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onehornee
64 / male
69'sDevine, Michigan, US
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One's 2 cents worth
One of the most erotic and satisfying experiences you can have is coming at the same time as your lover. Controlling the timing of your ejaculation, by following science-based techniques developed to control your pubococcygeus PC muscles, enables you to come exactly when you want to come.If you really want this to leave your mind,body and soul feeling the experience,have an emotional connection with your lover,the closer the bond well you get the idea..
If you truely want to enter a more amazing experience in your sexuality learn as much as you can,dont be afraid to put yourself on uncommon ground sometimes.I'm like a sponge when it comes to learning how we as lovers can maximize our experiences.just my 2 cents worth..One of my traits is sometimes I talk to much so Im sure there will more 2 cents worth in our future  ..
ps: I seriously dont know it all when it comes to making love,sensuality, intimacy and extacy but i sure would like too.I'm simply interested in stimulating us all into being all we can be,get an edge in life ,In the sackaroni!yea that was bad  ..got any great secret tricks that bring out your beast for the feast, feel free to share.we can all benefit from our diversity in the majical land of WebNaughty..
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| July 12, 2012, 15:58 |
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Re: One's 2 cents worth
Yes, a thoughtful lover who can control the timing of his ejaculation...
"Alright hon, wrap it up...the new season of Project Runways starts in ten minutes"
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| July 12, 2012, 17:15 |
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newbie1011
62 / female
The Shore, New Jersey, US
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Re: One's 2 cents worth
I give you guys credit. I don't know how you "control" when you orgasm.Other than backing off a bit and starting back up again there is almost no way I can control an orgasm. It's something that just happens whether I want it to or not. Although,I can't imagine not wanting it to happen. Obviously, being a women this is not a problem because I can orgasm over an over without it stopping the action.I do love when I feel a man orgasm inside me. It almost always makes me come at that second. Its such a great feeling.
I don't think I could stop myself from having an orgasm the way you guys do it. I have heard guys say they do it by all kinds of ways. They finniest I've heard is, when a guy says he thinks of something nonsexual when he is about to come and it stops him. I have heard guys say they think of their mother or something like that. I would think that would make you guys loose the erection totally.lol Again I love being a women and not having to worry about those things. I just sit back and enjoy all the feelings and let my body take over. My mind just goes to a total relaxed mode.
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| July 12, 2012, 18:08 |
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JenTX
47 / female
East, Texas, US
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Re: One's 2 cents worth
QUOTE (onehornee @ July 12, 2012, 15:58)One of the most erotic and satisfying experiences you can have is coming at the same time as your lover. Controlling the timing of your ejaculation, by following science-based techniques developed to control your pubococcygeus PC muscles, enables you to come exactly when you want to come.If you really want this to leave your mind,body and soul feeling the experience,have an emotional connection with your lover,the closer the bond well you get the idea..
In the glow afterward, with someone you are well bonded to, yes a mutual orgasm is an amazing gift. But there is a lot to be said for taking turns.
When I am lost in my pleasure I miss those little things that my partner does. The change in breathing, the subtle shifts of shape inside me, the shudders.
I like it best when one of us orgasms first and as the orgasm decends the other releases so I thouroughly enjoy both of our pleasure.
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| July 12, 2012, 18:45 |
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Iwant2kssuallovr
62 / female
Bendover, Florida, US
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Re: One's 2 cents worth
Yes,"coming at the same time as your lover", is nice if you if you both have actually cum.
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| July 12, 2012, 19:08 |
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Re: One's 2 cents worth
Don't get me wrong, quickies have there place but to have lovers that can connect on more than just a sexual level is a beautiful thing. When there is no need to rush, you can take the time to explore what arouses them. Sometimes that means a taking turns orgasm or coming together to climax. Really, it doesn't matter how or when that is reached as long as both sides are equally satisfied. I may not be able to have multiple orgasms (YET but I know that he is patient in the quest to get me there....and sometimes the hunt is just as gratifying. Its amazing to me that exploration leads the way to comfort, trust and vulnerability. If you can loose yourself to that moment of giving or receiving...organisms of any kind can be obtained! 
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| July 12, 2012, 21:46 |
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onehornee
64 / male
69'sDevine, Michigan, US
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Re: Re: One's 2 cents worth
QUOTE (Iwant2kssuallovr @ July 12, 2012, 19:08)
Yes,"coming at the same time as your lover", is nice if you if you both have actually cum.
Agreed,not all but Many lovers I have been with it was obvious from there actions,and very obvious on a few occations from the overflow of our combines love juices making a serious mess.I really like good comunication during lovemaking ;oh yes thats it, oh go softer,oh yea rite there,Just enough helps so much towards many aspects of lovemaking in my opinion.I have known a few that wanted it so bad it kept it from happening,In some of our endevers our emotions can make or break us.but being open and honest,having an awsome connection with your lover,and having the ability to surrender ourselves to the moment can enhance our chances of how far some can take themselves.In my experience it's unlikely I could achieve this without the supportive efforts from my lover,one sqeeze at just the right time, i would go over the edge too early..
One of the strangest examples of coming together was when I came home from work this one day, opened the front door,my lover met me at the door totally naked, shut it behind me unbuttoned my jeans lowered herself on the balls of her feet, gave me one of the best blowjobs I've ever had,as I began to loose control, i shuddered into my orgasm,it triggered one for her,we went at it until we finished ,my legs shaking ,,she looked up smiling wide and said holy shit as soon as you started to come It made me came hard and I didnt have a hand on myself.she had her hands on my hips pulling me into her.looking down I could see she came on the floor. I was like holy shit never seen that before.Man oh Man it was the coolest thing ever..Ill never forget that..niether will she
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| July 14, 2012, 14:17 |
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onehornee
64 / male
69'sDevine, Michigan, US
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Re: Re: One's 2 cents worth
QUOTE (Chazzy @ July 12, 2012, 17:15)Yes, a thoughtful lover who can control the timing of his ejaculation...
"Alright hon, wrap it up...the new season of Project Runways starts in ten minutes"
OMG lmfao Chazzy,Smiling and shaking my head here .. ear to ear grin made my cheeks hurt lol...  ..
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| July 14, 2012, 14:19 |
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newbie1011
62 / female
The Shore, New Jersey, US
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Re: Re: Re: One's 2 cents worth
"One of the strangest examples of coming together was when I came home from work this one day, opened the front door,my lover met me at the door totally naked, shut it behind me unbuttoned my jeans lowered herself on the balls of her feet, gave me one of the best blowjobs I've ever had,as I began to loose control, i shuddered into my orgasm,it triggered one for her,we went at it until we finished ,my legs shaking ,,she looked up smiling wide and said holy shit as soon as you started to come It made me came hard and I didnt have a hand on myself.she had her hands on my hips pulling me into her.looking down I could see she came on the floor. I was like holy shit never seen that before.Man oh Man it was the coolest thing ever..Ill never forget that..niether will she"
I can only speak for myself here, and can say that giving my partner a blow-job and knowing that it effects him the way it does is such a turn on. I know I get very close to orgasm when I do it but not quit there. Kam usually just brings me over the edge as soon as I finish giving him a blow job. I guess its hard to explain but I avoid having him touch me when I give him a blow job because it gets me so turned on and I try to make it all about him when I'm doing it. It is also a fear that I will come and hurt him in the process. The times he does play with me while I give him a blow job I have to stop when I come. That is difficult for me because I have to "think about it". Something I don't do during sex. As I have said, I normally just let my body take over so its hard to get my mind to a more conscious place.
I obviously understand how your partner felt. I get the impression that most men think we don't get turned on as much as many of us do by giving blow-jobs. You all seem surprised when we say we do or in the case of your partner she was so turned on she came when she made you come. But that is kind of silly that you guys seem so surprised because you all claim that going down on us or making us orgasm in general turns you guys on so much.Why would you guys think we don't feel the same? When you care about someone and love to make them feel great, how can you not get turned on by it?
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| July 14, 2012, 19:37 |
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onehornee
64 / male
69'sDevine, Michigan, US
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Re: One's 2 cents worth
yea newbs, I think its because of the way we are wired different.She and I learned an awful lot having complete trust in each other.My first true experience showing me the benefits of learing to surrender yourself completely to your lover and the moment.For some surrender does not come easy.
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| July 15, 2012, 13:12 |
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perveman
111 / male
Tucson, Arizona, US
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Re: Re: One's 2 cents worth
QUOTE (onehornee @ July 15, 2012, 13:12)yea newbs, I think its because of the way we are wired different.She and I learned an awful lot having complete trust in each other.My first true experience showing me the benefits of learing to surrender yourself completely to your lover and the moment.For some surrender does not come easy.
I refuse to surrender without a fight. And, I expect change from my 2 cents.
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| July 15, 2012, 13:18 |
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onehornee
64 / male
69'sDevine, Michigan, US
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Re: Re: Re: One's 2 cents worth
QUOTE (perveman @ July 15, 2012, 13:18) QUOTE (onehornee @ July 15, 2012, 13:12)yea newbs, I think its because of the way we are wired different.She and I learned an awful lot having complete trust in each other.My first true experience showing me the benefits of learing to surrender yourself completely to your lover and the moment.For some surrender does not come easy. I refuse to surrender without a fight. And, I expect change from my 2 cents.
OMG lmfao Perve it always gets me grinning when you come out of left field with that shit.. :D 
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| July 15, 2012, 13:29 |
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GG317
60 / male
Bowl of Granola, Massachusetts, US
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Re: One's 2 cents worth
From one of my many book I read on the subject... An exercise to control premature ejaculation can prove to be a man's biggest ally. The Pubococcygeus Muscle, which controls urine flow in the male member can be worked on to control the timing with a sex-partner. To do this, one need only stand over the bowl when peeing. Try to stop the flow, by clenching the muscle from within the penis without actually physically touching the member. It's pretty tricky at first, but with practice you should be able to pee in short controlled bursts. Now when your partner asks you to hold off until she's ready, you can do it with ease...Not that I ever tried it, but warning you right off. The first time had better be in a bathroom stall in a urinal. Otherwise, you could be washing and wiping down the whole upstairs bathroom... 
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| July 18, 2012, 01:28 |
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ashkats
65 / couple
crystal falls, Michigan, US
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Re: One's 2 cents worth
a lot of food for thought here
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| July 18, 2012, 04:00 |
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newbie1011
62 / female
The Shore, New Jersey, US
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Re: Re: One's 2 cents worth
QUOTE (GentleGiant388 @ July 18, 2012, 01:28)From one of my many book I read on the subject... An exercise to control premature ejaculation can prove to be a man's biggest ally. The Pubococcygeus Muscle, which controls urine flow in the male member can be worked on to control the timing with a sex-partner. To do this, one need only stand over the bowl when peeing. Try to stop the flow, by clenching the muscle from within the penis without actually physically touching the member. It's pretty tricky at first, but with practice you should be able to pee in short controlled bursts. Now when your partner asks you to hold off until she's ready, you can do it with ease...Not that I ever tried it, but warning you right off. The first time had better be in a bathroom stall in a urinal. Otherwise, you could be washing and wiping down the whole upstairs bathroom...
This is a point I have tried to make over and over. Why would you expect men to know what we want when lunatics like this are on the loose. What I feel this moronic women missed is that "womens lib" had nothing to do with having a man open a door for us. It wasn't because we didn't want a man to do it. It was so that men would know we are capable of doing it our selves if we chose. There is a difference. Just like being a stripper or hooker does not demean us as women or people in general. Being forced into being a stripper or hooker does. Just as being forced into anything would.We wanted to get paid the same if we did the same job. By the way that still is not a reality in most professions.I also don't want standards lowered for me because I am a women. If a fireman needs to lift 250 pounds as part of the job then the person getting the job weather a man or women should have to lift that 250 pounds.Equality should mean EQUAL not lower.If someone scores higher on a test that is used to get a job or into a school then the person with the highest score should get it if that is the criteria . Don't say well we need 5 more women so even though the man scored higher we will hire or accept the women. That's just stupid! But none of the "women's lib" stuff said if someone is nice and opens a door for you, you should be a rude bitch!
For the record Men can be just as stupid about it. I have had men say "You all wanted to be equal so open your own doors" and slam doors in peoples faces. Or I have opened a door and had others walk in front of me and through it as if I was their personal doorman. I even have had many people reach into a freezer or refrigerator door when I have opened it for my self to get something as if I'm invisible. My response: YES I will be happy to slam your arm and/or head in it when you do that to me! Even Gloria Steinem would call many of these women today stupid bitches!
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| July 18, 2012, 04:28 |
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newbie1011
62 / female
The Shore, New Jersey, US
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Re: One's 2 cents worth
Sorry I posted to the wrong thread I re-posted it correctly in the thread regarding treating women like women.
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| July 18, 2012, 04:53 |
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ashkats
65 / couple
crystal falls, Michigan, US
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Re: One's 2 cents worth
ya did i ll have to read that one
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| July 18, 2012, 05:19 |
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onehornee
64 / male
69'sDevine, Michigan, US
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Re: Re: One's 2 cents worth
QUOTE (luckylover12 @ July 12, 2012, 21:46)Don't get me wrong, quickies have there place but to have lovers that can connect on more than just a sexual level is a beautiful thing. When there is no need to rush, you can take the time to explore what arouses them. Sometimes that means a taking turns orgasm or coming together to climax. Really, it doesn't matter how or when that is reached as long as both sides are equally satisfied. I may not be able to have multiple orgasms (YET but I know that he is patient in the quest to get me there....and sometimes the hunt is just as gratifying. Its amazing to me that exploration leads the way to comfort, trust and vulnerability. If you can loose yourself to that moment of giving or receiving...organisms of any kind can be obtained!
Well said
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| July 18, 2012, 13:08 |
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ashkats
65 / couple
crystal falls, Michigan, US
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Re: One's 2 cents worth
sex not sex unless it takes all night but then another lady or couple helps sometimes too if things are right
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| July 18, 2012, 16:03 |
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Iwant2kssuallovr
62 / female
Bendover, Florida, US
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Re: One's 2 cents worth
And, what if it goes on for 24 hours?
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| July 18, 2012, 19:31 |
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onehornee
64 / male
69'sDevine, Michigan, US
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Re: Re: One's 2 cents worth
QUOTE (Iwant2kssuallovr @ July 18, 2012, 19:31)
And, what if it goes on for 24 hours?
MEDIC!!!!!!!!
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| July 18, 2012, 19:37 |
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perveman
111 / male
Tucson, Arizona, US
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Re: Re: Re: One's 2 cents worth
QUOTE (onehornee @ July 18, 2012, 19:37) QUOTE (Iwant2kssuallovr @ July 18, 2012, 19:31)
And, what if it goes on for 24 hours?
MEDIC!!!!!!!!
Ditto that. " If an erection lasts more 4 hours, see your doctor." My doctor is a younger cute blonde lady. I will get right on that advice, and thank you.
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| July 22, 2012, 23:54 |
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newbie1011
62 / female
The Shore, New Jersey, US
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Re: One's 2 cents worth
I've done the marathon 3-4 day weekend sex with little to no sleep. The last time I did it I almost died. I remember the guy said I fell asleep and when he tried to wake me all he was able to get out of me was something that resembled a moan but not the kind I do during sex it was more like a someone unconscious or in a coma and can't wake them kind of moan.lol
All types of sex has it's place. I love the slow long sessions but then there are times, like the last time I was leaving Kam's and had to catch a flight out kind of quickie.I definitely love sex with a person that I connect with really well the best no matter how much time we have. It's so great knowing you can make a person you care about feel that good. I also love his expression when he makes me come. It's so nice to know that he cares and you can see it, in eyes....And of course in his kiss. I love the way he kisses.
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| July 23, 2012, 04:27 |
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onehornee
64 / male
69'sDevine, Michigan, US
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Re: One's 2 cents worth
I agree,the best kind I like for all nite long would consist of various types,and little cat naps in between,it can be awsome to throw the clock away for the weekend,and let it happen as it will,the marothon stuff has its place,but lets face it I have to make a living,even tho I have worked on self conrol.im not an athlete in body conditioning,all nite long would likely leave me unable to work the next day due to overworked back and leg muscles.yea Im getting old, but some things actually get better with age,I had some old scotch a while Ago lol
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| July 23, 2012, 15:57 |
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