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BigDaddyJ
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I don't mean to get off on a rant.
this site is web naughty. I've been reading these forums for awhile now and I've noticed they have become a dumping ground for inane blather. I mean what ever happen to the naughty in web naughty. Look at all the other forums, other then General discussion, only a few post a week are added to them and even fewer are ever responded to. I'm not trying to put anyone down for the stuff they post in the forums but many of the people i speak to feel this site isn't what it use to be. In my opinion the problem lay in the forums. They have always been the life blood of this site.The main and judging by the traffic in the chat rooms the only reason anyone ever comes here anymore. Maybe it be a good idea to remember the purpose of this site and maybe start treating it like an adult website and not just somewhere we can vomit out what ever nonsensical bullshit comes to mind today....I mean isn't that what face book is for. To all you faithful poster of forum content please do not take this as a denouncement of all the things you post. Think of it as a giant  for all of us me included.  
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| February 1, 2012, 09:18 |
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Re: I don't mean to get off on a rant.
It's why General Discussion is not General Sexual Discussions.
Any General Discussions forum on an adult site that is labeled for sexual general discussions only gets dull and repetitive very quickly. How many times do you want to reply to "What's your favorite position" ... "when did you lose your virginity"..."Does size matter"... "Shaved or hairy" etc...
"Writer's Corner" does not always have erotic submissions. "Naughty Jokes" aren't always naughty. "Advice Line" is for anything you may want advice on, not just sexual or relationship problems.
General Discussions is a forum for discussing anything.
There's room for everyone, we don't run out of pages. If you want more sexually directed topics then post them.
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| February 1, 2012, 14:43 |
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Re: I don't mean to get off on a rant.
I remember when I joined. I was about the only one that posted anything in this forum that WASN'T sexually related. Like many sites, there was a lot of the "I want to fuck now, call me" type things.
I think it's nice that a least on this site, we can post what we feel and if people don't like it, they don't post something negative about the poster. I'm sure if you want that, you can find some other place.
The other forums are there for the sexual stuff and some even post sexual stuff in General Forum. I've yet to see any post abouta General in it though. 
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| February 1, 2012, 14:51 |
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ashkats
65 / couple
crystal falls, Michigan, US
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Re: I don't mean to get off on a rant.
and i thought we were all open minded about everything....
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| February 2, 2012, 00:08 |
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kamarel
60 / male
Alexandria, Louisiana, US
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Re: Re: I don't mean to get off on a rant.
QUOTE (OOMG @ February 1, 2012, 14:51)I remember when I joined. I was about the only one that posted anything in this forum that WASN'T sexually related. Like many sites, there was a lot of the "I want to fuck now, call me" type things.
I think it's nice that a least on this site, we can post what we feel and if people don't like it, they don't post something negative about the poster. I'm sure if you want that, you can find some other place.
The other forums are there for the sexual stuff and some even post sexual stuff in General Forum. I've yet to see any post abouta General in it though.
Was it any wonder Custer finished dead last in his class at West Point?
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| February 2, 2012, 00:55 |
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Liberalwife
47 / female
north, England, UK
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Re: I don't mean to get off on a rant.
Totally agree.. Big D..this site has lost it's plot!! 
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| February 2, 2012, 01:15 |
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Re: I don't mean to get off on a rant.
I think Free got it mixed in with his Cheetos
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| February 2, 2012, 01:17 |
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Iwant2kssuallovr
62 / female
Bendover, Florida, US
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Re: I don't mean to get off on a rant.
No one is stopping anyone from posting those post you think do the most. 
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| February 2, 2012, 01:20 |
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Re: I don't mean to get off on a rant.
I'll have to say, it's always the few that rarely ever... if ever post anything new that complain about those who do post regularly.
So not fair really, to blame the ones who do make the effort.
Everyone has a "new topic" button.
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| February 2, 2012, 01:26 |
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Liberalwife
47 / female
north, England, UK
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Re: I don't mean to get off on a rant.
I have posted lots,,when it was fun here, but that was then..and times change.
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| February 2, 2012, 01:32 |
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Re: I don't mean to get off on a rant.
I don't post near as much either, Lib. Times do change, I don't have the free time online that I use to.
I use to make the effort every freakin' day to post not only things that were of a personal interest to me, but a variety so there would be new topics for everyone. Sex, current events, deep pondering crap and goofy ass fun stuff...several new topics everyday.
Yep, things change.
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| February 2, 2012, 01:48 |
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newbie1011
62 / female
The Shore, New Jersey, US
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Re: I don't mean to get off on a rant.
I look at this the way I do TV or radio. I have the right not to give it my attention.If I don't like something I don't read it if I don't t like someone I don't communicate with them.if someone doesn't like my post you can choose not to read them.Personally I like the variety of threads. I get board with the same old thing. If the topic is something I am not interested in I skip it. The threads on here give us much more insite to the person as a whole, not just what position they like or if they like natural or fake tits,etc....
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| February 2, 2012, 03:28 |
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GG317
60 / male
Bowl of Granola, Massachusetts, US
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Re: Re: I don't mean to get off on a rant.
QUOTE (Chazzy @ February 1, 2012, 14:43)It's why General Discussion is not General Sexual Discussions.
Any General Discussions forum on an adult site that is labeled for sexual general discussions only gets dull and repetitive very quickly. How many times do you want to reply to "What's your favorite position" ... "when did you lose your virginity"..."Does size matter"... "Shaved or hairy" etc...
"Writer's Corner" does not always have erotic submissions. "Naughty Jokes" aren't always naughty. "Advice Line" is for anything you may want advice on, not just sexual or relationship problems.
General Discussions is a forum for discussing anything.
There's room for everyone, we don't run out of pages. If you want more sexually directed topics then post them.
Maybe we need one a, "General Sexual Discussions" section. So it will become a page or two of mundane blather on it's own but it would satisfy the masses on the subject...
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| February 2, 2012, 05:24 |
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BigDaddyJ
45 / male
Springfield, Massachusetts, US
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Re: I don't mean to get off on a rant.
Let me start off be restating I am not putting any one down for what they post on the forums. Speaking for myself I enjoy reading the post. I am happy that my post have spurred discussion on the issue i have raised. I belie Gentle giant has a great idea that may have some merit. I hope the powers that be take notice and realize the site is in need of a shake up.
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| February 2, 2012, 09:40 |
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newbie1011
62 / female
The Shore, New Jersey, US
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Re: I don't mean to get off on a rant.
I think the point that many have made is that you and anyone else can post anything you or they want here. They don't need to make a separate category. No one is stopping anyone from posting the type of posts you prefer. I am a bit confused as to the problem. I would say if you want it posted then post it. If I want to post something that's what I do. The fact that the majority of people have not posted the type of threads you prefer lately just says that was not the mindset they were in but doesn't stop anyone else from posting. If you post something and people are interested they will answer and add to it. They might even get a new idea for a new thread about the same subject.
I have found this as well as other sites go through cycles. Sometimes weather effects peoples moods or the economy or time of year or a billion other things. So spark something and others might follow. I know most of the "regulars" have tried many things to kick start the site when it seems to be in a slump.I personal like the verity of threads and it seems many feel the same. But I don't think anyone is apposed to a more sexually oriented thread it just that none of us have felt like starting any. I do think Free and Chazzy have both tried pulling up some older ones to see if that will get people interested again.
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| February 2, 2012, 11:15 |
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Re: I don't mean to get off on a rant.
As lib said it, things change.
We added the writer's corner because there was a time when members would come in everyday and post their poetry in GD.
I remember when the advice forum was added, every day in GD was someone else asking what cell phone and what cell pnone plan was the best.
Profile review forum came about when the GD would be flooded with women posting "Check out my pics ! "
LBGT forum started out well, some very good early topics but soon just turned into a message board of couples looking for a bi woman and most recently, just bi men looking for other men.
At one time, we played a lot of forum games, there would be several going on at once everyday. We did consider a game forum.
We have considered a sexual discussion forum here and there over the years. Unf and abs just felt that it would divide activity over two forums instead of boosting it in both. The way the trend is going right now, I'm guessing it would just fill up with "Any one in my area want to fuck ?" very quickly.
That seems to be the current trend, people don't want to become a part of a adult community, they want to post their personal ad here, come back to check on replies, if no replies they delete their account.
We could add a " hook up " or "Who else is in my area" kind of forum, I would guess hundreds of posts, not so many replies and a nightmare to edit for contact info.
Totally agree with Lib, things have changed. Not just here though. 10 years ago, the internet was quite new to a lot of us. All those hilarious humor bits we saw for the first time, kinda worn thin on us. The data on how men and women use the internet has changed rapidly over this decade. The computer is not just a porno cybersex machine anymore.
All the sites with forums I visit have gone through trends and changes over 10 years, the coupon sites, reward sites, my favorite geeky science sites, humor sites,other adult sites...all don't have the punch they use to have.
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| February 2, 2012, 13:41 |
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Re: I don't mean to get off on a rant.
Is there a "Like" button?
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| February 2, 2012, 13:56 |
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Re: Re: I don't mean to get off on a rant.
QUOTE (freensleazy @ February 2, 2012, 13:56)Is there a "Like" button?
If ya ad that, don't ya have to ad a "dislike" button too?
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| February 2, 2012, 13:58 |
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Re: I don't mean to get off on a rant.
Actually Free, that kinda sums it up. People don't focus on one thing anymore, it's just rapid multitasking now.
It's a "Like" this, tweet that, text, text some more, update status, "Like" that, text, tweet...it's the number, the quanity of "friends" and not the quality of the friendships.
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| February 2, 2012, 14:01 |
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Re: I don't mean to get off on a rant.
Exactly. I was mostly being sarcastic when I said it, but it's actually the truth. I'm not gonna lie, I checked out FB and Twitter. I TOTALLY don't get Twitter at all and cant figure out why some people are so addicted to it. And as for FB, I am amazed at how many people use it as a prime means of communication but even MORE amazed at things that people post as their status. So many things that the rest of the world DOESN'T need to know. A couple of weeks ago I was talking to a friend of mine, and whatever it was that I asked, she said "I'll FB you the answer". I told her to just call me instead because otherwise, I wouldn't get the answer. But just because I don't get it doesn't make it a bad thing.
Change happens in every aspect of life. However, that doesn't mean that whatever has changed should be discarded as just a memory. Change should be embraced and adapted for the current circumstances. That's called improvement. I hope that makes sense.
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| February 2, 2012, 14:33 |
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Re: Re: I don't mean to get off on a rant.
QUOTE (freensleazy @ February 2, 2012, 14:33)Exactly. I was mostly being sarcastic when I said it, but it's actually the truth. I'm not gonna lie, I checked out FB and Twitter. I TOTALLY don't get Twitter at all and cant figure out why some people are so addicted to it. And as for FB, I am amazed at how many people use it as a prime means of communication but even MORE amazed at things that people post as their status. So many things that the rest of the world DOESN'T need to know. A couple of weeks ago I was talking to a friend of mine, and whatever it was that I asked, she said "I'll FB you the answer". I told her to just call me instead because otherwise, I wouldn't get the answer. But just because I don't get it doesn't make it a bad thing.
Change happens in every aspect of life. However, that doesn't mean that whatever has changed should be discarded as just a memory. Change should be embraced and adapted for the current circumstances. That's called improvement. I hope that makes sense.
Applause, applause.
I wonder if those who tweet are called twits. 
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| February 2, 2012, 14:39 |
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Re: I don't mean to get off on a rant.
I agree, it's a survival thing...only those who can adapt to a changing enviroment, will survive.
There's a ton of sites with forums that I have been following for years, but at time goes, I need to check them less and less. Not enough activity daily. I check them maybe every couple of weeks and then maybe only a half a page of new content.
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| February 2, 2012, 14:39 |
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QUOTE (Chazzy @ February 2, 2012, 14:39)I agree, it's a survival thing...only those who can adapt to a changing enviroment, will survive.
There's a ton of sites with forums that I have been following for years, but at time goes, I need to check them less and less. Not enough activity daily. I check them maybe every couple of weeks and then maybe only a half a page of new content.
I wonder how people will communicate if [heaven forbid] we lose all electricity?
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| February 2, 2012, 14:40 |
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Re: Re: Re: I don't mean to get off on a rant.
QUOTE (OOMG @ February 2, 2012, 14:39) QUOTE (freensleazy @ February 2, 2012, 14:33)Exactly. I was mostly being sarcastic when I said it, but it's actually the truth. I'm not gonna lie, I checked out FB and Twitter. I TOTALLY don't get Twitter at all and cant figure out why some people are so addicted to it. And as for FB, I am amazed at how many people use it as a prime means of communication but even MORE amazed at things that people post as their status. So many things that the rest of the world DOESN'T need to know. A couple of weeks ago I was talking to a friend of mine, and whatever it was that I asked, she said "I'll FB you the answer". I told her to just call me instead because otherwise, I wouldn't get the answer. But just because I don't get it doesn't make it a bad thing.
Change happens in every aspect of life. However, that doesn't mean that whatever has changed should be discarded as just a memory. Change should be embraced and adapted for the current circumstances. That's called improvement. I hope that makes sense.
Applause, applause.
I wonder if those who tweet are called twits.
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| February 2, 2012, 14:45 |
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newbie1011
62 / female
The Shore, New Jersey, US
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Re: I don't mean to get off on a rant.
My daughter left her phone somewhere over night and it was like watching someone go through withdrawals because she couldn't keep in touch until she had her phone or computer in front of her and she isn't half as bad as most I've seen.
I love Facebook. My ex-husband and his wife both have accounts that I can see even if not on the friends list. He can't figure out how I find out about all the shit he tries to hide from me. I can't wait until the day when I can say "stupid you post it all on Facebook and if you don't your wife does!" But for now it helps me that they do.lol
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| February 2, 2012, 14:53 |
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Re: Re: I don't mean to get off on a rant.
QUOTE (newbie1011 @ February 2, 2012, 14:53)My daughter left her phone somewhere over night and it was like watching someone go through withdrawals because she couldn't keep in touch until she had her phone or computer in front of her and she isn't half as bad as most I've seen.
I love Facebook. My ex-husband and his wife both have accounts that I can see even if not on the friends list. He can't figure out how I find out about all the shit he tries to hide from me. I can't wait until the day when I can say "stupid you post it all on Facebook and if you don't your wife does!" But for now it helps me that they do.lol
Huh, wonder if he just read that.
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| February 2, 2012, 19:08 |
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newbie1011
62 / female
The Shore, New Jersey, US
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Re: Re: Re: I don't mean to get off on a rant.
QUOTE (OOMG @ February 2, 2012, 19:08) QUOTE (newbie1011 @ February 2, 2012, 14:53)My daughter left her phone somewhere over night and it was like watching someone go through withdrawals because she couldn't keep in touch until she had her phone or computer in front of her and she isn't half as bad as most I've seen.
I love Facebook. My ex-husband and his wife both have accounts that I can see even if not on the friends list. He can't figure out how I find out about all the shit he tries to hide from me. I can't wait until the day when I can say "stupid you post it all on Facebook and if you don't your wife does!" But for now it helps me that they do.lol
Huh, wonder if he just read that.
If I wasn't completely sure he wouldn't see it I definitely wouldn't post it unless I wanted him to see it.
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| February 2, 2012, 19:53 |
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TasteLikeCandy
39 / female
FunTownUSA, Massachusetts, US
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Re: I don't mean to get off on a rant.
I love this site. I think the biggest problem is being attacked when you go in the red room.
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| February 2, 2012, 21:49 |
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Re: Re: I don't mean to get off on a rant.
QUOTE (TasteLikeCandy @ February 2, 2012, 21:49)I love this site. I think the biggest problem is being attacked when you go in the red room.
Youre female. It's gonna happen.
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| February 2, 2012, 21:57 |
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TasteLikeCandy
39 / female
FunTownUSA, Massachusetts, US
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Re: I don't mean to get off on a rant.
thats just wrong free just because I'm a female doesn't make it right for everyone to bum rush you when your in the red room. I'm surprised that you seem to think its somehow ok
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| February 2, 2012, 22:01 |
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newbie1011
62 / female
The Shore, New Jersey, US
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Re: I don't mean to get off on a rant.
That happens on any adult site. If your female it is like you have a welcome scum of the earth sign on you.They come from everywhere. They are not all scum. I don't mind if they are nice but I hate the scum that get nasty if you turn them down.
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| February 2, 2012, 22:03 |
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Re: Re: I don't mean to get off on a rant.
QUOTE (newbie1011 @ February 2, 2012, 22:03)That happens on any adult site. If your female it is like you have a welcome scum of the earth sign on you.They come from everywhere. They are not all scum. I don't mind if they are nice but I hate the scum that get nasty if you turn them down.
What you talkin bout bitch?
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| February 2, 2012, 22:07 |
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newbie1011
62 / female
The Shore, New Jersey, US
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Re: Re: Re: I don't mean to get off on a rant.
QUOTE (freensleazy @ February 2, 2012, 22:07) QUOTE (newbie1011 @ February 2, 2012, 22:03)That happens on any adult site. If your female it is like you have a welcome scum of the earth sign on you.They come from everywhere. They are not all scum. I don't mind if they are nice but I hate the scum that get nasty if you turn them down.
What you talkin bout bitch?
See what I mean. He just wants me so bad he can't help himself.lmao
And for the record I have been called worse by better. 
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| February 2, 2012, 22:11 |
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kamarel
60 / male
Alexandria, Louisiana, US
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Re: Re: I don't mean to get off on a rant.
QUOTE (TasteLikeCandy @ February 2, 2012, 22:01)thats just wrong free just because I'm a female doesn't make it right for everyone to bum rush you when your in the red room. I'm surprised that you seem to think its somehow ok
Its not that he thinks its ok. Its just your out numbered at least 10 to 1. Guys are dumbasses to start with and a possible piece of ass, imagined or not, will get you stampeded. I've been in the red room and lobby chatting when some knucklehead hits on any fem in the room. By the time they get shot down to the time they finally shut up and leave I feel like I want to punch them in the head.
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| February 2, 2012, 23:05 |
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Re: I don't mean to get off on a rant.
When we first started, there was one single chatroom...what a mess. Casual chatters and cybersex chatters all trying to share one space, It was a constant source of conflict.
It took several years of arguing to finally get abs to agree to adding the Red Room. Having the two seperate rooms has solved most of our problems.
If you're in the red room which is labled for cybersex , then eveyone in there expects you to be open to cybersex . Which does not mean they are right to be rude and harrassing. If a woman takes the time to politely say no that should be respected. If a woman is not shown courtesy, she should not be expected to show courtesy. Once you say no and you experience any rudeness or harrassment use the "ignore" feature and block the jack ass. No woman should ever feel bad about freely using the ignore feature, it's there for you to use.
I totally agree with candy that it's not right to be ambushed by a mob the second you hit the red room, but I also agree with free...it's going to happen. There's just no way to stop a bunch of horny men on an adult site from being so anxious.
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| February 3, 2012, 16:07 |
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Re: I don't mean to get off on a rant.
Exactly, I never meant to imply that its ok. As Ive stated many times over the years, whether its a message or in a chat room, there is no reason to think that it's ok for a male to talk to a female in that way. Too many guys think that by being on this site is a guarantee to get laid . If they approached you like that in a club or a bar, they'd be more likely to get a knee in the crotch. Like Chazzy and Kam said, I was merely stating a fact. Unfortunately, not much can be done to change it.
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| February 3, 2012, 16:32 |
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yooperville, Michigan, US
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Re: I don't mean to get off on a rant.
so very true,there are a lot of rude ricks from time to time. they just don't take no for a answer, dont know if it that they had a pint of beer toooo many or what. and it's not just the red room it happens in.some want nothing more then to hump on a leg.nothing pisses me off more the be working on something and some one comes and has to hit that privite chat button and hijack my curser of to deep space somewere....so its down to the rude ricks and cam girlies
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| February 3, 2012, 17:13 |
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Re: I don't mean to get off on a rant.
I think that there is a misnomer on the part of a large group of males that because the females the females are here, that they have " FUCK ME " tattooed on their foreheads. I've said it before and I'll say it again, they should just go find themselves hookers.
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| February 3, 2012, 18:31 |
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newbie1011
62 / female
The Shore, New Jersey, US
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Re: I don't mean to get off on a rant.
I don't understand how Free got dragged into this. I read this whole thread and he NEVER said it was acceptable.I also have spent many hours in chat with Free and when needed or asked Free has always come to the defense of women being attacked by idiots.
It is annoying when being harassed.I agree however, even in a regular chat room that is not on an "adult" site this happens. If you can't deal with it then don't go to an adult site where logically it will be worse. That being said it doesn't make it right. But it's like going to a strip club and being offended that there are naked women on stage.Everyone has their own perception as to what this site will have. Many of the offending idiots are new and gone once they don't get what they want. The regulars know the realities.You can't come here or any other online chat room for that matter if you are that thin skinned. I don't think guys or women for that matter should be rude but it is a fact of life.
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| February 3, 2012, 20:33 |
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TasteLikeCandy
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FunTownUSA, Massachusetts, US
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Re: I don't mean to get off on a rant.
Its the attitude that "it is what it is" I was responding too. It feels like the general attitude is it's wrong but it's a cyber sex site so shut up and take it or leave.That like saying "look at the way she was dress and where she was she was asking for it" I feel like its wrong of me even to mention the rude behavior. I go to other sites there no where near as bad as this one. I often brave the red room and it's like begging to be talked to like shit.
As yo how free is concerned, he's a really nice guy always respectful and he's even come to my deference in the past. That's why I was so surprised by his post. If they started kicking people off the site for stuff like that maybe the boys would learn to behave. Instead the general reaction seem to make it the women fault for being to sensitive. Well quess what it seem we have made up our mind..how often do you see women in the chat rooms here either one of them. Almost never why do you think it is...
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| February 3, 2012, 21:22 |
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newbie1011
62 / female
The Shore, New Jersey, US
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Re: I don't mean to get off on a rant.
I disagree that you think we feel its acceptable. There is a deference between acceptable and dealing with the fact that it happens. I know for a fact that none of us take it lightly and we do go after those idiots. If they are extreme you have two choices. You can hit ignore and then they can't attack and/or you can report them. I know of a few instances where the guys didn't stop and it did get to a point where the admins booted them from the site.You need to stand up against them.They say and do what they do to get a response just like a child behaving badly. So in my case I treat them as such.
But I refuse to let them ruin my fun or take over the site.But to expect them to stop coming here or any other site is ridiculous and you can't expect a site to boot everyone that PM's you without asking first. If that is a big issue the site has a fix for that built into it as well. You can turn off your PM. I do however wish it was a different set up. I wish it worked like you can choose everyone can PM you or only those on your naughty list.I feel that would solve the issue in a huge way.
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| February 3, 2012, 22:00 |
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BigDaddyJ
45 / male
Springfield, Massachusetts, US
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Re: I don't mean to get off on a rant.
Another fantastic idea newbie. It would be nice if something was done to make women feel safer and more comfortable in the chat room. From a business sense it would also give this site a real competitive advantage... 
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| February 3, 2012, 23:48 |
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newbie1011
62 / female
The Shore, New Jersey, US
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Re: I don't mean to get off on a rant.
I wish I could take credit for the idea but it wasn't mine. It is done that way on other sites. Kam and I were saying it would be even better if you could just do it as a per person ignore on the pager but not necessarily tied to the naughty list. There are several ways that you can work this to make it better but it's probably not going to happen. I think this site is a pretty much take it as it is. They aren't going to get rich from this but as long as its turn key and requires little work and less money they will keep it going. Its strictly smart business not to put time and money into something that is not worth it. Their other site has more to offer so that's where they should spend their resources.At least that's how I would do it if I were them.
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| February 4, 2012, 00:25 |
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Re: I don't mean to get off on a rant.
I still wonder what would happen to those guys if they talked that way to women in person. 
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| February 4, 2012, 00:47 |
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kamarel
60 / male
Alexandria, Louisiana, US
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Re: Re: I don't mean to get off on a rant.
QUOTE (OOMG @ February 4, 2012, 00:47)I still wonder what would happen to those guys if they talked that way to women in person.
I'm thinking hernia's galore
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| February 4, 2012, 01:28 |
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Re: I don't mean to get off on a rant.
The chatroom software is a third party, it does not belong to the site. I occasionally check with them just to see if they have any new features or upgrades to offer and I did check this morning. Nothing new.
I've heard a lot of great suggestions for the chatroom over the years, but as I said, it does not belong to us so we are not able to change it.
We could create moderator accounts and try to make sure there is a moderator in the chatrooms at all times but honestly, it's not something ya'all want, someone just hanging out with a finger on a button ready to take action if in their opinion, you are in some way in violation of something. (Hey, sometimes ya'all want to go in and bitch about us (Mods) you should have the privacy to do that.
I believe that the chatrooms should be as private as possible and it's not something an unpaid voluteer really wants to do, spend all their online time just sitting in a chatroom while others carrying on a chat.
There is a "save chat session" that you can send us a copy of so we can determine if someone is harassing others in the chatroom. If a mod is online while an incident is going on, you can message us and we will pop right in. If a member is routinly causing problems in chat, send us a note with the username (saved chatsession helpful but not necessary. We will post that name in our Mod's area and all mods will know that when that member is in chat to pop in for awhile. If several reports are recieved on a member, we will write them a warning and in some cases, just delete their asses off the site.
I've always recommend that it is best for women to go straight to the tool settings and shut off private instant messages, this gives you some time in the public area to acquaint yourself with the other chatters and decide if it's necessary to "ignore" one or some of the chatters.
Once you've done that, it's easy enough to go back and reset for receiving instant messages.
Abs tried giving us some upgrades here, he added the video upload, but as you know, it's not used that much. Instead of converting this site into his new vision, he made the very smart choice of starting up ZOIG, and it's wildly successful. ZOIG people don't care for this site, and people who have settled into this site, don't care for ZOIG. Wise decision for abs to make. They have video chat (always moderated) which would more likely be wasted on this site.
The best feature, the main feature of this site is all of you. I get tons of notes from newer members who just want to say "I love this site, it's so friendly!"
So, thank you all, you are the best feature we have to offer.
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| February 4, 2012, 13:45 |
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perveman
111 / male
Tucson, Arizona, US
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Re: I don't mean to get off on a rant.
Ok then. Brand new. I'm naked.
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| February 4, 2012, 16:09 |
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ashkats
65 / couple
crystal falls, Michigan, US
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Re: I don't mean to get off on a rant.
we should all get along if we can, but that's the problem, it takes one or two to mess it up for all
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| February 4, 2012, 19:11 |
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