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BigDaddyJ
45 / male
Springfield, Massachusetts, US
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Making her Comfortable is Important. A Public Service
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| August 10, 2011, 10:26 |
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newbie1011
62 / female
The Shore, New Jersey, US
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Re: Making her Comfortable is Important. A Public Service
This is a fantastic post!
I would like to add to it. I hope you don't mind.
Remember a few other things. Not everyone, no matter how verbal or experienced can verbalize what they want. Sometimes it a matter of trying things and "listening" to her body.
Also understand that with us sometimes what you did yesterday isn't necessarily going to work today. Or even what you did ten minutes ago might need to change.It has nothing to do with you personally. It is that sometimes we are more or less sensitive. Something that feels great now might hurt in a few minutes.
I can only use myself as an example to another "Problem" I have encountered as of late.I have mentioned that I had a heart attack back in December. I have been on blood thinners.This has been added to the many other medications I take for pain due to some injuries I had years ago in a bad accident. This little cocktail of medications can effect your body a lot.But the strangest was the blood thinners. I have found that some things that feel really good at the time have had bad effects after the fact. Blood thinners make you bruise really easily and bleed easily as well as in abundance. So if you do something like a have even mildly ruff sex my body now sees it as not so mild and reacts as such.At the time it feels great as it had in the past but the next day I am swollen and sometimes find I bleed and have pain. I looked into this and it is definitely the blood thinners.Trust me, I'm not into real wild sex or anything involving pain so its not that I am what would be considered abusing my body.In case I haven't said this enough I am allergic to pain and am a complete coward!
I am telling you this so you understand that even if you are doing all the right things sometimes you have to adjust due to sensitivity, mood or even medical reasons. Don't take it personal.Just go with the flow and and you can have a great sex .
There is one other precaution I want to add. I am very luck to be with a man who loves me and worries about me. I know especially right after the heart attack(It was about 10 days after) it was really hard for him not to worry about me. Even now I see he worries if something like I described happens or if he thinks my breathing is to erratic. It's a fine line to walk. You will worry when you have a partner with health issues but don't go overboard and be so afraid that you stop enjoying sex.That would just suck.Pay attention to each others bodies and talk about the issues. It's difficult and frustrating at times to get past them but if you love each other it can be done.
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| August 10, 2011, 20:21 |
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BigDaddyJ
45 / male
Springfield, Massachusetts, US
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Re: Making her Comfortable is Important. A Public Service
thank you for adding that insight. 
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| August 13, 2011, 06:46 |
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kamarel
60 / male
Alexandria, Louisiana, US
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Re: Re: Making her Comfortable is Important. A Public Service
QUOTE (newbie1011 @ August 10, 2011, 20:21)
There is one other precaution I want to add. I am very luck to be with a man who loves me and worries about me. I know especially right after the heart attack(It was about 10 days after) it was really hard for him not to worry about me. Even now I see he worries if something like I described happens or if he thinks my breathing is to erratic. It's a fine line to walk. You will worry when you have a partner with health issues but don't go overboard and be so afraid that you stop enjoying sex.That would just suck.Pay attention to each others bodies and talk about the issues. It's difficult and frustrating at times to get past them but if you love each other it can be done.
HEY! You can ruin reputations with posts like that.
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| August 14, 2011, 01:53 |
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newbie1011
62 / female
The Shore, New Jersey, US
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Re: Making her Comfortable is Important. A Public Service
Sorry, Kam but I think everyone already knows your much nicer that you let on.
But let it be known that nice has nothing to do with the fact that he is insane and there is a reason some of us refer to him as an evil scientist.(One of the things I love about him by the way.lol) I am just lucky enough to be the recipient of some of his experiments.He has the most evil laugh to go with his look that just tells you he is up to something. But the real "tell" he has is when he goes "hmm, that was interesting." Then I know there is something in his brain that is about to be done to me.I want to be clear that all of this was not a complaint. It is a compliment and again just part of why I love him.
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| August 15, 2011, 05:18 |
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ashkats
65 / couple
crystal falls, Michigan, US
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Re: Making her Comfortable is Important. A Public Service
good info here ,i went though mine too when i went under the knife and was in the hospital for almost 2 months. and i had the worst pain under my naval and went in at 4am and dint wake till 11am. and i almost died , she was stranded in the hospital as she don't drive....brings me back to that argument.i hears she was in bed crying for 10 days , and reality set in what i had was very rare. i was more conserned for her and my fish and pets....
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| August 22, 2011, 22:08 |
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