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Why are the men so rude in the red room?
Hello all
I'm a new member to this site. I must admit that i do enjoy it for the most part. However, why are the men in the red room so pushy and sometime just plain rude. I've noticed that not many women spend much time in either chat room. After spending some time in there myself i cant help but wonder if it has anything to do with every guy in there bombarding us girl with private messages. Some, a small percentage, are nice but for the most part you guys are crast and rude. Just because we're on this site doesn't make us sluts . We still want to be treated with respect. Im just saying maybe if you fellas where a little more polite more of us would feel comfortable in the chat rooms and we could all have more fun. Ladies please if i'm out of line or have built the wrong perception of the male members on this site, please tell me. But if i'm not sound off and lets send a message to the guys then maybe they'll get the point. 
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| April 2, 2009, 15:18 |
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wandering5tar
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London, England, UK
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Re: Why are the men so rude in the red room?
QUOTE (AmISexy @ April 2, 2009, 15:18)Hello all
I'm a new member to this site. I must admit that i do enjoy it for the most part. However, why are the men in the red room so pushy and sometime just plain rude. I've noticed that not many women spend much time in either chat room. After spending some time in there myself i cant help but wonder if it has anything to do with every guy in there bombarding us girl with private messages. Some, a small percentage, are nice but for the most part you guys are crast and rude. Just because we're on this site doesn't make us sluts . We still want to be treated with respect. Im just saying maybe if you fellas where a little more polite more of us would feel comfortable in the chat rooms and we could all have more fun. Ladies please if i'm out of line or have built the wrong perception of the male members on this site, please tell me. But if i'm not sound off and lets send a message to the guys then maybe they'll get the point.
Couldn't agree more. Far too little "chat" in the chat rooms IMHO. The Lobby is usually a bit more restrained although I suspect you'll still get "hit on", there is usually a good craic, as our Celtic friends would put it.
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| April 2, 2009, 15:28 |
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Re: Why are the men so rude in the red room?
I can't say why it is as it is as I don't spend any time in the Red Room personally. However it is by design the place to act out. If you really want to meet and get to know some 'real' men post in the Forum a bit. I'm sure you'll find some of us are not so bad  
jj
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| April 2, 2009, 16:29 |
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Re: Why are the men so rude in the red room?
I agree that the red room is "the place to act out", but it still helps if a guy trys to get you know you a little first!
A lot of of the comments you get in pvt are very explicit, which is up to them. However, just like in real life guys, No Thanks means No Thanks.
I am in chat a lot, but even I get totally sick of the assumption that I will talk to anyone about anything at anytime. Mostly the guys take the no well enough, but for those that get angry and abusive I have no time at all.
Anyone that knows me, knows I love to chat in public about all sorts, and I can support that the Lobby is good for getting to know people better, but as a girl you still get bombarded.
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| April 2, 2009, 16:38 |
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Re: Why are the men so rude in the red room?
i myself, being a member since 2006, have only been in the red room one time...it was a "WHAM, BAM, THANK YOU MA'AM" type of thing...it was fun at the time, but now, regretfully, i have not seen or heard from my suitor since...
as for the lobby? i think all women deserve to be treated with respect and dignity. if you guys all think that by bombarding a lady with pm's demanding some action, you are surley asking to be rejected, and ultimately creating a situation in which most of the females are going to set their preferences to turn pm's off...and that ruins it for the rest of us fellows that might want to ask something personal in private chat. i've used pm's before, but not to demand cyber sex , i have been able to acquire a few personal email addresses via pm, but if the lady says no, i'm cool with it, and stop asking. but it might be hard to ask for an address or Yahoo/MSN messenger invite, if the lady has her pm's turned off..... 
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| April 2, 2009, 18:42 |
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Liberalwife
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Re: Why are the men so rude in the red room?
Awww, now come on, Give the men a break here!. It's quite clearly defined what the chat rooms are for, so ladies, if you can't stand the heat...get out the kitchen.
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| April 2, 2009, 19:02 |
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Re: Why are the men so rude in the red room?
baying at the moon while mooning at the bay . 
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| April 2, 2009, 21:52 |
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Re: Why are the men so rude in the red room?
As soon as you enter the Red Room (and the lobby even) go to your settings and shut off the private instant messages.
Don't feel like you're being bitchy or rude about this, allot of women do it when they enter chat, otherwise they'd spend all their time trying to reply and/or close down all the IM dialog boxes! That's no fun and shutting the private IM setting off is just practical, not rude.
Then, you also have the "ingore" feature there, That'll work on rude guys as well as a rolled up newspaper to the nose works on a bad puppy.
That's why all the tools and features are there in the chatrooms, to be used. Go ahead and use 'em! Don't worry about and don't hesitate, just go ahead and use those tools.
This give all the control back to you, so you can stop wasting time on rude men, and starting making some good Red Room buddies.
MEN!!!! Just because the Red Room is set up for cybersex only, don't think for one minute the standard set of rules for the chatrooms don't apply, they sure as hell DO, and too many reports of harrassment can get your ass banned off this site. Show some common sense and manner's for cryin' outloud....
(I really like Josie's reply)
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| April 3, 2009, 08:38 |
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Re: Why are the men so rude in the red room?
Maybe a good time to mention again, all members have the ability to block and ignore other members onsite, just go to their profile and click on "block/ignore this member" and you'll no longer even see any PMs from them.
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| April 3, 2009, 11:03 |
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Re: Why are the men so rude in the red room?
Well, I do try & be nice. Must be with the wrong girls. I find a couple of them quite forward myself. Now, my g/f will tell me the same when she is on WN. The fellows want pictures and want to jump her bones. 
Hey guys, at least you can say, :What beautiful lips you have. They look like they would be some fine BJ lips!!!
ha ha ha 
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| April 4, 2009, 19:55 |
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Re: Why are the men so rude in the red room?
remember back in high school when we would have beanathons before school well JD been a eatin beans all day like danny in the movie the shining said REDROOM REDROOM all right you redroom rudies JD coming with stinkbombs .,
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| April 4, 2009, 22:35 |
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Re: Why are the men so rude in the red room?
I've often wondered how far the "men' that act that way would get in a bar with the same tactics. 
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| April 5, 2009, 09:08 |
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Re: Why are the men so rude in the red room?
good point I am glad you brought up the bar thing reminds of a funny incident ,I was buffing floors on the backshift at the local super walmart (man I musta dropped 20 lbs walking behind that buffer every night )and heres how it went down ,one night I was standing by a group of check out girls just finishing up there shift women of a mixed age group and there talkin and giggling about how the police had arrested a peeping tom and this guy had kinda run wild ,he would be out on peoples patios and windows jerking off and one of the older women giggling says (why dont he just go to the bar)and me not being a part of the conversation but close enough to appear in it ,reply with a deadpan (maybe he does nt drink )
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| April 5, 2009, 10:18 |
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