|
| AUTHOR |
MESSAGE |
|
Iwant2kssuallovr
62 / female
Bendover, Florida, US
|
Would you date?
Would you date a pornstar, and why or why not?
|
| September 14, 2011, 18:49 |
|
User no longer registered.
|
Re: Would you date?
the real question is..would a porn star go out with an average guy like me? i'd go out on a date with one, but be intimidated when it comes to having sex with her.. 
|
| September 14, 2011, 19:06 |
|
kamarel
60 / male
Alexandria, Louisiana, US
|
Re: Would you date?
Sure. Is it a short term fling or long term serious relationship? Short term it hopefully be a lot of fun. Long term, it would depend on alot of things. Can we communicate? Can I come to terms with what she does for a living? Can I live with friends and family living in judgement? I don't know. Haven;t had to experience that.
|
| September 14, 2011, 21:40 |
|
catlady
60 / female
rostraver/belle vernon, Pennsylvania, US
|
Re: Re: Would you date?
QUOTE (kamarel @ September 14, 2011, 21:40)Sure. Is it a short term fling or long term serious relationship? Short term it hopefully be a lot of fun. Long term, it would depend on alot of things. Can we communicate? Can I come to terms with what she does for a living? Can I live with friends and family living in judgement? I don't know. Haven;t had to experience that.
Agree with that Kam.
On another note porn is acting, not all of it is real. Sure some aspects are but the fake orgasms of some of the women, really.
|
| September 14, 2011, 23:51 |
|
User no longer registered.
|
Re: Would you date?
good question! I think everyone has the fantasy of doing that! i have a feeling actually being in a relationship with one would be different than one might suspect. Having sex would involve more of a connection than what you see them acting out in movies. I know they're are definitely some very attractive ones, and even if it's just for a little while, I think it could be alot of fun...if they're not too tired after working to have sex with me, that is! lol
|
| September 15, 2011, 13:54 |
|
newbie1011
62 / female
The Shore, New Jersey, US
|
Re: Would you date?
Pretty much what Kam said. I do think that most fantasize about it but the reality is never the same.
I can relate it to dancing in go go bars. (Obviously not the same but similar attitudes from people sometimes.) Being I have done that and can tell you IT'S A JOB! That's all it is. I never dated customers. There are a few who did but rare. There are also a few that are hookers but again a small amount. To be honest I have known a few hookers and again it is JUST A JOB to them. It is nothing like their relationships with their partners. But the partner would need to be very understanding. I know even dancing there were some guys that don't handle it well. My ex-husband liked to think he did but the reality was he didn't handle it well all the time. Especially when he would be at work and guys would be talking and sometimes he would hear a guy run their mouth about something that wasn't true but it still bugged him even though he knew it. It was usually from a guy that didn't know we were dating (At the time and latter became my husband then ex-husband.)
I would think a porn star gets so much more recognition that it would be even harder to deal with unless you are very secure in your self as well as your relationship. You also have to deal with all that will judge not just the partner who is a porn star but the other partner as well for "allowing it".
|
| September 15, 2011, 14:18 |
|
GG317
60 / male
Bowl of Granola, Massachusetts, US
|
Re: Would you date?
I used to date a stripper, so a pornstar wouldn't be that big of leap. To date, live with, or marry either you need to do one major thing: you need to be able to leave all emotions at the doorstep of your house or dwelling. Once you leave the comfort of your house you have to find a way of detaching yourself from everything surrounding your lovers job choice. That's not to be said that you should walk around blind and/or oblivious to everything around you, but by the same token you can't go around in life waiting for the other shoe to drop either. My lover at the time, used to go into our favorite pub and snuggle and kiss up to some of the guys there. I knew it was business. They would tell their friends and a group of them would make a night of it, going down to catch her show. The bartender had a thing for me secretly, always reporting to me who she was with when I wasn't there and such. I possessed the lack of emotion to be with someone like that. We had an arrangement of such. I didn't get jealous if she didn't bring work home with her, or take her job to another level (hooking). It was shear bliss for about five years. I went down to the club one night, something I did once in awhile unannounced, to watch her show and see her following all excited. I used to get off knowing that at the end of the day, she was ALL mine, body and spirit. This night was a surprise to say the least, as she was dancing with another in an erotic lesbian sex show. I was turned on, what guy wouldn't, but she never told me anything about her new dance routine. I sat at my usual spot, at the bar in the back, while paraded about with her stage show lover. She must have sensed something, because somewhere in the middle she looked about the room and our eyes met, mine glazed over like usual and hers in an,"I'm caught" sort of glance. She told me later that she'd been in a secret affair with her girlfriend while I was at work and before her shows. I would have been happy to have both of them in our home, but her girlfriend absolutely despised males in general. She convinced her that I was jealous, which I wasn't, and to move out and leave me. I look back on that relationship with nothing but fond memories and I did et a few phone calls from other girls she worked with... 
|
| September 15, 2011, 15:32 |
|
User no longer registered.
|
Re: Would you date?
I'm sure others may be more well read on this...but often women attracted to the adult industry have some baggage. Not all, maybe not even a majority, some are just highly sexual women who chose a career that suits them, but a good portion of them do have some serious issues, a dysfunctional past, early sexual abuse, an addiction to support, etc...
|
| September 15, 2011, 16:09 |
|
newbie1011
62 / female
The Shore, New Jersey, US
|
Re: Would you date?
Chazzy has a point. I found basically two kinds of people in dancing when I danced and bartended. There were the, I love to dance, I love the sexiness of the whole thing, make fast money to put towards a goal, and know this is a short term gig. Then there was the , I need this to make me feel like I am pretty and wanted and I had and continue to have a totally fucked up life.There were a few in betweens but the bulk definitely fell into those two types.
I loved this one women who had a goal of purchasing her first house CASH in two years as well as building her stock portfolio. She did buy the house and had about a million in stocks and bonds within a couple of years of that. She used to have meetings in the dressing rooms with the dancers and bar staff to discuss financial planning. She was a freaking genius when it came to that stuff. Yet in the club outside the dressing room she played the ditsy dumb dancer role. It always made me laugh.
|
| September 16, 2011, 11:15 |
|
User no longer registered.
|
Re: Would you date?
I wrote Pepper some time ago, but she hasn't been logging in lately.
For those that don't know her, she's an exotic dancer and a very intelligent ambitous woman with tons of talent aside from the pole and costumes.
When she married, her hubs was fine with her career, a few in-laws were a bit iffy about her, but their loss. Once you know Pepper, you absolutely love Pepper.
|
| September 16, 2011, 13:01 |
|
perveman
111 / male
Tucson, Arizona, US
|
Re: Would you date?
All true about Pepper Chazzy. Gotta love how open she is huh? Never knew her that well, but many miss her.
|
| September 16, 2011, 13:06 |
|
User no longer registered.
|
Re: Would you date?
Yeah, she's just amazing...if there ever was a perfect woman, she'd be it.
|
| September 16, 2011, 13:09 |
|
wantubad2
54 / male
white creek, New York, US
|
Re: Would you date?
I don't think I would want to. For one I am not good at sharing, for two I know that she would out due me by far, for three. I think it would be rather stretched out and you probably would not even be able to feel it, would be like jumping in a swimming pool. so I guess my answer is no I would not.
she probably would be sick of fucking when she came home from work anyway and would not even want to fuck her mate,lol
|
| September 16, 2011, 14:00 |
|
