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Why at times is a woman's voice not heard?
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| October 20, 2008, 01:22 |
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Re: Why at times is a woman's voice not heard?
i guess for me, it depends on the topic of conversation, and how heated the debate gets. if it gets too hot, i usually want to drop the subject, until we both cool down. t hat's not to say that the discussion is over, but once we cool down, it might be a little bit better. 
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| October 20, 2008, 01:31 |
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Re: Why at times is a woman's voice not heard?
L&H, it doesn't even have to be a heated debate, just casually chatting in general, and the bomb could go off. With heated debates, I agree it's best to walk away, cool off, and return when both feel it's a comfort/neutral zone, to discuss matters of importance in a loving manner.
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| October 20, 2008, 01:46 |
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funlovingpair
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Frozen Tundra, Minnesota, US
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Re: Why at times is a woman's voice not heard?
What, were you saying something? 
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| October 20, 2008, 07:59 |
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Re: Why at times is a woman's voice not heard?
I've read studies, that do suggest that men's hearing allows them to easily be able to tune out or not notice the tone and pitch of a womans voice.
I remember posting about one study like this a month or so ago...
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| October 20, 2008, 10:01 |
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wandering5tar
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London, England, UK
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Re: Re: Why at times is a woman's voice not heard?
QUOTE (Chazzy @ October 20, 2008, 10:01)I've read studies, that do suggest that men's hearing allows them to easily be able to tune out or not notice the tone and pitch of a womans voice.
I remember posting about one study like this a month or so ago...
Yep - I can confirm this. It's an evolutionary failsafe to stop Iron Age Man clubbing his partner to death when he's come home from a hard day's hunting and she keeps going on about how the cave walls need painting. 
Also any conversation with the word "shoes" in it just slips below the consciousness level.
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| October 20, 2008, 10:54 |
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69oak69
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Heart of Illinois, Illinois, US
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Re: Why at times is a woman's voice not heard?
I dont know if this is relevant to your particular situation, when men (or womem)suffer hearing loss due to nerve damage (from working around loud machinery without hearing prtection, for instance), the ability to hear higher pitched sounds goes first. I know more than one deaf old farmer who has trouble hearing his wife speak, and not just because he's purposely ignoring her.
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| October 20, 2008, 11:49 |
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Re: Re: Why at times is a woman's voice not heard?
QUOTE (funlovingpair @ October 20, 2008, 07:59)
I think I'll start playing the game of... 'stupid is, stupid does', going in one ear and out the other, seems to work like a charm for some people? Nah, I'm not like that, I listen to what others tell or try to tell me, but listening and proceeding are two separate and different entities! LMAO!  
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| October 20, 2008, 11:50 |
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Re: Re: Re: Why at times is a woman's voice not heard?
QUOTE (wandering5tar @ October 20, 2008, 10:54) QUOTE (Chazzy @ October 20, 2008, 10:01)I've read studies, that do suggest that men's hearing allows them to easily be able to tune out or not notice the tone and pitch of a womans voice.
I remember posting about one study like this a month or so ago...
Yep - I can confirm this. It's an evolutionary failsafe to stop Iron Age Man clubbing his partner to death when he's come home from a hard day's hunting and she keeps going on about how the cave walls need painting.
Also any conversation with the word "shoes" in it just slips below the consciousness level.
Funny thing is... I'm not a lady to badger or nag in any form in any relationship. When he returned from a hard days work or whenever, I'd welcome him home with open arms, hugging him, getting him a cup of coffee, spending a few minutes of together time, and if it was silence, that was fine with me. Giving him respect and having it reciprocated means alot to me. I just wrack my brain, when you are right in front of them not even 2 feet away having a discussion and this sort of thing happens, it either makes you feel very hurt and/or upset, and it feels like they're looking to pick an argument with you due to whatever they are mentally going through. Shoes... I don't think so, they're outside in the back yard from me weeding the garden, lol!
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| October 20, 2008, 12:15 |
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Re: Why at times is a woman's voice not heard?
but, in all fairness? sometimes it's the other way around.i can remember having plenty of discussions with my EX wife, about some of my fetishes., and if she wasn't interested, she'd just stop the conversation, ignoring my remarks.... 
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| October 20, 2008, 14:49 |
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quickdraw
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Nothern VA, Virginia, US
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Re: Why at times is a woman's voice not heard?
Women do the same thing if they don't like whats being said they ignor u. I never meet a women that when into a store and did not stop a the shoe dept. I just don't like to argue so I sit there and listen but don't say any thing.   
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| October 20, 2008, 18:33 |
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KINKYINTHEFALLS
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wild and wonderful, West Virginia, US
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Re: Why at times is a woman's voice not heard?
It's called selective hearing and is applied to both sexs
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| October 20, 2008, 18:52 |
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| October 20, 2008, 20:57 |
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Re: Re: Re: Why at times is a woman's voice not heard?
QUOTE (ticaD @ October 20, 2008, 11:50)
The trick is to not even let it into one ear. 
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| October 21, 2008, 20:41 |
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Re: Re: Why at times is a woman's voice not heard?
QUOTE (quickdraw @ October 20, 2008, 18:33)
Quickdraw, I tend to drop what I'm doing, and have a face to face conversation with whomever it is, whether I like or not, and get down to the bottom of the root of the problem, and solve it, secondly, I would never take a man shopping with me whether it's shoe shopping or what ever form of shopping it is, that's an intimate thing to me, and my alone time, so there!! lol
xox
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| October 21, 2008, 23:59 |
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Re: Re: Re: Re: Why at times is a woman's voice not heard?
QUOTE (JCSOS @ October 21, 2008, 20:41) QUOTE (ticaD @ October 20, 2008, 11:50)
The trick is to not even let it into one ear.
You betcha JC!! I'll have to remember that when I'm right in the middle of the moment too, and do what SOME guys do, just get er done...1,2,3 zippity, quickety!  right? hehe
xox
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| October 22, 2008, 00:03 |
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quickdraw
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Nothern VA, Virginia, US
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Re: Why at times is a woman's voice not heard?
Ticad I agree with ur assementand I agree I don't like going shopping with the ladoes it takes to long and they need time to make a desission on what they want.  
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| October 22, 2008, 09:44 |
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KINKYINTHEFALLS
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wild and wonderful, West Virginia, US
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Re: Why at times is a woman's voice not heard?
I tend to give them a response they don't want to hear therefore I don't respond 
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| October 22, 2008, 21:08 |
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Re: Why at times is a woman's voice not heard?
Pfffftttt!!!!! Can't count how many times I've grabbed my car keys, with purse over my shoulder and said something like "Be right back, gotta run a few errands...market, post office" only to find my husband out on the porch while I'm pulling out of the drive way asking "What? Where ya going???"
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| October 23, 2008, 12:47 |
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