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Such a nice man............
I just got news that a friend's younger brother had passed away from pancreatic cancer last month, just 6 months after being diagnosed. Man, that had to be one shitty way to go.
I knew him as a young man growing up because I spent a lot of time at his house. He was just a very nice and thoughtful kid and continued to be the same into adulthood. I'm only sorry that I lost touch with the family for the last few years seeing that I moved out of state and we lost touch altogether.
How should I approach this situation as I didn't make an effort to keep in touch and I'm feeling kinda guilty at the moment. Should I send a belated card or should I make the call?
You know the old saying.......the only time we see each other is at weddings and funerals. So true, so true. 
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| February 1, 2009, 03:03 |
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Re: Such a nice man............
I'm so sorry to hear about your friend.
Don't feel guilty about losing touch, there are people and family that I rarely contact, but think of constantly.
One thing I know for sure about grieving families, we love to talk about the one we lost and it's rather hurtful when others find it too uncomfortable and want to change the subject.
Make that sympathic phone call, mail off the sympathy card, send the flowers. Share a few of your own memories and thoughts with them.
Grief is just too much of a bummer for some and they try to avoid the grievers, or they are just at a loss of what to say, what is best to do and end up doing nothing, which just hurts them more by making them feel alone and isolated, but the kindest thing to do is to contact the family, let them talk about their loved one. Share the memories you have with them. Memories are all they have left and there can never be enough of those to fill their void now.
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| February 1, 2009, 08:16 |
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Re: Such a nice man............
It's always the really good people who go!!! Sorry to hear your sad news VB 
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| February 1, 2009, 12:05 |
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Re: Such a nice man............
My grandfather had Pancreatic Cancer, it is a very quick cancer, difficult to diagnose and quick to take one's life. Cancer robs people of so much and you cannot feel guilty about not being in touch. Each person you come across in life is there for a reason, even if it is only for a season of your life. He made and impact and I am certain you did to him as well. If you are a better person in some way for knowing him then that is your blessing.
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| February 1, 2009, 20:25 |
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fackaye
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Re: Such a nice man............
i agree with chazzy. just dont blame ur self for not keeping in touch and dont blame ur self for his death. just be thankful to god that u had the opotunity to meet some that is has nice as he his
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| February 2, 2009, 12:11 |
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