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newbie1011
62 / female
The Shore, New Jersey, US
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People disappearing
Lately it seems more people are disappearing than normal.I get it when it's someone that is new and just checking out the site. I even get it when it's someone that has a situation that will make if difficult if a spouse or partner finds them on here. I Totally understand when it's a threat to someones employment as well. I do get a bit confused when someone that is pretty active then vanishes without as much as a quick note.
Jessie-James and the guy from Hawaii (Sorry I can't remember his name at the moment)are just two people that have left recently and I just sit and wonder if something happened. Jessie is no longer a member so that tells me he deliberately deleted his profile for what ever his reason. I am a bit surprised he didn't even post a good buy because he was quit active on here. The guy from Hawaii makes me worry a little even though I didn't know him well or I wasn't that friendly with him. Just casual hello here or there. I just worry because he had mentioned he was very ill and that always makes me worry when people that are ill just disappear. (It's the mother in me I guess.)
There are a few that have left at least for a while or changed names and I know they had their reasons. Not that anyone owes me or anyone an explanation but I guess my point is that sometimes I think people forget that even though this is an on-line community it is still a community and we still care about people and still have the other things that go along with a community.Misunderstandings, fights, love stories, scandals, illness, family issues, nosy neighbors and all that go into the communities we live in. Concern is part of that. I wish them all well and some I hope come back soon, even if just for a quick visit.
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| October 8, 2011, 04:41 |
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Re: People disappearing
Very nicely said newbie. People do vanish and return, me I just have to be the typical woman and want to know what have I missed..lol I have been on this site a very long time off and on. I have seen many come and go.
Tragically we have lost some to death. Smitty and Liz to name some. I did not think I was going to return after I lost my son. This site has been in some ways like a family to me. There are to many to name, that were concerned when I was gone..heard it through the grapevine.
I do have to say a special thank you to chazzy one fantastic woman...as all are on WN. 
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| October 8, 2011, 05:11 |
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Mooant
41 / male
New Britain, Connecticut, US
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Re: People disappearing
A few months ago I started dating someone... She wouldn't even allow me to sign in and say goodbye because this was 'too much of a porn site'... Well, she got too controlling way too fast and I ditched her earlier this week.
BTW, I'm back 
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| October 8, 2011, 09:31 |
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Iwant2kssuallovr
62 / female
Bendover, Florida, US
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Re: Re: People disappearing
QUOTE (Mooant @ October 8, 2011, 09:31)A few months ago I started dating someone... She wouldn't even allow me to sign in and say goodbye because this was 'too much of a porn site'... Well, she got too controlling way too fast and I ditched her earlier this week.
BTW, I'm back
"What was your first sign, Mooant?"
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| October 8, 2011, 10:45 |
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Iwant2kssuallovr
62 / female
Bendover, Florida, US
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Re: People disappearing
For all who remember the Hawaii guy, is ToolOMG. I assume his health is the same. I did try to communicate with him on another site, and my reply was, "Can we make love?"
So?!! 
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| October 8, 2011, 10:47 |
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perveman
111 / male
Tucson, Arizona, US
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Re: Re: People disappearing
QUOTE (Iwant2kssuallovr @ October 8, 2011, 10:47)For all who remember the Hawaii guy, is ToolOMG. I assume his health is the same. I did try to communicate with him on another site, and my reply was, "Can we make love?"
So?!!
So, can you? JUST KIDDING! 
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| October 8, 2011, 10:52 |
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Re: People disappearing
All 3 of me have been here a long time. Seen a lot of people leave. Lots of people join. Some it's a personal situation,others it's health, even others it's boredom.
This post does make me wonder something though.------what happens when ya die and a family member goes thru your puter and finds the sites you were a member of?
Me, I'd like to just giv 'em a 
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| October 8, 2011, 13:19 |
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Iwant2kssuallovr
62 / female
Bendover, Florida, US
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Re: People disappearing
Well, I got this from a T-shirt, " Fuck Your Perfection". We are all grown, and have the right to live how we wish. We were considered with family or other beliefs, I guess we wouldn't be here.
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| October 8, 2011, 14:36 |
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perveman
111 / male
Tucson, Arizona, US
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Re: Re: People disappearing
QUOTE (OOMG @ October 8, 2011, 13:19)All 3 of me have been here a long time. Seen a lot of people leave. Lots of people join. Some it's a personal situation,others it's health, even others it's boredom.
This post does make me wonder something though.------what happens when ya die and a family member goes thru your puter and finds the sites you were a member of?
Me, I'd like to just giv 'em a
Ditto! Me too!
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| October 8, 2011, 15:58 |
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newbie1011
62 / female
The Shore, New Jersey, US
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Re: People disappearing
Thank you Goody.
I never really understood the "allowed" thing too much. I am an adult. We can discuss things if it makes my partner uncomfortable but "allowed"? That would make me really think about the person I was with.I was in a very controlled and abusive relationship when I was married. NEVER AGAIN! And welcome back.
As for when I die and my family finding this or any other web site or material on my computer. I don't think any of them would be surprised. They would probably laugh and say "good for her!".
I am an adult. I know they all know it. Including my children. I have raised my children to think of sex as a healthy good part of life as long as it is with consenting adults. I don't see a problem at all.
Kiss, thanks for the heads up on ToolOMG. I guess he is doing fine. Last I had heard he got hit with some scary weather and then Puff! he was gone.
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| October 8, 2011, 18:50 |
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thechunkyone
35 / male
elizabeth, New Jersey, US
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Re: People disappearing
i always leave and return alot of ninja work ya know lol
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| October 9, 2011, 00:58 |
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newbie1011
62 / female
The Shore, New Jersey, US
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Re: People disappearing
Anyone hear from the cowboy guy anymore? ( Young guy )I am so bad with names.lol He just vanished as well.
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| October 9, 2011, 03:02 |
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Iwant2kssuallovr
62 / female
Bendover, Florida, US
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Re: Re: People disappearing
QUOTE (newbie1011 @ October 9, 2011, 03:02)Anyone hear from the cowboy guy anymore? ( Young guy )I am so bad with names.lol He just vanished as well.
Countryboy12345??? is long gone.
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| October 9, 2011, 03:33 |
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newbie1011
62 / female
The Shore, New Jersey, US
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Re: People disappearing
Yep that's him. He was always so nice then Puff!
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| October 9, 2011, 04:39 |
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Re: People disappearing
last i heard, he was having issues getting in the chat rooms, and maybe he got frustrated and left because of it, idk. i know he was back using a different name, but having the same issues.
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| October 9, 2011, 04:58 |
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newbie1011
62 / female
The Shore, New Jersey, US
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Re: People disappearing
I know a few that have changed names. Most due to a partner finding their account or the wanted to avoid certain people.
I never thought I would leave a site because of one person but I did because it was just easier.In my case it was just to painful for him and he couldn't handle us going in different directions so he would almost stalk me and then try to claim he wanted to be friends but then would get nasty when he would find out about different men in my life.He was a man I was dating for a long time.It made it so it wasn't fun anymore to go on the site.
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| October 9, 2011, 13:43 |
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Re: People disappearing
I had to leave for a while due to some personal issues but kept in contact through Sleazy and Chazzy. I was in the middle of a precarious relationship and had to leave for a bit. No one tells me what to do per se but it had to do with some custody, etc. issues.
There are many people I have been close to who have come and gone and then came back again. Liz was one of my dear friends and when we lost her it was difficult. BoredContryBoy and Bikerchick left because they married and started a family. I know of a few who left because their spouses found out, etc.
I have always been here for the social interaction. I enjoy visiting and chatting but it is hard to be on here often with my career schedule and personal obligations. I love my WN friends and remember a time in my life when they were family and therapy for me.
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| October 9, 2011, 15:11 |
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Re: People disappearing
JJ has been here as long as the site has been online, he comes and he goes.
We even have our share of those who only have an active account when they are active. Because webnaughty does allow members to delete their own profile (Most sites don't) They just aren't comfortable with a profile of photos and information when they aren't able to monitor who sees it.
Some, are doing what it well advised to do during a divorce and or custody issues. Deleting all online activity.
Some, happy to say, delete their account when they have found someone special and no longer feel the need for the site.
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| October 9, 2011, 17:11 |
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Re: People disappearing
So sorry to hear about your son Goody,this is the first I've heard of it,thoughts and prayers to you.I'm not all the way gone yet,I stop by now and then to see if I have any messages.I do hope everyone's doing great.
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| October 9, 2011, 19:09 |
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perveman
111 / male
Tucson, Arizona, US
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Re: People disappearing
I disappear all the time, but still here. (please refer to forum post, "perfum/cologne"  One yuk.
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| October 9, 2011, 19:58 |
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newbie1011
62 / female
The Shore, New Jersey, US
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Re: People disappearing
Although in a relationship Kam an I still come on the site although not as often. Our activity has changed a bit. We definitely don't go into chat as often as we used to. We still have our friends both joint and separate. I never care if he is on here having fun. I always get the benefit of it later. lol I do understand that some people can't handle that so stop the online chat and play when they are involved with someone.
I wouldn't want to have to sneak around in relationship and I hope he never feels he has to. I have known to many that have real issues from the mistrust. That is the real problem most of the time.
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| October 9, 2011, 21:10 |
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niceguy29
44 / male
Winnemucca, Nevada, US
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Re: People disappearing
Well, I'm still around, kinda. Best way to get ahold of me (if anyone really wants to) is just messaging me. School is really keeping my personal time to a minimum at best, but I'll always make time to write back if people write to me. I really could use the distraction at least once in a while tho.
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| October 10, 2011, 01:07 |
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Re: People disappearing
I actually ended up on WN because I busted my then spouse on here. He was continually getting on sites like this to hook up with people for cyber sex , etc. when he was unemployed. One day I created a profile and became an active poster in the forums and chit chatted in the room where I made many great friends. I never hid my activity or postings from him...what is good for the goose...I never really look at this as a site for hook ups but a site for friendships.
Sleazy is a prime example. We are really close friends and we are blunt and honest with each other but neither of us is looking to the other for anything but an amazing friend. He is family to me...if he ever disappears I am gonna go to Cheetos factor and find him on the lawn in his bean bag chair.
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| October 10, 2011, 02:23 |
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newbie1011
62 / female
The Shore, New Jersey, US
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Re: People disappearing
Julianna, I think many people come on these sites for so many different reasons we couldn't even post them all. I have to say that this is the last site I ever expected to meet anyone. Mainly because I wasn't looking. (That always seems to be the way I meet people . When ever I am not looking they sneak up on me. lol)
I thought it was a cute site and was funny. I hate typing so didn't expect to stay when I saw it had no video or audio chat and only two chat rooms that at best had five people in them on a good night. I was used to a much larger site with all the bells and whistles. It was the forums that really got my interest and the stories that people wrote.Of course I was getting a lot of emails as all the women do on these sites. But Obviously Kam's really got my interest and the more I got to know him the more interested I got.I think we know how the rest of that story goes. lol
I also found some really nice people that I now consider friends on here. I know many people think that it ridiculous and I never understood why. Just because we don't get to see each other face to face in most cases it doesn't mean that we don't get to know each other and care about each other. Is it really hard to understand that after chatting with someone for a while and getting to know a little about their lives that we get emotional when we know someone is going through something. Was there anyone who didn't feel like they lost a friend when Goody was going through her family issues? Or Darkshadow or Chazzy or LNH? Even those who may not be close you still get to know details of their life when you are on a community like this. You are still a human being with feelings. You still wonder when someone you know is ill and then vanishes.I know this is a sex site in theory.But real people with real families and real lives are on here. We all go through shit every day. It will spillover to here for many of us.
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| October 10, 2011, 03:34 |
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Re: Re: People disappearing
QUOTE (Julianna @ October 10, 2011, 02:23)I actually ended up on WN because I busted my then spouse on here. He was continually getting on sites like this to hook up with people for cyber sex , etc. when he was unemployed. One day I created a profile and became an active poster in the forums and chit chatted in the room where I made many great friends. I never hid my activity or postings from him...what is good for the goose...I never really look at this as a site for hook ups but a site for friendships.
Sleazy is a prime example. We are really close friends and we are blunt and honest with each other but neither of us is looking to the other for anything but an amazing friend. He is family to me...if he ever disappears I am gonna go to Cheetos factor and find him on the lawn in his bean bag chair.
Right back atcha Toots, but you always know where to find me!
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| October 10, 2011, 20:29 |
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Re: People disappearing
I have to say I was very shocked when I first had to take some time off from here at just how worried people were about me. Luckily I stayed in touch with a couple of people who could pass along messages etc just saying I was ok.
I joined the site when I was exploring my sexual side and I never for one moment thought I would make friends in the way that I did. From Free to Newbie/Kam and Star and a few other very good friends to the many casual mates I have chatted to over the years.
There is always someone here that remembers you
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| October 10, 2011, 22:22 |
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kamarel
60 / male
Alexandria, Louisiana, US
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Re: People disappearing
That because you are unforgettable Josie girl.
*swats her backside*
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| October 10, 2011, 23:48 |
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Re: Re: Re: People disappearing
QUOTE (freensleazy @ October 10, 2011, 20:29) QUOTE (Julianna @ October 10, 2011, 02:23)I actually ended up on WN because I busted my then spouse on here. He was continually getting on sites like this to hook up with people for cyber sex , etc. when he was unemployed. One day I created a profile and became an active poster in the forums and chit chatted in the room where I made many great friends. I never hid my activity or postings from him...what is good for the goose...I never really look at this as a site for hook ups but a site for friendships.
Sleazy is a prime example. We are really close friends and we are blunt and honest with each other but neither of us is looking to the other for anything but an amazing friend. He is family to me...if he ever disappears I am gonna go to Cheetos factor and find him on the lawn in his bean bag chair.
Right back atcha Toots, but you always know where to find me!
. That I do...you have been through it with me for sure...so thankful. We still need to have some drinks together! Perhaps you can sing at my wedding...oh, wait...maybe NOT! Ha!
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| October 11, 2011, 01:55 |
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NRG4U
63 / male
Beaver City, Nebraska, US
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Re: People disappearing
Like jules, i just signed up to chat make some friends,..( ahh the good ole days in the lobby were fun) I'm just like a pestering gnat, i dont go away...lol
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| October 11, 2011, 02:30 |
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Re: Re: People disappearing
QUOTE (NRG4U @ October 11, 2011, 02:30)Like jules, i just signed up to chat make some friends,..( ahh the good ole days in the lobby were fun) I'm just like a pestering gnat, i dont go away...lol
i know you still have that damn remote hidden somewhere... i miss those days, with Falls, Da Judge Birt, FLP, and Amber. we sure had some good laughs, and it was all pretty much clean fun, too...
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| October 11, 2011, 03:57 |
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Re: People disappearing
Yes, every night in the chat room was a hoot...good, clean fun moments. I do. Almost all my visiting from my mobile so the chat rooms are not accessible to me.
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| October 11, 2011, 04:12 |
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Re: Re: People disappearing
QUOTE (Julianna @ October 11, 2011, 04:12)Yes, every night in the chat room was a hoot...good, clean fun moments. I do. Almost all my visiting from my mobile so the chat rooms are not accessible to me.
with as much goosing that went on in there, it wasn't "hoot", it was more like a "honk"...lol
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| October 11, 2011, 04:25 |
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Re: People disappearing
Yes, LNH...someone also just "goosed" me in a private message...where is Kinkyinthfalls when you need him??? LOL
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| October 11, 2011, 12:18 |
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slowpoke2
52 / male
aberdeen, Scotland, UK
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Re: People disappearing
yes i remember all the goosing that went on  , think i got goosed couple times myself
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| October 11, 2011, 18:19 |
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Re: Re: People disappearing
QUOTE (Julianna @ October 11, 2011, 12:18)Yes, LNH...someone also just "goosed" me in a private message...where is Kinkyinthfalls when you need him??? LOL
it's perfectly legal to goose in private, it was the public goosin' that got me sent to chat court...(the charges were dropped, thanks to Brit...)
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| October 11, 2011, 23:26 |
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Re: People disappearing
I loved Brit...
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| October 11, 2011, 23:44 |
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GG317
60 / male
Bowl of Granola, Massachusetts, US
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Re: People disappearing
Ahem...Boo.
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| October 12, 2011, 03:54 |
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NRG4U
63 / male
Beaver City, Nebraska, US
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Re: Re: People disappearing
QUOTE (Julianna @ October 9, 2011, 15:11)I had to leave for a while due to some personal issues but kept in contact through Sleazy and Chazzy. I was in the middle of a precarious relationship and had to leave for a bit. No one tells me what to do per se but it had to do with some custody, etc. issues.
There are many people I have been close to who have come and gone and then came back again. Liz was one of my dear friends and when we lost her it was difficult. BoredContryBoy and Bikerchick left because they married and started a family. I know of a few who left because their spouses found out, etc.
I have always been here for the social interaction. I enjoy visiting and chatting but it is hard to be on here often with my career schedule and personal obligations. I love my WN friends and remember a time in my life when they were family and therapy for me.
ahh yes, lizzy, what a sweet fun lady, i think of her often, & damn i miss her. Those days in the lobby were so fun with lizzy, falls, Brit, jules, ma & pa amber & lonely. sometimes i feel sad when i think of lizzy, but i know shes in a better place, no more suffering. Havent heard from Brit in a long time, but falls does pop in now & again
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| October 12, 2011, 04:08 |
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KINKYINTHEFALLS
56 / male
wild and wonderful, West Virginia, US
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Re: Re: People disappearing
QUOTE (Julianna @ October 11, 2011, 12:18)Yes, LNH...someone also just "goosed" me in a private message...where is Kinkyinthfalls when you need him??? LOL
I'm still around just don't get on here as often as I used to. I've been doing a lot of traveling for work the last year or so. As for the private goose it wasn't me
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| October 20, 2011, 01:39 |
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Re: Re: Re: People disappearing
QUOTE (KINKYINTHEFALLS @ October 20, 2011, 01:39) QUOTE (Julianna @ October 11, 2011, 12:18)Yes, LNH...someone also just "goosed" me in a private message...where is Kinkyinthfalls when you need him??? LOL
I'm still around just don't get on here as often as I used to. I've been doing a lot of traveling for work the last year or so. As for the private goose it wasn't me
Miss you babe! 
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| October 20, 2011, 02:35 |
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NRG4U
63 / male
Beaver City, Nebraska, US
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Re: Re: Re: People disappearing
QUOTE (KINKYINTHEFALLS @ October 20, 2011, 01:39) QUOTE (Julianna @ October 11, 2011, 12:18)Yes, LNH...someone also just "goosed" me in a private message...where is Kinkyinthfalls when you need him??? LOL
I'm still around just don't get on here as often as I used to. I've been doing a lot of traveling for work the last year or so. As for the private goose it wasn't me
hey bro, nice to see u again
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| October 20, 2011, 02:46 |
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