
The Anger management counciling has already come up in my evaluations...and when the whole story was examined, it was just kinda breezed over, and I'm thankful about that.
I feel like, at the point I'm at now...I've reined my horse around in his direction, and may God help anyone who gets between us.
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August 19, 2014, 00:03 |
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JenTX
47 / female East, Texas, US
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Re: Adoption
You'll make a great dad. You've already got the worrying part down pat. Lucky guy can take the best parts of all his old and new history and run with it.
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August 19, 2014, 02:56 |
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sybianwatcher1
49 / male Kamloops, British Columbia, Canada
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Re: Re: Adoption
QUOTE (Iwant2kssuallovr @ August 18, 2014, 22:36)I will adopt you.
Your sure damn good at putting a big lump in my throat..Thank you for that Kiss.
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August 19, 2014, 03:06 |
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sybianwatcher1
49 / male Kamloops, British Columbia, Canada
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Re: Re: Adoption
QUOTE (JenTX @ August 19, 2014, 02:56)You'll make a great dad. You've already got the worrying part down pat. Lucky guy can take the best parts of all his old and new history and run with it.
Thank you Jen, that means a lot coming from you.
With my old history....I had little help from a friend.
This little guy and me ,both have our scars from someone elses Wars. He just needs a chance at a better life, he'll run with it just fine after awhile, I just hope I can keep up.
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August 19, 2014, 03:11 |
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newbie1011
62 / female The Shore, New Jersey, US
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Re: Adoption
I know a few people that were adopted and a few people that adopted. Adoption is a great thing. I think the best families are like the united nations.My kids were raised by me with two different religions and the only people confused are the people that judge without asking or taking the time to ask how it works. I believe if you are open minded anything can work. Love is much more important than what color someones skin is or what religion they are etc.. Don't get me wrong. Different colors and religions and cultural backgrounds can sometimes make things more complicated, mostly because we still live in a world of closed minded people, but also it sometimes works out even better than you can imagine.
I have a very close friend that is black. Her husband her and myself had a discussion about our kids once. Her son took two girls to the prom, both being white. We live in a VERY WHITE BREAD town.So we got into if we would want our kids to marry out side of their race. The thing that we all agreed on was that as a parent you always wish for your child's life to be wonderful and also as easy and without conflict as possible. So we said keeping that in mind, it would bother us that if our children were to marry outside their race or religion it adds even more stress to the relationship and then the children have to deal with the prejudices of the public as well and it would not be their choice.If it were a different time or place where they could live without having to worry about being threatened then neither of us would care who they married. Sometimes I see it is getting better but other times (Like now)I worry about our kids and the world they have to deal with. Will we ever get to a point when everyone just lets others choose who they want to be with and not judge? Will they ever stop punishing children for being born into a family that some don't see as good enough or right? I hope that day will come soon but I don't think we are there yet.But for everyone that does go into a relationship color blind and non judgmental we get a bit closer.AT least I hope so.Some day everyone will have the right to be with whomever they want and I think the children of this world will all benefit from that.
If you are willing to take the challenges that come with adopting a child from another race, culture and religion than your own then go for it. Make this a better world.All kidding aside, if you are the man I think you are then I have a feeling you would make a fabulous father.
By the way personally I would suggest you take your picture off just to be safe. Sorry but better safe than sorry is how I see things.
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August 19, 2014, 04:26 |
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sybianwatcher1
49 / male Kamloops, British Columbia, Canada
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Re: Adoption
I got a better idea instead of changing my picture...and yes I'm colour blind.
If you ever have the chance to wander the streets of Vancouver, remember those are not tourists, those are citizens. Interacial marriages here are more common than marrying the same race.
I have spoke to my Mountain cousins, and my so called Backwoods family, and without even meeting him yet, they have accepted him as one of our own.
It is who we are.
Thank you from my heart Newbs.
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August 19, 2014, 05:01 |
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Re: Adoption
good luck, you'll teach him everything you know, but be aware, he'll probably teach you a lot more then you'll teach him.
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August 19, 2014, 13:56 |
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ashkats
65 / couple crystal falls, Michigan, US
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Re: Adoption
wish ya luck, and all kids need parents and father figure's.my aunt and uncle adopted a boy and a Girl over time. the only thing that Tripp my switch was they didn't have kids of there own that were blood to carry on the family name, think my aunt couldn't have any and she seemed to not like sailors. she had a dislike for my father and me.
so we thought about it our selves but our age maybe a factor as too old and sore to chase kids and the older ones are set more in their ways. then if ya can do it , that's get then.
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August 19, 2014, 14:27 |
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oldcowboy666
74 / male bennett, Colorado, US
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Re: Adoption
I hope it works for you, you would be a good dad.
My high school wrestling coach adopted a Vietnamese baby which was frowned on at the time. But that little guy with the name
Matthew Vacsinick. OCB
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August 19, 2014, 19:55 |
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Re: Adoption
Best of luck ul be great
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August 20, 2014, 12:11 |
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sybianwatcher1
49 / male Kamloops, British Columbia, Canada
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Re: Re: Adoption
QUOTE (Angelpussy4u2 @ August 20, 2014, 12:11)Best of luck ul be great
Thanks so much Angel...I look forward to teaching him the Cowboy way...You know , how to unclip a bra with one hand while not spilling the drink your holding in the other.
How to treat a lady right , and how good manners is always remembered as a quality ,and not a weakness.
How to put out a massive forest fire, brand a calf without hurting it, train a horse with a gentle touch, and run a still without becoming the local idiot.
...and he can teach me what it is to be a child...that is something ,that I never really knew.
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August 20, 2014, 20:28 |
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Re: Adoption
just remember, now there's one more source for drooling on the floor, when he gets older, i'm sure he'll blame it on the dog. but we all know it'll be coming from you when all the females come to offer you some friendly child raising advice...and you had best beter teach him how to use a gun...with those bears and wolves that frequent your place...he'll need to be a good shot.
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August 21, 2014, 05:21 |
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sybianwatcher1
49 / male Kamloops, British Columbia, Canada
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Re: Re: Adoption
QUOTE (lonelyandhorny @ August 21, 2014, 05:21)just remember, now there's one more source for drooling on the floor, when he gets older, i'm sure he'll blame it on the dog. but we all know it'll be coming from you when all the females come to offer you some friendly child raising advice...and you had best beter teach him how to use a gun...with those bears and wolves that frequent your place...he'll need to be a good shot.
Any son of mine will be a good shot.
I never thought of the chick factor....Hmmmm.
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August 21, 2014, 05:50 |
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oldcowboy666
74 / male bennett, Colorado, US
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Re: Adoption
I wish you all the best, you are a good man and will be a good father. You know some shit that should be passed down. I really enjoy my Grandsons, I bought each a kid size lariat. They wanted to learn to rope, I laughed so hard I had to turn my oxygen up. OCB
Even if your son Justin is a fuck up.
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August 21, 2014, 20:56 |
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sybianwatcher1
49 / male Kamloops, British Columbia, Canada
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Re: Re: Adoption
QUOTE (oldcowboy666 @ August 21, 2014, 20:56) I wish you all the best, you are a good man and will be a good father. You know some shit that should be passed down. I really enjoy my Grandsons, I bought each a kid size lariat. They wanted to learn to rope, I laughed so hard I had to turn my oxygen up. OCB
Even if your son Justin is a fuck up.
I'll try to get it right the second time..
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August 22, 2014, 01:15 |
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sybianwatcher1
49 / male Kamloops, British Columbia, Canada
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Re: Adoption
So my first home visit happened today...it was apperent that I had numerous impalement and dismemberment hazards around here.
My response to the Social Worker was..."Yah...no shit "
She was impressed I had all my rifles and handguns trigger locked, which had cleaned out the "Trigger Lock" shelves in Canadian Tire in Kamloops....
She was concerned about the two double barrel shotguns hung above the front door.
I explained that one was an antique Stagecoach gun that doesn't work anymore, the other was for predators, lawyers and politicians...She's on the fence about that weapon and it's location....It isn't moving anyplace.
She wa impressed at how self reliant my life is, and how the ranch seemed to function.
She walked into my shop, and was suprised at how many projects I had on the go, and how I forge most of my tools myself.....She then asked what the contraption in the corner was under the tarp......My Cowboy quick mind took control and I answered ..."Well when my grains go bad at the end of winter, I make a mash and produce an unconsumable alcohol in that reflux still, and use it to disinfect my barn to protect my natural,or organic beef calves from infection....I then spread the spent mash on my fields for fertilizer."
I believe she may have bought it.
She then surmised that me and my lifestyle had much to offer a family.........and she asked how many kids I intended to adopt...and if I was prepared for people to make judgements and stare at having a child from a different race.
I told her people judge me all the time,...and the staring a person just gets used to....they stare and whisper about my past, and some scars I carry. It's not going to be a problem.
She was very nice to me.
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August 29, 2014, 03:19 |
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Re: Adoption
That is such good news. I bet when you knew it was a woman inspector you were delighted .......... Because you my friend could charm the knickers off a nun
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August 29, 2014, 06:21 |
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Re: Adoption
hopefully she enjoyed seeing at least ONE of your impalement hazzards...
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August 29, 2014, 06:37 |
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newbie1011
62 / female The Shore, New Jersey, US
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Re: Adoption
It sounds like it went well. Could you just imagine if parents that had children the old fashion way had to go through any of this? My house would never have passed when I was growing up.We had power tools and weapons of various types. We were always climbing and hanging from things they would consider hazards these days. I used to climb on the roof to sun bath. And I had to climb the roof to clean the gutters of our houses because I was the most limber and well balanced as well as the lightest.My father said if I could manage a back handspring on a balance beam he saw no reason I couldn't walk a roof and stay up right. Of course my father never wanted to admit that heights was also his only fear in life. lol My parents never believed in the whole some jobs are boy jobs and some are girl job way of thinking.
Syb, I love your way of thinking. I know we only know you from this web site, but I am normally pretty good at spotting someone that is not what they say. I don't get that from you at all.I wish you and your new son the best. If you are half the man you appear to be, he will be lucky to have you as his Dad.Anyone can be a father. Not all men are cut out to be a Dad.
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August 29, 2014, 10:06 |
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sybianwatcher1
49 / male Kamloops, British Columbia, Canada
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Re: Adoption
Awww Newbs,....not many women can make me turn red , but you just did.
I am just myself on here,...it's a full time job just being me, I find I don't need to make anything up about myself to have a good laugh.
I'm still trying to learn how Sy's mind works, but it seems that my mind is a work in progress..and thank you for the flowers.
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August 30, 2014, 04:42 |
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Re: Adoption
I've been quiet lately, but I have been keeping up,
I'm trilled about the adoption, we know what incredible hell you'd go through for a calf, your horse,etc...so of course you'd be an excellent father.
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September 2, 2014, 11:01 |
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sybianwatcher1
49 / male Kamloops, British Columbia, Canada
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Re: Re: Adoption
QUOTE (Chazzy @ September 2, 2014, 11:01)I've been quiet lately, but I have been keeping up,
I'm trilled about the adoption, we know what incredible hell you'd go through for a calf, your horse,etc...so of course you'd be an excellent father.
Thank you Chazzy...I believe you know what those words, coming from you , would mean too a person like myself.
I will admit, I had a little panic attack yesterday, when I saw a pack of wolves running by my place, and crossing the road right in the place he'd catch the school bus.
I'm trying to convince all my cousins they need to stay away when he first gets here, so he isn't overwhelmed by all these larger than life mountain men descending on his new life.......They can be a little over protective.
It seems it's a family trait.
..and thanks for the kiss .
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September 2, 2014, 14:33 |
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oldcowboy666
74 / male bennett, Colorado, US
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Re: Adoption
You are doing the right thing my friend. You will be a good Dad. Sharing things that can't be learned from a book. I will never regret learning how to work and be responsible at an early age. Good on ya!!! OCB
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September 3, 2014, 12:17 |
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sybianwatcher1
49 / male Kamloops, British Columbia, Canada
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Re: Re: Adoption
QUOTE (oldcowboy666 @ September 3, 2014, 12:17) You are doing the right thing my friend. You will be a good Dad. Sharing things that can't be learned from a book. I will never regret learning how to work and be responsible at an early age. Good on ya!!! OCB
I suppose what we know isn't in any books,......wait a second..You wrote one, I wonder if he'll want to name his new dog Tractor?
I've also got the entire collection of Louis Lamour, and Zane Grey that I'll put on the shelf in his room if he likes.
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September 3, 2014, 13:39 |
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KINKYINTHEFALLS
56 / male wild and wonderful, West Virginia, US
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Re: Adoption
Keep the Playboy Collection hidden for a while
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September 3, 2014, 23:37 |
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Iwant2kssuallovr
62 / female Bendover, Florida, US
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Re: Adoption
How far is the bus stop fro the house? And, as far as you computer, sometimes a System Restore will fix computer issues. Go into settings, and restore to a date prior to the date you messed it up.
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September 4, 2014, 01:20 |
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sybianwatcher1
49 / male Kamloops, British Columbia, Canada
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Re: Re: Adoption
QUOTE (Iwant2kssuallovr @ September 4, 2014, 01:20)
How far is the bus stop fro the house? And, as far as you computer, sometimes a System Restore will fix computer issues. Go into settings, and restore to a date prior to the date you messed it up.
The school bus would pick him up at the end of the driveway, and as you may remember...thats a kilometer , or just under a mile.
There are three schools he could attend, and I've already had a fight with the school district about them travelling this far out for one kid. I told them that if they don't pick him up, I ,nor half my neighbors won't pay their rural taxes, and I had a signed petition to prove it. I was expecting that problem from the very start.
I'll try system restore...but when I touch a computer, the date that I messed it up could be from the very day I pushed on the power button.
Thanks Kiss.
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September 4, 2014, 14:03 |
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Re: Re: Re: Adoption
QUOTE (sybianwatcher1 @ September 4, 2014, 14:03)
The school bus would pick him up at the end of the driveway, and as you may remember...thats a kilometer , or just under a mile.
There are three schools he could attend, and I've already had a fight with the school district about them travelling this far out for one kid.
i know what that's like, right before i started 7th grade, my parents rented a farm house . it was on the egde of three school districts, but only one was willing to send a bus out that far. we were in a location that had a phone number, address and fire number, all from different towns.the two closest towns had a church, a bar and a garage, and that's it,you had to gotwenty miles to get to a grocery store, and i was a half hour bus ride to get to school.
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September 4, 2014, 15:52 |
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sybianwatcher1
49 / male Kamloops, British Columbia, Canada
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Re: Re: Re: Re: Adoption
QUOTE (lonelyandhorny @ September 4, 2014, 15:52) QUOTE (sybianwatcher1 @ September 4, 2014, 14:03)
The school bus would pick him up at the end of the driveway, and as you may remember...thats a kilometer , or just under a mile.
There are three schools he could attend, and I've already had a fight with the school district about them travelling this far out for one kid.
i know what that's like, right before i started 7th grade, my parents rented a farm house . it was on the egde of three school districts, but only one was willing to send a bus out that far. we were in a location that had a phone number, address and fire number, all from different towns.the two closest towns had a church, a bar and a garage, and that's it,you had to gotwenty miles to get to a grocery store, and i was a half hour bus ride to get to school.
So you can relate then ?
It's 80 klicks to get a gallon of gas ,or milk...200 klicks..or kilometeres, to do any real grocery shopping.
I suppose with a few stops the bus ride would be about an hour and a half.
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September 4, 2014, 18:06 |
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Samib
72 / female Somewhere, Maryland, US
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Re: Re: Re: Adoption
QUOTE (sybianwatcher1 @ September 3, 2014, 13:39) QUOTE (oldcowboy666 @ September 3, 2014, 12:17) You are doing the right thing my friend. You will be a good Dad. Sharing things that can't be learned from a book. I will never regret learning how to work and be responsible at an early age. Good on ya!!! OCB
I suppose what we know isn't in any books,......wait a second..You wrote one, I wonder if he'll want to name his new dog Tractor?
I've also got the entire collection of Louis Lamour, and Zane Grey that I'll put on the shelf in his room if he likes.
My dad had and read every Zane Grey book as well as Louis Lamour. Good stuff. Good luck with the adoption. Now you will be busier than ever.
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September 4, 2014, 20:59 |
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newbie1011
62 / female The Shore, New Jersey, US
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Re: Adoption
Hey Syb, If the school gives you any crap send Kam a note with an email I can reach you at and I can give you some info that might help. Your laws are not as different as some may think. Education regulations are modeled after each other in may cases. I have A LOT OF KNOWLEDGE regarding dealing with uncooperative school systems.It's a long story why I have this knowledge but as I said It might help you.
If you don't mind me asking could you tell us a little about your new son? Nothing identifying of course, just something that can give us a feel for your new life. Like how old he is and is he coming from the city? Or is he a country boy? I'm excited for you. Parenting can be the hardest job ever, but well worth it.
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September 9, 2014, 19:13 |
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sybianwatcher1
49 / male Kamloops, British Columbia, Canada
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Re: Re: Adoption
QUOTE (newbie1011 @ September 9, 2014, 19:13)Hey Syb, If the school gives you any crap send Kam a note with an email I can reach you at and I can give you some info that might help. Your laws are not as different as some may think. Education regulations are modeled after each other in may cases. I have A LOT OF KNOWLEDGE regarding dealing with uncooperative school systems.It's a long story why I have this knowledge but as I said It might help you.
If you don't mind me asking could you tell us a little about your new son? Nothing identifying of course, just something that can give us a feel for your new life. Like how old he is and is he coming from the city? Or is he a country boy? I'm excited for you. Parenting can be the hardest job ever, but well worth it.
Thanks newbs I'll keep that in mind...But remember, I am Sy...I have a lot of first hand knowledge about unco-operative school systems.
The young man that wants so bad to be adopted is from Africa, and was given up at birth, so not much is known about his parents other than they were in their teens, and the mother died in childbirth.
He came to this province through a religious organization that wanted to get as many kids out before their Government closed it's policies about foreigners taking children out of their beautiful hellhole.
It seems that orphanages are a ready supply of child soldiers.....If your curious ...just watch the movie.."Machine Gun Preacher",..everything there including the Preacher is true.
He was living in an orphanage till 5 years old, and had to fight inside there for survival, water and food was in short supply, as he was in the middle of a war zone and has sustained some battle scars, but he is healthy and very much a gentleman.
He wants nothing more than to have a permanent home with securities, rope cows, have a horse, and live in the mountains on a ranch with me.
Other than our accents....we have much in common...My life here defines who I am, and what he will become.
There is a little country in us all.
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September 10, 2014, 00:19 |
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oldcowboy666
74 / male bennett, Colorado, US
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Re: Adoption
Hope it works out! A lot of the original cowboys were black, so there is some heritage that can be proud of. good luck my friend. OCB
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September 10, 2014, 22:16 |
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newbie1011
62 / female The Shore, New Jersey, US
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Re: Adoption
I have a feeling you guys will get along great. Sometimes the universe brings people together through the strangest ways for the strangest reasons. Those types of relationships seem to be the most special.I get the feeling he is already your son in your eyes and heart.Keep us posted please. I love hearing good things once in a while. Hey, maybe this is the universes way of getting you to focus on positive things. Maybe you wont have to go to any more anger management classes.lol
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September 11, 2014, 01:09 |
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sybianwatcher1
49 / male Kamloops, British Columbia, Canada
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Re: Adoption
O.K..................................My life has been a shitshow for the last 7 weeks.
I am dealing with 6 Social workers and have taken countless courses at their requests ,and never questioned their judgement.
I even took counciling for some suspected PTSD they imagined I had due to some of my experiences in the War ,that some of you know about.It was incredibley difficult to re-open those old wounds, but I did it, yet I'm no better for it.
One Social bitch figures I sailed through it way to fast...and I either have a very high intelligence level...which all of us here know couldn't be the case...or I have an education in Phsycoligy...Shit I'm not even sure how to spell it !
So now she wants to have me examined further....The other 5 figure I'm fine, but this one won't sign off on me.
I'm done........All I was doing was trying to adopt a kid that nobody else seemed to want.
My love and gratitude to all my friends that supported me through this massive waste of freakin time.
I'm just done....Let the chips fall where they may.
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February 13, 2015, 04:54 |
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newbie1011
62 / female The Shore, New Jersey, US
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Re: Adoption
Syb...I understand your frustration more than you can imagine. One day I swear I will talk to you on a phone or online so I can explain in more detail. All I will say to that right now is look at the long term goal. Some people feel like they have to justify their job by being a hard ass. Social workers can be interesting. I say that as a mother with a child that is studying to be one. She hopes to replace at least one bad one.lol. I also have a niece that went into social work with dreams of making it better for some of these kids that dealt with the horrors of some social workers in their past.
I also want to tell you something that I don't think I ever have. I have not spoken to my biological father except to track him down with news of his mothers death(he didn't really care)since I was a kid.I kept it that way until the day he died. The man I call my father and "Dad" was not my biological father. But he was such a great man. He married my mom and treated us as his own children. He also had two children from a previous marriage. We wont go into that now. I can tell you that my brothers and I think about our dad(step dad) as a man we were so lucky to have come into our lives. It really wasn't any one thing that made us love him. It was everything. I think about him a lot. Unfortunately he passed away pretty young from cancer.You can't imagine how a special person in some kids life can change a kids life forever. He was more our father than our biological father ever was to any of his kids (My biological father has other children as well.).I am telling you this from the kids point of view.
Being a parent isn't easy. Think of this as a test for parenthood.In the end if it all works out you will laugh and call that social worker all kinds of names when she is not around.Keep your eye on the prize. Take a night and get drunk and forget about what she is putting you through.Besides If I understand it right, the judge looks at all the reports and if all the others say you are fine, he will dismiss hers as being a pain in the ass, For all you know, she might already have that reputation.Keep us posted.I'll be keeping you in my thoughts.
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February 13, 2015, 07:09 |
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sybianwatcher1
49 / male Kamloops, British Columbia, Canada
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Re: Adoption
She does already have that reputation, and I know that I'm letting my stubborn Cowboy pride get in the way.
It's who I am...and after they've stripped everything away from me....It's all I have left.
I won't allow them to take that away too.
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February 13, 2015, 15:19 |
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newbie1011
62 / female The Shore, New Jersey, US
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Re: Adoption
Be true to who you are and you will shine. She will have to deal with her reputation.It is frustrating to deal with people like her. I always wonder how they keep their jobs. Being a hard ass in a good way is one thing, but being a hard ass just to show she can use her power to fuck with peoples lives in a bad way is a whole different thing.Try to be positive. Some things we have no control over in this world.I know those things that go bad and I can't fix drive me insane. All we can do is try to get past them.
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February 13, 2015, 23:20 |
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