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fackaye
35 / male
isolo, Nigeria
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is it really wise to have sex before marriage
hey guys say some thing that makes sense
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| January 29, 2009, 04:52 |
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fackaye
35 / male
isolo, Nigeria
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Re: is it really wise to have sex before marriage
I FOR ONE THINK ITS RATHER ABSORED WAT IS THE NEED OF GETTING MARIED WHEN THERE IS NOT GOING TO BE A FIRST TIME AFTER YOU SAY I DO
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| January 29, 2009, 05:38 |
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Re: Re: is it really wise to have sex before marriage
QUOTE (fackaye @ January 29, 2009, 05:38)I FOR ONE THINK ITS RATHER ABSORED WAT IS THE NEED OF GETTING MARIED WHEN THERE IS NOT GOING TO BE A FIRST TIME AFTER YOU SAY I DO
To be honest, that first "time" isn't all that it's cracked (sorry for the pun) up to be. Need I remind everyone what the first time was like?   The second and subsequent times.....now they are usually much, much better  That first time is more a biblical milestone than actually special to both partners.
So it's probably better to get that "first time" out of the way before the wedding. Just my opinion!!!
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| January 29, 2009, 06:55 |
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Re: is it really wise to have sex before marriage
If you're going to abstain from sex before marriage(Nuttin' wrong with that at all) at least make sure you both are compatablile in preferences and thinking, both of you are open minded and patient enough to build a sex life after "I do".
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| January 29, 2009, 12:35 |
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Re: is it really wise to have sex before marriage
I don't agree with waiting till you are married, if you're not sexually compatible, and some people aren't, you are together a long time, and sex is a big part of a relationship. if you both don't enjoy it, it can put a major strain on the marriage and it is a shame for it to break up, all because the sex side isn't great. So is it worth waiting and risking a marriage break up!!!!
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| January 29, 2009, 12:48 |
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wandering5tar
53 / male
London, England, UK
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Re: is it really wise to have sex before marriage
It's sex after marriage that causes the problems...
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| January 29, 2009, 14:28 |
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cjroxy
59 / couple
Hot and Balmy, England, UK
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Re: is it really wise to have sex before marriage
How do you know what you like till you try it?
I admire anyone abstaining from sex before marriage. It suits some.
Personally, I think and feel that it is such an important part of life, let alone marriage, that it needs to be worked at and perfected, you cant do that without practice.
No-one is born perfectly, sexually compatible and if one is unhappy with the other because of a sexual problem it can rot the whole relationship.
Before marriage, couples find out about every aspect of their relationship, personality, practicality, suitability, etc. etc. so sexually, it has to be done.
I agree you should wait awhile before having sex to let the other sides of the relationship grow so that when you do get physical, you have the other important issues to accompany you on your journey.
When you cook a fabulous cake you must have all of the ingredients to complete the recipe.
Thats just my opinion.
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| January 29, 2009, 17:15 |
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fackaye
35 / male
isolo, Nigeria
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Re: is it really wise to have sex before marriage
good thought guys but i think the first time is always the magic maker right? although it might seem biblica but would you fancy the info of someone somewhere telling you how fantatastic the woman you are about to get married to in say a week time is in bed same goes to the ladies 
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| January 30, 2009, 03:58 |
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cjroxy
59 / couple
Hot and Balmy, England, UK
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Re: Re: is it really wise to have sex before marriage
QUOTE (fackaye @ January 30, 2009, 03:58)good thought guys but i think the first time is always the magic maker right? although it might seem biblica but would you fancy the info of someone somewhere telling you how fantatastic the woman you are about to get married to in say a week time is in bed same goes to the ladies
In fairy tales, tv, stories and books the first time is always a magical experience accompanied by fireworks!!! not so in reality my friend. The first few times are always awkward and uncomfortable, it isnt until you have built trust and confidence that it becomes magical with fireworks!
And as for someone commenting on your future wife...I do not know of one single mature adult, male or female, who would comment on someones performance in public! especially if they were your friends, surely they would have more respect for you and/or her!
Unfortunately, this is not a black and white issue and is a very personal decision to be made by the individual. good luck!
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| January 30, 2009, 16:37 |
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GG317
60 / male
Bowl of Granola, Massachusetts, US
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Re: is it really wise to have sex before marriage
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| January 30, 2009, 18:31 |
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ashkats
64 / couple
crystal falls, Michigan, US
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Re: is it really wise to have sex before marriage
that door swings both ways i guess, thats how we got our son and then we gotmarried..... 
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| January 30, 2009, 23:32 |
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Re: is it really wise to have sex before marriage
Great post from GG, there is a whole lot more to marraige than sex, it is not always the major player.... intimacy may be, and intimacy and sex are not the same thing.
I think some see intimacy and sex as a set, while others put a bold seperate line between the two.
Two people who share a deep intimacy with each other, have the capability and communication to build a good sex life.
All the bells and whistles are fun, but great sex doesn't always mean whips, chains, a closet full of toys and costumes, and adding guests.
If you are engaged to be married, and want to wait....that's cool, but there's nothing wrong with at least talking about sex.
How many times have we seen some guy here post and complain about the sex in his marraige but he knew his wife was conservative (prude) before the wedding because they were having sex while dating and engaged?
Us humans, we're kinda funny that way...
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| January 31, 2009, 06:42 |
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Re: is it really wise to have sex before marriage
When you read this thread it sounds really scary how important and serious sex is in a relationship, and really it shouldn't be. As we all have said, it can put a strain on the marriage in all aspects of ways we have pointed out. But it is also one of the most fun parts of a relationship that is so enjoyable, so never forget that part of it either. You have to be the one who makes this decision as CJ said, you and the person you are going to marry. But in todays lifestyle, their are not many people who have not taken that first step sexually, so don't take sex to serious as it should be fun and enjoyed as part of a relationship, that's what makes it so much fun.
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| January 31, 2009, 08:57 |
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Re: is it really wise to have sex before marriage
I'm just gonna spit this out....maybe this isn't such a general question....and I get this feeling that this guy is waiting till marraige, but there may be some question as to whether his fiance is .....
Generally speaking, premarital sex can be a very good idea, but maybe with this individual....maybe there's a whole lot more going on than just when to have sex for the first time....
Bud, if she's playing you now, then the odds are pretty good she's gonna play you later too....and I think the bigger question is....are you sure you're ready to marry, and ready to marry this girl? Take your time, you're young.
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| January 31, 2009, 09:16 |
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fackaye
35 / male
isolo, Nigeria
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Re: is it really wise to have sex before marriage
nice guys . keep it burnig
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| February 2, 2009, 12:04 |
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gottafuck
72 / male
Springville, California, US
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Re: Re: Re: is it really wise to have sex before marriage
QUOTE (voyeurbill @ January 29, 2009, 06:55) QUOTE (fackaye @ January 29, 2009, 05:38)I FOR ONE THINK ITS RATHER ABSORED WAT IS THE NEED OF GETTING MARIED WHEN THERE IS NOT GOING TO BE A FIRST TIME AFTER YOU SAY I DO To be honest, that first "time" isn't all that it's cracked (sorry for the pun) up to be. Need I remind everyone what the first time was like? The second and subsequent times.....now they are usually much, much better That first time is more a biblical milestone than actually special to both partners.
So it's probably better to get that "first time" out of the way before the wedding. Just my opinion!!!
You got that right! My first time was a nigtmare...
 It was on the day of the Delano, CA City Fair! Me and my buddy were both graduating senior's and we were both pretty liquored up. Well, somehow I was matched up, by my best friend soon to become my worst best friend, with what I would describe as the bride of Frankenstine...
 Anyway, here we were in the middle of a grape vineyard in the middle of the afternoon drunk off of our asses. At that point I really wasn't going to make anything out of the predicament I was in because it was my first piece of ass. My only problem was clearing a path through the mess of matted hair that covered the spot I was going to place my dick, called her pussy...
 Any way, after going through the motion's for roughly an hour we all got dressed and went back to the Fair and I immediately found a way to loose my new better half. Then the next day, to this day I still don't know how, I report back to the High School for my last day (Thank god!) only to receive some of the worst ribbing I have ever received from my buddies. It seems that my worst half had been going around the school telling her friend's that she was pregnant and it was my kid! 
 Fortunately, it was graduation day and the majority of my friend's never believed for a minute that I would have been so drunk that I would have even tried to fuck that ugly bitch! All I can say is that I was never so happy to the fact that that was the last time I ever had to be at that school... 
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| February 8, 2009, 08:40 |
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bulrush
63 / couple
lake havasu city, Arizona, US
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Re: Re: Re: Re: is it really wise to have sex before marriage
QUOTE (gottafuck @ February 8, 2009, 08:40) QUOTE (voyeurbill @ January 29, 2009, 06:55) QUOTE (fackaye @ January 29, 2009, 05:38)I FOR ONE THINK ITS RATHER ABSORED WAT IS THE NEED OF GETTING MARIED WHEN THERE IS NOT GOING TO BE A FIRST TIME AFTER YOU SAY I DO To be honest, that first "time" isn't all that it's cracked (sorry for the pun) up to be. Need I remind everyone what the first time was like? The second and subsequent times.....now they are usually much, much better That first time is more a biblical milestone than actually special to both partners.
So it's probably better to get that "first time" out of the way before the wedding. Just my opinion!!! You got that right! My first time was a nigtmare...
It was on the day of the Delano, CA City Fair! Me and my buddy were both graduating senior's and we were both pretty liquored up. Well, somehow I was matched up, by my best friend soon to become my worst best friend, with what I would describe as the bride of Frankenstine...
Anyway, here we were in the middle of a grape vineyard in the middle of the afternoon drunk off of our asses. At that point I really wasn't going to make anything out of the predicament I was in because it was my first piece of ass. My only problem was clearing a path through the mess of matted hair that covered the spot I was going to place my dick, called her pussy...
Any way, after going through the motion's for roughly an hour we all got dressed and went back to the Fair and I immediately found a way to loose my new better half. Then the next day, to this day I still don't know how, I report back to the High School for my last day (Thank god!) only to receive some of the worst ribbing I have ever received from my buddies. It seems that my worst half had been going around the school telling her friend's that she was pregnant and it was my kid!
Fortunately, it was graduation day and the majority of my friend's never believed for a minute that I would have been so drunk that I would have even tried to fuck that ugly bitch! All I can say is that I was never so happy to the fact that that was the last time I ever had to be at that school...
funny story says a lot of truth in first encounters......Mine wasn't much better award to say the least but here are ready to try again 
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| February 11, 2009, 14:41 |
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lot2luv41965
59 / female
west of Atlanta, Georgia, US
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Re: is it really wise to have sex before marriage
definitely. i've had a guy or two who was the classic wham,. bam without the thankyou maam.
now an old bf of mine, if more guys were like him, then i wouldn't have to worry about the outcome 
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| February 13, 2009, 14:39 |
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