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Bad, bad, bad day
Please, dont feel that you need to respond. My brother in law passed away today from mesothelioma. He used to work all the time with asbestos. He was one of the kindest, smartest and most talented and generous men that I have ever known. Even though I was divorced from his Sister, I could always call him for anything, and he would be there in a heartbeat, as I would for him. However, I could never possibly repay him for all he did for me. This is a horrible day for me. My heart is pierced. Thank you all for listening to me. RIP Buddy.
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January 11, 2011, 04:12 |
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newbie1011
62 / female The Shore, New Jersey, US
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There are never the right words to say at a time like this I know. But I hope you know my thoughts are with you and those who loved him. I only wish I could make it better.
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January 11, 2011, 04:25 |
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Trouble comes in threes. Two of my friends are having a rough time. One his mother has breast cancer and the other his father had a stroke. My heart goes out to you, I have lost so many loved ones in my life.
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January 11, 2011, 04:30 |
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Re: Bad, bad, bad day
sounds like Free and Goody could use a couple of . (these are strictly out of friendship , and nothing else... )
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January 11, 2011, 05:26 |
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Re: Bad, bad, bad day
You guys couldnt have been kinder, Even though I said something about not responding, you did anyway. And thats what makes us "US". Youre the best of the best. True Friends. I just wish I could stop crying. Every time I get a call from one of my kids, or niece or a nephew, it makes me go off again. My eyes wont dry and my body cant stop shaking. Like I said, bad, bad day
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January 11, 2011, 05:26 |
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newbie1011
62 / female The Shore, New Jersey, US
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Your allowed to feel. You are hurting. I know men are taught that's a bad thing but its not. Lately I feel like I do it alot! Sometimes you need to just cry to get it out of your system.You will stop when it's time to stop. You might even stop and start again at a later date. So?
You should always know that I have two really good shoulders if you would like them to cry on.
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January 11, 2011, 05:34 |
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i feel a VERY good, VERY personal song stemming from this one day.
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January 11, 2011, 05:35 |
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Free, I am so sorry for your loss; and the loss that ripples it's way through your family. There aren't always the right words to say. But your words made me think of the poet, John Donne's. These are excerpted from his poem, "For Whom The Bell Tolls", "Each man's death diminishes me, For I am involved in mankind. Therefore, send not to know For whom the bell tolls, It tolls for thee."
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January 11, 2011, 05:38 |
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twizztedick
47 / couple deridder, Louisiana, US
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QUOTE (DarkShadow459 @ January 11, 2011, 05:38)Free, I am so sorry for your loss; and the loss that ripples it's way through your family. There aren't always the right words to say. But your words made me think of the poet, John Donne's. These are excerpted from his poem, "For Whom The Bell Tolls", "Each man's death diminishes me, For I am involved in mankind. Therefore, send not to know For whom
the bell tolls, It tolls for thee."
amen. sorry for you and your family's loss and sorrow
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January 11, 2011, 05:54 |
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wantubad2
54 / male white creek, New York, US
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QUOTE (freensleazy @ January 11, 2011, 05:26)You guys couldnt have been kinder, Even though I said something about not responding, you did anyway. And thats what makes us "US". Youre the best of the best. True Friends. I just wish I could stop crying. Every time I get a call from one of my kids, or niece or a nephew, it makes me go off again. My eyes wont dry and my body cant stop shaking. Like I said, bad, bad day
I am sorry for your loss Free,I almost teared up myself after reading this from you.Stay strong,you will get through it.
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January 11, 2011, 09:59 |
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perveman
111 / male Tucson, Arizona, US
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Hey man, go ahead and grieve. A lot. Best thing for you. I know of what I'm saying. I lost the love of my life 12-10-01. I refused to grieve like I should have, and it screwed me up, super bad for 3 years. Break down and let the tears flow. Trust me, voice of experience. May your day get better, and all the day's ahead.
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January 11, 2011, 11:32 |
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Am here for you, as you are there for me xxx Love and thoughts with you always
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January 11, 2011, 14:28 |
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I am so sorry to hear of your brother-in-law's passing.
Love you, here for you.
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January 11, 2011, 16:52 |
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Iwant2kssuallovr
62 / female Bendover, Florida, US
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First, I will start off by saying it is 70's here and sunny!
You should be proud of the relationship you had with your brother-in-law. And, it is important to find social support for your grief. Seeing a grieving loved one can be even more difficult to bear. Sometimes you wish you could take away their pain and endure it. Sometimes you feel helpless. Grieving is a complicated emotion that takes a lot of understanding.
We feel sad because we can no longer be with that person, and share joy. Well, maybe not in the physical sense, however, there will always be joy in the memories, and he will always remain close to you.
As you are grieving, also take time to celebrate his life!
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January 11, 2011, 17:26 |
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wandering5tar
53 / male London, England, UK
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Really sorry to hear about your loss. Next Happy Hour we'll have a toast to wish him on his way.
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January 11, 2011, 17:49 |
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You guys are the best, but thats hardly a surprise. Thanks to all of you
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January 11, 2011, 18:10 |
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perveman
111 / male Tucson, Arizona, US
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QUOTE (freensleazy @ January 11, 2011, 18:10)You guys are the best, but thats hardly a surprise. Thanks to all of you Hope you're doing better today. As I said, let it out, grief damn near destroyed me. As I said, a 3 year resistance, and battle.
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January 12, 2011, 17:51 |
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I purposely didnt say anything in the forum yesterday because I didnt quite believe it myself and I figured you guys would think I was off my rocker - the sonuvabitch came back to life. Apparently, a while after he was pronounced dead, he suddenly re-developed a heartbeat and began breathing on his own, albeit in a coma stage.
His brother who was there with him (theyre in San Fran) was told by the Drs that he had passed and he left the hospital and was calling back here to tell everyone. That was Monday night. Yesterday morning my daughter called and said, "Um, Dad? Uncle Tom is alive"
And yesterday afternoon, he came out of the coma, woke up and looked at his brother and said "Am I still here?"
I havent heard any kind of explanation and it is quite unbelievable. but he's conscious and breathing without the help of respirator. However, the Dr's have cautioned to not be too optimistic because his lungs are so bad, and with a DNR in place, there isnt anything further they can do to help him, and his passing is still just a matter of time.
Its been like Ive been in some kinda weird movie for the last 2 days
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January 12, 2011, 20:38 |
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Wow.....amazing, just amazing.
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January 12, 2011, 21:07 |
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that's great news Free, i guess it just wasn't his time to go.
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January 12, 2011, 21:08 |
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Iwant2kssuallovr
62 / female Bendover, Florida, US
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How horrible, wonderful, and horrible. Horrible for all those thinking he was gone. Wonderful he is not, yet, as you said, only a matter of time. I don't like to see anyone suffer. And, curious to see what he has to say.
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January 12, 2011, 21:09 |
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perveman
111 / male Tucson, Arizona, US
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Does'nt get any better than that. You all have been blessed. and another
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January 13, 2011, 02:54 |
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I spoke to his brother last night at the hospital. I asked if I could talk to him, but he's back in a coma and just a matter of time.
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January 13, 2011, 15:07 |
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We pray he does not suffer.
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January 13, 2011, 15:17 |
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Thank you Chazzy. He passed this afternoon. From what I was told, He looked up at his brother who was there with him and said "Its time for me to go"
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January 14, 2011, 02:32 |
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Iwant2kssuallovr
62 / female Bendover, Florida, US
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Remember what we talked about, and just know he is now free!
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January 14, 2011, 04:05 |
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at least he got to say goodbye to his brother.
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January 14, 2011, 05:14 |
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twizztedick
47 / couple deridder, Louisiana, US
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wow! what a week for you,and the family.remember you have friends if you need to talk. their are people here who love and care for you, if you need to talk hit some body up it can and will help.take it from some one who has held his grieve in till it almost took every thing from me . but i can know talk about it and move on my life. i still think about them but it is now with memories of the good times and i can smile when i do
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January 14, 2011, 06:09 |
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newbie1011
62 / female The Shore, New Jersey, US
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You know how I feel . I wish I could do something to make it better for you and yours. You go through the grief process as it is meant to be. Then you live life as it was meant to be.He will always be in your heart.
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January 14, 2011, 20:54 |
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kamarel
60 / male Alexandria, Louisiana, US
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I wish there was something I could say or do. I lost my best friend a few years ago and can relate to how much that sucks. To have the week you had I couldn't nor wouldn't want to imagine. My best to you and your family.
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January 14, 2011, 23:43 |
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QUOTE (freensleazy @ January 14, 2011, 02:32)Thank you Chazzy. He passed this afternoon. From what I was told, He looked up at his brother who was there with him and said "Its time for me to go"
My heart is with you and his loved ones, I know, grief is exhausting,
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January 15, 2011, 01:17 |
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pepper
56 / female daytona, Florida, US
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I am sorry for your loss, Hon. My father in law has been gone 10 years now, for the same reason. My heart goes out to you and yours. God Bless and keep you all.
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January 17, 2011, 12:08 |
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