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wolfman
44 / male
montreal, Quebec, Canada
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sex messages from wife's ex
i woke up 1 morning and got a email from my wife's ex she never spoke to him in 4 years it was a long distance thing she here in mtl quebec and he is in BC and seen each other twice and i opened the message and it was saying to her do you remember when we did this at at the hotel and kept going and when i asked my wife did you try that before she said no and than when i told her i got the message suddenly she remembered it she told me she blanked it out b/c it wasn't good or fun but it caused a big mess b/c at first she denied it all, he kept going he thought it was her writing back to him but it was me i wanted to hear what they did wish i never asked still bothers me
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| December 6, 2008, 09:43 |
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Re: sex messages from wife's ex
Well, I can tell you some of the most damaging thoughts and images can be thinking about your spouse with someone else. My present situation sucks because I still live with someone that cheats on me...my resistance is high though, when his recent girlfriend called the house the other day and hung up on me I called her back and said, "Hey Kim, did you need something when you called the house and hung up? Because if you wanted to talk to him all you had to do was ask." We live together for economic reasons and the kids, not because I enjoy being made a fool of.
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| December 6, 2008, 10:15 |
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wolfman
44 / male
montreal, Quebec, Canada
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Re: sex messages from wife's ex
b/c after i told him it was me later on he was pissed and i why i was so mad b/c she told me she never did any sexually kinky things with anyone than bang i got a slap in the face and now when we have sex i feel grossed out b/c the things we did she said it was new and now i know everything i think i do its not as fun anymore ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,so maybe we should get toagther than and run away your preatty by the way
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| December 6, 2008, 10:45 |
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Re: sex messages from wife's ex
That would be very disappointing. To think something you did with her was special and fun because it was the first time. After I found out about his first girlfriend I always wondered if when we were together if he was doing new stuff with me that he'd done with her. I tried to make things work and put them behind me (that was almost five years ago) but he's one of those guys that I will never be enough for.
Sure, my bags are already packed, where did you want to meet? LOL
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| December 6, 2008, 11:40 |
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wolfman
44 / male
montreal, Quebec, Canada
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Re: sex messages from wife's ex
i feel the same way as you about that im serious i would meet you in a heart beat anywhere maybe we could chat somewhere else
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| December 6, 2008, 11:46 |
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wolfman
44 / male
montreal, Quebec, Canada
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Re: sex messages from wife's ex
plus when he wrote all that he gave it to me in details now i wonder all the time did she do the same thing with me did she moan like that she go down on me the same as him
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| December 6, 2008, 11:48 |
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KINKYINTHEFALLS
56 / male
wild and wonderful, West Virginia, US
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Re: sex messages from wife's ex
Unfortunately you've met someone that has experience but doesn't want to show it. A lady's way is different from a mans. They kiss and tell per say, I suppose is the best way to say it. I mean think about it if she had said everything she did would she be your wife?? or just another woman in your life. But rest assured the times are changing and it's going the other way too. To me the only thing you have to think about is do you love here??
If so then no problem. If you dwell on the past then you will never be happy. Everyone has one 
My suggestion is that you look at what you have now 
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| December 6, 2008, 12:16 |
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Re: Re: sex messages from wife's ex
QUOTE (wolfman @ December 6, 2008, 11:48)plus when he wrote all that he gave it to me in details now i wonder all the time did she do the same thing with me did she moan like that she go down on me the same as him
The thing you have to keep in mind is that all of this happened before you were married. She wasn't honest with you and that is hard to deal with BUT she didn't cheat on you with him. Perhaps she was embarrassed for you to know she had done these things with someone else. She wanted you to feel special. I understand you are hurt and it is difficult but have you given her a chance to explain?
And darlin' you are very handsome and I am flattered but the truth is, your heart is with her and at this point in my life I'd definately not be what you need. Forgive her for yourself, then if you love her, make it work. Right now you are hurting and I totally understand that.
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| December 6, 2008, 12:20 |
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KINKYINTHEFALLS
56 / male
wild and wonderful, West Virginia, US
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Re: Re: Re: sex messages from wife's ex
QUOTE (Julianna @ December 6, 2008, 12:20) QUOTE (wolfman @ December 6, 2008, 11:48)plus when he wrote all that he gave it to me in details now i wonder all the time did she do the same thing with me did she moan like that she go down on me the same as him
The thing you have to keep in mind is that all of this happened before you were married. She wasn't honest with you and that is hard to deal with BUT she didn't cheat on you with him. Perhaps she was embarrassed for you to know she had done these things with someone else. She wanted you to feel special. I understand you are hurt and it is difficult but have you given her a chance to explain?
And darlin' you are very handsome and I am flattered but the truth is, your heart is with her and at this point in my life I'd definately not be what you need. Forgive her for yourself, then if you love her, make it work. Right now you are hurting and I totally understand that.
Well said Jules 
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| December 6, 2008, 12:23 |
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Re: sex messages from wife's ex
Pardon me dear, I do like to delve a bit deeper before coming up with any reply or advice.
So, I'm just "delving", maybe it will be helpful, take no offense please.
I'm wondering, how long have you've been married? Is this your first marriage? Do you consider yourself to be in any way a jealous person, maybe in past relationships? Were there any past relationships that left you with some pretty serious trust issues?
The emails, do you and your wife often leave each other's email accounts open to each other and that's how you came about it, or...(not uncommon)did ya maybe snoop a little?
How did your wife's ex, come about having her email address?
Do you honestly...honestly feel she denied it from the start to protect you from hurt, avoid a fight/argument, or to deceive you?
Is she willing to block his emails, be open with her online activity and erase any doubts? Would she be willing to write him and tell him to not attempt contact with her
(Unless, she and her ex have any children together?)
Marriage is commitment and devotion. Marriage is allot of work.
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| December 6, 2008, 14:08 |
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wolfman
44 / male
montreal, Quebec, Canada
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Re: sex messages from wife's ex
thank you for your help and we onlt been married 1 year and yes she did erase him from the contact list he came up after 4 years just like that and wrote the messages he was on her contacts b/c they had a long distance relationship thats how they talked and when i meet her he got mad and never talked again till last week thank you again and we do share email adress nothing to hide, and she said she didnt tell me from the start b/c she blocked out alot of things in the relationship
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| December 6, 2008, 15:49 |
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Re: sex messages from wife's ex
Ya'all should be just fine then, she can again block him, cut off contact, he'll move on....and you two can and should be enjoying the hell out of this first year honeymoon phase.
I think things would be better if you just remember, you did not marry a virgin, you both each have your romantice and sexual past and regardless of whatever happened then, you chose each other to commit to, to marry each other. This is just a bit of a rough spot, you'll both learn allot and you both have allot yet to learn, allot of room to grow.
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| December 6, 2008, 18:15 |
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darnellx
66 / male
honolulu, Hawaii, US
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Re: Re: sex messages from wife's ex
QUOTE (wolfman @ December 6, 2008, 11:46)i feel the same way as you about that im serious i would meet you in a heart beat anywhere maybe we could chat somewhere else
hey here one to smoke on for a while, never ask qustions when you know you dont want to know the anserwers, always with lust Darnell!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 
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| December 20, 2008, 05:14 |
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