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onehornee
64 / male
69'sDevine, Michigan, US
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Scarred From/For Life !
I was talking to a good friend the other day about the scars we carry from different walks of our lives.
Many of us walk through daily life sporting the effects of either a rough life or unfortunate happenings or traumatic injuries,I myself would look like a rand mcnally atlas under a scar light,as would my good friend and many i know.
Myself I could walk past you and you would never know my most exposed scar hidden in plain sight.I havent shaved off my beard since I got my Honorable discharge back in 1991 it hides my most obvious one.
Im not ashamed of my scars ,its just easier to avoid the same old question being asked every time.We all have scars to bear, some are emotional some are Cosmetic If you have any I would try not to be ashamed of them,they are an important part of how we got to be who we are.And sometime a reminder of how things can effect us.
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| May 29, 2012, 13:33 |
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perveman
111 / male
Tucson, Arizona, US
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Re: Scarred From/For Life !
Spot in One. There are things in the past, I would not wish on ANYONE. Best things that happened to me, except one. Just a hint, born into a dirt poor family. What an advantage. never lose sight of your roots and the old saying, "When life gives you lemons, make lemonade.". In some cases, Cowboy lemonade. 
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| May 29, 2012, 13:43 |
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Re: Scarred From/For Life !
I have some scars on my left forearms and a few more on the right also.
At one point I was married and it was all 5 star resturants, dinner parties, golfing and country clubs. I divorced and later in a new relationship I ended up on a farm where I had to learn to cook with cast iron on a woodstove. That's where I got the burn scars. I also got a few deep cuts from doing farm chores like repairing the chicken coop.
I have on scar on the top of my left hand, it's in my some of baby/toddler photos, I asked much later on, how I got the rather large burn scar but Mom doesn't remember. I assume it was one of those lessons of "It's hot! Don't touch that! "
I do tone down the forearm scar with a little make-up in the summer because the white scars contrast greatly with my tanned skin.
I look at scars as tattoos of our life, they all and each have a story.
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| May 29, 2012, 14:45 |
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NRG4U
63 / male
Beaver City, Nebraska, US
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Re: Scarred From/For Life !
well i think everyone here knows i was burned in a explosion & i have huge scars on both legs from the skin grafts. I was so scared id be scared badly i wouldnt even let my parents see me when i was bandaged like a mummy
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| May 29, 2012, 15:57 |
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sybianwatcher1
49 / male
Kamloops, British Columbia, Canada
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Re: Scarred From/For Life !
This is very hard for me to talk about...For me I think the emotional scars are the worst......when I look in the mirror every morning,with my shirt off, I remember what happened over there, when I was taken prisoner by the Taliban.....there is only one person here on this site that knows what truly happened,and she helped me to cope when I needed it the most. I am currently undergoing surgeries now to get rid of them on my chest,and I am looking at it as a emotional healing .....a time to move on.I also have some scars from my life here,one on my leg from a horse,one on my other leg from a bear,and many small facial ones I wear as badges of honour, from different conflicts ,or accidents,but it is the ones on my chest that emotionally cut me deepest......you see a soldier I heard of a week before had the same wounds,but wasn't lucky enough to get away, like I did,.they found him hanging by his neck from a bridge,and for a while it sent me into that ,survivors guilt thing they talk about,......thanks One ...I know why you posted this,and to the young lady who convinced me not to go back..I owe you more than you'll ever know....now I am trying to find the courage to click submit reply
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| May 29, 2012, 18:27 |
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Re: Scarred From/For Life !
Scars like the ones you guys carry on here and some of my friends in the Armed Forces and Emergency Services here are nothing to be ashamed of or hide.
The outside of us is not what makes us who we are. It is what is inside and the horrors that you have faced and gone beyond are what make you the true heros that you are to me.
Everyone in life carries something and like many people on here, I found a friend here who got me through so much. The scars outside or in are part of us and anyone that loves us loves them all too.
So....Free you know it was you and your music that got me through my darkest days and for that alone I will always love you xx
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| May 29, 2012, 20:18 |
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onehornee
64 / male
69'sDevine, Michigan, US
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Re: Re: Scarred From/For Life !
QUOTE (sybianwatcher1 @ May 29, 2012, 18:27)This is very hard for me to talk about...For me I think the emotional scars are the worst......when I look in the mirror every morning,with my shirt off, I remember what happened over there, when I was taken prisoner by the Taliban.....there is only one person here on this site that knows what truly happened,and she helped me to cope when I needed it the most. I am currently undergoing surgeries now to get rid of them on my chest,and I am looking at it as a emotional healing .....a time to move on.I also have some scars from my life here,one on my leg from a horse,one on my other leg from a bear,and many small facial ones I wear as badges of honour, from different conflicts ,or accidents,but it is the ones on my chest that emotionally cut me deepest......you see a soldier I heard of a week before had the same wounds,but wasn't lucky enough to get away, like I did,.they found him hanging by his neck from a bridge,and for a while it sent me into that ,survivors guilt thing they talk about,......thanks One ...I know why you posted this,and to the young lady who convinced me not to go back..I owe you more than you'll ever know....now I am trying to find the courage to click submit reply
Sy your not alone as long as we are here.Brother that young lady is truley your gaurdian angel .Sorry for the shakeup bud just wanted you to know we all care..
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| May 30, 2012, 03:17 |
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GG317
60 / male
Bowl of Granola, Massachusetts, US
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Re: Scarred From/For Life !
My scars all tell me something..."Hey stupid, get the fuck outta the way!!!..."  
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| May 30, 2012, 04:16 |
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Re: Scarred From/For Life !
Dear Sybie, I've only seen you mention the taliban thing once before. I have spent many hours listening and talking with vets of wars and condlicts. Most were the WW11, Korean confict an Vietnam. I learned to be there and allow them to decide when they wanted to talk about itl.
The WW11 vets friends are gone now, I am so grateful for the time I got to spend with them, and that I was able to give them some peace with themselves before finally leaving this earth.
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| May 30, 2012, 11:15 |
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onehornee
64 / male
69'sDevine, Michigan, US
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Re: Re: Scarred From/For Life !
QUOTE (Chazzy @ May 30, 2012, 11:15)Dear Sybie, I've only seen you mention the taliban thing once before. I have spent many hours listening and talking with vets of wars and condlicts. Most were the WW11, Korean confict an Vietnam. I learned to be there and allow them to decide when they wanted to talk about itl.
The WW11 vets friends are gone now, I am so grateful for the time I got to spend with them, and that I was able to give them some peace with themselves before finally leaving this earth.
you are such a sweet soul Chazzy, your hubby is one lucky man.. bless your heart girl.
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| May 31, 2012, 03:07 |
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sybianwatcher1
49 / male
Kamloops, British Columbia, Canada
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Re: Re: Re: Scarred From/For Life !
QUOTE (onehornee @ May 31, 2012, 03:07) QUOTE (Chazzy @ May 30, 2012, 11:15)Dear Sybie, I've only seen you mention the taliban thing once before. I have spent many hours listening and talking with vets of wars and condlicts. Most were the WW11, Korean confict an Vietnam. I learned to be there and allow them to decide when they wanted to talk about itl.
The WW11 vets friends are gone now, I am so grateful for the time I got to spend with them, and that I was able to give them some peace with themselves before finally leaving this earth. you are such a sweet soul Chazzy, your hubby is one lucky man.. bless your heart girl.
what he said......
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| May 31, 2012, 16:46 |
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