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Getting along
How well do you get along with others?
Being able to get along with people you love can still be difficult, because you do have that love, there's a care and concern factor that can cause conflict.
Getting along with someone you like, is pretty easy, getting along with someone you don't like, but likes you is not so bad, they usually treat you decently.
Getting along with someone you like, and they don't like you at all, can be difficult, but if you're aware of that you can usuallly give them space and manage.
Getting along with someone who hates you, or hates others is really tricky, hate is a strong emotion, and strongly negative emotional apeople are just harder to get along with but can be done.
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| May 4, 2011, 12:35 |
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perveman
111 / male
Tucson, Arizona, US
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Re: Getting along
Wow! Well said Chazzy. Reading between your lines, you've written a book. Being a mature person, and as light hearted as I am, I usually never have a problem getting along with a biggert majority of people. Having the big sense of humor I have (even though it comes across as a bit odd at times), works well for me. Negative people, I simply choose not to be bothered with them, as water off a ducks back/ignore. I only take the serious things, seriously, have fun with the rest. Bottom line is, I get along great with others in general. It's funner, and funner is a real word, see? There it is right in front of you. I approve this message. 
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| May 4, 2011, 13:04 |
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Re: Getting along
I get along with everyone and often, its by choice, not emotion. I have never hated anyone that I've known personally, although there have been some people throughout my life that I have strongly disliked. I prefer to try and see where the other person is coming from, whether I agree with their opinion or not, I respect their right to have it. If there is someone whose personality or opinion is polar opposite to mine, we probably don't have much to talk about in the first place, or any reason to be friends on more than a casual level, I don't ignore them when I see them. Of course, there have been times when Ive spotted someone in a store etc, and gone down a different aisle to avoid bumping into them.
I've never given anyone the "silent treatment" either. I've all too many times, good friends or family members that don't speak for years, or maybe never again, and its usually over something petty. Life is too short for that kinda crap.
As for someone who dislikes me (which is impossible) I still treat that person politely. I refuse to stoop to their level.
And at the risk of being too long winded (I know, its too late for that) when I find myself in a heated situation with some one, I try to consider where they may be coming from. Did they just get laid off? Did they just get a bad medical diagnosis? Did they just suffer a break up?
My mantra is to treat people the way I want to be treated, be polite and don't be judgmental, even though I am always right.
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| May 4, 2011, 14:12 |
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Iwant2kssuallovr
62 / female
Bendover, Florida, US
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Re: Getting along
Okay, I've been hesistant on this. I really think I can get along with anyone, however, I don't go out of my way to befriend you. I am naturally friendly. Given that statement, I also cannot AVOID speaking my mind.
If during lunch you tell me you plan to kill your wonderful dog of 5 years because he is jumping on your precious fucking truck and scratching it... I WILL TELL YOU YOU ARE INSANE, STOP TALKING ABOUT IT, and leave. Done deal. And, you can talk bad about you me all you want!!!
This is so bad, but I have had to come to realize.. you don't like me, okay. Your missing out on a fun, true, and loyal friend. I don't really want to hang with people who are dishonest, liars, or talks behind your back, because if you are talking behind my back, I know you are talking bad about all your other so called friends, and I don't need that. Seriously, I have just run into an abundance of people the last few years who are just so selfish, and self absorbed, I don't even think they see or hear you.... Crazy shit!
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| May 4, 2011, 17:07 |
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newbie1011
62 / female
The Shore, New Jersey, US
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Re: Getting along
I find that people either realty like me alot or really dislike me alot.There is little in between.I really don't care either way.I do get confused by people who make up their mind before getting to know me but figure that is their issue.I know. I am a good person and always thought that overall is what's most important. Some think I'm a hardass for lack of a better term that just shows how little they know me.
Those who know me and are trully friends know I am there for life and they never have to ask for anything.I have friends that I have been friends with for a very long time.I will say that I feel like I have many acquaintances but few friends.in reality most people are like that but don't separate the two.
I really am not hard to get along with as long as your honest and use common sense. I will admit I am not very forgiving if you fuck me or someone I care about (not in a good way).There usually is not a second chance with me. I have decided life is to short to waste my time with people who are bad for me or people I care for. I don't hate because to hate means I have to care about that person and that would require energy I'm not willing to waste on someone I don't love.
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| May 4, 2011, 19:33 |
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Re: Re: Getting along
QUOTE (newbie1011 @ May 4, 2011, 19:33)I find that people either realty like me alot or really dislike me alot.There is little in between.I really don't care either way.I do get confused by people who make up their mind before getting to know me but figure that is their issue.I know. I am a good person and always thought that overall is what's most important. Some think I'm a hardass for lack of a better term that just shows how little they know me.
Those who know me and are trully friends know I am there for life and they never have to ask for anything.I have friends that I have been friends with for a very long time.I will say that I feel like I have many acquaintances but few friends.in reality most people are like that but don't separate the two.
I really am not hard to get along with as long as your honest and use common sense. I will admit I am not very forgiving if you fuck me or someone I care about (not in a good way).There usually is not a second chance with me. I have decided life is to short to waste my time with people who are bad for me or people I care for. I don't hate because to hate means I have to care about that person and that would require energy I'm not willing to waste on someone I don't love.
I like you!
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| May 4, 2011, 22:11 |
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newbie1011
62 / female
The Shore, New Jersey, US
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Re: Getting along
I like you too! But you know me me so you already knew that.lol
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| May 5, 2011, 00:05 |
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kamarel
60 / male
Alexandria, Louisiana, US
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Re: Getting along
I can get along with almost anyone. Although, people I consider stupid get less patience. And at times it can be hard to hide my contempt for things that irritate me. That said, if you're not stupid or irritating I can be pretty easy to get along with.
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| May 5, 2011, 00:17 |
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Re: Getting along
i generally get along with everyone. but some days i might get along with some one and the next day, i might not.
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| May 5, 2011, 04:02 |
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ashkats
65 / couple
crystal falls, Michigan, US
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Re: Getting along
i my self am a rattle trap and dont shut up.im just a story teller ....the mrs on the other hand is quite as a post most of the time, shes shy. but we gett along well with most folks unless their somekind of goof
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| May 5, 2011, 05:06 |
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Grandelf
64 / male
Northern, Michigan, US
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Re: Getting along
I through the years have met so many different types of people from all over and can say I don't have a enemy in the world...there are people that I don't like due to things they do, how they treat others. I treat people as they treat me..I can be and usually am as nice a guy as one can meet but...try and treat me, or someone I care about like shit and I am a entirely different guy. I don't push, unless pushed. I am honest to a fault sometimes so I've been told as if you want my opinion, don't be looking for what you want to hear...I tactfully tell my opinion, I will do my very best to not say anything to hurt, great care in words chosen but if someone asks, I tell them. And have had some really pissed off! So I am like, why did you ask?? A co musician once said of me, don't ask him his opinion unless you want to hear what he thinks...hello? Isn't that what's supposed to happen? All and all, if I am not laughing there's a good reason for it...I'm silly in every sense of the word. So, people that are too serious, to the point I don't mesh with, I say hello to, make short conversation and move along. I see no sense in saying something unkind to someone I dislike, I'll be cordial and be on my way. To me, it's up to them on how I am...hopefully good natured as that's me...that is my natural way. But, again, when attacked verbally....in any manner, I bite back. I hate bullies and though hate to fight..any scuffles I have gotten into through the years usually have been stopping someone bullying another. Or, mess with my geetars...well nuff said there. 
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| May 9, 2011, 07:33 |
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Re: Getting along
I get along with most people. Mostly I tolerate them, but most of my interactions are a few minutes. Works for me. the more of what I see and hear, the less likely I am to engage someone in conversation.
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| May 9, 2011, 17:12 |
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