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sybianwatcher1
49 / male
Kamloops, British Columbia, Canada
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Crossroad.
O.k she's 23 years old, blonde, slim , hot ....and hangs around here every second or third day. She's seen some pictures of me in the western wear adds I've done ,and still thinks I'm good looking. She's into horses, cattle, and ranching, has a degree in agriculture, and knows what a -32 nor 'eastern is, and can shovel snow ,and shit like myself, and look mighty fine doing it. She can fill out a pair of jeans , and tank top like Kelly Pickler, and has a smile like Cindy Crawford. ...she says she will understand when I wake up yelling in the middle of the night, at people who couldn't possibly be there, and she digs my battle wounds. I am tired of being alone, and pushing everyone I care about away from me....she's 14 years younger, and could do far better, but is tired of being with little boys.. she wants to try,.....I know her family, and she's been telling them she is interested, and I'm afraid we may cause problems in their family unit, as well as lose some friends, and true freinds ,in my life ,are few. I don't feel fear.. I am concerned I suppose, what people will say ,or how they will treat her....is the age difference that big of a deal ..because it ain't to us.
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| October 21, 2012, 01:37 |
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Iwant2kssuallovr
62 / female
Bendover, Florida, US
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Re: Crossroad.
"Ain't"? When did you start using "Ain't"???
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| October 21, 2012, 01:59 |
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sybianwatcher1
49 / male
Kamloops, British Columbia, Canada
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Re: Crossroad.
about 10 minutes ago......
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| October 21, 2012, 02:03 |
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Iwant2kssuallovr
62 / female
Bendover, Florida, US
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Re: Crossroad.
I do have one question.
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| October 21, 2012, 02:51 |
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sybianwatcher1
49 / male
Kamloops, British Columbia, Canada
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Re: Crossroad.
Yes ....
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| October 21, 2012, 05:55 |
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Re: Crossroad.
I don't think the age difference is a major problem. It can be, I was married to guy 20 years older, age did factor in when we spit, but there were other big problems.
Regardless of the age, same considerations should be talked through, like she's 23, does she have any children, do you both want or don't want children, if she doesn't now there's a good chance in the years down the road one of you may chamge your mind. Are you two currently in a courtship phase? Once the chemicals simmer down from a rolling boil, what will you have left betweem you?
You've talked about all she can give to you, what will you be giving to her? Think about that as well. People and family may not approve at first but usually learn to accept it.
You got a lot to think about, no one can accurately see into the future, it's all a gamble.
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| October 21, 2012, 12:44 |
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Iwant2kssuallovr
62 / female
Bendover, Florida, US
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Re: Crossroad.
Why would anyone object if you treat her right?
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| October 21, 2012, 15:40 |
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perveman
111 / male
Tucson, Arizona, US
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Re: Crossroad.
My oldest daughters husband is a few years older, but I could not hand pick a more prefect guy for her. Her first husband, was just like me (sucked) a drinker, and a tire man. He poured gas on himself a few months back, lit himself on fire. Dead.
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| October 21, 2012, 17:16 |
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ashkats
65 / couple
crystal falls, Michigan, US
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Re: Crossroad.
us older guy usually have a more solid foundation, we done it and are secure and mellow in our ways ,a lot of older young ladies seem to go for it or prefer it.we, the wife and i started out young , i wanted a nother child , but she is now past the age?...i guess i will get over it. it is still a revolving door , with many paths to take
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| October 21, 2012, 17:29 |
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Re: Crossroad.
Yep, know way how things will work out.
She only knows what it's like to be 23, Sybie knows whats it like to be 23 and he knows what it's like to be 37.
With my 20 year older husband, he knew that at 19 I might outgrow the relationship. I didn't, but his insecurites about the age difference is what caused us unrepairable damages and lead to our split.
I've always followed the thought that I'd rather task a risk and go for it than regret passing the opportunity by.
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| October 21, 2012, 17:38 |
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Iwant2kssuallovr
62 / female
Bendover, Florida, US
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Re: Crossroad.
One is the loneliest number.
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| October 21, 2012, 20:11 |
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Iwant2kssuallovr
62 / female
Bendover, Florida, US
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Re: Crossroad.
I use to go to a bar called Crossroads.
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| October 21, 2012, 20:11 |
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ashkats
65 / couple
crystal falls, Michigan, US
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Re: Crossroad.
that cool , theres one on every corner....
and yes one is a lonly number
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| October 21, 2012, 21:33 |
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Iwant2kssuallovr
62 / female
Bendover, Florida, US
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Re: Crossroad.
QUOTE (sybianwatcher1 @ October 21, 2012, 01:37)O.k she's 23 years old, blonde, slim , hot ....and hangs around here every second or third day. She's seen some pictures of me in the western wear adds I've done ,and still thinks I'm good looking. She's into horses, cattle, and ranching, has a degree in agriculture, and knows what a -32 nor 'eastern is, and can shovel snow ,and shit like myself, and look mighty fine doing it. She can fill out a pair of jeans , and tank top like Kelly Pickler, and has a smile like Cindy Crawford. ...she says she will understand when I wake up yelling in the middle of the night, at people who couldn't possibly be there, and she digs my battle wounds. I am tired of being alone, and pushing everyone I care about away from me....she's 14 years younger, and could do far better, but is tired of being with little boys.. she wants to try,.....I know her family, and she's been telling them she is interested, and I'm afraid we may cause problems in their family unit, as well as lose some friends, and true freinds ,in my life ,are few. I don't feel fear.. I am concerned I suppose, what people will say ,or how they will treat her....is the age difference that big of a deal ..because it ain't to us.
I GOT IT!!
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| October 21, 2012, 21:39 |
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Re: Crossroad.
Just go for it. Seems you have several things in common. Only time will tell.
Besides. Think of all the other 37+ year olds you'll make jealeous. 
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| October 21, 2012, 21:45 |
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GG317
60 / male
Bowl of Granola, Massachusetts, US
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Re: Re: Crossroad.
QUOTE (Iwant2kssuallovr @ October 21, 2012, 01:59)
"Ain't"? When did you start using "Ain't"???
Don't say 'ain't'.
Your mother will faint.
Your father will fall
In a bucket of paint.
Your sister will cry.
Your brother will die.
Your dog will call the FBI. 
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| October 22, 2012, 01:10 |
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sybianwatcher1
49 / male
Kamloops, British Columbia, Canada
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Re: Crossroad.
It seems we would both like children...we both don't have any of our own, we are from the exact same background, and the few of you who know were I'm "from" ....thats highly unusual. I remember what it's like to be 23, I was driven to build several businesses , that I still have and run. I suppose my concerns are that people will think she walked into a fully set up life. People only see the surface, they think I ride and chase cows all day, they don't see me stitching up wounds on my stock, or on myself, they don't see the heartbreak and hardship, only the romantic part.Around here it isn't that unusual to have age differences in a relationship, it's when we would be exposed to the lowermainland "city" people,including her family, that concerns me. I have dated ...ummmm,"many" young women, and have seen the looks ,and heard the talk, and words used like "goldigger" or "cradle robber", or whatever.In my family it isn't a big deal, and I remember my uncle , when he married a fantastic woman, 20 years younger than he was, saying" I married her not because I wanted someone I could live with, it was because I couldn't live without her"....and Chazzy what I have to offer isn't much I suppose, she'll take on alot, she'll take on critism, she'll take on an entire life and lifestyle, all I have to offer is myself, and this ranch I've built with my own hands.............and Kiss I knew you'd get it.
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| October 22, 2012, 01:11 |
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sybianwatcher1
49 / male
Kamloops, British Columbia, Canada
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Re: Crossroad.
Thank you my very good friends.....once again you've given me perspective, and points of view that I normally wouldn't consider,......I found that before I realized what was happening, it had already happened on its own. It snowed today, and I saw her tracks in the snow heading out towards the horses in the upper meadow,and they were kinda nice to follow. Funny thing was , she kept turning around and looking back at the ranch house,...I'll talk to you guys later, I got me a young lady to track down. I live a charmed life.
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| October 22, 2012, 06:12 |
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Re: Re: Crossroad.
QUOTE (sybianwatcher1 @ October 22, 2012, 06:12)Thank you my very good friends.....once again you've given me perspective, and points of view that I normally wouldn't consider,......I found that before I realized what was happening, it had already happened on its own. It snowed today, and I saw her tracks in the snow heading out towards the horses in the upper meadow,and they were kinda nice to follow. Funny thing was , she kept turning around and looking back at the ranch house,...I'll talk to you guys later, I got me a young lady to track down. I live a charmed life.
Gawd you're such a romantic...I think I saw this scene on the Hallmark Movie Channel.
You're a good man Sybie.
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| October 22, 2012, 10:43 |
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newbie1011
62 / female
The Shore, New Jersey, US
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Re: Crossroad.
Like any relationship they start off all hot. You are already questioning if you (and her) can handle the issues that you know will be part of this relationship if you go forward. Do you want to be with her because your lonely? Horney ? Think about all the conspicuous because you can not unring that bell.
The age is not the problem its the mind set. But there are many things that age will play into and you need to look deep before you decide what to do. Are you secure enough that everytine she looks at a guy or doesn't call you that you wont freak out? I'm being honest with you. I was mairried to a guy 8 years older than me but it turned out he was as mature as a highschool freshman in many ways. When a relationship STARTS with issues do not expect them to away. All you can do is decide if you are both strong enough to deal with them. Can you both handle the comments? The family issues? Its so easy to say "go for it" and "that's other peoples problems if they can't deal with it? ". She's 23 how will this effect her?. Does she really know what she wants at 23? Only you two know all the answers to these questions.
I know as a mother I look at my kids and hope that when they choose their partners they choose the ones that are best for them.I would hate for them to start off having to fight off society and family for that matter. I'm not saying
they wont have issues but you hope for as little as possible for the people you care about.
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| October 22, 2012, 11:58 |
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sybianwatcher1
49 / male
Kamloops, British Columbia, Canada
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Re: Crossroad.
Well with all due respect Newbs...he was a rodeo cowboy, and in my lifestyle, and line of work, that kinda sums it up, and we are not questioning what we have, we are questioning the influence around us , the people like family, and friends. it is a cultural thing for us...were we come from is very different. Also I've been lonley for a while, which is why I'm here, but I am very comfortable with my own company....and I'm always horny so thats nothing new to live with. As for how secure I am about if she'd call or look at another guy....whatever , I have alot of ex's running around here , and thats something that she'll have to deal with. I understand how it may look....that we are starting with issues, and we are, but the issues are forced upon us by other people , and their opinions or comments.Someone very dear to me once said "are you willing to look the fool for love ?" and I suppose I am, but I am protective by nature, when it comes to someone I care for, but I'm usually fair, I'd like to think that anyway, and yes, at 23 , she may not be ready for what this may bring into her life, but we've had that discussion, and she didn't avoid it. I have never cared what people have said about me , in the past, but I suppose you may have something there, I need to prepare myself , for when they talk of her,or about her in a negative way, we do realize it's not going to be easy.....oh and Chazzy...thanks, that meant alot
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| October 24, 2012, 04:55 |
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wandering5tar
53 / male
London, England, UK
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Re: Crossroad.
One might be the loneliest number but the saddest phrase is surely "if only..."
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| October 24, 2012, 08:17 |
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perveman
111 / male
Tucson, Arizona, US
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Re: Crossroad.
"If only". Good one 5star. New topic for a new thread. May I use it?
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| October 24, 2012, 12:47 |
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Iwant2kssuallovr
62 / female
Bendover, Florida, US
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Re: Re: Crossroad.
QUOTE (perveman @ October 24, 2012, 12:47)"If only". Good one 5star. New topic for a new thread. May I use it?
5tar always has something significant to say!
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| October 24, 2012, 12:56 |
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Re: Crossroad.
Well Sybie, there will be "influences" around you, there was 20 yeaars between me and my older husband. (I was 19, he was 39) At times the comments he found flattering really, other times it was just rudeness (hey, is that your daughter or your wife?) he was pretty hot and a lot of women his age seemed resentful that he chose a mate so young, sometimes the age difference was a total gross out to some. For many of our co workers, friends and family all that mattered was that we were happy.
After many years, his insecurites built up and he became suspicious of any men near us, and suspicous of me. Not trusting me was unaceptable, I was devoted and faithful but there did come a time when there was no convincing him, so it ended.
It was a difficult break up, but when I think back, I loved him deeply, wish it could have been different for us and hold dearly all the great times and the good years we had. No regrets from making the deciscion to marry him.
He passed away about 5 years ago.
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| October 24, 2012, 14:47 |
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Iwant2kssuallovr
62 / female
Bendover, Florida, US
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Re: Re: Crossroad.
QUOTE (Chazzy @ October 24, 2012, 14:47)
He passed away about 5 years ago.
Wow, he died young!
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| October 24, 2012, 15:10 |
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Re: Crossroad.
Wow, that was pretty young to have passed away. How long were you married to him? Yes, I am paying attention
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| October 24, 2012, 15:12 |
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Re: Crossroad.
Heavy long term drinking and smoking did him in.
We were together 10 years.
If the age difference is more like 10 years or less, I don't think it makes that much of a difference, 15 to 20 years, yeah, you're going to be dealing with some issues for sure, it's do-able. I don't regret my time with him, so much good and great about those years in spite of how it all ended.
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| October 24, 2012, 15:46 |
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Iwant2kssuallovr
62 / female
Bendover, Florida, US
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Re: Crossroad.
Oh, Sy likes "do-able'.
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| October 24, 2012, 16:04 |
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Re: Crossroad.
Good, I don't want to discourage him. There will be jokes comments made, opinions formed and shared, double takes and looks when together in public. So what, what do they know even? Yeah, my older husband if we had stayed togethr would have left me as caregiver for him in out later years but here I am with a younger husband and it turns out, I am his caregiver now.
You can address the things you know will happen, but everything else, there's no way to speculate accurately, there's no way to know for sure. Live good and live now.
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| October 24, 2012, 17:15 |
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Iwant2kssuallovr
62 / female
Bendover, Florida, US
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Re: Crossroad.
I think I've given him my opinion, not that he needs it. There are not a great many choices on "Sy's Mountain". Although this seems a little fast, sometimes it happens this way. And, Sy isn't getting any younger. He is pretty knowledgeable, and not his first rodeo. He'll know how to protect his assets, if that's the deal.
In life we don't always know what is just under the corner. I say seize the day, come what may.
Plus, I hear she is tall, slim, and gorgeous!
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| October 24, 2012, 18:39 |
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Iwant2kssuallovr
62 / female
Bendover, Florida, US
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Re: Crossroad.
I'm here to support and stand beside in what ever decision he, or they make. 
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| October 24, 2012, 19:28 |
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perveman
111 / male
Tucson, Arizona, US
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Re: Crossroad.
Damn, and I thought I was the hot one. Crap, that always happens. Guess I should be used to it by now, lol
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| October 24, 2012, 19:56 |
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Re: Crossroad.
I feel the same Kss, Sybie is a fine and good man, more than deserves any love and companionship he desires.
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| October 24, 2012, 20:25 |
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newbie1011
62 / female
The Shore, New Jersey, US
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Re: Crossroad.
I believe that we all make our choices and its no ones place to say if they are right or wrong unless those choices are effecting others and hurting people that are Innocent. Especially children. I do believe in going into things with open eyes and educating yourself as much as possible. That's why I ask myself questions prior to my choices and I taught my children to do the same. It's nice to say sometimes to just follow your heart and jump , but you need to be realistic and understand how these things can effect even your own life or in this case the person you chose to be with. That doesn't mean you shouldn't "go for it" either. If you look at it and see that the things that are questioned can be handled and you want to "go for it" then by all means and I wish you well. Maybe I see it as a protective thing. Try to mitigate as much damage as possible before hand for all concerned. It's the mom in me.
I also believe that there are times when the least likely of couples work out as well. I would never have guessed I would have met someone on here and actually wind up in a serious relationship. But you just never know. I even had a cousin who dated then married her high school math teacher. OK NO ONE AGREED WITH THAT RELATIONSHIP! However they stayed together and had a pretty great life together until he had a heart attach a few years ago and passed away.The illegal part and inappropriate part of it aside, they did have a loving relationship. And he had kids almost my cousins age.So you can make anything work if you are willing and able to deal with all that society has to through at you.It just isn't always easy.
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| October 25, 2012, 07:36 |
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sybianwatcher1
49 / male
Kamloops, British Columbia, Canada
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Re: Crossroad.
You people....amaze me, I have read and re-read all of your comments, and it definatley is helping.....oh and apparentley I'm to tidy, not allowed to cook anymore, and expect way to much of my horses, oh ...and no more little black book........ so it kinda seems to be working so far. Thank you, from my heart
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| October 26, 2012, 01:09 |
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sybianwatcher1
49 / male
Kamloops, British Columbia, Canada
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Re: Crossroad.
Well I'm finding out that I am in fact 37, and not 23, but I'm holding out fairly well. Lots of hydration, and rest. It seems we both are very happy. She is very mature , and hard working, and staying apart is getting harder to do. The moving in subject has come up, but we need to talk a little bit more about that, before it happens, the true test is when we are snowed in, and can't get out of here, with little or no communication with the outside world. We will litterally be on our own.
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| October 29, 2012, 21:40 |
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sybianwatcher1
49 / male
Kamloops, British Columbia, Canada
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Re: Crossroad.
AAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!! ...I caught her playing Rap on my truck radio , and she wasn't the least bit embarassed. 
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| November 3, 2012, 05:20 |
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newbie1011
62 / female
The Shore, New Jersey, US
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Re: Crossroad.
LMAO I dated one guy younger than me by 9 years. Right before I met Kam. I can't remember what he was playing on the radio that made me have that same reaction but it shook me up.Then he and a friend of his were chatting about someplace to go so he told me the name and I didn't recognize it. It was in my old neighborhood. So we all go to this club and I realize I used to bartend there.So I ask him if he remember when it was called Classics. He said no. I started thinking about what year and told him. He said he was in ELEMENTARY SCHOOL! Then I was listening to a song that I loved on my car radio and he asked if I always listened to the "OLDIES" station. That's when I decided that we were great fuck buddies but this would never last.lol Hint to all you guys that want to fuck older women never say things like "OLDIES MUSIC OR I WAS IN ELEMENTARY SCHOOL WHEN YOU DID THAT" if you plan on getting laid that night.Definite mood killer.
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| November 3, 2012, 07:26 |
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kamarel
60 / male
Alexandria, Louisiana, US
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Re: Re: Crossroad.
QUOTE (newbie1011 @ November 3, 2012, 07:26)LMAO I dated one guy younger than me by 9 years. Right before I met Kam. I can't remember what he was playing on the radio that made me have that same reaction but it shook me up.Then he and a friend of his were chatting about someplace to go so he told me the name and I didn't recognize it. It was in my old neighborhood. So we all go to this club and I realize I used to bartend there.So I ask him if he remember when it was called Classics. He said no. I started thinking about what year and told him. He said he was in ELEMENTARY SCHOOL! Then I was listening to a song that I loved on my car radio and he asked if I always listened to the "OLDIES" station. That's when I decided that we were great fuck buddies but this would never last.lol Hint to all you guys that want to fuck older women never say things like "OLDIES MUSIC OR I WAS IN ELEMENTARY SCHOOL WHEN YOU DID THAT" if you plan on getting laid that night.Definite mood killer.
I'm still younger than you, Dancing Queen.
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| November 3, 2012, 11:16 |
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sybianwatcher1
49 / male
Kamloops, British Columbia, Canada
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Re: Re: Re: Crossroad.
QUOTE (kamarel @ November 3, 2012, 11:16) QUOTE (newbie1011 @ November 3, 2012, 07:26)LMAO I dated one guy younger than me by 9 years. Right before I met Kam. I can't remember what he was playing on the radio that made me have that same reaction but it shook me up.Then he and a friend of his were chatting about someplace to go so he told me the name and I didn't recognize it. It was in my old neighborhood. So we all go to this club and I realize I used to bartend there.So I ask him if he remember when it was called Classics. He said no. I started thinking about what year and told him. He said he was in ELEMENTARY SCHOOL! Then I was listening to a song that I loved on my car radio and he asked if I always listened to the "OLDIES" station. That's when I decided that we were great fuck buddies but this would never last.lol Hint to all you guys that want to fuck older women never say things like "OLDIES MUSIC OR I WAS IN ELEMENTARY SCHOOL WHEN YOU DID THAT" if you plan on getting laid that night.Definite mood killer.
I'm still younger than you, Dancing Queen.
Dating women slightly older than myself ,I caught myself almost doing that on several occasions, and I would get in the habit of saying "classic" rock, or.. " I forget how old my mom is, she's not saying and I'm not asking." Although this new, young one calls me her "old man" , its a line from Tombstone said to Sam Elliott , who she claims, I have something in common with, and is one of our favorite go-to movies
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| November 3, 2012, 21:32 |
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