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cjroxy
59 / couple
Hot and Balmy, England, UK
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Married, divorced or other?
What is a happy state for you?
I'm loving being married especially to my best friend. xx
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| April 4, 2010, 22:22 |
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yepper12
73 / male
Jeffersonville, Pennsylvania, US
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Re: Married, divorced or other?
I loved being married some to talk with have food with beats the hell out of being alone.
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| April 4, 2010, 22:26 |
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Re: Married, divorced or other?
i doesn't matter for me, i was happy when i was married for a while, but i'm just as happy being divorced...
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| April 5, 2010, 00:28 |
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funlovingpair
59 / couple
Frozen Tundra, Minnesota, US
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Re: Married, divorced or other?
I agree with CJ I love being married to my best friend.
Ma
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| April 7, 2010, 00:42 |
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Re: Married, divorced or other?
Sorry, it killed me to leave my kids, but at the time, my youngest agreed that it would be better if I left. It made things so much easier because there was too much fighting. I know there were alot of hearts that were hurt, including mine, but divorce was best in my situation. I was the first to be divorced in a very large family and of course everyone took sides. I DONT condone it, so if youre considering it, try and find a happy medium. A tight family is always best. Just my opinion, but even though I have less (I gave them everything except my clothes) I am happier now
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| April 7, 2010, 01:22 |
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ashkats
65 / couple
crystal falls, Michigan, US
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Re: Married, divorced or other?
we are happy being married i think and we both spent time alone with each others illnesses,we raised our kid,and had our rough times too, i know we had our share. now we are empty Nester's with two cats, lots of house plants and a few fishes,that must be what we get for being born under a water signs
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| April 7, 2010, 04:34 |
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prettyplze1
54 / female
Licking pussyville Essex, England, UK
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Re: Married, divorced or other?
I love my life great job, great no hassle relationships  
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| April 7, 2010, 21:56 |
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Re: Married, divorced or other?
When I was single I was happy, now I am married I am still happy, guess I am just a happy person 
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| April 7, 2010, 22:59 |
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Re: Re: Married, divorced or other?
QUOTE (prettyplze1 @ April 7, 2010, 21:56)I love my life great job, great no hassle relationships
You like just good friends the best don't ya babe   
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| April 7, 2010, 23:04 |
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Re: Married, divorced or other?
im single but i would rather be maried (to the right woman that is) but finding her has been my problem  but im still looking
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| June 15, 2010, 02:28 |
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ashkats
65 / couple
crystal falls, Michigan, US
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Re: Married, divorced or other?
still married and it seems we have another anniversary coming up next month
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| June 15, 2010, 16:58 |
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kamarel
60 / male
Alexandria, Louisiana, US
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Re: Married, divorced or other?
Carl! Your young and someone will come along. BUT DON'T Do IT. Live to together, Laugh, hang out, fuck, enjoy. Don't need the license or legal hassles if things go south.
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| June 15, 2010, 21:30 |
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newbie1011
62 / female
The Shore, New Jersey, US
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Re: Married, divorced or other?
I think its a personal choice. I know for me marriage sucked but it was the man I was married too.I am VERY happily divorced and plan on keeping it that way. I have no problem being in a relationship but legaly I will keep my stuff and he can keep his.I never want to do the name change thing again (I KNOW YOU DON'T HAVE TO ANYMORE ANYWAY). I just don't understand why If you love someone you can't just do that without having some licence. I agree with Kamarel 100%. Maybe thats thats why we wound up getting together? Funny I didn't know he even posted a response on here until I was going to post one . lol There is no reason anymore to get married unless your thinking about religious reasons. AND MAYBE MEDICAL BENEFITS IF YOU DON'T HAVE YOUR OWN. Most of the rights that you didn't have before can be worked out legaly as a partner these days. Property can be joint or separate. I PREFER SEPERATE. Legal agreements can take care of most rights you used to get as a spouse if thats what you want. You can even assign someone with a medical power of attorney to make decisions that your spouse used to have the right to do.
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| June 16, 2010, 17:09 |
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Re: Married, divorced or other?
I do disagree with statements of there being no reason, other than legal to marry anymore.
I believe in it, and I do believe for some, marriage is about the exchange of vows, the promises of total commitment, and is the start of a life and family together. I think it's too often that it's not taken seriously, and an attitude of "Oh well, why not...if it doesn't work out we can always get a divorce easy enough" that has given marriage a bad rep.
It works for some, I find it so inspirational to see a golden couple celebrating a 60 year anniversary, or high school sweethearts that married very young still together raising 3 or 4 children and still totally and completely in love. I know in both cases, it's really tough, hard times, really bad times...but overall they are committed.
I've been single and thought I would never marry again. I've been through divorce and it tore me up, because I really truly believed it would last forever. I've done the co-habitating thing and thought that was the answer.
Whether living single, married, or otherwise....sometimes it seems that some relationships have an "expiration date" ...it can be great, for a while...then go sour.
How some last, still have all the sparkly and freshness over decades....don't we wish we all knew? Maybe it was just meant to be.
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| June 16, 2010, 17:28 |
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newbie1011
62 / female
The Shore, New Jersey, US
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Re: Married, divorced or other?
Chazzy I agree that for some it works .For me there is no reason. I know both people that have marriages that are amazing (ALTHOUGH RARE) and I also know people that live together and that works out great as well. Commitment for me is in my heart not on a piece of paper.I don't believe that most people go into marriage thinking it wont last and divorce sucks. It's rare thats its easy.I know for me its never going to happen again. I can love deeply without the paper. I also don't understand why some feel just because your married that you cant have things of your own as well as share things. Your still an individual. Again these are all very personal choices.
*By the way a side note I love the other discussion you opened regarding silly gullible things we believed as children!
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| June 16, 2010, 17:51 |
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wantubad2
54 / male
white creek, New York, US
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Re: Married, divorced or other?
I agree totally with newbie1011,,I myself am single and hate it but do not want marriage either.I have been married twice in the past,,first I was just young and stupid,,,second we where living together for four years,just fine then we got married and divorced in six months time.I want a relationship,even a serious one would be good but never to be married again.
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| June 16, 2010, 20:15 |
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Re: Married, divorced or other?
I'm with you guys. Been married, but wont ever go down that road again.
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| June 16, 2010, 20:45 |
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Re: Married, divorced or other?
I've not only heard that before from others who have ended up married again, but have even said it myself at one time, Free.
I admire couples who make the marital commitment and make it work.
I could never discourage anyone who feels it's what they want, and those who see value in it. I don't encourage taking it lightly either. Whether it's for you or not, marriage does still have a place in our society.
I still think that the just living together works out well for some, because they know at all times, they can just walk away, there's no pressure to make it work at all costs.
Just generalizing here, what is for one, is not for others.
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| June 16, 2010, 21:12 |
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ashkats
65 / couple
crystal falls, Michigan, US
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Re: Married, divorced or other?
have in laws that been marryed 3 or 4 times,im like whats up with that .... ya think someone would learn by then and i told my own kids and some dont think thats right but hey if ya cant live togather ya cant live togsther and be married......then it is cheaper to keep them.....
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| June 17, 2010, 04:51 |
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funlovingpair
59 / couple
Frozen Tundra, Minnesota, US
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Re: Re: Married, divorced or other?
QUOTE (funlovingpair @ April 7, 2010, 00:42)I agree with CJ I love being married to my best friend.
Ma
What she said.
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| June 17, 2010, 14:13 |
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Re: Re: Re: Married, divorced or other?
QUOTE (funlovingpair @ June 17, 2010, 14:13) QUOTE (funlovingpair @ April 7, 2010, 00:42)I agree with CJ I love being married to my best friend.
Ma
What she said.
...and it's couples like this...that make me say I wouldn't want to live in a world that doesn't believe in marriage anymore.
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| June 17, 2010, 18:29 |
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Re: Married, divorced or other?
Marriage! We are in our "second" marriage - for both of us, and it's been 30 plus years. We are still a newlyweds - we continue to learn more about each other. Her favorite color when I met her, green, is not her favorite color now - it's pink, but I noticed a lot of purple lately.
We've had our share of the Good, Bad, and the Uglies. Personally, "any" relationship requires some, if not, alot of work. We are still "working" at it, every aspect of being married one to another. Working to have more fun, now that all the kids are grown up and have their own family.
Why joined WN if we are happily married? She's going through a phase in her life that I either be a part of it or not. I am holding her hands through these "changes" - and having fun at the same time, and making sure she doesn't go beyond the agreed limitation we've set.
Sorry, got long-winded, and got  !
Plus
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| June 18, 2010, 03:34 |
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thechunkyone
35 / male
elizabeth, New Jersey, US
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Re: Married, divorced or other?
atm im miserable but i'd like to be dating (not a very outsidey person
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| June 23, 2010, 15:06 |
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Iwant2kssuallovr
62 / female
Bendover, Florida, US
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Re: Married, divorced or other?
I married the first guy twice. First, by his friend who was a justice of the piece. This allowed us to buy our home and for my mom to quit calling me a whore.
Second, a year later, in a church, the dress, family, guest.
We almost married a third time (after our divorce), only he couldn't stay sober long enough... BYE BYE!!
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| June 23, 2010, 21:44 |
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Re: Re: Married, divorced or other?
QUOTE (Iwant2kssuallovr @ June 23, 2010, 21:44)I married the first guy twice. First, by his friend who was a justice of the piece. This allowed us to buy our home and for my mom to quit calling me a whore.
Second, a year later, in a church, the dress, family, guest.
We almost married a third time (after our divorce), only he couldn't stay sober long enough... BYE BYE!!
Was his name Richard Burton?
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| June 23, 2010, 21:48 |
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Iwant2kssuallovr
62 / female
Bendover, Florida, US
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Re: Re: Re: Married, divorced or other?
QUOTE (freensleazy @ June 23, 2010, 21:48) QUOTE (Iwant2kssuallovr @ June 23, 2010, 21:44)I married the first guy twice. First, by his friend who was a justice of the piece. This allowed us to buy our home and for my mom to quit calling me a whore.
Second, a year later, in a church, the dress, family, guest.
We almost married a third time (after our divorce), only he couldn't stay sober long enough... BYE BYE!!
Was his name Richard Burton?
No, but Robert Redford gave me a speeding ticket.
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| June 23, 2010, 23:15 |
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