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BigDaddyJ
45 / male
Springfield, Massachusetts, US
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Not exactly naughty but I look forward to hearing what you think
So a few weeks ago I was surfing a dating site and I came across this picture of a women. As soon as I looked at her picture I thought she was so beautiful I had to say something to her. So I messaged her and I know she read it and she didn't reply. I didn't think much of it and moved on. A few days later I saw her profile again with a new picture she just looked so pretty. The picture was just a head shot nothing naughty very simple and tasteful almost ordinary but to me... she was breath taking. The hopeless romantic in me couldn't let it be. So I wrote her a poem about how beautiful she was. Im not sure if it was any good but there it was. She read it. Well that was a weeks ago and every time I run across her on line I write her a new poem. Just the poem nothing more simple tasteful poetry about her beauty in my eyes. Well She's read them all I'm sure about that but never once responded to any. Not that it really matters because she honestly inspires me. My question to you all should i continue sending them to her or am i just being annoying?  
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| February 3, 2012, 19:52 |
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newbie1011
62 / female
The Shore, New Jersey, US
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Re: Not exactly naughty but I look forward to hearing what you think
Honestly after about 3 I would start to feel like it was a stalker type thing. She hasn't responded she is not interested.
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| February 3, 2012, 20:07 |
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BigDaddyJ
45 / male
Springfield, Massachusetts, US
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Re: Not exactly naughty but I look forward to hearing what you think
well that about where I am at. Trying to decide if I'm being a stalker or if it's still romantic. I never ask her to respond all I do is send the poem.
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| February 3, 2012, 20:10 |
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newbie1011
62 / female
The Shore, New Jersey, US
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Re: Not exactly naughty but I look forward to hearing what you think
There is always the presumption that you want a response when you send a message to a women on a dating site.
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| February 3, 2012, 20:35 |
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kamarel
60 / male
Alexandria, Louisiana, US
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Re: Not exactly naughty but I look forward to hearing what you think
Write them poem, if your inspired. Keep a copy for yourself. Send it to her if you want, just don't expect a response.
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| February 4, 2012, 00:21 |
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BigDaddyJ
45 / male
Springfield, Massachusetts, US
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Re: Not exactly naughty but I look forward to hearing what you think
I didn't and don't I'm a hopeless romantic. I always liked the idea of the old romances...anybody know what I mean. Cyrano de Bergerac kinda stuff. I'm just enjoying the inspiration. thanks for understanding Kam I was kinda starting to feel like a creep about it.
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| February 4, 2012, 00:55 |
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Re: Not exactly naughty but I look forward to hearing what you think
I'll go back to my earlier comparison. There are women who will dress extremely slutty/sexy to go out to a bar or club just to see how much attention they can get, they love being looked at, they love being hit on, they love the free drinks but have no intention of going home with any man but get some thrill from rejecting the offers.
This practice happens online too, they post photos, the log in and all they want is that attention, see how many messages they get, to read and revel in the compliments but have no intention of ever replying to anyone, regardless of how graphic their photos and profile may be.
I don't know this woman, can't say this is the case but if it is, you're both getting what you want from it, you exercise and share your creativity and she's getting the attention she wants.
I can speak for myself, I'm just not into poetry that much.
That could also be the case for woman you posted about.
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| February 4, 2012, 15:02 |
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newbie1011
62 / female
The Shore, New Jersey, US
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Re: Not exactly naughty but I look forward to hearing what you think
Chazzy made an interesting point.I think most people like having their ego fed. Kam did and does what you do in a way. He sends a nice email with his thoughts and/or stories. I know I loved his creativity. I think its fine if you do it the first few times. I just feel that if it continues past three times it starts to get creepy IF its someone who obviously has shown no interest in return.The thing is she can put you on her ignore list if it becomes an issue. I think by posting things like this it does give her an opportunity to maybe read this and understand what your intentions are. That can help.
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| February 4, 2012, 17:26 |
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Re: Not exactly naughty but I look forward to hearing what you think
We do have several women here, they have been here since the site opened and log in everyday. Many have written them over the years but I've yet to hear of anyone ever getting a reply from them.
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| February 4, 2012, 17:42 |
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BigDaddyJ
45 / male
Springfield, Massachusetts, US
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Re: Not exactly naughty but I look forward to hearing what you think
i feel i need to clarify a few things. First, she isn't a member her as far as I know. Also, the site I "met" her on shows when your messages are and and deleted. she has read all of them and not deleted them. Not that it6 matters but I kinda take it as what chazzy was talking about.
I have sent 4 messages. I kinda thought it would be fun to keep this little game up till valentines day. thanks everybody for the honesty and advice.
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| February 4, 2012, 19:15 |
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Re: Not exactly naughty but I look forward to hearing what you think
You could be a romantic stalker.
Write the poem and keep it. She apparently isn't interested so save it for someone who is.
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| February 4, 2012, 19:54 |
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BigDaddyJ
45 / male
Springfield, Massachusetts, US
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Re: Not exactly naughty but I look forward to hearing what you think
STATUS UPDATE: she loved the poems. we met today for the first time. She is even more beautiful then her pictures. We had a fantastic time and talked for hours.I read all the poems i wrote to her.and we shared a bottle of wine. We talked about politics, music, science, spirituality, and our families. She is an amazing women. Masters of child psychology specializing with autistic children. Turns out she loves poetry. We both love Jazz music she even plays a little jazz piano. I am so happy right now. I can honestly say I've never felt like this about anyone. Who ever said romance is dead  
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| February 14, 2012, 08:15 |
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perveman
111 / male
Tucson, Arizona, US
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Re: Re: Not exactly naughty but I look forward to hearing what you think
QUOTE (BigDaddyJ @ February 14, 2012, 08:15)
Good for you. Happy Valentines Day.
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| February 14, 2012, 10:57 |
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Re: Not exactly naughty but I look forward to hearing what you think
Ah, that's fantastic!
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| February 14, 2012, 13:03 |
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