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onehornee
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69'sDevine, Michigan, US
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Anxiety?
Thought i should post this as I feel Anxiety can really effect all of us at one time or another.I was chatting with a friend the other day,and had noticed something that really Impressed me.So much I feel compelled to share with you..
I was blown away by there abilty to eliminate stress and anxiety from there daily life,Well as much as humanly possible, I have always been interested in a lifestyle without undue stress,drama, and anxiety,I think most would be, so seeing them benefiting from there efforts really struck me as awsome,and made me rethink my goals as i begin my new life after separation.
I hope I am as successful as they have been, I know after seeing them as a work in progress, im putting the effort towards this mindset also.Just knowing someone has had enough backbone to stick with it gives me the drive i need to give it my best.
Man would I love a life without homemade or Imported Anxiety,stress or conflict,wooohooo..
the red zone is for anxiety only, thers no anxiety in the white zone lol
oh BTW my house is almost all the way in the white zone now, A few more weeks and its all white baby lol..lmfao..
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| June 1, 2012, 23:38 |
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Re: Anxiety?
QUOTE (onehornee @ June 1, 2012, 23:38)Thought i should post this as I feel Anxiety can really effect all of us at one time or another.I was chatting with a friend the other day,and had noticed something that really Impressed me.So much I feel compelled to share with you..
I was blown away by there abilty to eliminate stress and anxiety from there daily life,Well as much as humanly possible, I have always been interested in a lifestyle without undue stress,drama, and anxiety,I think most would be, so seeing them benefiting from there efforts really struck me as awsome,and made me rethink my goals as i begin my new life after separation.
I hope I am as successful as they have been, I know after seeing them as a work in progress, im putting the effort towards this mindset also.Just knowing someone has had enough backbone to stick with it gives me the drive i need to give it my best.
Man would I love a life without homemade or Imported Anxiety,stress or conflict,wooohooo..
the red zone is for anxiety only, thers no anxiety in the white zone lol
oh BTW my house is almost all the way in the white zone now, A few more weeks and its all white baby lol..lmfao..
i think ya picked the wrong occupation for a stressfree or low stress life. ---lol Wish ya good luck with that.
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| June 2, 2012, 00:03 |
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onehornee
64 / male
69'sDevine, Michigan, US
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Re: Re: Anxiety?
QUOTE (OOMG @ June 2, 2012, 00:03) QUOTE (onehornee @ June 1, 2012, 23:38)Thought i should post this as I feel Anxiety can really effect all of us at one time or another.I was chatting with a friend the other day,and had noticed something that really Impressed me.So much I feel compelled to share with you..
I was blown away by there abilty to eliminate stress and anxiety from there daily life,Well as much as humanly possible, I have always been interested in a lifestyle without undue stress,drama, and anxiety,I think most would be, so seeing them benefiting from there efforts really struck me as awsome,and made me rethink my goals as i begin my new life after separation.
I hope I am as successful as they have been, I know after seeing them as a work in progress, im putting the effort towards this mindset also.Just knowing someone has had enough backbone to stick with it gives me the drive i need to give it my best.
Man would I love a life without homemade or Imported Anxiety,stress or conflict,wooohooo..
the red zone is for anxiety only, thers no anxiety in the white zone lol
oh BTW my house is almost all the way in the white zone now, A few more weeks and its all white baby lol..lmfao..
i think ya picked the wrong occupation for a stressfree or low stress life. ---lol Wish ya good luck with that.
Yes I know OOMG trucking is enough to kill the weak just from exposure lol,after nearly 3 decades tho man Im getting numb to even being cutt off these days.lol
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| June 2, 2012, 00:20 |
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Re: Re: Re: Anxiety?
QUOTE (onehornee @ June 2, 2012, 00:20) QUOTE (OOMG @ June 2, 2012, 00:03) QUOTE (onehornee @ June 1, 2012, 23:38)Thought i should post this as I feel Anxiety can really effect all of us at one time or another.I was chatting with a friend the other day,and had noticed something that really Impressed me.So much I feel compelled to share with you..
I was blown away by there abilty to eliminate stress and anxiety from there daily life,Well as much as humanly possible, I have always been interested in a lifestyle without undue stress,drama, and anxiety,I think most would be, so seeing them benefiting from there efforts really struck me as awsome,and made me rethink my goals as i begin my new life after separation.
I hope I am as successful as they have been, I know after seeing them as a work in progress, im putting the effort towards this mindset also.Just knowing someone has had enough backbone to stick with it gives me the drive i need to give it my best.
Man would I love a life without homemade or Imported Anxiety,stress or conflict,wooohooo..
the red zone is for anxiety only, thers no anxiety in the white zone lol
oh BTW my house is almost all the way in the white zone now, A few more weeks and its all white baby lol..lmfao..
i think ya picked the wrong occupation for a stressfree or low stress life. ---lol Wish ya good luck with that. Yes I know OOMG trucking is enough to kill the weak just from exposure lol,after nearly 3 decades tho man Im getting numb to even being cutt off these days.lol
I keep mine as far away from everyone as possible.
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| June 2, 2012, 00:31 |
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kamarel
60 / male
Alexandria, Louisiana, US
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Re: Anxiety?
QUOTE (onehornee @ June 1, 2012, 23:38)Thought i should post this as I feel Anxiety can really effect all of us at one time or another.I was chatting with a friend the other day,and had noticed something that really Impressed me.So much I feel compelled to share with you..
I was blown away by there abilty to eliminate stress and anxiety from there daily life,Well as much as humanly possible, I have always been interested in a lifestyle without undue stress,drama, and anxiety,I think most would be, so seeing them benefiting from there efforts really struck me as awsome,and made me rethink my goals as i begin my new life after separation.
I hope I am as successful as they have been, I know after seeing them as a work in progress, im putting the effort towards this mindset also.Just knowing someone has had enough backbone to stick with it gives me the drive i need to give it my best.
Man would I love a life without homemade or Imported Anxiety,stress or conflict,wooohooo..
the red zone is for anxiety only, thers no anxiety in the white zone lol
oh BTW my house is almost all the way in the white zone now, A few more weeks and its all white baby lol..lmfao..
2 things make that easier. One is to lose yourself in something. A girl, hobby, a project, anything. The second is to be ADD and always chase the next shiney thing that happens along.
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| June 2, 2012, 10:59 |
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kamarel
60 / male
Alexandria, Louisiana, US
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Re: Anxiety?
SQUIRREL!!!
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| June 2, 2012, 11:38 |
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onehornee
64 / male
69'sDevine, Michigan, US
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Re: Re: Anxiety?
QUOTE (kamarel @ June 2, 2012, 11:38)SQUIRREL!!!
lol Good point Kam..i love that cartoon
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| June 2, 2012, 11:54 |
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Re: Anxiety?
Kam nailed it. One main key to happiness is anticipation.
Whether it be a big or little thing. Always having something ahead of you to look forward to.
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| June 2, 2012, 12:13 |
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newbie1011
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The Shore, New Jersey, US
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Re: Re: Anxiety?
QUOTE (kamarel @ June 2, 2012, 11:38)SQUIRREL!!!
So basically I'm your squirrel? Hmmmm
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| June 2, 2012, 16:02 |
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Re: Anxiety?
I had a complete breakdown 2 years ago this month and now I realise it was the best thing that ever happened to me!
It taught me to take time for myself and that I wasn't supposed to spend all my time caring for everyone else and ignoring my own happiness.
It also made me realise who my true friends were and lots of other things. I really wouldn't be as content and confident as I am now without that mental kick up the butt.
But, it is a hell of thing to live with and accept as part of yourself.
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| June 2, 2012, 17:07 |
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onehornee
64 / male
69'sDevine, Michigan, US
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Re: Anxiety?
Yea what doesn't kill us makes us stronger.
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| June 2, 2012, 18:05 |
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kamarel
60 / male
Alexandria, Louisiana, US
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Re: Re: Re: Anxiety?
QUOTE (newbie1011 @ June 2, 2012, 16:02) QUOTE (kamarel @ June 2, 2012, 11:38)SQUIRREL!!!
So basically I'm your squirrel? Hmmmm
If you were my squirrel, i'd be chasing another by now.
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| June 2, 2012, 19:42 |
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sybianwatcher1
49 / male
Kamloops, British Columbia, Canada
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Re: Re: Anxiety?
QUOTE (josie34 @ June 2, 2012, 17:07)I had a complete breakdown 2 years ago this month and now I realise it was the best thing that ever happened to me!
It taught me to take time for myself and that I wasn't supposed to spend all my time caring for everyone else and ignoring my own happiness.
It also made me realise who my true friends were and lots of other things. I really wouldn't be as content and confident as I am now without that mental kick up the butt.
But, it is a hell of thing to live with and accept as part of yourself.
[/quote My family has an old german saying that roughly translates into" look after the homefires first"
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| June 2, 2012, 20:31 |
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Re: Anxiety?
It amounts to knowin' when to say, "fuck it" and lookout for yourself.
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| June 2, 2012, 21:05 |
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sybianwatcher1
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Kamloops, British Columbia, Canada
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Re: Re: Anxiety?
QUOTE (OOMG @ June 2, 2012, 21:05)It amounts to knowin' when to say, "fuck it" and lookout for yourself.
AMEN...brother
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| June 2, 2012, 21:13 |
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Re: Anxiety?
I'll add more. I use to be very shy while growing up. It's improved some, but not to where it should be. This has caused me many communication problems in life.
I use to try and help everyone when I was under 30. That's about when I realized that most people just want your help with something then tell ya to fuck off. Till they need help again.
I even have tried to help people to this day and seldom get a thanks. Most just blame stuff on me, even though it's thier doing.
the last company i had the truck at was this way. Not there now because i had the audacity to demad supporting documentation for settllement deductions. I was told that I was "overreacting and being unprofessional" I politely asked the bank to add Junes payment to the end of the loan to give me some time to get money built up. I was rejected on that and told that the bank manager was calling in the loan. I told the person i deal with there to go for it. :D
Well, I think I found a better company, but frankly would rather just let the truck go and live on disability.
Nothing seemms worth the effort now.
Seems to me that there's no loyalty from people or in business.
Oh, I do not find the ADD comment amusing at all. I've had that my entire life and it's not much fun.
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| June 2, 2012, 23:22 |
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sybianwatcher1
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Kamloops, British Columbia, Canada
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Re: Anxiety?
Well now OOMG I was the opposite, I was very outgoing and freindly,but when I was a little guy ,I had a stutter,and by my teenage years I became a target for the young guys , but the girls always thought I was O.K. I ended up joining a boxing club and then a martial arts dojo ,later on, by the time I was competeing for the Canadian championships,my confidence went up ,and my stutter went away,and the people who wanted to pick on me,well, they found out that is was easier to just leave me alone.I think in different businesses the boss that call the shots....sometimes... may be a bully in the business world ,and hide behind the fact that they are just doing "business" ,and don't acknowledge,or care about the far reaching affects of their "business" decisions..I was raised to defend the defenceless,and to help someone if you can,and ya your right,sometimes it would be nice for the people your helping to not think you have an alterior motive,and just say ...thank-you, but there are many people out there that i have found genuine,they have gone thru the same treatment as you,and don't trust to quickly, perhaps as a mechinism for self preservation.....oh and my stutter comes back once in a while,and guys don't make fun of it ever..and chicks they seem to dig it, fom what I've seen, you've absolutley nothing to be shy about
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| June 3, 2012, 00:43 |
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Thanks for that Syb. Glad you got thru that all ok.
I'm just me and that's something that most people refuse to take the time to find out. I'm not really that complicated. I just tend to think a bit different then most.
Pretty much think that after everything I've been thru. [both from others and myself] that it's not really worth tryin'
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| June 3, 2012, 01:01 |
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newbie1011
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The Shore, New Jersey, US
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Re: Anxiety?
Many years ago, my best friend told me no matter what I have going on in my life I should still take time just for me every day. Even if its only 10 minutes a day. She reminded me of that at every new stage of my life. When I got married she said "Don't make it all about him. If you are not happy you wont be good for yourself or him." When I had kids she said, the only way to be a good mother is to be happy with myself first then I can be a better mother to my children.We both have kids that are pretty much grown up and almost on their own but we have both always made time for ourselves and I think we have both been happier and better people for it. I have told my children to make sure they do the same in their life.It's so important to clear your head sometimes or relax your body or maybe even cry or punch a pillow. But you have to do something.
When Kam and I started seeing each other he was a bit concerned that it would bother me that he likes to have time to himself at times and just maybe go read or write or whatever he feels like doing.I smiled when he said that and was a bit relieved because I think he should do those things for one thing and because I do those things as well. I don't think just because your a couple you need to be together ever second of the day and joined at the hip. I believe its healthy to have some interests that are separate and all your own.
We have so much stress in life everyone needs a way to unwind.It makes me laugh every time when my doctor asks if I have a lot of stress.Doesn't everyone? The best is when they "recommend" we lower your stress as if you have a lot by choice.lol
I know my meds cause anxiety attacks and they SUCK BIG TIME! I can't imagine what people do that have them for long periods of time. At least most of mine only last a few minutes.
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| June 3, 2012, 03:48 |
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Ah, after reading a lot of these replies, I'm reminded of the old poem I believe it's called "The lady and the snake"
There are those of us that are taught or born with a quality (refuse to call it a flaw) We help when we can, whoever we can, even though we know sometimes those we help are just a snake that will bite us. It's just something in us that guides to do what we know and believe is the right thing to do regardless of the consequences it may hold for us. Simply, we just believe in doing the right thing, not just the right thing for us.
To see your compassion as a quality, and not to expect recognition or reward can bring one peace with themselves and the world.
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| June 3, 2012, 12:31 |
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onehornee
64 / male
69'sDevine, Michigan, US
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Re: Anxiety?
See the anxiety can run your life and cause great sadness.It's an unfortunate part of what molds us into who we are,I would stress this point tho.
Remember what doesnt KIll us Makes Us stronger,And I really believe that sometimes the flaws we posess are what makes us More charming ,likeable person.
I was a strapping lad from a farming life when I was forced into city life at 14,I hated the city kids, They used to bully and hurt eachother all the time,I was taught to respect everyone regardless of color or background.
Eventually i couldnt stand by and watch the bullying and Became Something I couldnt stand myself.For a short time I became the Bully to all those preying on the weak.It takes you to a bad place even if for the right reasons,I was solid muscle from long days of extremely hard work.so it was an easy task physically,but the emotional payout for what I did to try and balance the scale is something i still wrestle with.
I should add tho, I had done a great justice for those I helped ,but for the bullies I think i went to far doling out my idea of justice.Its hard to take back an ass whooping you gave someone because they were hurting a weak kid,shaking them down or just stealing there things.Cmon taking a Kids Money,Stealing there lunch and throwing it in the trash,Embarrassing them in front of a croud for sport?WTF
Anyone that has suffered bullying I appologize, I had my time In this light but only as a defence of those that could not defend themselves.
If ever you meet me you meet me these days You will find I am a respectful individual with values from a time past when everyone deserves respect until they prove otherwise.
One
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| June 3, 2012, 13:31 |
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newbie1011
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The Shore, New Jersey, US
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Re: Anxiety?
Sorry I understand that you had a bad experience in the city you were in but as a "City girl" I have to stand up and say we aren't all disrespectful or bullies. I know NONE of my friends or family were disrespectful of bullies. There are good and bad everywhere.Just because in the city there is a more concentrated amount of people and maybe we do tend to be a bit more aggressive and forward doesn't make us rude or bullies. I would have been smacked by my mother in a heart beat if I ever acted that way. It was just and still is unacceptable. I wasn't even allowed to say "she" referring to my my mom or my grandparents. I wasn't allowed to have "A tone" in my voice that was thought to be rude. To this day my mom still feels that way and would have no problem telling any of us if she thought we were being rude. She was always very strict with us.
I know you didn't mean it to be all city people but I feel like I hear that so often I had to say something. It's just as bad as saying all old people are grumpy. Most people are very shocked to find that NY'rs are not the stereotype they had in their imagination but quite the contrary. We also don't all sound like Fran Drescher.Trust me if I spoke like she did my mother and father would have sent me to a school that specialized in corrective speech and Kam would not be dating me because he hates her voice and accent.
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| June 3, 2012, 17:27 |
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onehornee
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69'sDevine, Michigan, US
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Re: Re: Anxiety?
QUOTE (newbie1011 @ June 3, 2012, 17:27)Sorry I understand that you had a bad experience in the city you were in but as a "City girl" I have to stand up and say we aren't all disrespectful or bullies. I know NONE of my friends or family were disrespectful of bullies. There are good and bad everywhere.Just because in the city there is a more concentrated amount of people and maybe we do tend to be a bit more aggressive and forward doesn't make us rude or bullies. I would have been smacked by my mother in a heart beat if I ever acted that way. It was just and still is unacceptable. I wasn't even allowed to say "she" referring to my my mom or my grandparents. I wasn't allowed to have "A tone" in my voice that was thought to be rude. To this day my mom still feels that way and would have no problem telling any of us if she thought we were being rude. She was always very strict with us.
I know you didn't mean it to be all city people but I feel like I hear that so often I had to say something. It's just as bad as saying all old people are grumpy. Most people are very shocked to find that NY'rs are not the stereotype they had in their imagination but quite the contrary. We also don't all sound like Fran Drescher.Trust me if I spoke like she did my mother and father would have sent me to a school that specialized in corrective speech and Kam would not be dating me because he hates her voice and accent.
yea that came out to wide band,in actuality i was defending weak kids from bullies ,very few of us where country in that situation,sorry i said it that way, but arent all old people grumpy lol,.. j/k lol
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| June 3, 2012, 21:52 |
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I like NY'rs. Mostly upstate "joisy" too. Like the humor. Many people get the wrong idea because those that live there tend to see how you react to them. Like to see how much you can tolerate. Nothing mean about it.
Much prefer the "in your face" to pretent.
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| June 3, 2012, 22:01 |
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Aw onehornee, Don't beat yourself up over that. It's not a city or country thing, it's a kid thing. We had horrible bullies in school. When things happen to kids and they do not have the adult tools to deal with it, they act out. The mean or bully kids I grew up with, I saw and knew what was going on in their homes, they were not mean or evil, they were just kids with fighting or divorced parents, strict parents, they were always moving around and always the "new kid" etc....they were just kids acting out because of things they could not fix or control.
Talked about it a few times, but science seems to prove that humans do not fully develop a full frontal cortex untill they are in their early 20s, newer studiees now say not until wear are nearing 40. No one can expect kids to act like anything but kids. We should all cut ourselves some slack of who we were then. Them is gone, it's what we have grown to be and growing to be.
You seem to be born with a strong social conscience and when you needed to act out, you did according to your personality. You're a good person, a good man. I sure would feel so bad if a bad regretable phase of childhood is still weighing heavy on you.
I remember when my little (late) bro would return home from the public park swimming pool in short time. Two bully boys would take his admission money so he would have to come straight back home...until one day when I was home, he reluctanly told me about it, so I grabbed my babysitting money, walked him hand in hand right back, faced off his older bullies, he never had problem after that!
My older brother absolutely terrorised me growing up,but by gawd any one else even thought of trying any harm to me and he was there ready to battle.
Looking back with regret is normal, remembering the path that you have taken, makes walking the path ahead of you a little easier.
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| June 4, 2012, 14:18 |
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QUOTE (OOMG @ June 2, 2012, 23:22)
Oh, I do not find the ADD comment amusing at all. I've had that my entire life and it's not much fun.
I feel for ya, dear...we didn't have those diagnosis or medications when I attended school. One boy in particular to this day I do wonder how different his life could have been. He was an ADD child, he was treated horrible by students and teachers, he was a good hearted child, smart, never caused harm to anyone but was singled out and treated horribly because of his condition of ADD caused him to be a little different.
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| June 4, 2012, 14:31 |
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Ah sybie, one of my school besties, was a severe stutterer.
Fornutatly for him, he towered over all of us, so some did poke him at him too often and he did in hieght tower of all of us, but the boy did not have an oucne of violence or agression in him.
I had to have some special speech classes for a few months the first year in school. My mother has a Carolina souther dialect, and my main baby sitter had a very strong German accent. I sure did have a unique way of pronouncing some word.
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| June 4, 2012, 14:38 |
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NRG4U
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Re: Anxiety?
i was slow growing up, I was always the smallest boy in my class all through school, so naturally i was picked on quite a bit until i was in Jr Hi, when i was able to join the wrestling team, My older brothers were all district or regional champs & they used me to practice their moves, so when i was able to join the team, I already knew most of the moves, the only sport where size didn't matter, when i started winning tournaments & medals, the harassment stopped, suddenly i was a ok guy...lol After school when i went to OCS in the Air Force, i just shot up, i was getting new fatigues every week..lol I'd like to have been this size in school. I saw a few of the guys that used to pick on me 2 yrs ago at a classmates memorial, they had no clue who i was, i wasn't the 105 lb kid anymore
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| June 4, 2012, 20:50 |
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| June 4, 2012, 22:49 |
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Actually....just one last thing
We all rock! EVERYONE here and and especially those brave enough to tell their stories on this thread are braver than they think and personally to me - top people xxxx
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| June 4, 2012, 22:50 |
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NRG4U
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Beaver City, Nebraska, US
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QUOTE (Chazzy @ June 4, 2012, 14:31) QUOTE (OOMG @ June 2, 2012, 23:22)
Oh, I do not find the ADD comment amusing at all. I've had that my entire life and it's not much fun.
I feel for ya, dear...we didn't have those diagnosis or medications when I attended school. One boy in particular to this day I do wonder how different his life could have been. He was an ADD child, he was treated horrible by students and teachers, he was a good hearted child, smart, never caused harm to anyone but was singled out and treated horribly because of his condition of ADD caused him to be a little different.
As a kid I was & still am very hyper, only now Ive learned to control it more or less, Ive trained myself to harness all that energy into what i need to get done. But as a kid, with a huge surplus of energy, getting me to sit still in a class room was a near impossible task.At home i saw my brothers & sister use what seemed to be shovels of sugar on their cereal, dad always said "I'll get yours" & i would watch about 5 granules of sugar drop on my cereal, I got no soda pop, candy, or anything with a substantial amount of sugar the whole time I lived with my parents except at Christmas when mom would make peanut brittle. I understand what they was trying to do now, but as a little kid, i saw it as being singled out & not treated equal with my brothers.
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| June 4, 2012, 23:12 |
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newbie1011
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The Shore, New Jersey, US
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Re: Anxiety?
We all have our stories as Josie said. Sorry OOMG but I know Kam well enough to say he was not trying to be offensive. My family has several people with ADD as well as ADHD and a bunch of other things I refer to as alphabet soup. We joke about it all the time. We try to teach them to not be ashamed of who they are and that is part of them. They have been given the tools to overcome the things that have made things a challenge for then and they don't give up. Also as a little side note some of the most successful people have ADD, ADHD and Dyslexia just to name a few of the things I refered to in the alphabet soup. Mostly because people that have always had to work hard develop skills that others don't so they make great leaders.
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| June 5, 2012, 00:38 |
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QUOTE (newbie1011 @ June 5, 2012, 00:38)We all have our stories as Josie said. Sorry OOMG but I know Kam well enough to say he was not trying to be offensive. My family has several people with ADD as well as ADHD and a bunch of other things I refer to as alphabet soup. We joke about it all the time. We try to teach them to not be ashamed of who they are and that is part of them. They have been given the tools to overcome the things that have made things a challenge for then and they don't give up. Also as a little side note some of the most successful people have ADD, ADHD and Dyslexia just to name a few of the things I refered to in the alphabet soup. Mostly because people that have always had to work hard develop skills that others don't so they make great leaders.
Sure is nice you had to apploigize for him. I'm very well aware of ADD/ADHD, it's effects on people. some do become sucessful in thier chosen career field. However, those are also rare and in most cases, we are ridiculed thruout life for being hyper active. Those tools you mentioned, well most docs only want to put a person on meds that make ya like a zombie.
I was told in my youth by a "shrink" to grow up. so much for help. Granted, ADD and ADHD weren't widley known then. We were just called stupid.
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| June 5, 2012, 00:44 |
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onehornee
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69'sDevine, Michigan, US
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Re: Anxiety?
Its a rough thing to live with, my nephew and my younger brother have ADD,my younger brother wrote upside down and backwards as a lefty better then i could write normally as a righty,took alot of work in school to get him writing normally.I know another with short term memory loss, they sometimes will ask things over and over,as if you nevr told them, I figure its not done intentionally and will tell them as often as they ask without hesitation,and without loosing patience.like i said before our quirks really are what make us the person we are, it adds to the personal charm we possess. personally I for one am very glad we are all so different from lifes experiences.It makes us all more interesting and fun to be around.
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| June 5, 2012, 13:12 |
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From all of our years here, if OOMG had not mentioned his ADHD, I would never have known.
To me, he's always been a good person, quick with the one liners, and seems to have a strong ability to absorb and retain facts and information, strongly opinionated but open to change his opinions if facts or expericience persuades him.
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| June 5, 2012, 13:20 |
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I have a low tolerance of people who make disparaging remarks about someones impairments/disabilities. Always have. Usually shows how little they think before saying or writting something.
Thanks to Chazzy and one for the insight and compliments
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| June 5, 2012, 14:07 |
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onehornee
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69'sDevine, Michigan, US
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Re: Anxiety?
no problem OOMG, i spent my first 17 yrs at the bad end of predjudice,As i am a halfbreed.The odd thing is, My first 17 yrs I looked like an Indian boy,from our blood,then later after that I somehow appeared like a normal white kid.Myself and a latino girl were really hot for eachother at 15yrs,her family didnt approve because they didnt want her with a halfbreed indian kid, funny to look back at but it shattered me as a teen, She was easily the pretties lady I have ever known ,we snuck around until her dad threatened to kill me, then they never left her alone again, and we were forced to go without eachother.sad shit from a timegone by,If you look at my pic in the profile I bet you would never think i was a half breed indian kid back then funny how shit changes over time.sucky part is they moved and i could never find her when i was old enough to pass her dads standards.the shit we experience must be for a greater good somehow later on in life.at least it seems easier looking back with that belief.,what doesnt kill us makes us stronger.
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| June 5, 2012, 22:39 |
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That is sad one----I was raised to not be prejudice for any reason. The local "native americans" were constnatly looked down on and harassed. Made me sad and I defended them when I could.
When WI allowed "indian casinos", I found it truly amazing how many of those prejudic against the "natives" now wanted them as friends.
Funny how things change.
As far as the girl, that is sad. There's one from my past I wish I could find. Have no idea where she is now. 
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| June 5, 2012, 22:52 |
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newbie1011
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The Shore, New Jersey, US
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QUOTE (OOMG @ June 5, 2012, 00:44) QUOTE (newbie1011 @ June 5, 2012, 00:38)We all have our stories as Josie said. Sorry OOMG but I know Kam well enough to say he was not trying to be offensive. My family has several people with ADD as well as ADHD and a bunch of other things I refer to as alphabet soup. We joke about it all the time. We try to teach them to not be ashamed of who they are and that is part of them. They have been given the tools to overcome the things that have made things a challenge for then and they don't give up. Also as a little side note some of the most successful people have ADD, ADHD and Dyslexia just to name a few of the things I refered to in the alphabet soup. Mostly because people that have always had to work hard develop skills that others don't so they make great leaders.
Sure is nice you had to apploigize for him. I'm very well aware of ADD/ADHD, it's effects on people. some do become sucessful in thier chosen career field. However, those are also rare and in most cases, we are ridiculed thruout life for being hyper active. Those tools you mentioned, well most docs only want to put a person on meds that make ya like a zombie.
I was told in my youth by a "shrink" to grow up. so much for help. Granted, ADD and ADHD weren't widley known then. We were just called stupid.
Just to clarify, I did not and never will apologize for Kam or anyone else. I would have to think he did something wrong and I don't. I was trying to explain that not everyone feels that having something like ADD or ADHD is such a bad thing nor do we feel we should be embarrassed by it. Joking about it also takes the stigma away in my opinion.I can't tell you how to feel, I can only tell you how my family and I have always dealt with it.
And for the record your experience was very different than mine and my family.Only one person out of several is on meds because he needs them and he is not a zombie because that would mean his dose it to high. I would chose a different doctor if I had your experience.Things have changed a lot with the treatment of ADD and ADHD in the last 30 years. ADD and ADHD are not the same thing for those who don't know.
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| June 6, 2012, 01:55 |
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kamarel
60 / male
Alexandria, Louisiana, US
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| June 6, 2012, 02:06 |
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Kam, I'm glad you have excelled so well with your ADD. One other thing that you failed to mention is we like things explained. Clarification.
Not everyone is the same and we all know that. I do laugh at myself rather often and like to see others that can too.
Newbie, you need to reread what you originally wrote.
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| June 6, 2012, 11:40 |
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There is no perfection in humans. No one's lineage carries perfect DNA. We all, each of us is no more than a mutant of our species. Every strand of DNA is flawed and full of junk that is not even identifiable.
It's all been a crap shoot throughout our history of who mated with who and ... here we are!
Each of us is a mutant, by now we should be more accepting of others.
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| June 6, 2012, 11:56 |
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QUOTE (Chazzy @ June 6, 2012, 11:56)There is no perfection in humans. No one's lineage carries perfect DNA. We all, each of us is no more than a mutant of our species. Every strand of DNA is flawed and full of junk that is not even identifiable.
It's all been a crap shoot throughout our history of who mated with who and ... here we are!
Each of us is a mutant, by now we should be more accepting of others.
Well darn. if we're all mutants, why are we Ninja Turtles?
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| June 6, 2012, 13:43 |
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onehornee
64 / male
69'sDevine, Michigan, US
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QUOTE (OOMG @ June 6, 2012, 13:43) QUOTE (Chazzy @ June 6, 2012, 11:56)There is no perfection in humans. No one's lineage carries perfect DNA. We all, each of us is no more than a mutant of our species. Every strand of DNA is flawed and full of junk that is not even identifiable.
It's all been a crap shoot throughout our history of who mated with who and ... here we are!
Each of us is a mutant, by now we should be more accepting of others.
Well darn. if we're all mutants, why are we Ninja Turtles?
lmfao OOMG, All these years I thought I was a little different, now I find out Im a mutant lol... maybe I got some super powers I can call on,you know like The X men?, I better look into the possibilities lol
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| June 6, 2012, 13:50 |
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perveman
111 / male
Tucson, Arizona, US
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Re: Anxiety?
I look at the bright side of having mutany status. If I knock some of the counter, I have 3 chances ti grab it with one of my hands.
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| June 6, 2012, 14:02 |
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onehornee
64 / male
69'sDevine, Michigan, US
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QUOTE (perveman @ June 6, 2012, 14:02)I look at the bright side of having mutany status. If I knock some of the counter, I have 3 chances ti grab it with one of my hands.
lmfao Perve.
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| June 6, 2012, 14:26 |
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QUOTE (onehornee @ June 6, 2012, 13:50) QUOTE (OOMG @ June 6, 2012, 13:43) QUOTE (Chazzy @ June 6, 2012, 11:56)There is no perfection in humans. No one's lineage carries perfect DNA. We all, each of us is no more than a mutant of our species. Every strand of DNA is flawed and full of junk that is not even identifiable.
It's all been a crap shoot throughout our history of who mated with who and ... here we are!
Each of us is a mutant, by now we should be more accepting of others.
Well darn. if we're all mutants, why are we Ninja Turtles? lmfao OOMG, All these years I thought I was a little different, now I find out Im a mutant lol... maybe I got some super powers I can call on,you know like The X men?, I better look into the possibilities lol
I love Mutant Ninja Turtles! and X-Men! OOMG and ONE as pizza eating turtles are now my favourite superheros ever
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| June 6, 2012, 14:41 |
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perveman
111 / male
Tucson, Arizona, US
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QUOTE (onehornee @ June 6, 2012, 14:26) QUOTE (perveman @ June 6, 2012, 14:02)I look at the bright side of having mutany status. If I knock some of the counter, I have 3 chances ti grab it with one of my hands. lmfao Perve.
. Did I mentiion, I can also see behind me? I can watch my own back.
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| June 6, 2012, 15:01 |
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onehornee
64 / male
69'sDevine, Michigan, US
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QUOTE (josie34 @ June 6, 2012, 14:41) QUOTE (onehornee @ June 6, 2012, 13:50) QUOTE (OOMG @ June 6, 2012, 13:43) QUOTE (Chazzy @ June 6, 2012, 11:56)There is no perfection in humans. No one's lineage carries perfect DNA. We all, each of us is no more than a mutant of our species. Every strand of DNA is flawed and full of junk that is not even identifiable.
It's all been a crap shoot throughout our history of who mated with who and ... here we are!
Each of us is a mutant, by now we should be more accepting of others.
Well darn. if we're all mutants, why are we Ninja Turtles? lmfao OOMG, All these years I thought I was a little different, now I find out Im a mutant lol... maybe I got some super powers I can call on,you know like The X men?, I better look into the possibilities lol
I love Mutant Ninja Turtles! and X-Men! OOMG and ONE as pizza eating turtles are now my favourite superheros ever
lmfao pizza eating ninja turtle, my game is improving lol
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| June 6, 2012, 15:04 |
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We're all mutated freaks really, we just prefer to call ourselves "unique individuals"....does bounce of the ears better.
Before we, any of us contribute inbred or cousin marrying to any stereotype, we should realize that in each of us is some ancient history from a village or tribe where inter family marriage was an only option.
Cousinfuckers? I've unfortunately known a few, they come from all walks, all backgrounds and they are literally someone who sees no ethical conflict with gettin' all partied up and fucking a cousin. It is not a trait of any race or culture, it is any person who's moral compass points that-away.
My genetic mutation? Some of my left internal organs did not fully develop while in the womb. Nothing hereditary, nothing my mother did, just a mutation that happens to some women.
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| June 6, 2012, 15:51 |
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