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alwaysready4more
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What do women really want from a man when no relationship is wanted?
I am here in Hinesville Georgia. I have been thinking about this for a while. Since I got back from Iraq. I am trying to meet more people but don't want a relationship. Guys are easy. Most want the same thing. Women are a mystery. I was married for 4 years. Just when I thought I had it. I wasn't even close. Or it just changed. Help 
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| February 13, 2009, 23:19 |
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Re: What do women really want from a man when no relationship is wanted?
QUOTE (alwaysready4more @ February 13, 2009, 23:19)I am here in Hinesville Georgia. I have been thinking about this for a while. Since I got back from Iraq. I am trying to meet more people but don't want a relationship. Guys are easy. Most want the same thing. Women are a mystery. I was married for 4 years. Just when I thought I had it. I wasn't even close. Or it just changed. Help
Well, women are relationship people. Most of us bond to those we are with and what we want is simple. We are all complicated creatures and while men are driven from a physical base, women are driven from an emotional one. You can probably find a "f" buddy someplace along the way but it is unlikey there won't be some kind of agenda on the part of the woman. Women want to be loved, men want to get laid and have the physical release sex brings to them when they aren't ready for a relationship that is exactly what they look for.
I know this hasn't helped your desire for a relationship free relationship. WE are easy though, if the day ever comes you want someone for the long term make her feel loved and adored and that will take the complications out of your getting what physical needs you have met.
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| February 14, 2009, 10:24 |
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alwaysready4more
53 / male
Fort Garland, Colorado, US
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Re: Re: What do women really want from a man when no relationship is wanted?
QUOTE (beckandcall @ February 14, 2009, 10:24) QUOTE (alwaysready4more @ February 13, 2009, 23:19)I am here in Hinesville Georgia. I have been thinking about this for a while. Since I got back from Iraq. I am trying to meet more people but don't want a relationship. Guys are easy. Most want the same thing. Women are a mystery. I was married for 4 years. Just when I thought I had it. I wasn't even close. Or it just changed. Help
Well, women are relationship people. Most of us bond to those we are with and what we want is simple. We are all complicated creatures and while men are driven from a physical base, women are driven from an emotional one. You can probably find a "f" buddy someplace along the way but it is unlikey there won't be some kind of agenda on the part of the woman. Women want to be loved, men want to get laid and have the physical release sex brings to them when they aren't ready for a relationship that is exactly what they look for.
I know this hasn't helped your desire for a relationship free relationship. WE are easy though, if the day ever comes you want someone for the long term make her feel loved and adored and that will take the complications out of your getting what physical needs you have met.
I am in a situation now where I don't want a relationship. I have been divorced now for a little over 2 years. It was really hard on me. I spent 14 months of that in Iraq. I am over her now. I just don't want a relationship. I see a lot of womens profiles that say no relationship. When I am with a Woman I do treat them with love. I am kind of different in that way. I love everyone. I don't feel that there has to be attachment and commitment To one person. Most every time I date a woman They fall in love with me. I have found that With a lot of women that I have been with I treat them better and more loving then they have been treated before. To me love is universal. The only way I can think to describe it is we are all in a pool and the water is love but that really does love an injustice. It is in and through everyone and I can feel that. When someone I get to know and connect with is feeling down I feel it. I don't even have to be close to them. When I was in Iraq. I had a friend in Michigan. When she was hurting, I could feel it. I could also make her feel better. I can't explain it. I just do it. 
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| February 14, 2009, 12:03 |
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Re: What do women really want from a man when no relationship is wanted?
dare I tip toe along the boundaries of political correctness and fear being ostracized I venture forth with $ $$$ bling ok I said it .
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| February 14, 2009, 12:03 |
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Re: Re: Re: What do women really want from a man when no relationship is wanted?
QUOTE (alwaysready4more @ February 14, 2009, 12:03) QUOTE (beckandcall @ February 14, 2009, 10:24) QUOTE (alwaysready4more @ February 13, 2009, 23:19)I am here in Hinesville Georgia. I have been thinking about this for a while. Since I got back from Iraq. I am trying to meet more people but don't want a relationship. Guys are easy. Most want the same thing. Women are a mystery. I was married for 4 years. Just when I thought I had it. I wasn't even close. Or it just changed. Help
Well, women are relationship people. Most of us bond to those we are with and what we want is simple. We are all complicated creatures and while men are driven from a physical base, women are driven from an emotional one. You can probably find a "f" buddy someplace along the way but it is unlikey there won't be some kind of agenda on the part of the woman. Women want to be loved, men want to get laid and have the physical release sex brings to them when they aren't ready for a relationship that is exactly what they look for.
I know this hasn't helped your desire for a relationship free relationship. WE are easy though, if the day ever comes you want someone for the long term make her feel loved and adored and that will take the complications out of your getting what physical needs you have met.
I am in a situation now where I don't want a relationship. I have been divorced now for a little over 2 years. It was really hard on me. I spent 14 months of that in Iraq. I am over her now. I just don't want a relationship. I see a lot of womens profiles that say no relationship. When I am with a Woman I do treat them with love. I am kind of different in that way. I love everyone. I don't feel that there has to be attachment and commitment To one person. Most every time I date a woman They fall in love with me. I have found that With a lot of women that I have been with I treat them better and more loving then they have been treated before. To me love is universal. The only way I can think to describe it is we are all in a pool and the water is love but that really does love an injustice. It is in and through everyone and I can feel that. When someone I get to know and connect with is feeling down I feel it. I don't even have to be close to them. When I was in Iraq. I had a friend in Michigan. When she was hurting, I could feel it. I could also make her feel better. I can't explain it. I just do it.
I would like to underline the phrase (the only way I can think to describe it is we are all in a pool and the water is love but that really does love an injustice )SO TRUE, in laymans terms is arent we a bunch of self important ,inconsiderate ,self conscious ,glory hounding hurray for me turds .
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| February 14, 2009, 20:27 |
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alwaysready4more
53 / male
Fort Garland, Colorado, US
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Re: Re: Re: Re: What do women really want from a man when no relationship is wanted?
QUOTE (jd39l @ February 14, 2009, 20:27) QUOTE (alwaysready4more @ February 14, 2009, 12:03) QUOTE (beckandcall @ February 14, 2009, 10:24) QUOTE (alwaysready4more @ February 13, 2009, 23:19)I am here in Hinesville Georgia. I have been thinking about this for a while. Since I got back from Iraq. I am trying to meet more people but don't want a relationship. Guys are easy. Most want the same thing. Women are a mystery. I was married for 4 years. Just when I thought I had it. I wasn't even close. Or it just changed. Help
Well, women are relationship people. Most of us bond to those we are with and what we want is simple. We are all complicated creatures and while men are driven from a physical base, women are driven from an emotional one. You can probably find a "f" buddy someplace along the way but it is unlikey there won't be some kind of agenda on the part of the woman. Women want to be loved, men want to get laid and have the physical release sex brings to them when they aren't ready for a relationship that is exactly what they look for.
I know this hasn't helped your desire for a relationship free relationship. WE are easy though, if the day ever comes you want someone for the long term make her feel loved and adored and that will take the complications out of your getting what physical needs you have met.
I am in a situation now where I don't want a relationship. I have been divorced now for a little over 2 years. It was really hard on me. I spent 14 months of that in Iraq. I am over her now. I just don't want a relationship. I see a lot of womens profiles that say no relationship. When I am with a Woman I do treat them with love. I am kind of different in that way. I love everyone. I don't feel that there has to be attachment and commitment To one person. Most every time I date a woman They fall in love with me. I have found that With a lot of women that I have been with I treat them better and more loving then they have been treated before. To me love is universal. The only way I can think to describe it is we are all in a pool and the water is love but that really does love an injustice. It is in and through everyone and I can feel that. When someone I get to know and connect with is feeling down I feel it. I don't even have to be close to them. When I was in Iraq. I had a friend in Michigan. When she was hurting, I could feel it. I could also make her feel better. I can't explain it. I just do it. I would like to underline the phrase (the only way I can think to describe it is we are all in a pool and the water is love but that really does love an injustice )SO TRUE, in laymans terms is arent we a bunch of self important ,inconsiderate ,self conscious ,glory hounding hurray for me turds .
We are all one in love. Love is universal. As humans we have individualized ourselves to the point that most no longer feel the universal aspect of love. The truth of love. The interconnection of love. I feel that. Universal love. Love with no conditions.
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| February 15, 2009, 18:52 |
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Re: Re: What do women really want from a man when no relationship is wanted?
QUOTE (jd39l @ February 14, 2009, 12:03)dare I tip toe along the boundaries of political correctness and fear being ostracized I venture forth with $ $$$ bling ok I said it .
Oh you're saying you have to "pay to play"? That's illegal in every state except in Nevada!! Just how hideous are you?? 
Only joking!!!!!
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| February 16, 2009, 08:01 |
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Re: What do women really want from a man when no relationship is wanted?
I can honestly say, being the kind of woman I am and I'm not speaking for all women, I would probably get attached to you also. I feel the same way about my friends, family, etc. I feel their pain, I feel their happiness, I just feel. For me to give of myself sexually, I get attached. I give myself completely when I am with someone and I can't be any other way. I have expectations of myself and those I am with. It is how I am built. If you are not looking for something more and you are upfront about it then screw until your heart's content I say...enjoy! Someday, you will be ready for more but until them sow those oats!
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| February 16, 2009, 18:19 |
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Re: What do women really want from a man when no relationship is wanted?
What does that term "relationship" mean? Friendship is the most important aspect of any relationship and takes time to develop. I want a true and trusting friendship first with someone before I can accept and proceed with a intimate and loving form with anyone. So if trust is not there, then nothing is, and if trust has been broken, then there is nothing there or left to build on, unless otherwise proven.
 xoxo
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| February 16, 2009, 23:22 |
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alwaysready4more
53 / male
Fort Garland, Colorado, US
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Re: Re: What do women really want from a man when no relationship is wanted?
QUOTE (ticaD @ February 16, 2009, 23:22)What does that term "relationship" mean? Friendship is the most important aspect of any relationship and takes time to develop. I want a true and trusting friendship first with someone before I can accept and proceed with a intimate and loving form with anyone. So if trust is not there, then nothing is, and if trust has been broken, then there is nothing there or left to build on, unless otherwise proven.
xoxo
I always want friendship . I feel it is all within love. I guess When I am in a relationship I give something more. It is really hard for me to explain in words. I love everyone, but when I am with someone that I want to be with all the time it is different. It is like the connection I have with that person is stronger. Like I know more about that person than someone that I am friends with. And what I know is not from what they have told me. It is what I feel. It is not the physical act of sex that is the love. When I have sex with someone I give them my love. That increases the pleasure or maybe it's that I put my heart and soul into pleasing my partner. I'm not sure what it is I just do as I do. I enjoy giving pleasure to others weather it be sexual or not. This is the only way I can think to explain it now.
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cjroxy
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Hot and Balmy, England, UK
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Re: What do women really want from a man when no relationship is wanted?
There are women in the world that just want the physical side too, they maybe few, but they are there. To generalise the female population by saying they are emotionally tied to a relationship is wrong, as is saying that men only want the physical side of a relationship. Women, like men, enjoy the physical side too, if she says she doesnt, shes lying!!.
Just be straight and honest and say what you want or expect from your relationship and get her to be straight and honest too...as for love, there are many different kinds of love, some enlightening, some beautiful, some wonderful, but also, some destructive and some controlling.
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| February 19, 2009, 18:01 |
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Re: Re: Re: What do women really want from a man when no relationship is wanted?
QUOTE (voyeurbill @ February 16, 2009, 08:01) QUOTE (jd39l @ February 14, 2009, 12:03)dare I tip toe along the boundaries of political correctness and fear being ostracized I venture forth with $ $$$ bling ok I said it .
Oh you're saying you have to "pay to play"? That's illegal in every state except in Nevada!! Just how hideous are you??
Only joking!!!!!
gonna set it on fire with nevada chicken fat 
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