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What women want...
So the word is out that some of you guys are frustrated with us gals and some of us gals are frustrated with you guys..but we're all here, right? Let's talk about it. Sweet Wet Pussy is a real believer in communication 
If the ladies would post what they like here, maybe we can help the guys out and have a better time ourselves. I'll initiate...here's how to play nice with Sweet Wet Pussy :
1) Don't misrepresent yourself by posting pics of some hot guy as if it were you. If you just can't bring yourself to refrain from posting pics of hot guys , at least specify in your profile that the pic is to get attention or whatever, but don't say it's you. Any level of deception makes me shy away...it's just not sexy. My suggestion is to just post a pic of yourself. Especially if you're just looking for chat and cybersex , it's all in how you talk to me anyway. If you don't think posting a pic of yourself works for you, post pics of other things that you think a woman might like to see or something that represents your personality or love-making style. Maybe a red rose, two pair of lips about to embrace, a leather whip if you're a dom, hell, I don't know. Be creative. Different things will appeal to different women.
2) Read my profile and message me based on what you see there. It's fine to just drop a line and say, 'hey, I love your pics', but don't expect much of a reply except 'thanks', at least from me. If you want to do that to test the waters on the off chance that I'm going to be intrigued enough by your profile to write something to turn you on, fine, but if you want to chat based on my pics, read my profile and say something like 'I see your looking for (x)...here's how I can help you with that', or just say what you want to say about what you want to do as long as it is compatible with what my profile says I'm looking for. For instance, if my profile doesn't say I'm looking for chat but you're really confident in your skills, just say 'I know you're not looking for chat, but here's what I have to offer you' You'll get a reply based upon how much I like how you talk to me. How much I like how you talk to me will depend on how well you check out my profile and tailor your approach according to it.
3) Initiate! Don't conact me and expect me to initiate with you simply because you said 'hi'. If I'm browsing profiles and want to hit a guy up, I might test the waters first to see if he's interested or I might just say what his profile is making me think...depends on how strongly the profile motivates me to initiate. When I'm not seeking you out, but you approach me, you're going to have to turn me on before I get motivated to turn you on.
4) Never, never, never get defensive if I question you during the course of our 'affair'. Soothe my concerns, don't attack me. That makes me run.
5) At least for Sweet Wet Pussy , compliments work...even in real life. No matter who you are, if you come up to me and say 'oh my god you are so amazing, can I please talk to you' I'm going to smile and give you a kind reaction. Of course different approaches have different virtues, but the more dumbfounded a man seems to be by me, the cuter he is. Everyone likes to be made to feel good about themselves!
So there you go. If you read my profile and tell me straight up what you have to offer me and you have an honest approach, you will get a kind reply from me. Whether I'm interested and want to contine to interact depends on how well I like it...and that's my choice. The best messages I get are those that knock my socks off right from the start and that's a skill you can learn and practice.
If you do everything right and I still don't reply, it's not you, it's just that I have something else going on at the moment. I try to keep up...
So that's what I have to offer. Maybe some other ladies can talk about what they want, maybe some guys can talk about how they've been successful, and maybe both can post questions for each other... 
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| April 18, 2009, 23:36 |
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Re: What women want...
Good work Sweet! Thank you so much!
I would like to add..Women...make sure your profile reflects what you are looking for....it's just unfair and quite confusing and frustrating for men to come to an adult site see your erotically written profile, graphic/photos and a nickname that screams sex...then have you complain about getting too many "rude and inappropriate" messages. It is an adults personal sex site and you are going to get those kind of message anyway, if you don't like them, be pro-active.
Doodes, if a woman kindly tells you "no" or parties here with you a bit, but then decides to move on...accept it like a man and you move on too...gettin' mean and any form of harrasment is NOT acceptable.
Most importantly, if you're pissed cuz you sent out a dozen or so messages and you're not gettin' any replies...maybe you should change something, maybe your messages aren't workin' for ya.
I've often helped guys out here, all they have to do is send me a note, and tell me what they write, how they chose the women to write to, etc....if what you're doing isn't working, then ask around, find out what does work.
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| April 19, 2009, 08:23 |
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Re: What women want...
Well I have found that patience is appreciated in the Red Room. Most ladies do not want/appreciate being "jumped on" or hit on when they enter the room.
On the flip side, not all guys are like this though and when we do initiate conversation the ladies should be polite about it. Don't hate all the males because a few are acting juvenile.
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| April 19, 2009, 09:15 |
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Re: What women want...
Casuals's nailed, ya know...good manners are never a bad thing.
Sweet makes a very good point about picking something up from the WRITTEN part of a profile, I think most women do reply when the message shows the sender actually bothered to read the page.
Number 1 mistake men make when sending out messages...Sending out just a half assed note with their email/IM id in it....think about that, a woman logs in, goes to her mail box, and just about every message is just an email address from some stranger with a vague profile....face it, every guy on here has a dick and an email address, what else ya got???
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| April 19, 2009, 10:10 |
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Re: Re: What women want...
QUOTE (Chazzy @ April 19, 2009, 10:10)Casuals's nailed, ya know...good manners are never a bad thing.
Sweet makes a very good point about picking something up from the WRITTEN part of a profile, I think most women do reply when the message shows the sender actually bothered to read the page.
Number 1 mistake men make when sending out messages...Sending out just a half assed note with their email/IM id in it....think about that, a woman logs in, goes to her mail box, and just about every message is just an email address from some stranger with a vague profile....face it, every guy on here has a dick and an email address, what else ya got???
um.....Call me? 
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| April 19, 2009, 11:15 |
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Re: What women want...
Aw dammit JJ...you are always well worth the time spent to talk with...your wit can keep a woman blushing and giggling all day long(and you're so goodlookin' too)
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| April 19, 2009, 12:53 |
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Re: Re: What women want...
QUOTE (Chazzy @ April 19, 2009, 12:53)Aw dammit JJ...you are always well worth the time spent to talk with...your wit can keep a woman blushing and giggling all day long(and you're so goodlookin' too)
Shhhhh! You'll blow my cover
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| April 19, 2009, 16:04 |
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Re: What women want...
I can list some of the things that I want.....
Someone who makes me laugh as well as turns me on, in fact laughter is a huge turn on for me
Some enthusiasm for the task at hand, when chatting to someone, reponses which take forever to some back ruins the flow a bit for me.
I totally agree with the points about checking you out and reading the profile before asking questions that you have already answered on there. Also agree with Chazzy about just getting mails with a IM address on it and asking to be added. Same goes for requests from people I don't know to send more pictures to them. If I don't know someone a little I have no motivation to do it.
I guess generally for me the message is, I just like people to make proper contact to me if they want to. I will always try to respond to a proper message or request if I can.
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| April 19, 2009, 18:43 |
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Re: What women want...
In addition to the above posts, I would like to add:
I'm not a picture, I'm a real live person, with a brain and everything. So, please write in complete sentences. A message with 3 or 4 random words doesn't do much for me. You know, I may even respond to your message if you give me some indication that you also have a brain! 
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| April 20, 2009, 07:50 |
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Re: Re: What women want...
QUOTE (hardandwild07 @ April 20, 2009, 07:50)In addition to the above posts, I would like to add:
I'm not a picture, I'm a real live person, with a brain and everything. So, please write in complete sentences. A message with 3 or 4 random words doesn't do much for me. You know, I may even respond to your message if you give me some indication that you also have a brain!
oohhh word games
hands. . .hooters
tongue. . .nipples
Are you hot yet? 
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