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armybody
63 / male
Dallas, Texas, US
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Why chat fails
Well, I can see why an AM chat group,or any chat group, will have a hard time being regular. There are issues with some social awkwardness in regards to innapropriate timing. I'll put that into English. Guys think that because they are going into chat that it's going to be about having cyber sex from the git-go. For the same reasons that they fail in face-to-face attempts at getting laid, they also fail at cyber.
Attention horny guys :
Women like to talk. The female of the species is gratified by *meaningful* communication. Arousal in females begins in the brain. Once they feel a connection has been made to a thought,memory,feeling or experience that *you* produce through communicating it, thier switch will bypass from thought to tactile in nanoseconds like we do.
Your mission,should you choose to accept it, is to fish around with conversation to pay respect to the female brain first. In most cases we will fall far short of satisfying that requirement but the female will see that we are trying and cut us some slack. Remember, they have joined WN also, just for different but similar motivations.
Ok, phew! we are past the communication part, we have peaked interest, and now we need to procede with mental foreplay.
"Oh fuck!" you mutter? Yes the "F" word guys. Females have a slow burning fuse BUT the good news is that when that fuse is lit, you will have a hard time getting it "unlit".
Mental foreplay is a comprehensive topic for sure. If you fail to grasp communication first and physical foreplay, you are better of just getting some porn and masteurbating. You will go postal long before you get any that way. Work on just talking for now.
Go into chat just trying to produce small talk. We are all annonymouse so it should be the easiest thing in the world. You must become proficient at the art of flirting. It will stimulate the female mind to give permission to the more base instincts to act.
If you feel you need advice. Email me or post to this thread.
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| March 16, 2005, 07:48 |
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armybody
63 / male
Dallas, Texas, US
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Re: Why chat fails
Ok, so the thread about why chat fails is going to fail?
WTF?
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| March 16, 2005, 08:09 |
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Re: Why chat fails
I can only agree with you....some women won't go into chat because they don't want a complete stranger demanding wankin' material out of them on the spot. Some men scare off some of the women.(It's not that these women are cold, or frigid or stuck-up snotty, they are just as, if not more sexual than anyone else)
"Picking up" women on a site or in a chatroom is no different here in the cyberworld than it is in the real world. Men don't walk up to a stranger in a bar, grasping their penis, and throwing out an opening line like "My dick is sooo hard, get me off now!!!"
Now, there are women who love to go into chat and give it all, right from the start, nothing wrong with that! Not at all! It's just a good idea to know who you're talking to...
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| March 16, 2005, 08:36 |
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armybody
63 / male
Dallas, Texas, US
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Re: Why chat fails
Exactly why I can't get women, that say they are lonely in thier profiles, to try chat when we are both online.
The word "chat" should be a positive word but guys that don't know how to use it are fucking it up for those of us who do.
I never go to chat looking for cybersex . If it does happen, I'm confident at it but I'm not really looking for that. I just want to connect with SOMEBODY from this lonely office of mine.
Thank you for posting a confirmation Chazzy. 
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| March 16, 2005, 08:48 |
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Re: Why chat fails
Wait a min. need coffee....ok, sounds like some of the same things we were saying yesterday. Everyone has a different agenda, and what there expecting when they get there. Us we just like to here from different parts of the country and the people that live there. Don't think I have ever got in the chat room expecting some lady to jump my bones and get me so worked up that I wanted to spank the monkey !!!! That might cum later on...Right PEPPER !!!!! 
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| March 16, 2005, 08:58 |
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armybody
63 / male
Dallas, Texas, US
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Re: Why chat fails
Pepper was in chat yesterday and she is a sweetheart. I did manage to learn a little about her.
I admit that she does induce a little monkey- spanking just by her pictures alone but she is also a genuinely nice person.
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| March 16, 2005, 09:23 |
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Re: Re: Why chat fails
QUOTE (armybody @ March 16, 2005, 08:48).... I just want to connect with SOMEBODY from this lonely office of mine.....
Somehow, I just can't picture you or your office as "lonely" ! 
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| March 16, 2005, 10:13 |
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armybody
63 / male
Dallas, Texas, US
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Re: Why chat fails
The internet helps alot but I still need some social interaction. This is the only place I chat because of all the profiles that seem to be asking for that.............yet, I am chatless. 
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| March 16, 2005, 13:29 |
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texas
70 / male
dallas, Texas, US
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Re: Why chat fails
I see  Welcome to our chat server texas all the time but nobody there do i need to download flash player
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| March 16, 2005, 13:47 |
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Re: Why chat fails
couldn't hurt !
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| March 16, 2005, 13:50 |
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Re: Why chat fails
Well, I just can't agree that ALL men just go to chat to have cyber sex . Any more than I can agree that All anything/anybody/any race/any age/any sex/any anything is just the same. There is wonderful diversity in my life and in my heart. I know that I am not ALL men, any more than I am not ALL 40 sometings or ALL former hippy types who have given up the wildness of our youth to act more grown up.
I would like a nice conversation in chat with a name I have seen before, to get to know a bit, find out what the others life is like and share what mine is like. I guess still a hippy at heart.
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| March 16, 2005, 15:37 |
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bawbie
63 / female
mesa, Arizona, US
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Re: Why chat fails
i like to go there to have meaningful disscusions on art, philosophy, and the sciences.
but that's just me.
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| March 16, 2005, 17:21 |
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goinsth4u
56 / male
sterling, Virginia, US
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Re: Why chat fails
hi everyone i am still waiting to catch anyone in the chat room here. i've gone up there many times only to be met with silence. unfortunately i work at 8 in the morning i'm usually online in the evenings and early morning before 6:30 am , and of course i'd like to find a willing cyber partner but i am realistic i chat on a big service, and i know how it works.
you do'nt go in 30s love, and say "hey i wanna get you off" you'd get laughed at,and told to grow up
anyway if anyone is milling around at say 5:30 tomorrow log in and talk to me.
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| March 16, 2005, 17:32 |
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Re: Re: Why chat fails
QUOTE (bawbie @ March 16, 2005, 17:21) i like to go there to have meaningful disscusions on art, philosophy, and the sciences. but that's just me.
OK, make fun, but I am what I am
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| March 16, 2005, 17:34 |
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bawbie
63 / female
mesa, Arizona, US
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Re: Why chat fails
i'm the one that's going to see arlo. how much more elderly hippy can you get?
i don't like it when men try to jump right into sexual talk. i don't mind flirting, but i prefer to keeep that kind of thing more private. like on yahoo or something.
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| March 16, 2005, 17:48 |
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bawbie
63 / female
mesa, Arizona, US
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Re: Why chat fails
damn it, where did i leave that "e"?
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| March 16, 2005, 17:48 |
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pepper
56 / female
daytona, Florida, US
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Re: Re: Why chat fails
QUOTE (armybody @ March 16, 2005, 09:23)Pepper was in chat yesterday and she is a sweetheart. I did manage to learn a little about her.
I admit that she does induce a little monkey- spanking just by her pictures alone but she is also a genuinely nice person.
Flattery will get you everywhere, Army! 
 
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| March 17, 2005, 00:47 |
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Re: Re: Why chat fails
QUOTE (bawbie @ March 16, 2005, 17:21) i like to go there to have meaningful disscusions on art, philosophy, and the sciences.
but that's just me.
Well Bawbie, at least you stand a chance of finding someone with similiar interest! You think anyone wants to go to chat to discuss history, military history, gardening, and war movies??? 
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| March 17, 2005, 10:39 |
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armybody
63 / male
Dallas, Texas, US
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Re: Why chat fails
Scratch the gardening and I'm in.
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| March 17, 2005, 12:38 |
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armybody
63 / male
Dallas, Texas, US
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Re: Why chat fails
Pepper,
You make flattery easy. I've never known such a beautiful not-stuck-on-themselves woman in all my life. 
Of course, that may just make it worse!
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| March 17, 2005, 12:47 |
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